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shes got a problem.
I have this friend that i love to death but i keep alot of stuff from her. I keep stuff & lie to her sometimes because i feel that she judges me based on what i decide to do in my life.
i lost my virginity to a guy that she hated. At first i didnt tell her that i had sex with him but then i broke down at work and started crying because i was really stressed out because i thought i was pregnant. When i told her that she looked at me and told me i shouldn't have had sex with him and that i am stupid for doing it.
Another night i was hanging out with another guy friend and i was drinking with him and i ended up messing around with him ( we did not have sex ). but we ended up getting in a fight and never talked anymore. And she told me i shouldnt be drinking with guys because they can take advantage of me and so fourth.
a couple of days ago i asked her if she knew guy named ______ and shes like yes and you don't need to get envovled with him hes worse then _____ ( the guy i had sex with) and he got in alot of trouble with the police in high school. After she yelled all of that trash to my face she then asks me how i know him and why i asked her if she knew him. I gave her a spirk and she told me to stay away from him. But then i went and asked my other friend if she knew him and she said that he is one of the nicest guys she has ever met in her life.
Im really sick of her judging me about how i talk about guys or what guy i get invovled with or what i do with them on my time. Yea maybe she is making sure i don't hurt myself but when she ask me why i asked about him after she yelled at me im not goin to tell her i think hes an awesome person and i reallly want to get to know him..
i know i dont really have a question and im kinda rambling but what can i do to get her to stay off my case and quit judging me im tired of it im my own person and i do what i want.....
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you are absolutly right. you really should tell her to just "but out" sometimes.if she is such a good friend she should try helping you,and understand your situations more, rather than make you feel worse or put you down.sure, she may not like you for a while for telling her, but she needs to hear it.(you know,... tough love)
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Maybe she is jealous! Either that or she is just looking out for you!
You need to tell her that although she doesn't agree with the things you do she doesn't need to be mad at you for it or make you feel bad for it.
It is your life and you are able to make your own choices. At the same time thought it wouldn't hurt to listen to what she has to say then make your choices.. at least you can say to your friend that you listened to her but you just needed to do what you felt was right.
She's not your mum! She really has no right to tell you what do to and when to do it!
Perhaps talk to her and let her see your point of view.. if she doesn't want to do the things you do then thats fine but don't stop you from doing it too.
Tell her that you hate it because you feel like she is judging you for 'growing up' and experiencing things in your own way.
But yes becareful with the whole mixing alcohol with guys because they can take advantage of you, at the same time you are big enough to take care of yourself to a certain extent!
If something was to go wrong one night then all you would thiking is I should have listened to my friend.. :)
Tell her she can look out for you and give her opinion but you do not appreciate being spoken to like your her daughter and not her friend. Tell her that you tell her these things because you feel that you confide in her but when she 'tells you off' you just don't want to be around her.
Hope I helped.. goodluck!
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it kinda sounds like shes either trying to be a good friend and protect you or shes just jealous that you actually have boy problems and she doesnt. you should just stop telling her about you and the boys because shell probably just end up judging you and thats not what you want and let her be the one to ask ' so do you like anyone new?' and then you can be like yea i think i like ____ or _____ seems intersting i wanna get to know him more. or if you dont want to deal with her bitching at you just be like not really. hope this helped.
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