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Slutty Girl
There's a girl, I'll call her Sara, is really slutty and all she can talk about is how much she likes emo bands and how she flashes her breasts to guys. This is mostly the reason I don't like her, and the other part is that she's kind of punk and I have a clean, preppy style. Well, anyway, she is really nice to me, and I always help her around and stuff because of that. It's really hard, because she's always so nice to me, but I really don't like the way she behaves or talks. I know she tries to fit in, but I feel guilty about not really liking her and venting about how annoying she is to my friends when she acts so nice. Any advice?
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ok this is hard but honestly be nice back maybe if you both continue being good friends youll like her i know you can stand her mot probably but she didnt do anything to U so theres no reason why u shouldnt be her friend =]
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If she's nice what does it matter what she likes or what she wears? How she lives her life is her business but if you are her friend, maybe telling her that some of the things she does aren't the wisest thing for her safety wouldn't be such a bad idea. And if you feel guilty about venting about how annoying she is? Save yourself and her some agony and just stop hanging around her. No one wants to be friends with someone who talks behind their back and it doesn't seem like u are concerned about her, more like... you don't like her and she's nice so it's hard for you to know what to do. Personally I think trying to fit in is a waste of time and people should just be themselves. If that's herself that's too bad. She'll probably grow out of it, we all do crazy things and have bad phases in our life - but there's always room for change. If you don't like her - just don't engage yourself. You can't let what she does affect you so. You both will be fine without the other most likely. (Sorry if I was rather blunt.) Good luck!
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tell her how you feel she may get mad but if she is a true friend she will understand and you should find out somthing you like about her and dont be so quick to judge i know this is not what you may want to hear but its the truth
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Well instead of pushing her away.. why don't you try and befriend her and show her that the emo style and flashing guys isn't always the best way to try and fit in.
If she hangs out with you guys more often maybe she'll want to change!
Maybe she's nice to you because she really wants to be like you!
Why don't you talk to your friends and see what they think, give her the benefit of the doubt!
Tell her that if she wants to like hang out with you and stuff that she has to be more respectful and there are other ways of having fun with guys then just flashing herself to them!
Do it politely though, you don't want to hurt her feelings!
On the other hand if you don't like her and don't think that you can tollerate her, then you need to tell her!
If you don't want to befriend her, keep your distance but still say hello and be nice, just give her the impression that you are not best friends!
Hope I helped.. good luck!
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I understand this situation completely. As a suggestion tell her that you really like her, but some of the things she does aren't what you are about. and if she is going to be like that around you, then maybe you need to hang out less, and stop doing so much for her. I realize she is really nice, and you are giving her the same respect in return, but you don't want someone's bad habits rubbing off on you. Good luck.
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