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why are christians so afraid to share there faith! im a christian and im not afraid at all. why cant the "christians" who wont die for God stop calling themselves christians! (link)
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I understand your frustrations. I'm a Christian too who went to private school for nine years. Everybody was really sheltered and weren't around any unbelievers. I think that's why. They never experienced meeting somebody different. Like a goth,gay, or other kind of people. I managed to witness a little but i wasn't really used to it. Im about to go into my second year of public school and i'm getting better at it. Some people who say they're Christians arent. So get used to that. But for those who you know for sure are Christians maybe just haven't faced situations like you. Give them some time and you'll see. You just do your part for our Heavenly Father and He will see to the rest. God Bless!!!
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How do I make my ex-boyfriend jaulose so he would come back to me? or should I just want untill he comes to me what should I do help. (link)
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If you make him jealous, he might just get ticked and back off. Try improving y'alls friendship first like talking more. It can't hurt at all. If you wait too long he might go after somebody else. So take matters into your own hands!!!
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I need some help on losing weigh 4 high school. Since this is a rural I live on don't even think about saying walkin cause it muddy and always wet. But wat r some ways I can? Thank you oh yea I weigh 200bls and i am 5'7 (link)
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You can start by going on a healty diet. Just watch what you eat and how much of it. Don't do anything extreme though since you're younger. Do some simple exercises around your house. You can also ask your doctor for a diet pill that actually works. Hope i helped.
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I'm 13 and never been kissed all my friends have. and all my friends have boyfriends and i don't, is there something wrong with me. I think it might be because I take things slow with guys. please help!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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There aint anything wrong with you gurl!!! Some people just have it harder than others. Specially at your age, you have plenttyyy of time to get hooked up. So dont worry and don't rush things!!! It's a good thing that you take things slow. You'll probably end up with a better boyfriend in the end anyways. So be patient, all with time!!!
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Okay, I consider myself kind of pretty. I have had guys admit to like me but I have never had a guy ask me out! Why will the openly tell me what they would like doing to me (sexually) but never have enough courage to ask me out? (link)
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First of all, gurl you wont be single for the rest of your life!!! So dont worry. Sometimes guys can be intimidated (sounds weird yeah..). Really try to talk to them and get close to one guy who you might get interested in. Take things slow so the guy doesn't feel rushed. I'm sure somebody will ask you out soon so don't worry!!!
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hey everyone what's ^ nothing much here could you tell me any jobs that i could do im 15 years old i really want a job so i could make money so if you have any suggestions then feel free to say them thanks (link)
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There's not much you can do at 15. Stuff like babysitting (for girls) or mowing lawns (for guys) is basically what people your age do for some extra cash. If you're looking for a steady job, a lot of place want you to be atleast 16-17 if not 18. Maybe your parents will pay you to clean up the garage or something like that around the house. Hope i helped!!!
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My boyfriends aunt like hates me. Now we can't hang out because of her and i really love him and he really loves me ut it's so hard because we'll neever see each other. I never even did anything bad or wrong she just hates me for some reason.well maybe because i broke up with him 2 times for VERY good reasons. What could I do to let her let us hang out? Or at least see each and hang out somewhere! thank you! (link)
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Some "older" people just get it in for you for no apparent reason. They just do so dont think much about it. Maybe try calling him and asking to meet somewhere. Or email/im him a lot. There are definitely ways to stay in touch even without his aunt's permission. Don't worry and keep being nice to her to show that you really are a decent person. Good luck!!!
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WHat do you do if your boyfriend wants to do something sexual with you but you dont feel ready at the moment?? (link)
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If you arent ready, tell him gurl!!!! If he's worth it, he'll understand and give you time. Don't let him force anything out of you if you're not willing. Be honest with him!!!
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i've been dating this high soceity broad for about twelve years. the other weekend, i finally met her parents for the first time. they were nice old timers, a little mad that we havent tied the knot yet, but polite enough to me anyways. the point is, i was at the dinner table in their *HUGE* home, and, being the lower-class truck driver i am, i had my elbows on the table while eating. her parents, sticklers for etiquette, were appalled that their daughter would date someone like me and forced her to break up with me. i think this is stupid. i left the house that night and havent seen her since. should i get back with her, even though her parents kicked me out of their house for talking with food in my mouth? what should i do?
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I think you should try to get back in touch. If she loves you for who you already are, then her parents shouldn't determine her future like that. Maybe take some classes in etiquette and go back to talk to her parents. Show them you've changed. If they approve they can't force their daughter to break up with you because they wont have a reason. If the girl didnt' mind your manners than that's all that mattered. You're marrying HER, not her parents. So get back in touch and take things as they come!!! Good luck!!!
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My question is: My eldest son is in grade 5 and has never had a problem with his school work until this year. We unfortunately had to move to my mothers house because of financial dificulty. In the begining of this year we had to put him in another school closeby sothat my mother can look after him and help him with his schoolwork. But he failed his first trimester. Me and my husband thought we will then put him in a bording school because my son and my mother does not get along very well. We talked to him and explained that it will be better for him and more peacefull. We got his report back today and he failed even worse. What do you sujest we do? How can we help him if we work from 06:00 to 19:30 every day exept saturdays and sundays. (link)
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Your son is probably going through a phase. Sometimes when they get that age they just become unmotivated because they don't understand why they're at school and everything. And the situation with your mother probably isn't helping. If i were you, consider looking into getting a home or an apartment for a cheap rent so the boy feels like he has his own space and home. I know that can be expensive but there's places out there that aren't as expensive as some others. Just find creative ways to inspire him to work harder. Get him some books on things he likes. Even offer small rewards for good grades. Don't spoil him, but reward him!!!
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there is a girl. she doesnt know how i feel about her, i think. she's been helping me boost my self confidence. i want to show her i appreciate it. i just dont know what to do.
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If you want her to know, then tell her!!! Just say that you really appreciate everything she's been doing. Girls luv it when guys actually thank them for helping (i should know!!!). It's great you want her to know so just get out there and tell her!!! If you feel like you should do something else then you'll know what to do when she's there. Just take it one step at a time!!!
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i met a girl who i started to become friends with and then i found out that i really hate her because she treated me like crap...then one of my best friends started becoming good friends with her but the person started treating her a lot nicer because my good friend is really popular at our school [we all go to the same school] part of the reason why i think my good friend is friends with her is because her parents are divorced so she has trouble geting places [movies,mall,etc] and the person's mom would drive them anywhere
so my good friend asked me one day if i liked the person and i said no and shes like why and i said because she treats me like crap
so then one day online the person asked me do you talk behind my back and i'm like no then shes like if you do and tell me i wont get mad so i said do u talk behind mine she said no
a day later...i was getting a bit angry with my good friend for another thing so i went on her screen name and read her mail one message was from the girl and she said that i am such a liar then a day later i checked it again and it said that my good friend wrote back saying i no shes such a liar...i'm tempted to change my friends password so she cant get back online..wut should i do about everything else though? will rate high (link)
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Wow, complicated. I wouldn't change her password because legally i doubt that's right. But i would say for you to just stay away from both of them for a couple of days. Then sit them BOTH down and talk to them about what has been going on. Sounds like this didn't just start over night. If they dont want to talk about it, maybe start hanging around some other people,can't hurt. If your good friend is willing to talk about you behind your back, then she isn't being a good friend to you at all. You deserve better so make some better friends and go from there!!!
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me and my best friend were hanging out the last couple of days because shes having issues with her boyfriend and ex boyfriend so i spent the night on monday and we tried to figure things out for her. on tuesday things only got worse i told her a couple days before i went to her house she could sleepover at mine on tuesday so after things got worse 30 minutes before my dad came to get me she was like im going to your house she went down stairs to tell her mom and her mom went crazy yelling and telling her that she had no respect for her moms rules or for her mom and it kinda freaked me out im not used to alot of yelling bc my parents are pretty laid back when we were leaving she was like i dont want you over here anymore but the thing is i didnt do anything wrong i was just there to help out a friend and there really isnt a reason for her mom to dislike me so much her mom already didnt like me bc i have different ideas about how a family should be run and my friend tells her mom everything shes my best friend and i would hate to stop being able to hang out just because her mom doesnt like me bc that really isnt fair whats up with her mom and how can i change things??( her mom scares the crap outta me!!) sorry this is so long but please help!!! (link)
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Sounds like this freaky parent has some insecurity about herself. Sometimes you can't do much with adults like that. I would suggest just staying away from your friend's house for a short time. Let the mom cool off because she must be going through something to blow like that. If it's a bad household then she probably has some problems. I'm sure there are ways to see your friend. Maybe call her and meet somewhere. I'm sure you can think of something. But dont' let your friendship dissolve because of her mom. Good luck!!!
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okay well im built really small... i weigh 108lbs and im 5'6 and im 15... recently ive been tryin to gain weight.. ive gained eight pounds this summer but it seems like its only gone to my upper arm and hips... is theyre anyway i can gain weight in like my stomach area and my chest... im not even an Acup yet and its really embarassing... but idk how to even the weight out on my body... please help... i really need it... thanks (link)
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I'm not the best health advice person but maybe i can help. Depends on what kind of foods you're eating like high in fat, calories, sugar. That kind of stuff is going to go everywhere but where you want it!!! Try eating more meats but eat right, ya know??? Don't overdo it because that isn't good for your body when you're younger. Exercise too!!!! Hope i helped!!!
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I really like this guy and we met at work. We became close and we flirted a lot and emailed each other. I told him that I liked him and he was cool with it and said he just wanted to be friends. He has always kept his word. He started to act funny though and I don't know how to percieve it. He called me babe and turned around to see the expression I had on my face and had a great big grin on his face. When he told me he was getting another job I was happy for him as I think he deserves the best. Gave me a pix of himself that he took at 1am, and emailed me. Since then I haven't heard from him.Should I give up or give more time? F-40's (link)
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I think since this guy knows you like him, he can "play" around by saying that kind of stuff to you. He might be starting to like you, but if i were you, I'd be careful around him. Try at least to stay in touch because at least he was a good friend for you. If he doesn't really try to keep up y'alls friendship, then maybe you should move on. There are a ton of nice guys out there. And if you're looking for a relationship, i would suggest eharmony.com . I've heard that it works. Well, take things as they come, step by step and good luck!!!
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so the guy i like, likes someone else. he asks me advice like how to ask her out and stuff like that. he obiously doesn't realize i like him. so yep, he likes this girl( who has bigger boobs than me and is probably 8 pound lighter than me, but diefidentally not as pretty)
how do i get him to forget about her and focus on me. in other owrds how do i get him to like me?
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I know exactly where you're coming from. I think that you just need to be honest with the guy. Sit him down and really tell him how you feel. Or atleast say that giving him advice about other girls is making you uncomfortable and he might catch the hint. You cant exactly MAKE people like you but you can do all you can to make a really good impression. Start just really talking to him about things. If he can trust you enough with advice about that, then he might start to think of you then more then a friend. Just dont get all up in his face because that kind of throws a guy off. So be patient and it'll work out.
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my friend goes to a different church then i do and she met this guy there named cory, and they see each other alot and i rele want to meet him and my friend likes him alot and even though i dont know cory i still like him i have dreams about him and i cant control them. there not like normal dreams there more like im in some kind of novel and cory is the man of my dreams and we have sex and everythings okay im just rele confused about my feelings. I like Cory alot from the way he`s describes and like what he does but i dont want to hurt my best friends feelings and i promised her that i wouln't steal him from her. (guys tend to like me more than my friend) So can u plz help me and dont say anything like thats retarded or stuff like that i rele need help
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thx in advance
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First of all, i would seriously recommend to stop thinking so much about this guy. Sometimes, this sounds weird i know, but you can convince yourself of things by just thinking about it alot. I know i've done that a lottt. Your dreams are probably because you're confused and you have raging hormones. And think about this, you haven't even met the guy. So he might not be exactly how your friend describes him. Liking people tends to make people think extrememly highly of the person. But right now, just calm down and start hanging around some other guys. Since you already said you wouldn't steal him, you need to honor that promise. So i hope i helped a little. (your question wasn't retarded at all :) )
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I'm 13/f. I just discovered that the person I have had a huge crush on for two years (he's really cool; the smartest kid in the grade and he's really nice and he's my only guy friend) doesn't like me back. I feel awful. He doesn't know. Is there anything I can do? How can I deal with this? Should I try to stop liking him and move on? Please I know that a 13-year-old's problems aren't as important to you as an older person, but still it would be really really nice if someone could help me.
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I know a lot of people who went through the exactly same thing. (and you're still important even at 13) For now, just keep talking to him and drop hints that you're interested. He might catch the hint and think twice about you. But if he doesn't get it, you might just need to move on. One of my friends thought she could never move on and like a month later she had met somebody else and now they're together. So stuff like that really does happen. Just keep your hopes up and don't rush anything because you're young and have a lot of time for this kind of stuff!!!
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my friends and i are really close in lik two weeks we're going to b freshmen im so nervous we'll fall apart anyways to prevent this even if are schedules are totally different?? (link)
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If y'all are already really good friends, it would take a lot to break that up. Just talk on aim and call each other a lot. Go to the movies together. Just keep in contact so things stay the same. Don't worry, i'm sure she's thinking of ways to keep things as they are too!!!
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is it gang rape if more than one person or guy renders you unconscious and has sex with you against your will?>
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Yeah, i think it is. Rape is one person. Gang rape is still rape just with more than one person.
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