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sex at 13
13/f well i just found out the other night that my boyfriend (also 13) had sex a couple months ago at a party with a girl thats 15. we wernt together then but we were a couple months before that. i really love him and i know that i always will because we have such a good friendship but should i except this? so far i convinced myself that im okay with it but im not sure if i really am. i think that since hes already done it then hell try to pressure me into having sex. well what i want to know is should i except it and how?
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Honestly is not what you expect the first time is not what you expect. Since he's already experienced then yea most likely he's going to pressure you into doin it but if you honestly feel like you dont want to do it then DONT. And if he keeps pressuring than he doesnt really care about you. good luck !
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if he does try to get you to have sex then slap him or something if he does not listen when you say stop. i am 13 also. i would not want to have sex yet . and i know that even if you love a guy it is not worth doing something you don't want to like sex. trust me one of my friends is kinda lke this. hope i help.also i wouldbe like a little coshas about what you do around him and becarful not to lead him on . i might trust him if he is nice other than that one thing. but oter than that no.
Andie
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Okay well in my opinion 13 is way too young to have sex. Just accept the fact that he had sex, you can't do anything to change that now. The past is gone! Anyways, if he really likes you and cares about you he will wait until you are ready to have sex. If he does pressure you and you say no and he gets pissed or whatever, he is deff. not worth your time. Don't do anything that you will regret in the future.
-Brianna
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thats fucked up.. beat the shit out of that <font size=3><font color=ff0099>bitch</font></font>
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Look, you should expect sex and sex pressure from all guys. Guys are like that, and the more you get to know them, the more you will realize that they are like that. Ok now there are two ways to handle this situation. I know its hard for you to accept the fact that he has had sex with someone else.....but if you didn't have sex with him, and you didn't want to, believe me, he would find it elsewhere. At least now you know instead of him cheating on you and getting some "action" behind your back. Secondly, whatever is good for the goose is good for the gander (remember this saying) :) This is your chance to go and fool around with someone else. Maybe you should seek some sexual attention elsewhere. Whatever you do though, don't expect him to get jealous. He might, he might not, but whatever his reaction, don't try to use this as a "get even". Sex is a huge part of growing up. If you are ready to experiment then go ahead but be careful. If you want to get back with him, you have to understand that maybe he may not be exclusive with you...meaning he may still get some action elsewhere. My gut feeling tells me that you should forget about any type of relationship with him (just be friends)and seek all of your physical attention elsewhere. Good Luck!!
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If he asks you if you feel ready then go for it if not wait don't let him pressure you into having sex with him most lads are like that
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just talk to him. that's the only way you will truly be okay with it. and if he pressures you then think about all of the reasons you shouldn't
a. pregnancy
b. std's
c. rumors
d. etccccccc...
and think about your age. you are only 13
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Has he put pressure on you yet? That was 2 months ago. If he hasn't put pressure on you yet he probably isn't going to.
Everyone makes mistakes.If you can't forgive him or stop dwelling on it then break up.
Otherwise just try your best to forget it (It's hard but possible). Don't keep talking about it etc. and forgive the guy.
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hey! ok, if you're scared in any ways then i don't think you should be with him. And if you still really want to be with him just tell him... ya know i don't want this to happen to us!. Do NOT let him pressure you into anything you don't want to do!
I HoPe I HeLpEd!*
-*Marissa*-
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