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Hey guys its Taylor... aka T Fro! hah well i love giving people advice and im sure i know a thing or two about it so ask me anything and i will give you my best answer!!

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here it goes, my friend has always been nice to me, but after she she got this new group of friends... every time i come ova her house it's "Wanta invite my friend ova".when eva her friends are ova she's not herself anymore. i tryed to talk her about it but,now she thinks i hate her friends(which I do). anyway how can i keep my friendship and stil get time alone with my friend?!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ok this is soo common! invite her to a sleepover or somewhere to hang out ALONE! maybe you can talk to her about it.. at the right time. You dont have to be best friends with her but you do want to keep your friendship. hoped i helped! good luck :) xoxo BLONDE911

my lil bro is 7 we share a room and i have a double bed and sometimes he gets scared of thunder cause hes a light sleeper and im not so he gets woken and i dont ANYWAY he got freacked by some thunder and so did i so i didnt object when he hopped in next to me but i got woken up a bit later by him touching my penis and rubbing my leg with his foot neither of us have said anything what should i do

i think you should ask your lil bro why he did that. Next time if he gets scared tell him its going to be alright and you shouldnt be scared (even if you are). Tell him he has to go to your parents room if he is that scared. I hope this helps!! good luck:)xoxo-BLONDE911

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my boyfriend smokes pot and i HATE it...i have really strong feelings about it b.c of certain things from my family // well i want him to stop and he promised me he would, he did it once and i wasnt so mad then he did it at this party that i went to! i dont want him to think im trying to control his life i just dont want to associate with people who do pot and i dont like to see him hurting himself like that...im scared to talk to him about it b.c i dont have enough strenght after everything that happened in my family...well, what can i do - leave your screen name for AIM if possible !

Tell him why u dont want him to do it tell him your scared and say what happened with your family. Maybe if he cares enough he will consider it. Ill give you a story about my parents friend, he had a great life good children and a great wife. He recently became involved w/ drugs and alcohol. he couldnt get off it he went to counseling but still couldnt. I think his wife left him but im not sure. Anyways soon he became soo lost, he went suicide. Hopefully this wont happen to you i just want to give you some things that might happen. Im sorry this has happened and im glad you reallized this. i hoped i helped.
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ok, well i dont want to make this too long so here it goes

my sis 14/f and this 1 kid down the street(eddie)13/m and i are all best friends. but me and my sis are starting to think he likes my sis, he called her his WIT (wife in training)and we thought it was a joke but were now rethinking it. She likes him but she doesnt want to, but then does want to. weve been best friends 4 a long time and she doesnt want to ruin that, i need advice, should she ask him out, or should she leave it alone???plz help

I think you should just spend more time with him so you dont ruin anything. If you decide to take things further, and if you break up tell him straight to his face i dont want to ruin our friendship. I think this is the best advice for these situations. I hoped I helped! :) xoxo BLONDE911

I think I have self-image problems. I hate my stomach. I'm always worried it is preventing me from finding a boyfriend. I know people sometimes comment about my weight behind my back. In school when we had our physicals I felt extremely self-consious because the nurse put the chart down and a few people could see my weight (I'm not sure they care though). I just don't want to hurt myself. I've thought about nt eating and becoming aneroxic and when I did I honestly didn't care what it would do to my body as long as my stomach look thinner. I do exercise usually but I never see results. I just want to know how I can have a better self-image. Any help?

ok go to www.am-i-fat.com

Hey ! I'm taking Christian Counseling in college and i need to write a paper on alcoholism how it affects the family from the smallest child to the middle child to the oldest and the mom and dad and neighbors and everything like what happens and what are words to describe it i have searched the internet but can't find anything ! Does anyone know of any sites or could tell me about because you have been through it ! I rate high ! THANKS!

it can set a bad example for the kids. if the parents are on alcohol they can become dead from drinking and driving. The little kids look up to their mom so they will copy them. Think about in the long run like they can die they can get into prison they can make their children drop out of school from drinking too much they can also go to jail and ruin their whole life
good luck i hoped i helped:)
xoxo BLONDE911

Im 17/m and here is my problem. Ok Im a senior and prom is comming up soon. Well I have two people in mind to ask out. The first is in my class and I know she likes me. I kinda like her but not as much as she likes me. The other is in 10th grade. I like her but I dont know if she likes me. So now you see my problem. Help please.

Ask the person you like the most, if they say no go to your next choice. Its that simple! Try to keep it a secret if you can so you wont hurt anyones feelings. I hope this all works out for you. Or you could ask the girl who likes you!
good luck:)

OK to some of you this might not seem like a big deal..but me and my dad are dedicated to softball. Well..aside from JV softball..little league is the place where all of us can have lots of fun. My dad and my friends dad coach together. My dad was even on the little league board. (he recently left but will be returning.)
Well the problem is he told the president of the board to "fuck off" He wasnt totally wrong..but he def wasnt right for what my dad said. Now..i just found out the president of the board..my friends dad..and another lady is coaching! They totally left out my dad. EVERYONE on the team hates the pres and they loved it when my dad and my friends dad were coaches. What should I do? i dont want to go down without a fight. Should i make a petition..go to one of their meetings..any suggestions?Ty and i'll rate 5's

Wow that really is a tough question. I dont think there is alot of things you can do. Maybe you can ask your dad the whole situation and get the details. Tell your dad to write a.... i guess a "sorry note" to the president. Tell your dad it will mean alot to you if he does, do it for your team:). If you want everything back to normal try the note. You cant do alot so it wont hurt to try. Im sorry i couldnt give you more. good luck:)
xoxo BLONDE911

ok. theres this boy in my 2nd block class and i have never talked to him before, although i think hes waay hott. sometimes whenever the teacher says something funny or they play some weird music on the bulletin, we always turn around and look at each other and laugh. its like we have known each other for a long time and we're friends...but we have never talked before! The other night I dreamt that he talked to me and the next day he actually did talk to me for the first time! i joined in on the conversation he was having with my friend. he didn't say much to me, because I hadn't said very much, but it was a start. i don't know why though me and him look at each other a lot! and we laugh too! we don't even know each other, hes a complete stranger to me, but when he do that and look n laugh, i feel like i've known him forever! my friends think he likes me...is that even possible? i'm terribly sorry this is soo long! i'll rate VERY good i promise! sorry again!

~ Wondering if there's a "connection" ~

The only thing you can do right now is to get to know him better. Get one of your friends to help start a conversation w/ him if you need it. You can talk about anything! Just try to start a conversation to get to know him better.... maybe he isnt what you thought he would be. Or you could ask one of your friends to ask one of his friends what he likes so you can talk about his favorites. I hope this helps! good luck:)
xoxo-BLONDE911

okay so this kid i recently started to like came to my basketball came last friday and since i was playing and was litterly flippin pushed outta the gym afterwards i never got to talk to him. i dont know why he was there, i think it was for me, but do you think he likes me? how should i tell him i like him? straight up, or have my best friend tell him? oh and hes my bestfriends xboyfriend so it totally sucks ass

Oh i love crushes!! ok heres what you do: go ask a friend to ask the guy you like to see who he likes. If he says he doesnt like anyone tell your friend to list some people and see wich one he would go out with. If he still doesnt know, tell him one of the people likes him and give him little hints such as: if you have a class w/ him or how many letters is in your first name. It worked for my friend so hopefully it will work for you! good luck:) xoxo BLONDE 911

ok, well I just turned 13 not to long ago and I have a boyfriend. But if my parents find out they would kill me. If I'm on the phone with a guy or whatever and my parents ask who I'm talking to I always have to lie and say one of my friends names thats a girl. And if a guy calls me and I don't answer the phone everyone keeps asking me questions about why there calling and stuff. I really love my b/f tho and when i wanna go somewhere with him I have to tell my parents that I'm going sumwhere with my friends. I just wanna be allowed to have a b/f so i can hang out with him all the time and everything without having to have at least one of my friends there. What can I do?

I dont know how strict your parents are but ask them why you cant have a boyfriend. Say all your friends have boyfriends and its not fair. Tell them IF you have a boyfriend you wont do anything except for just spend time with them nothing more than that. Start telling your parents more about your life so they can understand you. Tell them every good detail about your boyfriend so they can understand. hope this helps! good luck:)
xoxo BLONDE911

how old do you need to be to be a babysitter?

I think you should be about 12 or up. thats a good age, but i do reccomend going to some baby safety classes or things like that. (im not sure what they are called but they are very helpful!)

Hi, I am 13 going on 14 and i weigh about 106 lbs. give or take two. Is that fat? Bc i really feel fat and i feel like there is nothbing i can do.
What are some ways to lose like 10 lbs but staying healthy!
Ill rate high!
PLease Help!!!
*Overweight?*

You are not over weight! You are perfect. To prove it go to.. www.am-i-fat.com. If you are just excersizing and eating healthy, you are perfectly fine! hoped i help. good luck:)
xoxo BLONDE911

I think my best friend is calling my ex-boyfriend behind my back and she is calling my new boyfriend 2...she is telling my new boyfriend that I'm messing around in school with my old boyfriend...which isnt true....now my new boyfriend is mad at me....i think she is mad that my old boyfriend still likes me and he dont like her and i have a new one....i think she is jealous....when i was going out with my old boyfriend she told me she liked him a lot and she was talking 2 him on the phone everynight....which she shouldnt have been doing because he should have been talking 2 me...but now she says she dont like him and i think she is lying and i dont know what 2 do...i dont think she should even try 2 go with him cause me and him went with each other 4 a long time....What should I do about her? Im 15 and a female

You need to have a serious talk w/ your friend. You need to tell your boyfriend the truth and say you never done anything wrong.
My friend had the same prob., her best friend liked the same guy she did and was lieing to her. She was hurt really bad, and since they didnt talk about it they arent so close anymore. You can save your friendship if you want to as long as you talk to her. Tell her straight up whats going on and you dont like it. I hope this helps.. im sorry friends can be like this. good luck:)

Hi. I want to lose some weight. All my friends are a little bit smaller than me...and I feel embarresed when ever I got shopping with them because i have to buy bigger sizes than them. I think that I am eating more because I gained 10 puonds last year...any ideas that could help?

Dont worry, I think i can relate to you im not fat its just i just have alot of muscle. I sometimes worry if i am fat, because some of the girls are smaller than me. If you are still not sure go to www.am-i-fat.com< you can search the site and check out kool excersizes. DONT do any pills, if you excersize and eat healthy, your fine. good luck:)

I dont even know where to start. I'm 19/f I've just recently lost my job, me and mom are arguing all the time now i've just lost my boyfriend (He does say hes not sure what he wants, his hearts telling him to stay then his head and family are saying leave) He has dumped me though. I cry all the time and feel down. How can i pick my self back up i dont want to be depressed. I do have a history of self harm and dont want to go back. Please please help. :-(

Try to do something fun with your friends. I know alot of people who get so depressed because of boyfriends. Go do something with your friends and DONT talk about him or else it will make you more depressed. Go to the movies or just do something fun

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it feels like all of my friends are getting new friends and that im "out of the loop" like me and this 1 girl used to be really close and now she has new friends i mean we still hang out but not like we used to. this is making me reLLY DEPRESSED what should i do???
-unloved child

OMG i had the same problem, what i did is i called her and said she was leaving me out and i didnt like it. give her a call and tell her whats up. Dont let your feelings show, ask your other friends to hang out so you can take her off your mind. The only thing you cannot do is talk about her. It takes more effort to be mean than to be nice!! good luck:)

My friend is soo depressed, that everytime I'm with her, she brings me down too. And I try to cheer her up, but she just gives me one of those fake smiles. It is breaking up our friendship now, and I don't want that to happen. What do I do to help her?!

invite her to some where you cannot be depressed like main event or gameworks go somewhere where you and your friend can have soo much fun. Try to talk to her so you can try to work things out, it always works when you talk about things. If she doesnt want to talk then just go have fun. She might be going through rough times, maybe it will pass one day and everything will be back to normal. hope it works good luck:)

ok this is probably the most asked question EVER. lol, but what do i do about guys. i mean, whenever is see a nice guy at my church...the mall...idk around, i ALWAYS want to talk to them, but i never do. I wanted to know how to talk to guys without feeling stupid or embarassed...or without having them think im a freak or like a terrorist. lol. but sometimes they are surrounded by girls. Like this one kid i saw today at my church, he was hott and really funny, but he was SURROUNDED by girls that were his friends. i wanted to talk to him soo much, but i couldnt do it. i need to be more comfortable around guys, but how do i do it??

dont be shy, just be yourself try to sit by him if you can or when hes alone say hi to him and ask him what his name is.... dont act nervous just act like he is your best friend. Dont go too fast just try to get to kno him. Always look good at church to catch his eye.. who knows maybe he will make HIS move! good luck:)

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