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I've been reading through your advice column and from what I can tell...you give AWESOME/AMAZING advice!!..so I decided to ask you a kind of personal question that I would nevereverever ask anyone else..

I'm really thin..Sometimes, I even wish I could gain weight on my thighs so I can fit into jeans better. People think I'm not self-concious about myself because I'm so thin..but they don't see what I try to hide. I have major major gross gross belly fat! Sometimes I tell myself that I'm going to stick to a healthy diet and exercise to get abs...but it's easier said then done. Usually two days after my "plan", I'll start slacking and start eating like before (eating whenever I was bored..not even hungry. I would just EAT when I was sad/angry/bored/tired--which is almost all the time)

So anyway, my question is::: Can you give me advice on how to lose the belly fat( and stick to a plan) and also how to gain weight for my thighs and waist? Thanks!

I'm so sorry. I answered this yesterday, I had everything typed out and ready to go, but I'm an idiot and Xed the thing off. So I'm extremely sorry it took me so long to answer this! & Thank you so much for the compliment. =] I really appreciate it.

For belly buldge, I suggest:
- Aerobics
[To burn extra calories.]
- Stomach-toning workout
[To help tighten and strengthen abdominal muscles.]
- Maintain a stable blood sugar level.
[When you're done eating a big meal such as breakfast, lunch, and dinner - when you KNOW that you're full, stop eating. Don't stop the point where you're actually full because that's how you gain weight. =] That might just be your problem, so while you're eating a big meal stop when you know that you're about to be full. Don't keep eating for eating sake. :)]

Unfortunately there are no foods you can eat to gain weight on specific areas of your body. If you eat more calories than you burn and gain weight, part of this increased weight may go on your legs but the rest is likely to go on to your hips, butt, stomach and thighs.

I found this website for you, though:
http://www.primusweb.com/fitnesspartner/library/weight/gaining.htm

It gives you tips on gaining weight, not specifically on a certain part of your body, BUT just gaining weight - period. =]

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Websites:
Aerobic exercises:
http://www2.gsu.edu/~wwwfit/aerobice.html
http://atoz.iqhealth.com/Atoz/fitness/cardiocraze/aroexcer.html

Stomach-toning workouts:
http://www.thefitmap.com/women/features/stomach_exercises.htm
http://boards.webmd.com/webx?THDX@816.Dj0gaKK59H3.0@.59b4a629!thdchild=.59b4a629
http://www.drbackman.com/abdominal-muscle-exercises.htm

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Amy!!! im goin to this big game thing tomorrow and i dont have ANYTHING to wear..im serious. nothing cute! i dont have any cute sweatshirts.they're all huge..no sweaters..scarfs..anything! and its wayy to cold out to be wearing like t-shirts nd crap. i dont have any jean jackets nothing! and i cant borrow anything from anyone because im meeting them there..so obviously i cant borrow from them?! haha..ahh what do i do! i need to look cute :)

Ah-o!
You honestly asked the wrong person, but I'll see what I can do. I'm sorry if I'm late. =\ I don't know if you wanted this answered before the afternoon or night. So, yeah I'm sorry. Maybe what you could do is, like do you have long johns? Wear them underneath a tshirt and then maybe you'll be warm? I don't know where you live, because I live in Texas, and it's like 60 degrees here, lmao. So, all you need is longjohns and then you can layer shirts over one another. That's the only thing I can think of, so you'll be warm. =[ I'm sorry I wasn't much help. Hope you have fun @ the game.

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ok which looks better white nailpolish on your toenails and red on nails or red on toenails with white on nails? or white on toenails and pink on nails, or pink on toenails white on nails? sorry so confusing. all 5's for opinions. thanks.

I think white never looks good on your finger nails, so I think it looks better on your toenails & pink and red look better on your fingers. =]

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anyone know any good resizing pic urls?

i rate fives.

I think http://www.tinypic.com is the best :)

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I have this bump almost inside my vaginal area. It looked like a pimple to begin with.
I haven't done anything sexual
i'm 13, if that helps at all
should i be worried?
help!

It depends on how long it's been there. If it just showed up then wait a few weeks and see what happens. Like if it changes shape, size, or color. If that happens be sure to tell an adult, and hopefully you'll be able to go to the doctors. =]

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well, Me and let call him Ted, Grow up together and were together off and on, when we were kids, we grow up, I like 3 years older then him,he had like 1 more year school, and I graduated this year we talk about our future and what we see in 10 years. well he told me he like be with me i was the one, I told him he the one to, then we dedcided to wait, he got a gf now and same gf that he kinda was with after braking up. thing is that i don't want lose him, he good and great to me, but thing is he don't know that he hurted me..

You need to let him know that he hurt you. It's not healthy to keep it all bottled up inside. I understand how you feel, I was in this situation when I moved away from my "bestfriend/bf" He told me he'd wait for me until I moved back to be with him in 3 years when I graduated, but he got a girlfriend. I'm so pissed at him for doing that to me, but what am I to do? Don't be mad at him forever, he's your best friend right?

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i have never had a crush on girls just boys i wanna have sex with boys. with girls the same and i fantasize about doing stuff to them tell me what is wrong with me this is the worse i have ever felt in my life. i rate high if u help me good

Some people have these feelings. You could be bisexual, but right now you're just seeking your sexual preference. It's not a bad thing, =] Don't worry too much about it!

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Im 15/F..and i havent had a boyfriend in awhile. Maybe because im afraid to take a risk of getting hurt because let me tell you..boys these days are not the brightest nor have the biggest hearts. Or maybe its because im just plain scared? I wonder alot what it is..any advice on why i feel this way?

You're probably just scared that every guy you are going to date because of the fact you might get hurt. Most guys are like that, so I don't blame you. I have the same exact feelings. =]

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im 15..going on 16 and i havent had a boyfriend yet. everytime someone brings up the subject about having a boyfriend i get so like nervous and self-conscious because im afraid they'll ask like oh who was your last boyfriend? how many boyfriends have you had before? and my old friend was talkin bout boys and my other friend goes yahhh but she hasnt had a boyfriend yet. and the girls like OMG WHAT? you havent had one yet? seriously?! like she was shocked. because apparently alotta people think im prettY? i dont see it but whatever. im not that good with guys i mean yah i talk to them and all ..but as friends. im way too shy to like hang out with them or something. maybe they just dont see me as girlfriend material? my best friend says maybe i may look like a bitch or something..or guys are just afraid to come out and tell me because they are scared of rejection. but actually im not kinda scared to get my first boyfriend (if that ever comes :( because i really wont know how to act since ive never had one before. ahhh please give me suggestions anything will help..seriously!

Hey. =]
Well, I'm kinda in the same boat you are, I guess you could say. I've never had that one boyfriend that I fell head over heals for. I've never really had a boyfriend before. I'm probably the shyest person you'll ever meet, and when it comes to boys I just don't feel good enough for them & then in the end they get hurt because I go way TOO slow. Like, just previously I had my actual "FIRST" boyfriend, but I broke up with him - he was moving way too fast for me, and that might sound cheesy but we didn't do ANYTHING at all. I don't know, he just wasn't my type & I can't ever stick to relationships so I'm totally giving up. =[ Sorry, woah life story about me, but I'm just trying to say it's not abnormal for people our age to not have bfs/gfs. =] So in that sense, you're not weird or anything.

You act like yourself. Don't act like somebody else, and don't act anything but yourself, seriously. Don't change yourself for somebody, because they won't be able to take you fully in =] Your best friend seems sorta mean for saying that you might look like a bitch or something, and that's why guys don't come to you. Lol. Sorry that just sounds really mean. You just need to put yourself more out there, and find ONE guy that you could potentially see yourself with. Maybe like a best friend or something? I can't really say what you should do, because I don't know what type of person you are.

But, yeah just put yourself out there, and keep your eye on one specific boy. Talk to him on AIM/in person/on the phone about relationships and he'll ask you, and you'll say you haven't had a boyfriend yet. =] Some guys think it's cute anyways! Just act like yourself and don't try to be anything that you aren't!

Good luck lovely.
I'm sorry if I didn't help, I'm probably the worst person to ask about relationships. =] Hehe.

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hey beautiful! :) well lets see im about 5'7 and i think i weigh like 120!? i know thats not alot at all ..or i dont think so. butttt like when i wear jeans i have like flab bulges..its not a ton but its like some and it just makes me think that im fat! i do anywhere from 30-100 pushups a day..depending on how much time i have. i dont really wanna run outside since its really really cold out! and plus like my mom and dad think im suuuper skinny and if they see me running or something they will be like wtf? you dont need to work out..then i will be embarasssed. so what do you think i should do? its really hard for me to eat healthy foods. i use to LOVE pop but then i realized that it wasnt that good for me and i havent drank like any ever since. im proud of myself! haha but i do drink alot of powerade..is that good for you?! umm yeah i try not to eat alot of junkfood but its SO hard for me because it seems like im hungry all the time..blahh! and i dont have any healthy foods in my house grr.

any suggestions!?
thanks xoxox

Hey there! =]
Well, I'm proud of you as well! Giving up soda is sooo hard. Hehe! Yes, Gatorade is in course healthy, it's made up of mostly water but then there's some "carbohydrates & sodium" for all of the liquid you lose when you sweat. I'm pretty sure that it's healthy, I'm not sure why it wouldn't be. Seen as; it's a "thirst quencher" & it's healthy for when you exercise! =] I've honestly never heard of it though. But, it's sorta like Gatorade right? Probably. Alrighty soo.

Think about what push-ups do. They help your upper body, your arms & chest area. Although, it's good you do that because it's some form of exercise, it's not really going to help out your stomach area.

Things you need to follow are;
- Follow a healthy weight loss diet.
[Sounds like your doing okay, just when you're eating a large meal, like brkfst/lnch/dnr, make sure that you eat when you KNOW your full. Not until the point that you are actually full.]
- Fitness exercises such as aerobics.
[To burn calories. http://www.bodytrends.com/gourley.htm -- Check out this website for the info about aerobic exercising.]
- Stomach-toning workout to help tighten and strengthen abdominal muscles.
[http://www.netfit.co.uk/abdominals-web-site.htm]

Hehe, hope I helped & Good luck. =]



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ok well..even tho you think im a bitch..i can see where your coming from. i mean i dont even know you but i just got upset about the whole skinny thing..kinda offended but i got wayy off track. im really sorry! im not looking for an apology or anything but i just thought id say sorry what what i sad. it was harsh
well i &hearts your advice anyways.
again sorry about everything..i really am..

well c*ya

Aww hun. Thank you. I've been actually thinking about it the past few daus, and I wish I wouldn't have said anything. Being "skinny" I think is so much easier then going what you have to go through when you're "fat." But I've never really been skinny enough to understand what it must be like for girls that are too skinny, and that want to gain weight. My mom used to be anorexic and weighed like 96 lbs and only fit into kids clothes, and she was ALWAYS self conscious about herself. It just hit me right now. I'm extremely sorry as well, and thanks so much for everything you said, and your apology. You don't know how much it means to me. Thanks again! =]
amy♥

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Is chocolate bad for you face? like will it give you alot of pimples!? is there anything that you can eat that would help like your skin be healthier and more clearer!?
thanks babes

Hey hun! =]
Although, eating too many sugar, high fat foods, like chocolate is never a good idea, studies show that no specific food has been proven to CAUSE acne. Every individual is different though. To some people they break out after eating a specific food, while others just don't. But, no chocolate doesn't cause acne. That's just a myth. =] Acne prevention is simple, maintain a balanced diet & drink LOTS of water. The water will help flush toxins out of your system. Atleast 6-8 glasses should be consumed on a daily basis. =]

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My friends cousin told me she's studying Fashion merchandise in college.

What IS fashion merchandise?
It sounds like the buying/selling of Fashion to me, kind of like..business studies?
I want to be sure though.

http://www3.ashland.edu/services/cardev/documents/FashionMerchandising_000.pdf
I thought this site might help you.

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ok well there is this kid named Billy, who I really like! He jokes around with me, he calles me his future wife and stuff. I like it and my friend says its flirting and tat he probably likes me. I'm not sure. I really want him to like me. Also he gets really close to me sometimes and hugs me really close. When he does it is like the best thing in the world! He told me him self that he likes a few people including his exgirlfriend. Should I back off or what? I need help please help

I rate well!

Well, if you don't want him to like you, then you should back off. But, it seems like you're starting to "crush" over him by the way that you say you like how he hugs you & how it's the best thing in the world. It's your choice, if you don't like him then back off - if you do like him then stay the way you are.

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alright, so i moved into my new school last year (7th grade) and i didnt start of with a good reputation, because i was the new girl. but now a year later i have a very good reputation. i mean, i am friends with the populair people, i cant compiments, and people always say they want to be me.
there is this kid in one of my classes, and i have gotten a very big crush on him. he is nice, sweet, and very cute. i did some asking around and i have found he is a loser. like .. dork kid. hanging out with other dorks.
i think dating him might effect my reputation, but should i go for him anyways?
some one please help me.

Dating him can & probably will affect your reputation. If you're "popular" and this kid isn't "popular" THEN of course it will. You could lose friends from it too! =] But I wouldn't if I were you.

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ok so my bf is coming ove rtommorow and i didnt get him anything reay realy big or awsome i got him a card and a cute little fluuffy blue bear i am so scared that it is cheesy an dhe will just laugh i am so freaked out someone help me pleezzzz

If he "dies laughing" then he isn't worth anything anyways. If you don't have a job and you're younger then 14, it isn't cheesy. =] He'll like it.

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(13/f) Okay, heres the thing. I am really outgoing around my close friends, but when I'm in class... I'm quiet and shy. When I try to be outgoing or funny, it just turns out all wrong and messed up. When I'm with my friends I have a great time and I can be very funny. Got any tips for being more outgoing around my peers (tehe funny word)?

Well, that's how I am. You just need to get to know certain people in your classes so that you can joke around with them. But yeah, just get to know someone really well in one of your classes, and then you'll be set off & you can joke around with them, and then after that you'll be able to joke with everyone! =]

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Ever since sophomore year in high school a group of friends and I have always gone to South Padre for spring break. We're all sophomores in college now so this year is going to be our 5th. Well I have another friend that isn't apart of our group and she's going to Italy for spring break this year and asked me to come along.


Now, I'm not sure who to go with. I know what you're thinking though, "Italy, what an opportunity" But, I just went over the summer so it's not like a big deal. So should I just say no and go to South Padre?

Hehe. =]

I definitely think you should stick to South Padre. It's like a tradition, and sooner or later, yall are going to get married & have kids -- then those traditions will be no more. I know that, that might not be for a while but in the same sense. You might miss out on A LOT with your friends. =]

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Dear Advicegiving people,

Yeah.. that subject was REALLY retarded. But yeah.. ok.. my LOVING boyfriend and I have been going out since July 8th & he's really sweet & all & I know he loves me because he tells me all the time & like.. I just DONT want that right now. I DONT want a serious relationship. And he's not the cutest thing ever, but he IS sweet & would give me the moon if I asked, like he's like the perfect boyfriend, but I dont WANT that. I want there to be rough times & I actually want him to disagree with me from time to time, but he treats me like a princess & thats just not what i want, but i dont want to be treated like crap either.. I just dont know right now. I want to break up with him, but i dont want to hurt him! HOW can I? Is it even possible? He's 15 by the way & so am I.

**Sorry it's soo long**

Ah-o!
Well, I think you're going to hurt him no matter how you tell him. =/ I don't think I'd be able to do it if I were you, if he treated me like a princess. But, you know how you feel about him, so.. I think you should write him a letter, rather than tell him face to face. Because, writing everything down, you'll get everything you want out and you'll say everything. Just tell him why you want to, and then just explain your feelings. =] Good luck, lovely.

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Well, i'm 14/f and my best friend is a girl and my age. We've experimrnted a couple of times this early year. She ended it in july this year (2005)cause she wanted things back the way they were when we didn't experiment and were close soul sisters (as we call ourselves to each other). I never got to say my total feelings about the whole thing. She says at times that she wishesi could be her girlfriend but in this world it isn't logical. I can't help, but want to kiss her and hold her passionatly. She's about to go on a cruise on Christmas eve this year and the i finally want to show her how i feel so the last day when i spend time with her i want to before a walk out the door i wanted to say this: I want you to so much be with me, but unfortunatly in your logical world that's not possible. Then i would hug her and kiss her softly on the lips and rush out the door. i just wanted to leave her with a thought in her head as she was on the cruise to let her know finally how i feel. Should i go for it?? PLLLLZZZ HELP ME!! I RATE HIGH!

~queencece~

OMG.
That sounds so sweet. :) You should totally do it! Go for it, I mean what do you have to lose? You might regret it if you don't!

YOU GO GIRL. :)

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