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my step dad died like 5 months ago and my mom left to las vegas so i was forced to live with my dad who ive never known.. ive been dumped on him and his family including his wife. she is a complete bitch who screams at nothing and is hypocritical. my bf says i should hold out till i graduate then move out but i graduate when im 17 and im only a jr. they dont understand anything about me ive tried the whole "talking to them" thing but no such luck.. i could use some sort of guidence to get through this

I think that unless you have a way to support yourself (like a job) you will need to stay there. It's not because you want, you kind of have too. And I know it stinks. I also know how you feel. My mom is like that as well and talking to her doesn't help at all, instead it makes her even more upset. Unfortunately, I can't afford a dorm or an apartment (I'm a college student) so I have to stay home as well. I knwo it stinks, but I find the best way is just to let it go. If she screams, don't react. I also find that spending a lot of time at the library is helpful and productive. Headphones also do wonders and so do walks. If you feel upset just do something you love to do to calm yourself down. I know it's hard, but you can get through it if you try hard enough!

Hope that helps and best of luck with your situation!

So my dad gave me his old car.

Unfortunately, he's a smoker and I'm not. And the car smells like cigarettes.

How do I make the smell go away?

I found some great links that might help:
http://www.getridofthings.com/get-rid-of-smoke-smell.htm
http://www.thefrugallife.com/cigarettesmell.html
http://www.ehow.com/how_113209_eliminate-cigarette-odor.html

Hope that helps :)

Hey ! so in a week or so, a group of my friends and i are dying are hair w/ kool aid. i have blonde hair but its sort of brown in the back (yes. this is natural) i wantd to do just my tips either blue or purple but i didnt know if either of those would look good with my hair. my red haird friend did the boiling idea on one strand with cherry red and it turnd out great and it stayd in for a month or 2. wat color wuld look good and will it stay that way with my hair? thanks a lot!

Typically, this lasts longer for blond people so about a month. If you were brunette then it would last about a week.

I'd say any bright color will work well. Both the blue and purple are bright so they will both look good. All you need is to dicide wwhich color looks better. Personally I'd go with the purple (but that's just me).

Have fun :)

I love to work out and I stay very active. My problem is that I go way overboard when I eat. For example, after I work out I will eat a whole bag of snickers and not even feel full. Afterwards, I get so mad at myself. I love to eat and don't have much will power to stop eatting when I should. I definitely am healthy, but I would tone up fast if I stopped eatting all the time. I eat even when I am not hungry. Is there anything I can do to stop doing this? Thanks!

You can always eat good food and still eat in a healthy way. Many people have similar problems when they workout. For example, a person could jog in the morning fro an hour and then stop by Starbucks to have a muffin and coffee. Except that muffin and coffee could add up to 600 calories and cancel out all their hard work.

There are a lot of things you can do to help yourself and to make it easier on you.
Well here are some tips that you can try to help you to eat less:

-Use small plates. If you say use the small salad plates instead of a dinner plate then you won't feel the need to fill it up. Also when you see the small plate filled with food, it'll still make you feel like you ate a lot.

-After you fill your plate with food I would suggest that you eat somewhere where you don't have to see the food as you eat. So you can possibly try going outside and eat say in your backyard or maybe keep all the food in teh kitchen and not on the dining table. This way you won't be tempted by looking at the food.

-Eat slowly. It takes about 10 minutes for your brain to know your stomach is filled. If you eat slow enough then you'll know you're full before you eat more. So chew more throughly, strike conversations with others as you eat, or take smaller bites.

-When you go to a restaurant, immediately ask for a take-out box and put half your food in that. This way you can still enjoy the food without overeating the huge portions restaurants tend to give. And a plus is that you get to enjoy the food for another meal.

-Chew gum. This will only distract you from eating for an hour and at most two. So perhaps use this technique when you get hungry and hour or two before you actually eat lunch or dinner.

-Before you eat a meal, eat the fruits or veggie first. Studies show that people who ate an apple before lunch ate less of their lunch and overall felt fuller when there they were done.

-Eat snacks that are super chewy so they take longer to eat. I find yogart is useless. It never gets me filled because i can eat it super fast. I tend to eat apples because it takes forever to eat. Crucnchy snacks also tend to make me feel better. And my favorite is the 100 calorie kettle corn. Almonds are a great snack too. They are good for you and very filling.

I have to tell you though, in the beginning you will feel hungry. It's only natural. it takes times for your stomach to shrink. But trust me when it does, it makes eating less so much easier. It's like how when smokers quit, the first couple weeks are the hardest and it gradually gets easier. The reward will easily outweigh the hard times you'll face now.

As for eating when you are not hungry: Some people eat for different reasons. For example sometimes when I'm really upset I feel better with a scop of ice cream. So perhaps stress is makign you eat more. Also you might be bored and eating is soemthing you migth do to pass the time. Find alternatives. If you are stressed go outside and take a walk, call up a friend, just stay out of the kitchen. If you are bored, go on a jog, learn a new sport or even go watch a movie. When you figure out why you eat, it makes it easeir to combat.

ALso, don't get mad at yourself. These things take time.

Keep it up and you can do it!

So i got my period 5 days ago, and i used a pad along with a tampon the first couple days and while i sleep because im completely paranoid about bleeding through. Anyway, i woke up this morning, and i havnt used a pad all day today. And i just looked at my leg, and i have a weird rash on the inside where my pad was rubbing against my leg? Is this bad, should i be worried?? How long do you think it will last? Is it just irritated skin or is it something else?s

It's probably just irritated skin. However, if you had an sexual activity that you recall having then I would get it checked just in case. If not, I'd say the best idea would be to keep it clean, put some antibacterial cream and it should be fine. Depending on how big the rash is and how well you take care of it, that's how long it will take to heal. It shouldn't take too long however. I'm thinkig less than a week.

Best of luck :)

im 18/female and i cant seem to lose anything i gained about 30 to 40 pounds how can i lose it fast? thank you =)

Ok, I'm sorry to say that there is no way you can lose 30 pounds in a week. It's an unrealistic goal you are making and you're going to be setting yourself up for total dissapointment. In fact it's healthy to only lose about 1-3 pounds a week. Thus it will take you 10 weeks to lose that weight. I'm not trying to be mean, just honest. It you set reasonable goals, there is a higher chance to achieve them.

Now, if you still want to lose weight then I would suggest visiting the following link: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=581114 Also you'll have to be patient and willing to take the first step. Not only will you have to take the first step, but you'll have to keep taking steps to reach where you need to go.

I hope that helps and I wish you the best of luck. :)

I'm doing research on the psychology of revenge.

Can anyone point me to some good sources?

You can find some great acedemic articles/ journals if you search for your topic here: http://scholar.google.com/schhp?hl=en&as_sdt=100000000000000
And search for books: http://books.google.com/bkshp?hl=en&tab=wp

Here are some sites I found:
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2009/06/04/revenge-the-psychology-of-retribution/

http://www.thefederationonline.org/events/Briefings/2006_SPSP_DHS/SPSP_Gelfand_Sum.pdf

It's difficult to give you good sources because I'm not sure what your theme will be and what angle you will be giving your paper. If you can provide more information I woul dbe happy to help some more :)

Hope that was at least somewhat helpful :)

My birthday's next month and i'm really wanting a
strawberry cake seeing as i love strawberries so does anyone know where i can get a strawberry cake
from which stores?

Or can the bakery make me one?

Is it going to be hard to find?

Thank you(:

It's not hard to find at all. I'm pretty sure almopst all places that sell cake have some kind of strawberry flavor.

It's depends on how much you are willing to spend and where you live. So if you include that information in your question you might get an answer that is applicable to you.

Happy early birthday :)

my friend is a 12/f
she is dating a 16/m

they have been hiding it from EVERYONE for a month a 3 days. they want to wait to tell their parents when they think the time is right.

so she told me that if they ever wanted to kiss or be alone they had to go into a closet at their church.

so do u have any advice for her. thank you in advance.

EDIT: Thanks for providing more information. I think you are right. The age difference is pretty big especially considering she is only 12. I think that you should try to talk to her about hwo she shoudn't keep it all to herself. I think it's important that her parents know especially inc ase something bad happens. And also, I know you are concerned and you want her to be ok. I think if you talk to her about it, it might help a little. She has to be willing to listen to you and hear you out though. Hope that helps :)

What kind of advice are you looking for? Is there anything specific she is having problem with?

In general I would suggest that she at least tells some people she's with him. And when she hangs out with him, she should let a couple people know where she is. This was if (and i hope it won't) something bad happened, someone will know where she is to be able to help.

If you specify the question, I will be happy to asnwer it :)

I hope that helped a little.

how do i get my msn personal message ( the part under my name) to show what music im listening to on my itues ?

I found a link to help you out:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20081130015606AAxbcJm

Also try this search

Hope that helps :)

does it mean a guy likes you when he constantly stares at you and tries to make you jealous?

If he says he doesn't like you, then why not believe him? Plus you have to think of how he acts towards other girls. Does he stare at lots of other people or just you? What does he do specifically to make you jealous?

I'm taking the SAT and ACT in June. I wanted to know if it really is hard, and how exactly can I study for it? And do colleges really look at your scores and does it really matter? Because I do somewhat well in school, but I am terrible on the SAT. =[ Please and thank you!

I've taken both the ACT and the SAT and I have to say I thought the ACT was much easier.

Ok, so both tests are different and you'll have to understand the differences when you study. Here's a link that will explain the differences: http://www.math.com/students/kaplan/satoract.html

I think the best way to study is to buy the practice books. You can buy the slightly older versions real cheap online and they will help tons. It's great to have an idea of what to expect on the test before you take it and it's filled with lots of tips and tricks that will help.

Colleges will look at those scores when you apply, but after that they are pretty much useless. It stinks, but if you get into your top choice, then it'll be all worth it.

I would also try these searches because they come up with great results:

Best of luck!! You can do it!

I'm pretty much bored and I don't know what to do.

What are some fun sites to visit?

Well lucky for you there are A LOT of sites to visit when you are bored.

This link contains 40 websites that will help you kill some time and get rid of your boredom:
http://www.pcworld.com/article/169112/40_fantastic_timewasting_web_sites.html

This link has 10 more sites you can try: http://freebies.about.com/od/710/tp/timewasting.htm

This link has 25 sites that will let you do cool things to your photos: http://www.hongkiat.com/blog/25-websites-to-have-fun-with-your-photos/

You can always try:
http://bored.com/
http://www.i-am-bored.com/
http://mylifeisaverage.com/
http://www.fmylife.com/
http://failbook.com/
http://failblog.org/
http://www.addictinggames.com/index.html
http://www.candystand.com/
http://gprime.net/
http://www.stickpage.com/
http://quizilla.teennick.com/

These are only some I could think of at the top of my head.

Also try this search

Hope that helps :)

where do u shop?

I live in the US and I love to shop at Macy's. It's usually where I get most of my clothes with some exceptions here and there. I love Macy's because when they have sales it's AMAZING.

Also, I think if you specified your age and gender, we would be able to help you a little bit more.

i didnt know what to put this under but whatever. i want to have a BIG 16th birthday ( im 15 ) my birthdays in july. What should i do? I dont want to have a pool party or anything. But can you give me some ideas..like where to go..if i should stay at home and invite people over or where to have it. ( if youve already had ur 16th birthday reply! ) but if you havent thats alright lol. thanks

Well...it all depends on your preferences.

For example, I just went to a movie and had dinner at a restaurant with my friends. I don't like planning big parties so I went the easy route. But, since you want a big party, that might not work.

Here are some sites I found that are filled with ideas that might spark some interest in you:

http://www.teenpartyideas.com/html/sweet_16_party.html

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090704204016AA4DfbL

http://www.amazingmoms.com/htm/outdoorparties.htm

I think that a luau would be lots of fun. It's a realy great theme for summer. It's also a very easy theme to play off of. You can have it in your backyard and havea barbeque. One of the sites above have more information on it.

Hope that helps :)

I use Gmail. My problem is that in my inbox, the names on the "threads" I have are not always the names I have assigned to the contacts.

For example, let's say I have a friend whose email address is sexychick01144@yahoo.com, and her name is Sarah Perkins. The thread title is "me, sexychick01144 (2)," not "me, Sarah Perkins (2)." I have this hypothetical girl added in my contacts with that name.

How do I fix this so her NAME shows up, not her email address username?

Actually I think the reason it's doing that is because your contacts have not put in their name with their email. That's what shows up when they send you an email. It's not your preference, it's theirs. I know it stinks, but I really don't think you can do anything about it...I'm sorry :/

i need to loose 10+ pounds

what is a do-able diet in which i can loose 10+ pounds in less than a month?

dont just name a diet literally write day by day eating plan.
nothing fancy, as long as it will work.

you can just tell me that you know of a diet and in my feedback ill give you my email so you can go into details.
thank you so much.

Check out this answer:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=581114

I'm not sure if you just plan on losing 10 pound in general or if you want to lose it by a certain date. Either ways try your best and don't give up! Hope that helps :)

Well i already know most of the traditional american pride songs and while I get teary eyed when ever i listen to them, i'd like some different ones. I was wondering if there are any others that you guys know? Like rock or pop or alternative or something like that :) thanks

Check out these links:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080812100009AA1x8th

http://coolrain44.wordpress.com/2009/07/23/american-pride-patriotic-songs/

I need quotes on losing friendships or friends and missing old friends PLEASE HELP

Here are some sites that might be helpful:

http://www.mydearvalentine.com/friendship/losing-friendship-quotes.html

http://www.quoteland.com/topic.asp?CATEGORY_ID=63

If those don't help try

Hope that helps :)

okay i am 15 female.courently attending high school as a freash man. my bestfriend who is a boy(J)s bestfriend(B) hangs around me alot. hes a middle schooler but hes going to be 14 soon and hes always looking at me. and messing with me in a flirting kind of way. i need some advice on how to tell if he likes me as more than a friend or no because at this point im really no sure. any kind of help is very apperaceted please an thank you

~M

Check out this link:
http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Guy-Likes-You

Also, you can always ask a friend to ask him if he's likes you. And another thing, you have to compare how he acts towards other girls and then to you. If he's also flirting with other girls then maybe the way he acts towards you isn't special. But, if he's shy, maybe it means he likes you.

Hope that helps :)

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