Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
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He stares at me sometimes, and is one of my rlly good guy friends. People have told me that he likes me but he hasn't rlly actually told that he did. I don't know what i think... The problem is that he is one of the "popular" guys and in order to like someone, he must like some "popular" girl, I'm not a popular girl which makes me think he definately doesn't like me... Does he like? do i ask him? what should i do?! (link)
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Ok honey,
First of all, no one has to be 'popular' for someone to like them.
Not one person can control how they feel! If a 'popular' guy likes a girl who is not so popular then so be it.
people lile people for who they are, not because of their social status or because of the colour of their hair or the pimple on their nose! Babe, after school... none of that popularity means anything!!
If you like him, and you think he likes you. Ask him! Thats the only real way your going to find out!! Guy's like honesty, and if you like him then be honest with him. That goes for any guy!
I say go for it. What have you got to loose anyway? If your asking him if he likes you and he says no, then your answer could be 'a lot of people have been saying it so if you don't like me you need to clear up the picture' (without making it sound rude of course)
If he says yes then say well thats good because I like you too. Something along those lines!
Good luck babe! Knock em dead!
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(question for females)
does it really hurt the first time you have sex or do people jsut over exaggerate???? (link)
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Hi There,
Every girl is different. Some say it hurts real bad while others don't feel anything.
From my experience, it hurt a little but once we got into it a bit it started to feel good!
As I said everyone is different! Make sure you do a lot of fore-play, the more you play the more aroused you will get and the more 'wet' you will get. This will make it easier for your guy to entre because you wont be so dry then.
Make sure you use protection and do not take it off under any circumstances. You could also use lubricant!
Good luck and be safe!
Oh.. and make it a special time! Every girl remembers her first :)
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im almost never jealous or suspicious or paranoid, but for some reason, I don't want my girlfriend to drink when she's at a party without me. we live like 2 hours apart, and i only get to see her every other weekend. is this an irrational fear? i trust her completely at all other times, and it's not that i dont trust her, but i'm just worried that if she's too drunk, some guy will take advantage of her. idk why I'm thinking that but I just am. I know i can't control her or make her not drink, but is there anything I can do? (link)
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Your not being paranoid or suspicious or jealous.. your being a loving caring boyfriend.
Obviously your girl might take it the wrong way without thinking that your being controlling and over protective but perhaps ask her how would she feel if you went to a party with lots of girls around and you were drinking too.
I am 100% sure she'll think twice about getting too drunk next time.
It is completely understandable about how your feeling at the moment and although you trust her, there is no doubt that there is just a little question in your mind about what goes on, its normal. Don't think your a horrible person!
I know it's hard because you two live apart but maybe talk about taking your relationship to the next level, this might test her to see how much she really loves you and how much she is willing to give up for you.
I don't know how old you two guys are but if you are able to manage a long distance relationship you are obviously mature enough to be taking things a step further.
Just think about it, and also think about how much further your relationship with your girl is really going go. Just on the reality side of things, are you two planning on living together one day? Marraige? or are you guys kinda stuck because you live so far away..?!
Good luck, Hope everything works out for the best!
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I was on my vampirefreaks profile and went on my boyfriends profile and I looked @ his favorites and he only had one person on it so I looked to see who it was because I thought it was me but when I looked I seen a diffrant girl there I was shocked so I went 2 her profile and she also had him on her faves and it hurt me he says he loves me and everything but I think he's cheating on me because I was talking 2 him on the phone and he told me NOT to call him back with that number its............my....friends number. That's how he said it why did he pause for (link)
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Hey there,
From my point of view, it sounds like something is going on, but then again there might not be!
It sounds to me that when you confronted your boyfriend about the number, he's either lying to you because he's cheating on you.. or this girl really is just his friend and for some reason he's lied to you about who she is so you don't think he is cheating on you.
Either way.. it sounds like that he is keeping something from you.
I know it's going to hurt like hell if he is and you don't really want to know the truth and you wish it will all go away but really honey.. you need to talk to him about it.
There is/or no reason to cheat on someone, you can't have your cake and eat it too!! I think that you need to sit him down and ask him straight out what is going on!
If he is cheating on you, you need to make him aware that if he didn't want to be with you anymore all he needed to do was tell you. Cheating on you just made the relationship messy and feelings were hurt more then ever!
If, on the other hand, he is not cheating on you and you are certain, then apologise! Say your sorry (and mean it) and then do something special together and forget that anything ever happened!
If things do work out for the best, he needs to get rid of her in his favourites on his facebook (for good)
Hope everything works out fine hun! Good luck
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when having sex what does it mean do go slow? and fast? (link)
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It means exactly what you've said, you can either have sex slower or faster.
A lot of people think that if you have sex at a slower pace then it's more romantic and sweet and you can 'get in touch with your partner'
on the other hand if you go faster, this is very exciting and very fun!
Sex if fun no matter which way you go!
Hope I helped!
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There's a girl, I'll call her Sara, is really slutty and all she can talk about is how much she likes emo bands and how she flashes her breasts to guys. This is mostly the reason I don't like her, and the other part is that she's kind of punk and I have a clean, preppy style. Well, anyway, she is really nice to me, and I always help her around and stuff because of that. It's really hard, because she's always so nice to me, but I really don't like the way she behaves or talks. I know she tries to fit in, but I feel guilty about not really liking her and venting about how annoying she is to my friends when she acts so nice. Any advice? (link)
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Well instead of pushing her away.. why don't you try and befriend her and show her that the emo style and flashing guys isn't always the best way to try and fit in.
If she hangs out with you guys more often maybe she'll want to change!
Maybe she's nice to you because she really wants to be like you!
Why don't you talk to your friends and see what they think, give her the benefit of the doubt!
Tell her that if she wants to like hang out with you and stuff that she has to be more respectful and there are other ways of having fun with guys then just flashing herself to them!
Do it politely though, you don't want to hurt her feelings!
On the other hand if you don't like her and don't think that you can tollerate her, then you need to tell her!
If you don't want to befriend her, keep your distance but still say hello and be nice, just give her the impression that you are not best friends!
Hope I helped.. good luck!
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how do i bring up to my family and friends that ive been lieing to them about not self-injurying anymore? (link)
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I think this is a brave thing for you to do! Well done :)
It's not really something that you can say in a certain way, your friends and family will react the same way no matter how many times you think you can tell them.
I would probably pick the family member or friend that you are closer to and tell them. You need to make them understand that it isn't an easy thing to just get over or to give up!!
Them perhaps after you have their support you can tell everyone else! That way everyone isn't making a big fuss all at the same time!
Although.. you might have to prepare yourself because others might not take it as well as some people!
I wish you all the best.. I hope you get better soon and I give you so much credit for trying!
Good luck.. hope I helped :)
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I am writing to ask whether at the end of this year, to be a day boy or stay as a boarder at the all boys school I go to.
I joined the school 2 years ago, year 9, thinking that this would be a good experience, but this was not right. Firstly, I'm a person who likes to have some time that is quiet, but you don't get any of that here: everybody shouts or they are crazy. This makes me have headaches and wants me to just sit in my room. However, I run a small shop to make some money to go to Costa Rica on a World Challenge expedition, which makes my room pretty popular - contrary to me.
Last year I was picked on by people in my year, making me feel and act like a spastic/retard, and that really made me want to go home. But if you read my other question, I hate my stepdad and want to be as far away from him as possible.
Now in year 11, I can't decide what to do because at the end of the year, I can choose to live at home. Please help me! (link)
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What do you feel is the right choice for you?
It sounds like you are your step father have some issues but you are older now! You have become your own person and have your own opinions!
You've been away from home for quiet sometime so i'm sure things might be a little bit different at home!
As far as the school goes, it doens't really sound like that you are a happy person there but your shop is the only thing keeping you there!
How many more years have to got left of school if you stay at the boarding home? If you think you can stick it out for a while longer and you have your shop to keep you occupied then stay..!
On the other hand if the bullying which mind you shouldn't be happening is that bad.. then you don't really have a choice but to go home!
At home you only have one person to deal with.. your step father! At school i'm sure there is more then one low life that has nothing better to do then to pick on other people to pass their useless time!
I'm sorry mate but only you can make this choice, we don't know what it really is like for you to be at home with your stepdad and we don't know what it is like for you at school!!
I hope I helped a bit! Good luck! :)
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Homecoming is next weekend, but I'm not sure if I should go. I haven't been asked by anyone, but a bunch of my friends are going as a group. The problem is, I am deeply in love with my best friend, but she has a boyfriend; of course, they will be going to the dance together and will probably make out with each other half the time.
If I don't go, I will just stay home and be miserable. But if I do go, I have to watch my best friend and her boyfriend as well as all the other couples and I'm not sure if I can handle that.
Should I go? And if you think I should go, what advice do you have for coping with watching the girl I love be with another guy? And don't tell me to just move on and get over her; I have been trying for over six months.
15/f (link)
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Well if you don't go.. years down the track your going to regret not going because of a crush that you've got on your best friend! This only comes around once in your life so I would definitely go!
Just go and have fun.. act crazy.. get all dressed up and go wild!!
The sight of your crush being all over her crush would be hard I know.. it happens to everyone!
But unfortunately your going to have to accept the fact that she is 'in love' with her boyfriend and quiet frankly there isn't really anything that you can do about it!
You can tell her how you feel and wait for her response but honey I don't think this one is going to work out for the best! It's just sadly something that you are going to have deal with!
Just remember that she is your best friend and if she doesn't know how you feel then she is going to be quiet upset that you didn't go and join in all the fun with everyone on your 'special night'
I hoped I helped and I hope that you go to the dance!!
Goodluck and I hope you over come this love for your best friend if it's not going to work out for the best!
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Some of the people I call *friends* are saying crap about me. And I know there not really my friends, we just hang out.. Well they get all surprised when I get pissed. They've made fun of my weight right infront of me! Like I wasn't even there.. and I've lost 15 pounds.. which to me is awsome. I've only told my very very best friend Becky this someone who sticks up for me when they bitch, and I love her. Shes sooo supportive because I am on a diet. The people who bitch know im on a diet but instead of being like WOOO there like Finally.. Well I wanna tell them to step off or get bent, I know there not my friends and I have been breaking apart formt them but they seem to be like fallowing me.. Brianna is like KING ands the worst and I wanna kil her. Shes gunna be like =O what did I dooo??? when I bitch slap her 'cross the face!
Err anythign will be helpful and about my diet.
Ive been doing 10 sit-ups a night.. and ive been going up by 5 every week. I walk\jog what I calculated to be a mile atleast everyday.. or atleast I tryy. And I havent been eating as much.. The problem with my weight is mostly my POT BELLY, and my jigle-like-jello thighs. But my weights not going as fast as I would like so any tech-nec that hasworked for you without costing a lot of money would be helpful/ Im just tired of being made fun of because of my wight.
And when I hit my goal weight there gunna be the ones pissed! Now they'd have no one to bitch at! (link)
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Honey you've answered your own question.
They pick on you because they are jealous of you!
You've lost 15 pounds.. Fan-flippin-tastic!
I'm sorry but I know that when I am around people who are bigger then me, I feel better about myself because i'm not the one who is 'feeling fat'
This is probably how these people feel but babe your throwing it in their faces because you are loosing the weight and they hate that!
I think what you are doing with your exercising is great.. You sound motivated enough to keep going! Exercise is the key my darlin! Just remember that fruit and vegies and your vitamins are important too. With your meals don't have a heavy meal or go back for seconds.. don't starve of course.
If you have a heavy lunch like if you go out with friends have a lighter tea or vise versa!
Don't let anyone tell you that you can't do it because you can! You just have to believe in yourself. Don't loose weight for anyone.. just do it for yourself!
Good luck and I hope you reach your goal! :)
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16/f. So this guy and I like each other. But about 3 weeks ago, he broke up with his girlfriend of a year and a half because she cheated. But I'm friends with her and she's still in love with him. Therefore, I feel like a terrible friend. I mean, I would horrible if someone I still loved was going out with one of my friends, and I really don't want to hurt my friend like that. I don't know what to do. This guy and I want to get to know each other better of course, so we're not gonna go out or anything right away, but I still feel bad. And sometimes I wonder why he likes me... I mean, they went out for so long and just broke up, but now he likes me? I would think he would need some time to get over her. I mean, we get along really well and stuff and have alot in common and whatever, so it's not like it's weird that he likes me, but so soon? Idk what to do, I'm caught in the middle of all of this and it makes me feel like a jerk; I don't want anyone getting hurt. Like, I want to go out with him eventually but his ex and all of her friends, who are also my friends, will probably be so pissed at me. But if I just didn't bother giving it a chance and going out with him, I'll probably miss out on something great and regret it. =( What should I do? Thanks for taking the time to read this. (link)
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Ok, First of all he could have liked you for quiet sometime and now that your friend cheated on him this is his way of getting out of their relationship with no questions asked.
Second.. If your friend loves him, she wouldn't have done what she did. There is no reason for cheating on someone at all. It only ends up in a huge mess, lots of tears and a broken heart. She can't have her cake and eat it too!!
Third, this guy could just be in the need for comfort at this stage and obviously he's chosen you to comfort him. Or he could just really like you.
I wouldn't be like throwing yourself at him now he's a single man.. Just for the time being be there for him. Don't come on too strong, a little flirting should be ok so he gets the idea but just take it easy. Make sure that this is really what you want.
There's two sides to every story so there could be a reason your friend cheated on him. Some girls find it hard to get out of a demanding relationship and that could be why your friend cheated. So she had a way out. Although she still 'loves' him.. She was with him for quiet some time!
When and if you decide to take your relationship further with this guy perhaps sit your friend down to tell her. Don't let your other friends get involved until you two have sorted things out! Things will get ugly and you don't want to loose all your friends and then decide that he wasn't worth it all anyway!
Just be careful, think it through and you will know what you want! Don't let anyone choose for you. Things like this can't be helped! Tell your friend to put herself in your situation!
Just don't be rude about it k babe?!
Good luck.. Hope everything works out for the best! :)
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Hi I'm 27 weeks pregnant with a girl. Her first name is going to be Riley but I need help coming up with a middle name. There are so many names that go good with it but me and my boyfriend can't seem to agree on any. Any suggestions? Please no stupid answers. (link)
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Hi there.. Congrats on your pregnancy :)
Riley Jade
Riley Jane
Riley Louise
Riley Jordan
Riley Paige
Riley Mia
Riley Evie
Riley Tayla
Riley Rebecca
Riley Amanda
Riley Kayla
Riley Rachael
Riley Sasha
Riley Ivy
Riley Maggie
Riley Lessie
Riley Michelle
What about your first name as the middle name?
Or you could perhaps have two middle names such as Riley Jade-Louise... :)
Good luck.
Please let me know what you call her!
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i would prefer a guys opinion on this, but a girls opinion would work too.
my sister stephanie has been going out with this kid pat for a couple months. pat has a younger brother thats my age. we've been talking for about a month, but we still havent meet yet. we both like eachother, but pat doesnt want us to meet because he doesnt want us to go out.
would that(your brother going out with your girlfriends sister) bother you too? and if so, why? because i dont understand why pat doesnt want his brother and i to go out.
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Hi there,
You didn't say how old you guys were but to me it sounds kinda like 'I don't want you to go out with my girlfriends sister because I don't want to have my little brother around me all the time'
I don't think it's the fact that two sisters are going out with two brothers, I just think its because he wants private time with his girl and doesn't want the 'annoying' little sibling around at the same time.
Perhaps have a chat and be mature about the situation and explaint that they can't make you choose who to like and who not to like and if you want to go out with them.
Good luck
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MissMegLoL here :)
I'd really like to cut my hair to start off the new school year. For the cut I had in mind, I'd like my hair to be a little longer, but I can make do with what I have. I was thinking of a "scene" type of haircut, I'm not what you'd call "scene" but I really like their hairstyles. So I basically want it really layered, and a straight style. Could anyone get me pictures of hairstyles that I could show my hairdresser so she gives me the style I want? Thanks in advance!
Also, if you have any ideas for any different styles you think might look good, I'd love to hear them. :) (link)
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Hi there..
I just got a new hair cut and colour last night.. I used to have long dark brown hair now I have short layered goldy blonde hair! :)
Go to matrix.com you can upload your picture on there and choose different hair styles and actually see what it looks like.. print it off and take it to your hair dresser :)
Hope I helped!
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I have this friend that i love to death but i keep alot of stuff from her. I keep stuff & lie to her sometimes because i feel that she judges me based on what i decide to do in my life.
i lost my virginity to a guy that she hated. At first i didnt tell her that i had sex with him but then i broke down at work and started crying because i was really stressed out because i thought i was pregnant. When i told her that she looked at me and told me i shouldn't have had sex with him and that i am stupid for doing it.
Another night i was hanging out with another guy friend and i was drinking with him and i ended up messing around with him ( we did not have sex ). but we ended up getting in a fight and never talked anymore. And she told me i shouldnt be drinking with guys because they can take advantage of me and so fourth.
a couple of days ago i asked her if she knew guy named ______ and shes like yes and you don't need to get envovled with him hes worse then _____ ( the guy i had sex with) and he got in alot of trouble with the police in high school. After she yelled all of that trash to my face she then asks me how i know him and why i asked her if she knew him. I gave her a spirk and she told me to stay away from him. But then i went and asked my other friend if she knew him and she said that he is one of the nicest guys she has ever met in her life.
Im really sick of her judging me about how i talk about guys or what guy i get invovled with or what i do with them on my time. Yea maybe she is making sure i don't hurt myself but when she ask me why i asked about him after she yelled at me im not goin to tell her i think hes an awesome person and i reallly want to get to know him..
i know i dont really have a question and im kinda rambling but what can i do to get her to stay off my case and quit judging me im tired of it im my own person and i do what i want..... (link)
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Maybe she is jealous! Either that or she is just looking out for you!
You need to tell her that although she doesn't agree with the things you do she doesn't need to be mad at you for it or make you feel bad for it.
It is your life and you are able to make your own choices. At the same time thought it wouldn't hurt to listen to what she has to say then make your choices.. at least you can say to your friend that you listened to her but you just needed to do what you felt was right.
She's not your mum! She really has no right to tell you what do to and when to do it!
Perhaps talk to her and let her see your point of view.. if she doesn't want to do the things you do then thats fine but don't stop you from doing it too.
Tell her that you hate it because you feel like she is judging you for 'growing up' and experiencing things in your own way.
But yes becareful with the whole mixing alcohol with guys because they can take advantage of you, at the same time you are big enough to take care of yourself to a certain extent!
If something was to go wrong one night then all you would thiking is I should have listened to my friend.. :)
Tell her she can look out for you and give her opinion but you do not appreciate being spoken to like your her daughter and not her friend. Tell her that you tell her these things because you feel that you confide in her but when she 'tells you off' you just don't want to be around her.
Hope I helped.. goodluck!
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why are people always like "oh you shouldnt have sex you're too young, wait for marriage." just because one person believes you should wait til marriage doesnt mean everyone else does and has to abide by that. people shouldnt be judged on what age they want to have sex at. it is THEIR opinion. and if they regret it, at least they learned from it. everyone makes mistakes. it is their OWN lives and people shouldnt tell them how to live or what to do.
i know I HATE when people tell me what to do.
i can make my own decisions. (link)
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Hey there,
I do agree with you to a certain extent. I do agree with the part about people saying that others shouldn't have sex until they are married, not everything thinks the same!!
But about being judged on what age people have sex, now in my opinion I think that people who are 12, 13, 14, and maybe even 15 years old are a little bit too young to be having sex.
I honestly don't think that they are able to deal with the consequences of having sex (such as pregnancy)
I guess that is why people say wait don't have sex at that age because the consequences are huge! I know when I was that age I was hardly responsible of looking after myself let alone looking after me and a baby!
But it doesn't mean people are judging them, they just don't agree with what they are doing.
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13/f
me and my boyfriend have been together over 2 years (yeah i know, that's a long time!!). we're really close and spend a lot of time together. well anyway, some of his friends have recently broken up with their girlfriends because they want to "focus on football." they say they don't want a girlfriend because girls cause too much distraction. so now i'm really worried that this is going to influence my boyfriend, and that he might get the same idea. i love him to death and i dont know what i'd do without him. i don't feel like i distract him from anything... i support him in football and help him with homework, etc... but is there anything i can do to make sure he doesnt feel that way? (link)
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Tell him how you are feeling! Recently my boyfriends friend broke up with his girlfriend of 4 years and he was suddenly the 'single man'
I thought it might have put ideas in my boyfriends head too.
I talked to him about it and he told me that everyone thinks differently! You and your boyfriend have been together a long time and I am sure that he is not going to throw it all away because he wants to 'focus' on his sport.. especially if you support him in it.
Perhaps just tell him that you feel a bit insecure about the whole issue of this, he'll understand!
Good luck :)
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okay so i have a weird question...are some people automatically attracted to younger guys/girls?? (not like really young but like 1 or 2yrs younger) becasue i tend to always like the guys in the grades below me...and for the most part all the guys that i know like me are in the grades below me (link)
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No.. it's not the age you are attracted too, it's the person! It just so happens to be that you are attracted to guys who are younger instead of older!
It's not weird! Only if it's like 10 years difference lol but no it's cool!
There's two years difference between me and my boyfriend, but he's older! Although I have had boyfriends who have been younger then me! So it's not weird lol
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My parents are out of town for the weekend, so my boyfriend is planning on coming over tomorrow night. We've talked about it, and both decided that we're definitely not ready to have sex. We just really enjoy eachothers' company, and want to be close to one another. Are there any other things we should talk about before he comes? Any additional advice we might need? (link)
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Well you sound mature enough not to have sex with him.. but I would always be preparred just in case! You never know! Even if you don't have sex condoms are good if you do anything sexual!
Now do your parents know he's staying? Perhaps you should talk about that! Make him aware that it has to stay between you two!
But just have fun.. make the most of it and be safe!!
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I developed a rash from Amoxcillian because I was misdiagnosed & actually had mono, not strep, which caused the rash. I've been put on Prednisone for 7 days. Is there anything I can do to help with this rash? It's really bad & keeps spreading. Also, how common is weight gain with Prednisone? I have an eating disorder & I'm really afraid of gaining weight, but I only have to take it for 7 days. Thanks! (link)
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You wouldn't gain any weight but the thing is if you don't eat with the medication you are taking you will become really sick!
You need something in your body for the medication to work, even if it's cucumber (you don't put any weight on by eating that, it has no calories what so ever!) Try some fruit!
If you throw up the medication will not be affective and your rash will last longer and will probably get worse and spread more!
Did you tell your doctor that you have an eating disorder when he prescribed you those tablets? If not I would suggest to go back to him other wise you become very sick!
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