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my HORRIBLE life...
13 female
when i was born i lived with my grandparents becasue my mom had a bad life. she sold drugs and lived in alot of places wich we not suitable for kids. and so when i was 2 my mom came to my house drunk and kidnapped me. my grandma didnt try to get me beacue my mom was way stronger then her and so she just let me go. * i dont live with my dad becasue when i was born i was a mistiake and my dad is a player* so my mom went to jail and some lady returnded me when my mom was gone *but now me and my mom are okay* . and so when i was 4 it was the FIRST time i ever saw my dad but i couldnt really see him becasue it was like 10 o clock at night and he didnt want to come inside. and after that visit from when i was 4 i counted the days weeks months hours years miutes and seconds from the last time i saw my father. and finally i saw my dad again when i was 10 and he expected me to act like nothing happened and he was like all can i have a hug blah blah blah and my grandpa told him that if he wanted to come that day he just cant leave me again and yes he did.. he didnt come back and i didnt hear from him or anything and im 13 and i havent heard from him in 3 years but its not like i want to or anything. i just have mixed emotions. and im the "tough" one at my school because i dont open up or talk about my feelings. well at night i dream about me and my sister haveing this "Perfect" family with my mom and my dad but then something happends to me and my dream shows a picture of my dad getting killed and my mom dying ( my sister has a different dad and i have like 3 other sisters that have different moms and i dont even know them) but after my dream i wake up with tears in my eyes and me all sweaty. but heres the thing.. i want my life to be good. but i dont want anything to do with my dad and my dad is gonna try and talk to me over the summer and my other grandmaw too but i just dont want to be a part of them. my questions are.. how can i tell them i dont want anything to do with them. and what do i do about these dreams, and how can i open up and talk about my feelings
sorry its long but ill rate 5's to any good answer
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its kind of impossible to count every second from seeing your dad..................
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So you're a 13 female. That's cool what else?
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first of all are your grandparents good emotional support???? if so you should definately open up to them !!!!! their way older so that makes them wiser, usually. anyway wat i would do in a situation like this is maybe just maybe talk to your dad like once or twice and have a really long TALK. you could try to open up to him to, you could try, maybe you could ask him why should you let him into your life after he left you? and how can you know he wont do it again.and maybe once you talk to him you might want him in your life again but if not then i would suggest challanging your dad saying you dont want him in your life unless you know you can trust him and you know he wont leave. and then if he asks how can he do that with out being apart of your life?then tell him thats his problem !!! and that might get the dreams to go away but if not tyllnol pm you usually dont have dreams when you talk it!!! haha and i would also ready my bible and ask God to help you get through it!!! i know i know your probly like o my gosh she is getting preachy at me! but believe me i used to say the same thing when told me to talk to God, but now i dont know how i ever lived without him!!! and the thing is all you have to do is believe in him and you will be in heaven forever instead of in hell for eternity!!! now where would you rather be??? if heaven then please ask me !!!
*~kaleigh~*
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wow you have been through a whole lot! just let them know that you have been through enough and not seeing them would help you get on in life. tell them you do care about them but you just can't see yourself with them in the future, and it's only for the best. it'll be hard on you and them, but if you honestly don't want to be apart of them anymore, there is no better way. you have to tell them. about the dreams.. it is totally normal! you can't control them, they just happen! especially after seeing life the way you do. they will get better as things get better, because dreams are your conscience speaking! to open up and talk about your feelings to people, you have to know that you can't let everyone know your personal emotions. it's great to tell a few but not everyone. to those who you do talk to, make sure you TRUST them and know them well and really care about them! opening up won't be so hard if you are opening up to someone who makes you feel comfortable. talking about your feelings isn't easy and it takes time, but in the end it's all worth while. it makes you feel so much better! hope everything turns out okay.. you control your life and you make your own decisions, no one else should! just remember that! :)
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holy crap kid. look, I've had a pretty bad time of it, but that certainly takes the cake. to be serious, tell yourself that it is not going to happen. You need to come to terms with these events, find some inner peace, and live life the best you can. Thats my outlook, I knew my dad and i didn't really benefit from it, doesn't sound like you would from yours either. Focus on what you have, count your blessings. I lived with my mom and stayed at my dads on weekends, my mom and stepdad gave me enough of a chance to come out as a good kid, and by their example, I learned duty, courage, respect, dignity(not very well), and responsibility. You have your grandparents, learn to live a good life by their example. let the punches in life roll of your cheek and still come out grinning.
good luck kiddo.
-gunner
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ok i am 13 to and like that is amasing that you have been through so much and have been so strong. ok the deams they are you said you dad was a pimp that is why in your dream you have lik e3 sisters with dif moms. and you other sis like maby that is like a fear of yours. your dad and mom dieing is another fear . see i think you wish you could have gotten to know them right and like since you didn't they are like never there and not a part of your life so to you in oyour mind they are dead . not apart of you but they are. the deams are just like what u really think, or want to do or wish , or hope, or fear. we learned about this allittle in school . and you can tell you father you don't care about him but before you think about it reallly hard . do you really not ever want a father that might be there even if he was not there before. i hate my dad. but even though i hate him i love that i have a dad i guess like I hate him alot but i still love him cus he is my dad. and i give long answers to sometimes sry. the way to open up and talk to some is to find a friend that you real;ly trust like i have a secret about my mom and i will take it to my grave probably and i have 2 or 3 good friend i really trust and i tell them ALMOST every tyhing. you just have to trust a good person . some on who does not talk to people about other peoples fealings and stuff alot and go for it.i hope i answered you questions.
good luck
Andie
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I'm sorry that you have to go through this. I think that you should just talk to your dad. If he is trying to make an effort to see you then talk to him. Tell him that you don't want to see him and then not see him for years. Tell him that if he wants to be a part of your life then he has to be there all the time. About your dreams I think that you should try to talk to someone that you really trust about what you're feeling and maybe they'll stop. Maybe you have a friend that you can talk to who you know will listen to you and help you through this. Maybe evne a school counselor. I think that maybe if you talk about your feelings your dreams will stop.
Good luck I hope I helped a little and I hope that things get better for you
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ok first off i want to say sorry about all the things that have happened to you at such a young life. i went though some bad things when i was younger to. no one deserves to go threw those things.
so about the whole thing with never wanting to talk to your dad. i dont think your dad has been the best person to you and he has made bad decsions but he is trying and i think you should give him another chance. tell him if he wants to see you he has to stay and he cant leave you and if he does again then kick him out of your life.
about the drems im not realy sure what to do. maybe see a shrink and talk about your feelings to them it might seem hard at first but it gets easier tust me.
hope i could help and everything gets better.
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