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ok so i've had a crush on this guy for 7 years and i just told him recently how i feel . we talk all the time at least once a day. but the prob. is his best friend whom i have no interest in what so ever has a huge crush on me its to the point of obsession and the guy i like used to date my little sister. he is the same age as me though, he just think it be weird to be with me after dating my sister and i also believe he dont wanna hurt his friend's feelings. up till three days ago i thought we were just friends thats it but then he started say he wanted to " Sleep with me" i accidently sent the message to his friend, who says he is just messing with me. but he confroted his frend(my crush) online last nite and i was talking to my crush at the time and he(my crush) said that his friend was asking why he(my crush) was hitting on me . my crush im'd me saying that he could get himself out of trouble with his friend. he told me what he told his friend he said that he was using reverse psychology on me then laugh about it with me. i said twice well he(my crushes friend) dont have anything to worry about its not like u have feelings for me right? and he never responded. WHAT SHOULD I DO ? DOES HE LIKE ME OR IS HE JUST MESSING WITH ME? PLZ HELP

Thanks for the question - I'll try my best to answer this awkward situation:
To be honest, saying he wants to "sleep with you" without even dating you yet sounds a bit suspicious - meaning he could only be into you so he gets something out of it (sex). Another reason for me thinking this is because he didn't tell his friend he liked you and had to make up a lame reverse psychology story. He will have to tell him the truth sooner or later if he DOES like you anyway, so why didn't he do it already? Plus, it's not your fault if his friend has a crush on you. You can't help not feeling the same way.
It's too hard to say whether he likes you or is just messing, because I don't know how he feels deep down about you - but from the story you've told me, things sound a bit odd.
My advice to you?
Ask him what's going on. and be straight about it. You've liked this guy for 7 years and I doubt you would want to waste more time on him if you didn't have to. If you don't want to do it face to face, IM, email, txt, etc.
For all you know, he may really like you but doesn't want to hurt his friend.
You'll never know if you don't ask - so be strong and do it.
I'm wishing you the best of luck!

hey so in my profile i want to put in a quote or something like a saying. any ideas?? THANKS SO MUCH!!

The title to your question is called swimming, so I take it you want swimming quotes?

I can't fly, but swimming is the next best thing.... The water is my sky. ~Author Unknown

Don't wait for your ship to come in - swim out to it. ~Author Unknown

If I were dropped out of a plane into the ocean and told the nearest land was a thousand miles away, I'd still swim. And I'd despise the one who gave up. ~Abraham Maslow

H2O: two parts Heart and one part Obsession. ~Author Unknown

Live in the sunshine, swim the sea, drink the wild air. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

If the world was flat I'd probably swim off it. ~Author Unknown

Seventy-five percent of our planet is water - can you swim? ~Author Unknown

More can be found here:
http://www.quotegarden.com/swimming.html
http://indigo.ie/~fishybiz/swimquot.htm
http://www.fastswimming.org/swimquote.htm

If by the off chance you weren't looking for swimming quotes, so many can be found here:

Here are some examples:

"Dream as if you'll live forever, live as if you'll die today"
"Laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live."
"It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, but what is the most painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let the person know how you feel."
"Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending."
"Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams."

13/F

People are always insulting me and my friends about watching Naruto, Bleach etc... They say its a baby show. First off, it is not. There's porn in it, for God's SAKE!!!!!!!!! What do I tell peopel who tease me and my friends? I tried to ignore it, but now it's just pissing me off. I'm obsessed with anime. So are my friends, we shouldn't be judged should we?!

p.s if you're the matt guy who keeps insulting me on this thing, don't you dare leave any advice, cuz you're making me mad. See? I finally posted a question about your anime cruelty! You should be surprised I ain't got ninjas on yo ass!!!! ^/_\^
p.p.s not a threat, it's a joke, pth! ^/_\^

To be honest, you shouldn't give a damn if people don't like it. You do - and that's all that matters, right?
If they tease you, ignore it. It's very simple. and when they see you aren't bothered by what they're saying, they will soon stop, I promise.
If other people don't like anime, make sure you don't talk to them about it. Just keep it strictly between you and your friends. Then no one will get offended/upset in any way.

ok im 13 i have been having this white thick discharge and i havnt started my period and i have had it for a long time i dont know what it is

All females get discharge - it's totally normal.

Go here if you need to know what discharge is, why you get it and how you can feel more comfortable with it:
http://www.beinggirl.co.uk/askanna/faq_3.php

It's extremely helpful. :)

Is it true if your ears and burning up and going red it means someones talking about you ?

Only if you want it to be. ;)
Here's something similar:
"If your right ear itches, someone is speaking well of you.
If your left ear itches, someone is speaking ill of you.
Left for love and right for spite:
Left or right, good at night."
They are old wives tales/superstitions.

i need to know which song this is the lines i wish i was in love with you so you couldnt hurt me, it just aint fair..... does any1 no who sings this song or what it is called? thanx

It's called "I Wish I Wasn't" by Heather Headley.
Click here for the lyrics:
http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/heatherheadley/iwishiwasnt.html
Next time, just use Google. It's that simple. :)

i like this boy and he knows i like him. i sit next to him in a class and i look at my friends and they lok at him and then me and it makes me blush. we dont say alot but we say some words to each other. and he has a g/f that didnt really wanna go out with him in the first place. i really want to talk to him i really do but i dont know what to say?? can you help me so maybe i can start talking and stop blushin??

Thanks for your question.
Starting conversations isn't hard if you push yourself.
*You can ask him questions related to the work you're doing.
*Take an interest in something he owns and ask where he got it/how much etc.
*Ask him specific questions about himself. It's always a good conversation starter which lasts quite a while. Like what music/sports/shows he's into.
I'm a bit worried about the fact he has a girlfriend though. If they weren't happy together, wouldn't they have broke up?
You can certainly try to catch his eye and get to know him more - but don't try to split them up.
I hope everything works out how you want it to. :)

I just finished my period yesterday and today my boyfriend and i had sex, bleeding after is normal right? cause at first i thought... like shit my periods not over.. but bleeding after sex happens all the time right?

Bleeding after sex all the time should not happen.
It can be a number of different reasons:
*Perhaps it was your period after all.
*Was it your first time or was he quite rough/you weren't wet enough?
It's impossible to say what happened in your case, but if it happens any more times, you may want to get checked out.
Read this in the mean time.
http://womenshealth.about.com/cs/menstruation/a/bleedaftersex.htm
Or find more at

I like this girl and she knows but all my friends think she is to tall for me cause im 5 ft and shes like 5ft 7 i dnt know what to do she likes me too should i ask her out.

If the height difference doesn't bother either of you, who cares what anyone else thinks?

what does "looking for: random play" mean? what is random play.. like hookups? i dont think some people realize what theyre putting down..

" An option on facebook advertising one's willingness to engage in acts of sex, without becoming emotionally attached. While not necessarily meaning "fuck buddy". Random play does give the impression that one is open and secure with their body and sexual feelings, it also demonstrates a willingness to experiment. "

It depends how you, personally look at it, so of course they realize what they're putting down.
Whether they mean it or not is a different story - like some people on Myspace put "swinger" to be funny..

Okay so i was sitting next to my friend and she called me fat but she wasway fatter then me and i dont know if im fat what should i do?

Ignore it or ask her why she said it.
It could have been her attempt at a joke, or she may even feel insecure about herself.
Basically:
Whatever the reason, friends shouldn't call each other fat. If it carries on, find a new one.

13/F

I'm emo. I go by the labels in my skool so deal with it. Well, I hear we should waer gith black jeans and cut ourselves. I don't like tight jeans, they make my ass look bigger than it already is, hahaha. And I can barely handle a shot at the doctors place, hahaha, so I can't do either of those things. I don't have to do those things, do I? Don't talk to me about don't cut yourself, I already know that. But I want to know, do I have to? Because, emo means emotional. (Dictionary) Obviously I'm emotional, weirdos. (didn't mean it in a rude way, just proving a point) Can yawls help me???? ^/_\^

I don't even know how to answer this question without making it extremely long and harsh.
REALITY CHECK:
"I hear we should wear black jeans and cut ourselves"
What the heck? NO.
"I don't have to do those things, do I?"
NO.
I think you need to do a little research on what Emo really is and stop turning it into the worst stereotype ever made.
It's okay to be emotional, but you don't have to get that point across by dressing like the rest of your emo chums and cutting yourself to prove you're sad etc
.......................
Google emo clothes if you wish.
Or you could stand out from the crowd and be you.

k, well. i'm only 13 and i already have stretch marks on my inner thighs and outter. also on my butt, i'm definetly NOT fat and those areas arent fat either. i don't know why or how i got them but i was wondering is there was ANYTHING i could do to get rid of them. i really really don't want them there and theyre really noticable when i wear my bathing suit. and also if anyone has any information on how a THIRTEEN yearold got STRETCH MARKS i'd be interested.

thanks alot, in advance.

You don't have to be fat to get stretch marks. Infact, most people get them around puberty as your body grows. The most common places to get them are in the places you have, plus breasts and abdomen.
I know they're not very nice to have, but you should remember it's totally normal.
If they're quite dark, within time, they will settle down to a whiter and more faded colour.
Although they won't 100% vanish without some form of cosmetic surgery, there are many ways to make them look better. You should massage the areas with cocoa butter and when you next go out, look for a product called Bio Oil. Bio Oil is great for uneven skin tones, stretch marks and scars - massaging it in a few times a day helps and within a few weeks you'll notice a difference. Have a good look around at products available and try them out.
You shouldn't let the stretch marks get to you. I can guarantee you're not alone. :)

how do you make baggy jeans tighter around the thighs? like when im washing them or is there something else i can do..?

Are they baggy through wearing or just baggy in general? If it's through wearing, you could try a hotter wash and tumble dry them.
If not, doing this may take away the length and could make them shrink, as there's not really a way to make them smaller apart from buying a new pair or to take them to a professional.

People make them sound SO easy, but when you get to the point to do it, it looks hard. I've been told many times "you bite a bit of the skin, not too hard, just put the skin between your teeth, and move your mouth back and forth(suck)"

I don't know how? even tho i've never tried.
Hmmm is there ANY way i can practice on something? my arm?

please help, i want to give my boyfriend one but i don't wanna look STUPID.

All you do is suck.
Practice on your arm if you wish and suck hard to leave a mark. Remember some parts of the body are more sensitive to others - so some may leave a mark and some may not.

"What you do is put your mouth against the side of their neck, in a kissing shape. You leave your mouth slightly open in the middle, like you're saying the letter "O". Now you suck in! You suck the skin into your mouth, in essence hurting it, and causing the blood vessels to break. This turns that circular area bright red. It doesn't take long, maybe 30 seconds.

If you really aren't good at suction, you can nibble with your teeth. But that is really a last resort, because now you're not giving them a hickey. Now you're just gnawing their skin to make it red. "

list anything you girls put in your purses.

like my aunt was being funny and said all them 13 year old abercrombie chicks carry around their abercrombie totes and all they have in it is a bottle of lipgloss. lmfao.

I tend to keep it very light and only carry things I need for whatever I'm doing that day. (plus I am prone to losing things!)
*Money
*ID
*Phone
*Keys

My boyfriend sent this girl from his school a "engagement ring" & "roses" on myyearbook. i guess its not a big deal? but it hurts so bad..i think they went out before too..what do i do? im confused!!!! i love him sooo much. we've been going out for SOOO long!! help,

It's not a big deal no, because it's only the internet - but it's still not very nice when you have to see it, considering you're his girlfriend.
Talk to him about it if it's really bugging you. You never know, he could have just done it as a joke or something.

Well my friend's birthday is coming up. And I wanted to make her a hand made card. What can I put on the card? Any one know anything funny or good that i can put on the card?

For example:
You know you're getting old when you get cards like this to remind you how old you are.
(that's from a card i got on my birthday)

THANKS IN ADVANCE!

I always make cards because so much thought is put into them. What I usually do is put lots of embarrassing photos of that person in it, with doodles, stupid quotes they've said in the past etc etc.
For witty birthday greetings, try these:
*Birthdays are good for you. Statistics show that the people who have the most live the longest.
*Birthdays are nature's way of telling us to eat more cake.
*You are only young once, but you can be immature for a lifetime.
*As you get older three things happen. The first is your memory goes, and I can't remember the other two.
*There is still no cure for the common birthday.

ok this question is graphic and i know some people say their question is graphic but let me tell ya, it's gross. im 16/f. i have my period and it's always been fairly regular, not too heavy, not really light but just in the middle. last night i had a tampon in and within half an hour it felt like it was full so i took it out and this clot came out that was the size of a baseball cut in half. no exaggeration!!! i've had small clots before and i know thats normal but what would cause one this big? it was really gross and i do not want that to happen again.

Don't sit down for long periods of time and go to the toilet frequently. There's nothing else you can do really. It probably happens to alot of people.
If it happens any more (say your next period and after), I suggest talking to a doctor:
"If the clots you are passing are larger than, say, a quarter, you might want to ask your doctor about it, because that indicates that your periods are quite heavy, and they might want to check for fibroids (benign tumors).
You don't really need to worry about the occasional large clot. What would cause concern would be if you passed constant frequent large clots so that your total blood loss was more than usual. "

ok so why do people repost these chain letters, what do they get out of them. im not talking about the chain letters that are like repost this or you die, bu tlike the ones that people leave you comments on the the cell phone ring tones, some kid i barely even talk to him leaves me them all the time and i look at his comments and knowbody commented him for him to repost them. its weird just why do people do them, dont just say because theyre stupid i want an actual answer.

If it's a comment about "ringtones" etc, it's not him posting them. His MySpace account has been phished meaning someone has got hold of his password and is posting them pretending to be him. It happens to so many people.. Tell him to change his password and they will stop.
For more information about accounts being phished, read Tom's blogs.

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