about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

advice

does anyone know a book or a song about a girl who is in love with a gay guy? (even better if the gay guy is her best friend) i need to read or listen to something that relates to me

Well, it doesn't have your exact situation, but try "The Realm of Possiblity" by David Levithen.

It's my all time favorite book and I'm sure you'll like it =D


-Laura. (15-f)

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What if she does like me more than a friend and she wants to be a couple?? I am now nervous! but I don’t know I can do this because I told I am not ready for a relationship because I don’t respect myself. I said that after she said on the chat room about her jealousy. And I might be moving how the hell can I work that out? I don’t want to see her with some one else but crap what should I do? So do you think this is right? Should I shut up and stop worrying and go ask her the one question? Or really should I just forget about it and move on?

Ok, calm down. It's going to be alright.
If you're not ready for her response, don't give her the letter.

Wait a bit until you feel like you're really ready, and then give it to her.

It's fine for you to be worried about what her response will be, and I don't think you should jsut forget it. This means a lot to you, so just take some time to figure out when you want to give it to her =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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Well im thinking about getting a Zune but i was just wondering if you can use lime wire with it... thanks so much!!

Most likely, I don't see a reason why not.


-Laura. (15-f)

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I dont want to move on until i know if she does like me more than a friend before i do.

so i wrote out this letter BUT i didnt give it to her yet. i want to know what do you think before i send it out.(let me know what to fix okay)
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There is a reason why I wrote this:

I want to make things clear between us, because I been feeling quiet confused at the moment.
When I explain myself to you and how I felt about you, you took it respectfully and I am grateful for that. You told me in the chat room that you are fine about my feelings but don’t like me in that way. I respect that and so I moved on. But when I told you that I meet that guy Paul at the party you seem a bit jealous and I ask why you where. And it did catch me off guard, when you explain it to me and I didn’t know what to say but I was really confused because I didn’t know what to think. So I want to ask you, do you like me more than a friend? I need to know just to make things a bit clear, if you don’t then that’s fine we will stay good friends. I value our friendship very much but it seems like right now it is on the line and I don’t want anything to break it.

Please write me back when ever you can.


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Hello again.

I think your letter is fine, and you wrote it very well. I really like how you took my advice and let her know you value your friendship.

My only tweek to your letter might be after "I need to know just to make things a bit clear, if you don’t then that’s fine we will stay good friends." maybe adding something like:
"It's fine because being friends with you is better than nothing at all."


Otherwise, great job with it!
Let me know what she says =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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ok.everyone is always complimenting me on my super clear skin.im in 8th grade.see i think im the only person at Clark fricken Middle School who hasnt "developed" yet.But they dont know.but i think im close because i have all of a sudden over nite i got like 30 zits.i have a rep for a great face!im already taking pills,cream,and cleanser.its working but not fast enough.i want to change my diet 2 organtic foods.its not what my family eats.and they get mad when i eat something different then them.what foods are organtic and how can i convince my parents.

It is actually medically proven that what you eat doesn't affect your skin. I'm reading an article right now about it. So changing your diet won't have any affect on the acne your developing...


Anyways how can you treat it?

To start, try touching your face only when absolutly neccessary to avoid spreading bacteria and oil.


Try using a different facial soap/scrub/cleanser rather than switch to organic foods. I've found that the stuff with a pump, like Clean & Clear Foamig Facial Cleaner work really well.


Also, try using an acne treatment with Salicylic Acid, like Clean & Clear Maximum Strength Invisible Blemish Treatment.


Hope it helps!

-Laura. (15-f)

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I love audrina's dress in the hills the frist time she goes to meet justin bobby haha. Here is a pic of it, http://i36.photobucket.com/albums/e27/tuffpup961/audrina.jpg

Does anyone know where i can find a similar one, not too expensive please

Try Forever 21, Wet Seal, and Charlotte Russe for sure! =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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i am 14 and i havent started my period yet i thnik its because i am to big. but i was just wondering can u get pregant even though you have not started your
period

Yes, but you have to be sexually active, which you didn't mention.

Every girl starts her period at a different time. The ages range from 9 to 16/17.

Don't worry, you're perfectly fine =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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so you think i am wasting my time with her? she doesnt like me? i dont understand your answer can you explain it agian?

I don't think you're wasting your time, I just think you should try and find another person to date.


Keep Lara's friendship, it's something special, but I just wanted to let you know I don't think you should dwell on her if she doesn't want more than a friendship right now.

Good Luck =]


-Laura. (15-f)

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im having trouble with my myspace and facebook. for some reason, everytime someone comments me on myspace, i get a message on myspace asking if i want to allow or deny the comment. it says 'request to approve comment'. the thing is, in my account settings, i didnt set it so that i have to approve the comment first. and all of a sudden it is doing that.

also, on facebook, i cant comment people, because when i click 'post' it doesnt do anything. or anytime i click a button on facebook, nothing happens, no matter how many times i click the button. when i click links on facebook, nothing happens .... the only time the page changes is if i click on an underlined link. but thats it.

any ideas? please help if you can.

On myspace:
Click
account settings - spam - scroll down to comments and uncheck the box that says "require approval before posting" then hit save all changes.

Facebook, I know not much about, so I couldn't help you there.


-Laura. (15-f)

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date:july 2007
me
lately right after i told you about that party i went to and met that brother of my sisters room mate you sound jealous. and you don’t know why you were but to ask you this, what is going on between us? is something on your mind? what is bothering you? i did tell you how i felt and it is not right to play with my mind. you seem like you are not respecting how i feel and i don’t like it. just tell me what is going on! its time for me to move on and now it seems like you don’t want me to and why is that? you have no idea what i am going through, if you want to know then ask!
if u does care about our friendship then please don’t ignore this.
friends share!

lara
ok well my reply is this... to me i don’t think its right to force someone into a relationship (even if you to did not talk much.) i don’t no if that’s how you saw it or not, but that is what i saw when you told me about it. and i did feel jealousy yes, i felt the same when you were going out with aaron and anthony.

i felt (for that split second) that if you did happen to get a boyfriend then we would not be as close of friends as we are now any more. i felt like i was falling behind in life. everyone seemed to be moving forward but me. and it’s not just you either.

i know you hate hearing about my family drama. but they have a part in it as well. you see my cousins are getting married... and there younger than we are!!!!! their ages range from 17 to 20. and when they talk about it i again feel stranded. it may sound stupid but that’s how i felt. i never meant for you to think i’m trying to play with your emotions.

if that’s not what you were looking for in a reply the e-mail me back ok?


talk to you later


chat room with me and jane

me: why do you think i am going to leave you behind?

lara: i don’t no really. it’s just a feeling i get some times, icy cold feeling

me: but i am not i mean i do sound like i want to move on but there were reasons why

me: but i not sure if i want to tell you why

lara: i guess i’m just afraid of what may happen when you move away

lara: we won’t get to hang out any more

me: this might shock you but i have to say this

me: okay the reason why i went out with anthony and aaron is because to get over u. i
hated myself and i wanted to die. i became depressed because of my stupid likings to you and i thought it will be the best to move away so you wont get in to my depression. i never wanted to tell you about it but i had to. i hid away from my problems and worry about everybody else but me. i don’t want to let go of you and the others and the only way to keep it strong is to always try to stay together
me: i don’t have a choice i have to go but if i did have a choice i would stay. i don’t trust myself and i don’t care about myself. but people say you have to love yourself to have love share (something like that)

me: umm yeah that’s why sorry

lara: i guess i can sort of understand that

lara: i don’t want you 2 b depressed though

me: i can’t stop it

me: it won’t stop

lara: if you don’t mind me asking why do u like me?

lara: i’m nothing special

me: let’s see i ask myself that every day

me: the answer is i don’t know, i don’t know how it happened but it did. but i am attracted by smarts, mysterious and adventures personality and that’s what you are.
but i really can’t explain it, its hard to put into words.


me: that’s why i want to leave

lara: clear your head type of thing?

me: yeah that’s why i think

me: i got mad at you when you said you were mad when i told you about that guy i met. because i
don’t know if you liked me too and i didn’t want you to. i rather see you with someone else. but you said the reason why you got mad is because you didn’t want me to leave our friendship and focus on some guy

me: but i wont do that, hell i hardly pay attention to my last boyfriends i like to spend time with friends and family

me: r you still there? we can talk about something else if you want


lara: yea i’m getting ready 4 beds. i got work 2 marrow

me:can i ask you something?

lara:yep

me:did you wanted a boyfriend? because it souned like you did on your reply.

lara:no not really


the rest of the chat was about work, and thats was it.

I know how Lara feels. For some reason, it just hit me, but I totally get it.


I felt this way with a close friend of mine. He got a new girlfriend, and I felt really left behind. Just like Lara.


- I'd explain to her you won't leave her behind, ever, because she means a lot to you.
- Apologize for trying to "force her into a relationship".
- Explain to her you're alright with just being friends. (it's better than nothing, or at least, that's how I thought about my relationship at the time.)


And try to move on. I know it's hard, and it won't be easy, but you've got to do it. Try to find someone else, that you're attracted to and want to be with. Find someone who makes you feel good about yourself, wants to be with, etc.


Good Luck!


-Laura. (15-f)

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what are some good instant tanners that YOU YOURSELF have used and can recommend? thanks. (=

p.s. i'm asian, so.. skin could be different? dunno.

Aveeno Natural something or other.
I used it once and it was pretty great =]
Also, I'm really pale, if that makes a difference?


-Laura. (15-f)

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i havnt had my first kiss yet and i want it to be speacial. i dont know where or when or who it will be with but does anyone have an idea on what would make it speacial???

Just let it happen naturaly, and it'll be just fine =]


Trust me, if you focus on it too much, it won't be as special. Just chill, don't worry about it, and let it happen when it happens. Also, make sure it's with somebody you like, don't rush into it.



-Laura. (15-f)

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i have recently gotten mono and i have been dating my boyfriend for quite a while. the most common way to attain mono is through kissing. he is the only person i have kissed for over a year. should i be worried that he has been messing around on me?

when i ask him he swears that nothing is going on.

not only that, but i have just had my doubts lately. i really love him and i dont want to be a controlling crazy girlfriend but i dont want to be strung along like an idiot either. what do you recommend i do?

and if you have ever had mono, how long did it take until you felt better?

You could have picked it up from another source.
Mono is spread through saliva, which is not only spread through kissing.


Have you shared anyone's drink, lipgloss, eating utensils, straws, etc?


If so, that might've been the cause.
But I'd definently ask your boyfriend about it. Let him know he's the only one you've kissed, and now you have mono. See what he has to say about it.


And I have never personally had mono, but my close friend did last year. She was sick for a while. She was gone from school for about a month and a half.
The best ways to get better is to rest and take it easy. And also, just a warning, don't take asprin without doctor consent. It can cause issues, and it wouldn't be very fun =/



Feel Better!

-Laura. (15-f)

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I thought off guard means shocked? What does off guard mean?

Well, it can mean shocked. Actually, I have a great example for you:


So today, I was in class sitting next to the kid I like, when my friend goes, "He knows you like him." It caught me really off guard. I wasn't neccessarily shocked, I was more confused and not at all expecting it. But that's another story ;]


I guess it has different meanings for different people, but for me it means that something came out of nowhere, and you weren't ready for it and you don't really know how to respond. When someone is caught off guard, I get the feeling they're like, "Where did that come from?" Rather than, *Gasp* "How shocking!"
Get it?


Hope this helps and
sorry if I confused you.


-Laura. (15-f)

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13 female
i want to have a party for my 14th birthday in my back yard we now some songs we want to play but what kinds of food, direcrations, and stuff to do so the guest don't get bored

Oh party planning, fun! =]

Well, I'll start off with food/drinks:
- hot dogs & hamburgers.
- chips and dip/salsa.
- pizza.
- mozerella sticks.
- corn on the cob.
- cookies, cupcakes, etc.
- lemonade.
- ice tea.
- smoothies.


On to activites:
- volleyball.
- badmitton.
- softball.
- water balloon toss.
- scavenger hunt.
- trampoline (if you have one)
Just let your guests do what they want, I'm sure they'll find some way to have fun1


For songs to play, they should have a good beat, and be fun. Try these:
- Bad Habits: My Favorite Highway.
- Bring Em Out: Hawk Nelson.
- Darkpop: The Higher.
- Hey Italy: Halifax.
- How Far We've Come: Matchbox Twenty.
- I Write Sins, Not Tragedies: Panic! at the Disco.
- Jamie All Over: Mayday Parade.
- LDN: Lily Allen.
- Little of Your Time: Maroon 5.
- Never Stop: Hilary Duff.
- Our Time Now: Plain White T's.
- Please Please Please- Head Automatica.
- Shimmy Shimmy Quarter Turn: Hellogoodbye.
- So Much Love: The Rocket Summer.
- That's What You Get- Paramore.
- The Great Escape: Boys Like Girls.
- Weekend Warriors: A Change of Pace.


And finally, decorations. How about a theme?
Try this site for ideas:
http://www.party-oz.com/party.php?id=15

My personal favorite is the luau =]


Hope it helps && Have fun!


-Laura. (15-f)

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FROM dream can tell you something

I am an artist and I make characters out of the people that I know, I did it for years when I was young. I made this one character that is sort of created by Lara’s personality. I gave her the picture of the character to Lara because she liked it (it was a fairy with butterfly wings) I told her the character was based on her personally (some of it) and she had a stud face I look at her and said “well I made characters based on everyone I know, you know that.” She nodded and smiled. Why was she shocked? She did know I make characters out of people I know? I ask her and all she said "I forgot"

Thanks for inboxing again!

Are you sure she was shocked? Maybe you just caught her off guard. I think it's really nice what you did, and you shouldn't dwell on her reaction too much. It made her smile, and that's what counts.


-Laura. (15-f)

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I've seen this cat around my yard. I can garentee that it's not owned because I live in a small neighborhood, and everyone in it has atleast 2 dogs. The cat lives in a trash pile basicly that me and my family has colected over the year, and it's gotten bigger. Well I want to save this cat before winter comes, it will freze to death! My dogs, one I got was from a family that was broken up and the little dog had no where to go and my family took her in and we now call her Keylii. The other one is a lot bigger then Keylii who is a Tea-cup Pamerian, and his names Bear. Well they've bothc ome from familys that has had cats in the house so my dogs will get along with the cat, but how am I going to get it to come to me? I wana feed it, it's been getting into out garbadge and that can't be filling, But ive never had a cat before. I was thinking about louring it out by like canned tuna, I also have babyfood.. if cats eat that and dog food for little dogs if cats eat that too. But i need to think of the good of the animal. I dont wanna call Animal Services so don't give me that option because what if they put it down??? Then there'd be no point in saving it.. but what if it has a deseice and it bites me? I know im up-dated in my shots so Im not worried about that but if it bites me, and my Mom finds out she wont let if around the baby. I wanna save this cat. I know its homeless and letting it live where it is isnt an option. Neither is calling animal services. Im willing to take the chance of being biten out scratched, I just need some help on how to get the cat out of the pile of nothing.. please anyting is helpful and im sorry for giving u resrtictions but im not going to happy knowing its out there, or that its in the hands of other people who might hurt it.
Anything will be helpful tho.

Hey! I'm glad you like my advice and I'm glad to help! =]

You sound like me, wanting to help animals =D


First of all, do not touch the cat. If it lives in garbage, there's a chance it might be rabid, and sick =[


The best ting to do, is call your local animal shelter or vet/animal hospital, and let them check it out. Tell them you don't want the cat put down, just checked for Rabies (sp?). If you tell them not to put it down, then they can't.


If the cat is not sick, then either let an animal shelter keep it and put it up for adoption, or ask around (friends & family) to see if anyone wants a cat, or keep it.


Basically, just call some sort of animal service. Either a Vet or a shelter.

If none of that is available, though it should be, then buy some cat food, put it in a bowl, and leave it out for the cat. Maybe put out a box with an old blanket for it to sleep in, too?
Hope it helps =]

-Laura. (15-f)

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i want to share with you with this

DREAM: I was just sitting on the floor of my bedroom, my back was leaning on my bed as i was talking to Lara. she was laying on my bed listen to what was saying and then she bent down and kiss me hard on my lips and long! i ask her "ummmm ok so you like me more than a friend?" she said "yes" and smiled at me. "do you want to be more than friends?" I ask. she "yes, do you?" and i look at her and didnt say anything and i woke up.

it was odd, i felt dizzy like i woke up after a hang over. and i felt like it really happen. i was unsure if i wanted to be with her in the dream. and thats how i really feel. (cause of reasons of beening her friend for 7 years) but i will try to ask her if she likes me back. but i have the hard time to think of a converstaion to ask her that. thanx for advice.

Hello again =]

It's normal to have dreams about peole. I have dreams (not of kissing) but about people every night. Especially those I have feelings for.


For some reason, I have this image in my head in which you're going out to eat? So take her out to lunch somewhere, maybe? You don't have to, it just seems like a perfect thing to do. hehe =]


And just bring it up while you're eating/talking. Just say something like, "Lara, I have a question. I want you to answer honestly. Do you have feelings for me?"
The best thing to do is just bring it up when you're with her.

Good Luck!


-Laura. (15-f)

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if you have bulimia, doesn't it take awhile to see blood in the vomit? i'm sorry if this is gros but i need to know..
i've only been bulimic for almost a year and i saw blood in mine.

Throwing up blood is never a good sign.


Mix it with bulimia? Totally not good. I'd seriously consider getting help, because bulimia causes a lot of damage to your body that you might not even know about. It's a serious issue, and you should tell someone about it. Trust me, it'll be one of the best decisions you ever make.


-Laura. (15-f)

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From:jealous of me or him?

You might be right that I shouldn’t find someone else. Sometimes she says that (in conversation) "if I have kids or if I get married" when she says that I think it means she wants to get married and have kids. But I can’t give her that. So it is still unknown if she might like me more than a friend, and no idea if i should move on. If you were me would you ask your crush if they like you back? Or wait until they come up to you?

Hello & Thanks for inboxing again =]

If it were me, I'd ask my crush if they like me back. It sounds like it really means a lot to you, the relationship you have with Lara, correct me if I'm wrong.


Just casually bring it up, and don't pressure her to say yes, or anything. Just tell her you need to know, because it's really bothering you and it's important to you. And if she doesn't like you back, then let her know it' alright, because your friendship means a lot.
Good Luck!


-Laura. (15-f)

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