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my elbows were on the table
i've been dating this high soceity broad for about twelve years. the other weekend, i finally met her parents for the first time. they were nice old timers, a little mad that we havent tied the knot yet, but polite enough to me anyways. the point is, i was at the dinner table in their *HUGE* home, and, being the lower-class truck driver i am, i had my elbows on the table while eating. her parents, sticklers for etiquette, were appalled that their daughter would date someone like me and forced her to break up with me. i think this is stupid. i left the house that night and havent seen her since. should i get back with her, even though her parents kicked me out of their house for talking with food in my mouth? what should i do?
signed,
mannerless
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To mannerless,
Do not dump the girl because you think you're not good enough for her. What you can do now is practice your ettiquette and learn some manners. Invite them to another dinner and impress them all.
Hope things turn out. Good luck!
Later!
♥teen13
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get some lessons on how to be polite and then mabey you can get back together
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Whoa dude, her parents and your manners really aren't the issues here, are they? You've been together 12 years, which puts the two of you at least in your 20s which means you are grown adults who should be able to run their own lives without the say-so of either one of your parents.
I think before you decide anything you need to sit down, preferably with this girl and think about a few things:
1) Why have you only just met her parents after 12 years? Does the class thing bother her too? If so you have a problem
2) Can YOU deal with the class divide and the probability that her parents will dislike you for a long time if you do go back out with this chick?
3) Why the hell has this girl not apologised for her parents and blanked you ever since? Is this the kind of immature, spineless girl you want to be dating?
Manners are pleasant and in typical english fashion I care a lot about them myself but real manners are about being thoughtful towards other people not elbows and cutlery.
Good Luck
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spen time with her and ask her to help you with manners. don't break up with her if you like her give it another chance. good luck.
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Your gf chose you for what you are and its none of her parents business. If she allowed them to make the two of you break up then it sounds like she has some growing up to do.
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I think you should try to get back in touch. If she loves you for who you already are, then her parents shouldn't determine her future like that. Maybe take some classes in etiquette and go back to talk to her parents. Show them you've changed. If they approve they can't force their daughter to break up with you because they wont have a reason. If the girl didnt' mind your manners than that's all that mattered. You're marrying HER, not her parents. So get back in touch and take things as they come!!! Good luck!!!
4Him, Disciple (plz rate me if i deserve it)
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My mother raised me to use my manners...yes ma'am no ma'am please thank you...n all that jazz. If you've been with this person for 12 years and you love her dont let something like her parents get in the way of your happiness. As far as they are concerned... i totally agree with you....that was stupid. I think it was more of they didnt approve of their daughter being with someone who was not of their stature...but again...stupid a lot of the high soceity families are like that...my mom is..not AS bad as this case but i understand to some degree. You need to ask yourself how much this woman means to you. You've spent more than a decade of your life with her. Are you really going to let something as silly as her parents being...well...you know...bring you to leave the one you love? Good Luck I hope I helped
Andi
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hey, well manners are not a bad thing and I guess you need to learn them!! I bet if you tried to make a better immpression then they wouldnt mind you!! What you need to do first is learn manners...then get back together with your ex and then try again at her parents house! BE POLITE!!
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I think you should think about whether you really want to be with a woman who lets her parents tell her how to live her life. AFter a twelve year relationship, I just can't see my parents telling me no you can't date him anymore and me obeying. Just my opinion.
With that said, if the answer is still yes you want to be with her, then I would talk to her away from her parents home and see if she's willing to give the relationship a try. Since etiquette is obviously quite a big deal for her parents, ask her to give you a few tips before joining her parents for dinner again.
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wow if i were you i would hook back up wht her just to piss her parents off..i grew up in the high soceity and shit like that but poeple like that piss me off that not everyone is like them....do what your heart wants you to do!
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i think You should follow your heart if you really love her than go back to her and if she loves you for you than shell come back to you If she doesnt wnat you anymore cuz of her stuk up parents than You should forget her because shes just not being herself and is being stuck up to and go find a nicer girl that likes you for you But if you guys do end up getting back togther just dont goo see her parents again... ;) Good Luck to you I hope i helped
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