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This summer while in Canada I met a really awesome girl, however I really really really..... screwed up our relationship. I cheated on her once, guilted her into a lot of things I shouldn't have, and I lied to her so many times. It was just in the last week that I was with her that I started to straighten my act up and realize how wonderful she was. I want to say sorry so bad, but I live 1600 miles away from her and don't have a planned visit there for 2 more years, also I want to do something bigger than just write her an email and hope for the best. We are kind of friends now, we talk every now and then online, but I still feel like this is still keeping us apart. If anyone has any ideas on how to say sorry for being this horrible I'd love to hear from you. Also, flying up there just to say sorry isn't out of the picture, its about $700. I really need something big that says I'm sorry and I'm willing to do whatever it takes to have you trust me again.

Maybe send her flowers, or chocolates, teddy bear,etc along with a letter maybe

Any girl would love that. Something that comes from your heart is best.

Two years sounds like a long time..who knows what can happen inbetween that.

Hope it works out

-Melissa-

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Yo Icey,
Theres this online kid who I be talkin to and hes all botherin me all the time and whatnot.. And he's all temper problems and stuff and I dont know how to be like, yo kid dont talk to me but I really dont wanna hurt his feelings yo yo but its all bad and i dont wann to talk to this kidd... Help please.

-Homie Grl

Homie Grl..is your name ellyn? lol

Well anyway...you can

-block the kid

-curse him out before doing so (thats always fun)

-threten him

-take the nice approach first

-make a new sn and DONT let him find out what it is

Im confident you can leave this online loser behind in the dust

good luck!

-melissa-

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What are some good truth or dares? plz hell cause im having a Sleepover.

-dare someone to throw old food at cars while hiding behind something

-dare someone to hump the floor

-to streak

-to pretend they r in a porno

-prank phone calls

-wake up the parents and say ur lonely..etc

-knock on someones door and say your new in the neighborhood and you want to make friends

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Ok, over the past few weeks a lot has been going on. I'm fixing to make some big transactions and I'm going to have to leave a lot of my close friends behined to move to a different location. Something that's always been very hard for me, is dealing with CHANGE. I know it's like that for a lot of people, nobody really likes change yeah yeah. But I always get extremely depressed when I have to change things in big ways, especially if I love the way my life is going. I just feel like everything is going to fall apart. So, I guess what my question is, is has anyone ever had a hard time with change, and overcame it.. if yes, then how so.. I mean if there even is an awnser.
Thanks.

Yes, Ive delt with change.Last summer I found out that my parents...who i thought were a couple with no problems..were having problems and considering divorce..this shoicked me..i tried to be positive and in the end, things looked up. My parents are good now.

I know your probblem is more complex..i hope i hlped...

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Okay well im 13 years old i am going to be turning 14 in aug. and i'm having a birthday party at my house w/ guys and girls and i have no idea what to do at the party does any one have any ideas? i have no swimming pool so can't swim please help thank you so much :)

hmm..maybe you can go for a walk in the woods? If theres a cool spot or whatever..then who knows..hook ups can occur :)

or maybe if your room is cool then hang there for awhile..

have a friend bring a slip n slide

play man hunt

strip poker

truth or dare maybe

the game where a guy n girl go in the closet for 5 minutes..heehe

prank phone calls

good luck and have fun

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ok i really feel like i have an awesome boyfriend! he doesnt drink very often, and he doesnt do drugs (like weed)... which is something pretty much every guy my age does around here! well about a month ago my sister had a graduation party and my boyfriend came... there was a lot of alcohol there so we drank a lot and both got pretty drunk (its ok my parents were here to regulate!).. well about a week ago i found out that at my party my cousin gave my boyfriend cocaine, not a lot..i guess he was out of it so my bf licked the bag clean or something? just a little powder.. i dunno i dont get it. but anyways, my boyfriend doesnt even smoke WEED! so it was really hard for me to accept... and when i asked him about it, he denied it & said he didnt remember! and other ppl at the party say they think he was pressured into it.. i kinda just let the whole thing go.... do u think theres something else i should do about it?

Your bf sounds great so its not worth getting into a fight over...it was just a dumb mistake and from what it sounds..i dont think he`ll do it again

if you want you could talk to him bout it...that would never hurt..maybe show him your concerned.

-hope i helped!-

:) meliss

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What would you say is a good 'diet' type of deal to go on? One that might actually work and wont make me die cuz it aint healthy or w/e. And, what do you think would be a good exercise routine, as far as like things to do everyday and such. Any help, comments, w/e are appreciated. Unless you have the 'get off your butt and computer and do something' comment, i didnt ask for smart remarks! :)

Losing weight is best done with patience..its a long term process depending on how much you want to lose. I`d say this is a good eating plan

eat less..but dont starve. Cut back on carbs, etc. Eat fruits and veggies.

You can eat the burger without the bun..little things like that

A good excersize program is to find something YOU like.

Walking,running,jumproping,sports,biking,swimming,

maybe do sit ups in ur room or an excersize bike

good luck!

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i have a thing for this kid that works at the cvs near me. i dont know anything about him except his name, which i got off his name tag, and that he has to be at least 18. he flirted with me one time i went in there and then i went back constantly for a couple weeks to try to start some sort of conversation but he was never there. then one day i saw a girl that works there walking to work and i asked her if he still worked there, and she said he did. that night i went to cvs and he didnt flirt at all and beyond that i didn't find him to be particularly friendly. so was he having a bad day or did she tell him that i asked about him and now hes all "eww" and is rejecting me? should i go back and try again? what should i say? im such a dork. but im a cute dork.

The girl might have told him but this doesnt necassarily mean hes rejecting you. Maybe he doesnt know how to react, maybe hes shy,confused, etc.

Being that i think he knows you asked for him...why not bus a move? i mean you have nothing to lose..so get brave and go for it!

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Could u plz give me some pick up lines 4 a good conversation.I mean whenever i speak 2 my bf we like dont know what to speak about.Plz advice.*Will rate if anser.*

well, it depends on what kind of convo you want to have with him. If you want to have a regular convo about stuff..then simply ask him his "favorites" I know it may seem dumb but its good convo that wont become dull!

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i'm 12 and i started my 1st period june 15. i heard u were supposed to get it every 28 days and i'm about a week late if that's the case! could i be pregnant, i mean i havn't had sex, but could i be? plz help!

hey your fine..im sure everyone else said the same thing as me: When you first start ur period..ur cycle may be whacky..like..you might not get it every month..you might skip a month..

i remember one time i skipped 5 months ..i got kinda scared..but then i got back into my cycle and ive been regular. You`ll start getting it every single month after about a year..enjoy missing ur period now...because once you get it every single month you`ll be wishing you could skip again lol

not to worry u arent pregnent..its impossible..u havent even been near a penis! lol

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I just found out that if you have anal sex that if you have anal sex then your not a virgin! is that really true? and..i wanna no if a guy cums while his penis is in a gurl (during anal) can she still get pregnant..and if the girl gets cum on her front side and doesn't whip it off right away can she get pregnant? hurry I need to know!!!


PLEASE I NEED SOME ANSWERS!!!

your still a virgin until u have vaginal intercourse...

just like sucking a dick doesnt mean you lost your virginity..the same goes for anal sex.

Its unlikey but yes u can still get pregenent.

use lotsa lubrication and a condom during anal..its safer,feels better with lube, and is cleaner wit a condom

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im 12 yrs old i dont know anyone who has had sex (well people my age and a couple yars older) but when i read some of these problems on advicenators most of the people are like 13 or 14 and say that they have sex a lot its kind of creepy my sisters 14 but she hasnt had sex im wondering if these people are either lying about their age or more mature than me. i feel like when im 13 or 14 that il be soo pressured into sex and stuff. i hear these unbelievable stories of guys and girls having sex since they were 12. its so perverted and i mean is it weird im not ready or as into it as other people are?

Everyone is different..there are plenty of 18 year old virgins out there..dont have sex because your pressured..do it cuz ur ready. Im 15 and i plan to stay a virgin for awhile..yes some ppl lose it way too early.. i dont think its a good idea..sex is emotional and is best enjoyed when u find mr. right

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What does a guy do when they finger you ? does it hurt? could you explain what it feels like help please
i'll rate good!!!

It depends on what his technique is. He can either put his finger up your vagina..this hurts more...or he can "pet" the clitoris as if his finger was a vibrator..this is a much better choice..and you`ll get a better orgasm. Lotsa guy wanna put their finger up there..but if u tell him what you want and how u like it..you`ll both be happier.

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0o0ok Now i really hate tha way i look.I am 13 n i weigh almost lyke 169. I am way over weight. I am not very active but at nite i walk around tha track 2 tymez. Sumtymes i walk n run.And i wanna lose weigh by school starts n that is August 31st. N 2 day iz July 24. Iz there ne other way i can lose ALOT of weigh bye then.Ne suggestions on other things bye running n walkin fast?

ok..in one month..a realistic goal is to have lost 10 lbs if you try very hard. Im 15 and weigh alot. lol..so im in the same boat as you are.If you lose 10 lbs trust me people will notice!

Running and walking are good ideas but you can do other things. Improve your diet. Dont eat as many carbs (breads and pastas) eat fruits, veggies, if your having hamburgers for dinner or w.e eat it without a bun..etc.

little things go a long way. You can do sit ups. I do 20 sit ups at a time..then i take a one minute break. The i keep doing sit ups until i reach 500 sit ups

You can also DANCE! Its a great and fun way to move around

Maybe get into sports? Play tennis,bball,baseball, go biking, etc


round up some friends and play sports! Keep your days BUSY BUSY BUSY! This way you wont be around the house bored..and eating.etc

After aug. 31 you can continue your diet and lose more weight..just remember to do it the smart way..and ALWAYS remember..that theres always someone bigger than you out there..

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please give me a list of ways to lose weight FAST! i need to lose alot by august 30th. and keep in mind i am 14 and i WILL NOT get lypo. i will rate!

hey..i know this will disappoint you..but you gota lose weight gradually. In one month its realistic to lose about 10-15 lbs. You figure ..maybe lose 2 lbs a week. That will be a hard task. Just eat sensibly..NO JUNK...however dont starve yourself! Keep busy because it will get your mind off eating. Excersize is a big plus.

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okay..for the past couple of days ive started eating two meals a day and excercising..ALOT i feel soo guilty eating..im 5'2 and before i started this stuff i weighed 92 pounds ive got a lot of advice a lot to like not become anorexic or whatever no matter what but i dont no i feel so guilty about food.i need advice!!

you need to seek help. Your an extremely small person...and you CANNOT CONTINUE DIETING. Bottom line. Get it out of your head that your fat and get some confidence, damnit

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Hey im 15/F and i am 5"10 and i weigh 220 lbs i dont look overweight with clothes on but without i do its wierd im getting more and more self concious about my body i have like a flap that hangs down over my belly button that i refer to as "babyfat." But im tired of being this way my goal weight would be to weigh like 140-150 but nothing more so i have to lose like 70-80 lbs. does anyone know of any diet pills that can help u lose weight fast and good diet plans like weight watchers or something-Also im not very active and i dont have a way of going anywhere and its like 105 out everyday and i have asthma so i cant be outside so what kind of activity could i do indoors and be @ home?? I really need help my bad area is my stomach and i need to lose alot of weight not tone it so please help me and whoever does i will rate 5!!! thanks 4 the help!

Hey...5`10 is TALL so its ok to have a little more weight. Personally..im only a disgraceful 5`3 and im 190 lbs. I think 150-175 should be your goal weight..its more realistic and with your tallness..you`ll look great at that weight.

Well..one year i lost 20 lbs..and i was shocked to find out that i lost that much cuz i wasnt even trying to diet! I basically kept very busy. Sure i excerised..but not to the extreme..i was just always doing something. If you excersize a little bit after each meal, and eat sensibly, you`ll see results.

It will take time to lose it all..so commit yourself! Good luck

ps you can always ask ur doctor what to do..they know best :)

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Hi I'm 14 and I'm 5'2ish. I weigh 110. I wear a C cup and I think around a 3 in jeans. (Not sure maybe a 5) But the problem is, I look at everyone else and I feel that I should weigh 100 or 105. I was going to do chrunches and things to loose weight. But I'm always too lazy. (lol) I used to dance and do gymnastics ever since i could walk. (not gymnastics, I just started that) But I quit. Um..what's your advice on, if I should not worry about it, since I'm still growing or be more cautious because I seriously don't want to gain too much weight. I want to be considered skinny, not in the middle, which I am now? Also, I love to eat! (lol) I think it's kind of an emotional thing for me. I'm definitely not fat or anything like that but I don't think that I could give up food. Thanks for your help!

your not chubby at all!!!!! a size 3 in jeans? i`d kill for that.. :( lets just say im a lot bigger and im 15..im overweight clearly. Take it from me though..your beautiful!

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i didnt kno wut to put this under... since it kinda has to do with sumthing my parents hav to deal with i put it under familyz. well you kno how when u have ur period that that first daii iz the worst and that you go to sleep and stuff of coarse you have a thingy on and stuff but how do you not stain your bed? i alwayz hav trouble with that and i had to throw away a thing of sheets becuz of it. sum1 plz help. iz there like sum secret to it? help!

are you wearing tampons to bed? that may not be wise..ive never tried it. i wear pads to bed. I never stained my sheets though so maybe it will work for you

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im stressed out all cuz schools coming ^ soon wut can i do to make me less stressed out?!?! i still have tons uf stuff i wunna do before i go to school. lol. like clean my room buy some stuff i need for school and all this other stuff and i dk. im so stressed i cant even remember the rest!! help!!


{{stressed out!!}}

Hey..its ok, I know the feeling. Take it one step at a time. One day concentrate on cleaning your room. Leave time to relax so you dont stress. If you have the money to buy your stuff for school do little bits at a time. Dont overwhelm yourself, leave room for time to relax and chill out, and you`ll be fine!

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