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I think my parents may be running out of money, and I may need a job. My older sister is too lazy to go get one. Do you know any jobs near New Jersey that hire 14 year old girls? (Please don't put babysitting/lawnmowing/pet sitting)
Thanks!! (link)
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You should try your local movie theater out first. They are always hiring teen employees. The thing is that their staff is always turning over due to the school year ending or beginning. They're most likely on a hiring blitz or open to people wanting to work there. It doesn't pay a lot just minimum wage but will give you your own cash. An added perk is free movies for employees.
You probably don't want to work at McDonald's or fast-food but that's where you'll also find a lot of openings because of the fact their staff are all teens who aren't staying with them long. Also be sure to try your local bookstore as well or coffee shop, pizza store, restaurants you frequent etc. maybe even gas stations pumping gas.
If there's an amusement park near you try looking there as they always hire seasonal ride operators, guest service reps, people to dress in costumes, cashiers, waiters, waitresses and cleanup crew. You're too young to do security and need certain training for that and certificates.
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I get awful acne on my back chest and my arms and i don't know what to use to get rid of it. I get random breakouts on my face but its just a few zits so its not really a big deal. I'm ver self conscious about my acne and i've tried body washes but none of them seem to work. I hate having to hide because i have this problem. So what should i use or what should i do? (link)
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This is very common. What you need to do is book an appointment with a dermatologist. They deal only with skin and can prescribe something to get rid of it no problem. Body washes, over the counter creams and other remedies haven't worked because they aren't strong enough.
A prescription cream will more than handle it. You need to see this kind of specialist for treatment. It may be a few zits but if you're self-conscious about how your arms, back and even face look to others than you should definitely see a dermatologist.
On rare occasions regular family doctors will have samples of prescription acne creams for your face. They can write a prescription for that but I'm not sure if they would for elsewhere on the body.
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There's this boy at my high school that I really, really like. I've never felt this way about any guy, actually. And towards the beginning of this year, I could have sworn he liked me too. We were always together, and when we couldn't be he called me on the phone and we would talk until we ran the phone batteries down. But now, he started hanging out with another girl more than me, calls me less often, and doesn't spend any time with me at school. I don't understand. Please, help me.
Me: 16/F (17 in September)
Him: 15/M (Just turned 15 on April 13.) (link)
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You need to find out where you stand by talking to him openly and honestly. It's the only way. Nobody said it would be easy but if you want to know the truth you have to go directly to him.
I doubt he's purposely ignoring you. He may have just moved on to this girl because he was hoping all the calls and time spent with you would get you to initiate a relationship. Guys simply don't spend that much time or any on the phone with a girl they aren't interested in.
Ask him about her and about yourself and see what he has to say. You may walk out with a relationship or an even closer friendship. Regardless he'll respect you for talking to him.
I would let him know you're getting mixed signals and want to be clear on whether to pursue a friendship, relationship or nothing else. It's obvious he likes you but maybe not in the way you hope.
Tell him you miss hanging out and talking on the phone. His relationship or friendship with her is new so that's likely why you and other friends aren't focused on as much. I doubt it's personal or a sign he dislikes you.
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Hey :)
Okay so I love to give people advice, that is why I registered to be a advice columnist on here. I want to be an official advice columnist as a career when I grow up. You know, the kind where you are in the newspaper and people from all over the country ask you for advice. I really want to do this but how? What kind of degree do you need? Do they make good money? What is the average income a year? What type of environment would you work in? Most importantly, are there many jobs for this available in Florida? Please tell me everything you know about this job and how to get it. Thank you so much! :)
Baylee (link)
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Almost all individuals who wind up film critics or advice columnists don't start out as such. They are usually journalists who a newspaper's editor or a syndicate if they are world wide selected for that job. In all likelihood they started out as reporters first and got tapped for the job when there was an opening for it.
Most advice columnists usually have a background in entertainment and lifestyle feature writing. In other words soft journalism rather than hard news. You need to go to university or college for journalism and get training as a reporter, editor, page designer and find a job at a local newspaper, respectable web site or magazine.
Build up a portfolio of lifestyle and entertainment pieces and tell the editors and your professors what you would like to do one day as a columnist. You never know what an editor will hand you as an assignment. But no, there's real prep school for an advice columnist--but this is how you can ascend to it and how they get hired.
You start out as a writer, find a beat and try to get noticed for what your specialty happens to be. You need to learn how to write professionally, volunteer at the local newspaper now and take all the writing courses you can. Study grammar intensely and be a go-getter. Eventually if you work at a newspaper you might become one.
If I were you I would see if your school has a newspaper or not. Find out who is in charge and see if you can get your own column. They may be very open to that. For now, you can earn experience by answering questions here and developing a style that is different from others.
You might also want to go another route and take Psychology or Psychiatry degrees and help people with advice and knowledge through medicine.
For now, check out Teen Ink www.teenink.com Ypress www.ypress.org and http://teentalknetwork.com/list.htm
The first two sites work with teen writers and may have advice columns as part of their content but better yet can get you published professionally. The TeenTalk one is a site that does Internet radio with teens. Perhaps if you contacted them they might be able to find a way for you to give advice not in the form of a column but in the form of a show where there are guests and you have topics teens need to know about to give advice on. See what happens.
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what does an orgaism feel like? (link)
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An orgasm is when your pubic muscles contract together and suddenly release and keep doing that for a minute or so. It creates little ripple sensations that are felt throughout the body.
It can either be soft ripples or intense ones based on the kind of stimulation. More or less you'll feel ripples of pleasurable sensations. G-Spot orgasm is much different as you'll feel pressure to push and about up to a liter of fluid is released.
In men orgasm as you know has the same sensations and feelings but usually ends in ejaculation. As for how it feels everyone will give you a different description but start with the idea of ripples of different sensations all at once that are pleasurable and unmistakable.
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i answered some girls question about ouija boards, and she rated my answer a 5 and asked me another question about the ouija board in the little comment box.. but i dont know how to reply to her to answer her question..
i went back to the question, and her username is Nowhere on the page.. just the title of her question..
how do i reply to her?
i also use advicenators on my sidekick, not computer.. but it shouldnt make a difference i dont think.. (link)
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You can't directly contact her. They make sure everyone is anonymous that way. What you can do is go back and add additional info or edit your response to reflect what they have asked.
They'll see it. That's what the moderators told me when I wanted to do the same thing. You'll only see the question and never the name of who asked it in searches or in general.
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Hi Can you please tell me aleast 12 ways or less how to masterbate without useing sex toys
thanks for your help
love,Gam906e (link)
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Here's a link to YG's forum where your question is likely best answered http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutmetopic.php?t=1050&userboard_id=15647ard_id=15647
While it won't give you 12 techniques it will give you a general idea of things. We can't and don't give out how-to info on sexuality. Why? There's minors here and it's site policy not to--for good reason.
Anyway, even if you received a list of twelve ideas it would be useless to you. What works for one man or woman won't for others. We all react differently to certain stimulation. My best advice is to learn by yourself trial and error and find out what works better than toys or normal in your view.
The forum above should help. While we can't provide tips nothing is stopping you from using the Internet and other resources, fact sheets, books etc. on sexuality.
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I'm 21f, my boyfriend (James) is 23m, his brother (Andrew) is almost 22, and they live with their parents. James and I have been together for about four years, and love each other very much.
But his family hates me, and we're starting to fight because I think he could fight them more on this, and he thinks he can't. He has no job and not much money, so he can't move out.
According to him, his parents think I'm not good enough for him. That makes sense, they want the best for him. They have good intentions. But they periodically tell him that he's hurting the family by seeing me, and that's just not true.
He said, "The only way they'll stop is if I break up with you, and I really don't want to."
I said, "It's your decision, they should respect it."
He said, "Yeah, well, they don't. So that's where I am."
I've tried everything from speaking candidly and honestly to his parents to writing his mom a thank-you letter (which she received, but refused to read). I've tried pretending that nothing is wrong, and I've tried playing the saint. Nothing I've done has worked. James claims to stand up for himself (and me) when they say disrespectful things, but I really have trouble believing it. They even have a problem with my CAR on their street.
Even his brother, Andrew, hates me. He invites James to do things with him, and when James tries to bring me, Andrew complains until James either says "forget it," or I tell him to go without me...but I hate doing that because I want to do fun things with them, too.
I feel left out, hated, and frustrated. Never in my life have I been the target of such discrimination. How can I help James deal with his family? How can I deal with this situation?
Any ideas/advice would be helpful. (link)
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Your boyfriend is 23-years-old. It's time he acted like his own man and developed a backbone. He should confront his family and tell them that while they may not like you that the hostility and lack of respect must die.
He's an adult and can easily score a job and move out. Why hasn't he? It seems he's already chosen them over you. If he did move out surely there would be a way to live together.
Park your car where you want and on their lawn even to make a point that you aren't intimidated or offended by their boorish behavior. You have two choices to ignore it or tackle it head on.
Next time you encounter his family tell them that you have been nothing but respectful, kind and loving towards them and their son. Ask why they resent and hate you. They'll back pedal real fast and not mess with you if they can see you don't feel threatened by them.
Tell this boyfriend of yours to either start protecting you and your interests or go your separate ways. He needs to grow up, be a man and put an end to this shit. If he's not going to be a man than tell him you've had enough of him and his family. If you tell him that perhaps it will give him the gonads to say something or move out. You don't need this turmoil just to date a guy.
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i wanted to take some pictures for my fiance....like you half nude and stuff. i got a disposable camera and i= started to take some pictures well its hard to do a whole lot when im the only one holding the camera so i was wondering if someone could give me some ideas so i could finish off the roll of film.....like different positions or outfits or expresions......i just need some ideas
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This is a very bad idea. You never know where they will resurface if the relationship sours. You might live to regret it one day. Also, they've been charging teens in some states with transmitting child pornography over the phone, Internet etc. for sending nude or semi-nude pictures of themselves. That's after it got around a whole school somewhere in the U.S. It's a bad idea and not legal.
Also, this site protects minors so in no way can we or will we provide tips to you about such photos as it's not remotely legal for kids to be in such photos or give them to people. Furthermore, anyone who developed them would report it anyway. Think twice before acting on this.
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I am 43 years old and don't really want to be here anymore. In the past month and a half my life has changed and made me realize that I am tired and just want to go to sleep and never wake up. I have been with my fiance for 7 years and within that time I never thought my life would be where it is now. I invested every dime I had in his busness ventures and now i have nothing. we moved to florida to a foreclosed house and he runs a strip club he bought with our money and little by little he kept getting home later and later. feeling alone and sad I got bad news from my doctor a month after that. I have ovarian cancer. I told my fiance and he said he was sorry to hear it but now he doesn't come home at all only every three to four days to change. I have no friends and feel so betrayed and there isso much more including that he ruined my credit buying properties under my name then never paying the mortgage.I have nothing. I can't see the future because I have so much in my life that is making me feel this way. I want to be strong but I can't sleep or eat and I need surgery on june 10th and I don't even know if I will be strong enough. I have realized that his actions means the relationship is over but what hurts the most is that I thought he was a good person and would be here for me especially now that I am scared and alone. I just really hate myself I hate who I am and what I have become. I never thought a human being could be so cruel. I feel as if I am looking out through someone elses eyes that I don't belong. I have noone to talk to and just don't want to deal with anything anymore. I never accomplished any great thing or have any friends just me and I hate me. (link)
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Your health will improve dramatically once you remove this boorish lout from your life. 90% of the stress won't be there. You can then focus on your cancer fight. As hard as it will be you'll find the strength coming from deep within for that surgery provided they caught it quick.
As far as credit goes the best thing to do is ignore all calls and letters from creditors. See a credit counsellor or lawyer who can stop the calls, letter and harassment and make a plan so you can pay it back on your terms.
In the event you can't do that declaring personal bankruptcy will work. You won't be able to have a credit card until 7 years are up but cash and debit never hurt anyone. You can keep your car as well.
You need to move out or kick him out and get on with your life. Find support groups for people dealing with your condition and lean on them and your doctors and relatives for support.
Suicide is selfish and hurts everyone you know. It won't solve your problems at all. You can't run away from them and dying is permanent. Every problem no matter how big a mountain it is can be solved without that occurring. Hang in there!
Be sure to see your doctor for a referral to a meantal health professional. You sound depressed (or worse) and medication may fix a lot of the problems you describe with wanting to die over this etc.
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Kay. I have graduation in like a week and a half. and my nose and my chest have like a second degree sunburn. My nose is a complete scab.. and my chest is dry and kind of peely. This makes it really hard to sleep, move.. wear clothing.. etc. I looked everywhere for aloe, but all I can find is aloe with alchohol in it.. I also looked for a plant and can't find one.. I've been putting polysporin on it, cause I thought it'd make it heal really fast. It's only been like 2 days, and it hasn't really done anything.. the redness on my chest went away kind of.. except for where its dry and flaky. But its not like peeling sunburn dry and flaky its like souper dry skin and its hurts to move. UGH. Advice please. Week and a half to grad and I don't wanna look like a lobster. =[ (link)
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If you enter any drugstore you'll be able to get a product called Solarcane (or one like it) for severe sunburn. It's a spray that you apply to the affected areas roughly twice a day to dull the pain, kill the sensations and make it so you can move, sleep or wear clothes easier.
It will clear things up faster for you. If you have trouble finding it just ask the pharmacist for it or a product like it as there are many. It won't stop the peeling but the itching will be gone. Try it, it works. You should be fine for your graduation but mind wind up with a darker tan but not looking like a lobster by any stretch.
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i just graduated and have to write a million thanks yous...any ideas for a little short standard thank you paragraph????? (link)
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" I really appreciate all the cards, notes and kind messages about my graduation from ( school, program etc.) I wish I could get back to you on an individual basis. But as you probably guessed everything is a whirlwind right now and I'm rather swamped but certainly grateful for your support."
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Okay so as it states in the subject, Im an 18 yr old girl with no labido.
i've been with my boyfriend for 2 months and when we first started dating I had no problem getting wet and horny. Now, nothing. We did have a few issues with him having pre-mature ejaculation but not anymore. I don't know whats wrong with me. I'm never horny and its becoming frustrating. I'm taking antidepressents, could that be the cause of it? or is there something actually wrong with my body?? I'm thinking about getting some "goat weed" which apparently makes people get really horny. someone help. (link)
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It definitely sounds like the anti-depressants. Sexual side-effects are rampant with them including loss of interest, inability to enjoy, no sex drive etc. It can also result in difficulty climaxing, ejaculating (for males) and becoming lubricated and turned on in your case. It's not your fault nor your partner's.
I know it may be difficult and embarrassing to talk to your doctor but let him/her know that your sex drive and sex life is out the window since the introduction of the pills and that you're frustrated as is your partner. They'll know of ways to fix it.
I would stay away from "goat weed" and rather talk to the person who put you on the pills about sexual side-effects and loss of sex drive which used to be very high. You want a permanent solution and not to have to rely on "goat weed" to enjoy something that's supposed to come naturally and easily.
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I am 16, I turn 17 this summer(August) and my boyfriend is 19, he turns 20 in october. We live in New York, is it legal for us to have sex?
Not saying i'm going to, just would like to know. (link)
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My research states that 16 is the average age legally of consent to sex. Based on that you should be fine legally. It's less than two years difference. The only way to get in trouble is if you get pregnant or your parents find out you're sexually active with him and want him charged. Aside from that I wouldn't worry.
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I'm trying to stop masturbaiting as much, any tips. (link)
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Masturbation is natural and healthy. Even if you do it multiple times a day or every day it's fine. Why quit something that is pleasurable and you enjoy? Masturbation is only a problem if it's all you ever want to do and you have no life apart from it and don't engage in other activities. It's pretty much a universal thing with teens of both sexes.
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hey, so i'm 5'0, 15 years old, and my weight changes all the time usually from about 115 to about 120. first off, is that a lot to weigh? second, i want to lose about 8 pounds or so for the summer. are there any ways for me to do that? i'm a really picky eater, and don't do very well with healthy foods. the only meet i eat is chicken. i love fruits but im not so good with vegetables, i only eat a few. so what are some ways i can lose weight for the summer? thanks soo much! (link)
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If you are of medium build you should be lowest 113 highest 126 pounds with anything over that being high risk or anything under 113 being too low. If you are built very tiny it's 104-115 pounds as being safe. Going any lower is underweight from the BMI chart I have.
I think it would be unhealthy to try to lose anything much less 8 pounds. You are exactly within range of where you ought to be. It fluctuates because your body makes tiny changes that amount to 2-3 pounds up or down which is normal because it's all water and not fat. It always goes up when you finish a meal or down when you need fuel.
You need to eat veggies and meat other than chicken or more than just chicken for protein. You don't have to eat just rabbit food. You can have your favorites once and a while as a reward. Look for different recipies that are low in calories and fat on the Internet and try them. Cut out all fast foods and exercise but stay at the weight I've told you as anything less is asking for serious trouble health wise.
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15/f NY
I listen to 92.3 NOW on the radio. They always play the song Birthday Sex by Jeremih. So I bought the song on iTunes. But it's slower than it is on the radio! (When it goes, "Girl you know I-I-I") I downloaded all the remixes I could find were the same speed. Nothing faster. Anyone know any faster remixes? (link)
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Often what happens is that a record label often puts out a "radio only" version of the song that is just for radio stations with a slightly different mix, tempo and edited down to 3 minutes or less or for bad words too.
That's why you can't find it in stores or online. I would recommend you get a stereo (somebody must have one) and be ultra patient until the station plays it which they will every 90 minutes if it's a hot single and tape it to cassette. From there there's ways to convert it so you can load it to ITunes or make a CD.
As for faster remixes someone else will likely reply with suggestions but it won't be what is on the radio. Another thing you could do is e-mail the station's program director or your favorite DJ and ask about the "radio version" being different and how fans can get it as if anyone knows how it's them. But 9 times out of 10 unless you tape it off the radio you can't get that sound mix.
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I'm 16/f and lately I've noticed that I feel rather odd. I feel very tired at times when I go to school and I try to combat it with coffee so as not to fall asleep. I get enough sleep I think, from 11pm to around 6:15am? After school when I am coming home from school I feel my eyelids closing and I get motion sickness in the car ride home. My first thought was pregnancy, but that one has been completely ruled out (I've had two periods since the only time I had sex). So I'm not sure what's wrong. I also get joint pain a lot which is probably unrelated. I would go to the doctor's but unfortunately my medical insurance expired last month and my physical last month showed no abnormalities. So, is there something wrong with me? :( (link)
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Only a doctor can establish if there is a medical issue here or not. You often run from 6:15 a.m. through 11 p.m. That's a long day and no doubt if you are doing sports or other activities your joints will ache and you'll be tired way before bedtime.
I would try getting up a little later say an hour or even half an hour before going to school. Then in the evening try going to be earlier let's say 10 or even 9:30 p.m. I know it may sound early but it really isn't. I would think if you did this and slept as much as you could at night it might lick the problem. Try it and see.
Motion sickness can happen for many reasons but does have me concerned especially when it was never present before and being so tired too. It's probably related to being exhausted from your routine and needing a break but could be a health issue.
I live in Canada where health care is free to all. Unfortunately, I have no idea how to get new medical insurance or how to choose a doctor or even be seen to at a walk in clinic without an insurance policy.
Can you pay for a one time visit? It may be worth it to get it checked and have peace of mind and know you are safe. I would definitely speak to your parents about needing to see a doctor and get this handled as it does sound very strange unless it's all related to sleep and lack of energy.
I know if I get up at 6 and go to bed at 11 that I'm wrecked the next day and if I do it in succession that it adds up to being exhausted. That's likely what it is.
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i said fuck you to my boyfriend.....i didnt mean to it just kind of slipped and now he wont speak to me...i need a way to apologize so that he really knows im sorry..help! (link)
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If things a few days to cool down. See if he comes to you first. You tried to reach out and he wasn't ready to forgive. You must have hurt him badly. Let it heal and give him time to collect his thoughts as he's all fired up and angry.
There must have been a good reason you told him to and it shocked him. It had the desired effect you were looking for at the time but regret now. If after a few days he doesn't approach you tell him you need to talk and leave it at that. If he genuinely loves you it will be fine.
Apologizing profusely over and over won't help. He knows where you stand and heard you when you first apologized. He's just not ready to forgive but will definitely come around if left alone for a few days. Trust me, that works as right now he's pissed off and that will make talking to you right now difficult without adding fuel to the fire. Wait! You'll see it'll be fine.
When you eventually do talk it will be good for the relationship as you'll work out the things that are wrong with it. It might even be a blessing and draw you in closer.
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14/f
Ok, so around next week this guy who i know and like is going to ask me out. We've been crushing on each other since spring break. he's not allowed to date untill he's in highschool, but i know for a fact that he used to screw around with other girls before we met each other. So pretty soon we're going to start dating and he'll be my first boyfriend and i'm really nervous. Just a little while ago i learned that he's fingered a girl and gotten hand and blow jobs before. I'm worried that since he'd be my first boyfriend that i won't be able to...well, that he'd expect me to do things more experinced girls he knows do. I really like him but am afraid that he as soon as we get together he'll be all disappointed that i'm not as experienced. please,could you give me some advice? (link)
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It's highly possible that the girl you mentioned is subject of rumors and he knows about it. She could also be lying herself about what did or didn't transpire to appear cool. It's highly unusual that someone her age would have that kind of experience nor be talking about it. There's a reason he's not with her.
Even if this did occur they may have been seeing each other secretly for ages, friends and or totally comfortable and felt ready (or so they thought) for that. At either rate it's all in the past and you can't judge him for it. People make mistakes.
If concerned tell him straight up that you would love to date him but it's your first relationship and that you heard about so and so and him or her yacking about it. Let him explain himself and tell him that anything sexual is not part of the equation. If he loves you he'll respect you and that decision.
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