You may be surprised. I'm IN college, and the first year, everyone has to take the same foundation arts courses anyway, if that's your department of study. Speaking from experience, I was quite amazed at the number of freshmen who were "art majors" who had no interest, skill or experience toward whatever they were taking classes in. It seemed to be quite prevalent among the Interior Design majors--they had no skills or drive, and knew that orange doesn't go with cream and brown any more, so they wanted to be Interior Designers. Lovely.

Nobody in the "real world" cares where you get your Bachelor's or what it contained--it's all about the Master's, what and where. Therefore, if you can handle the expense, the first 4 years of college don't really matter too much... like high school doesn't matter.
Trust me. And SAT's are absolutely NOT worth the harassment they give you about it. Most colleges demand an 1100 for entry and unless you want SAT scholarships, it's not worth any more energy output. One person I know got a 1430... and he's not doing anything more special in college than I am with my 1290.
It's overrated and... pretty pointless... like all the fuss about Christmas starting at the end of October. Come on, let's just have a week of Christmas cheer and get it over with. it's not worth all the bother...

You're probably rather impressed by the fact you have any sort of boy at all. Why did you pick a mean one? Throw him back and try again. There are un-mean ones. If you're provoking his meanness, try throwing yourSELF in.

I think you're 12. 14, tops. Boys at that age are nothing more than distractions and rather bad-smelling space fillers. Puberty DOES THINGS to people. If he's no good, just ignore him. I'm sure he wants nothing better than that.

I think it's more likely that they don't have a clue what they're talking about, Bob is made up, and they are just acting out their fantasies... like all of us.

Disappear from civilized society and join a monastery in Sri Lanka. You need balance, minimalism, and you do NOT NEED a male in your life. Get out. Go. Drop it all and pack.

Ellie is a geek, and a pretty leet sounding one at that. Geeks are very special people. They make and understand multi-billion dollar empires scattered all over the globe. Geeks like Bill Gates and his Microsoft minions own you. Sony owns you. Ellie will be making hundreds of thousands of dollars if she keeps talking about computers, unlike normal people, who will have 6.50 per hour jobs until they are 22. Ellie can charge $60 an hour to walk into someone's home and fiddle with their computer while normal people like you have to drive around and beg someone to employ you, since all you know is gossip about guys, parties, and pets.
Show Ellie a little respect.

This is a very difficult situation because I have been in the same one, only it was MY neonazi parental units. If you are making the effort to stay together, that's about all you can do right now. Don't you see her at school? Try to contact her through a mutual friend and have them pass on your messages.
However, she's only grounded for over a month, not over a year. she's not Rapunzel. Since you have only been going out for less than two months, it's not really going to be a lifethreatening situation--and her parents aren't going to see it that way either. They consider you a passing fling in their precious daughter's life. Basically her schoolwork is more important than some two-month guy. And I'm sorry to be cruel and unromantic, but it likely is. Unless this is true-love, schoolwork is quite necessary. Be patient and things will work themselves out.

Your mother most likely knows about all the shit and nastiness that goes on in "beauty pagents". There are people who literally make careers out of it; know every trick, every strut, every jiggle, every answer and every cutthroat technique to destroy the competition. Girls in pagents can get unspeakably horrible. They sabotage and play off each other. I'm not saying they're all like that, but pagents are designed to bring out the cruel cutthroat woman vs. woman hatred that brims inside every girl.
When a woman sees another girl that looks better than her, she gets jealous and hateful because looks get attention. In a pagent it's all centered around looks and attention--about money, conniving, lying, flaunting and working the judges in any manipulative way they can just to WIN.
If you don't care about all that, and are shallow and catty enough to say to yourself "I can take them all on! I can do nasty things like destroying their dresses, stealing their purses, smashing their cars and tripping them down the stairs. I can jiggle and strut with the best of them, like cows in front of a farmer, deciding which to buy. I don't care because I want cash and attention," then rock on to you. If not for girls like that, fat drooling middleaged alcoholic slobs would have nothing to watch on TV but old reruns of Wheel of Fortune and The Price is Right.

Better yet, get a real job where you learn to work, think, and apply your inter-personal skills to get things accomplished. My mother is 53 years old too, and she's rediculously anal retentive, commanding and outmodish. I ignore her.

It usually hurts more the second time because you've already worn trenches in your brainflesh from the first round, and the thoughts keep rolling around through these trenches and just make it deeper. Eventually it'll scab over and you'll think very shallowly, because the deeper you think the more it hurts. That's the best part of America--everyone is encouraged to be as shallow as possible, so as not to hurt themselves. Goddess bless America!

Wow. this is one of the best questions I've ever seen. Whom do you know that laid an egg? And secondly, there's a pregnant girl in your eighth grade class? They sure start early, don't they...?

Really now, I want to see a woman lay an egg. That would rawk.

true, it's quite an unhappy stab right in the vagina. There's a membrane in there called the hymen that grows constantly, I suppose like the cuticles of your nails. It's stretchy but when attacked by a penis, it tears and is rather uncomfortable. It's the sort of pain where you yell, reach up and smack the guy, saying "OW jesus CHRIST that hurt!!"

It goes away in a few minutes but it's pretty sore for a couple of days. If you wait a time to have sex again, it'll grow back. That whole crock of shit about how virgins are so lovely because they're "tight" is referring to the hymen, and a girl who allows it to grow back on its own will still have that "virgin feel". How disgusting.
In any case, it probably won't kill you, but unprotected sex will, so for the love of god and all that is holy, get a condom. It's not the boy's responsibility. It's yours. They're not too expensive. Do me a favor and use protection so my taxes don't go to pay for your bastard child.

Being a drama queen is actually a symptom of a mental disorder involving narcissism. She is desperate for attention and honestly feels that her happiness is all that matters. Many people (myself included) like to indulge occasionally in thoughts of "God, I'm the awesomeness. I should be Emperor of Awesome. heheheh." But she very deeply believes this is true. Her need to fight about every detail in her life is a sign that she is craving control and attention, any kind of attention. you say you don't want to lose her friendship, but what the hell kind of friend is she? Nobody ever wants to break it off, but you'll be much happier without her dragging you into her annoying, self-destructive drama.
I speak from experience when I say it's much better to try and exist without people's bullshit. Really.

only if you expect to get paid...

The subconscious is the source of your pk powers, such as they are, and it's not a problem of making it shut up. You need to focus and empty your conscious mind so that it won't bubble around and disturb your subconscious while you work. Spend time relaxing and purging your mind of every thought that comes across it--meditation is absolutely key. It's not a fad, it's very necessary when you're trying to accomplish any feat involving the use of higher mentality. Focus and cleansing are all you need to make it stronger. If you need further help don't hesitate to ask me more.

You quit trying and you suck. Get back on the ball and pick up those books while you are still in school, because if you slack off in college you'll be out of there as fast as you can blink. For some reason you're unmotivated... or else you found out the hard way that teachers crack down the second quarter. Pick up your feet and get moving quick!

either way it doesn't matter much... A. you're in middle school and have a lot of time to decide what (if anything) you want, and B. there is nothing wrong with being bi. I'd say a good 80% of girls go through a time when they don't know their sexuality, and try being bi, and either stick with it or don't. It's nothing to be worried or embarrassed about. Guaranteed, some of the girls you're looking at are feeling the same wonderings.

A little bit. Tell him not to write a bad check, for one thing--when they bounce, they charge you $25.00 on TOP of what you owe with the check. He's being rediculously materialistic. Instead of stealing and lying to get his sister a present, which is what he's doing, he should just give her an IOU or, god forbid, MAKE her something. I'm sure it wouldn't kill him to make a batch of cookies or something. Instead of demanding an expensive gift from him, try doing what poor people like me do on dates--enjoy each other's company in a cost-free, romantic setting. I sure hope it doesn't take money to force you two to have a good time.

This has been a problem throughout the ages. I'm assuming you're female, but don't hesitate to correct me. If you were male, the answer would be simple--be Mormon. (they SAY they don't do that any more, but we believe them why...?)
Conversely, you have the option of becoming the queen or Empress of a small country and taking a harem, as in the old (old) days. Queens of places like Troy and the middle-european countries, back in the days of Matriarchs, would take as many lovers and consorts as they wished. This seems like a good course of action.
If you believe in monogamy, obviously you're SOL. Pick one by a fortune-teller or a coin toss or just swear them all off and be asexual. Really, it's not too bad of a choice--if they all like you, just be glad someone does.

To each his own--remember this. There is no answer that can cover every situation especially when it comes to personal preference and lifestyle as intimate as religion/sexuality/philosophy. Whatever you think about oral sex is your own lifestyle but you can't make up an answer that will agree with/refute every single person on the planet. Do what you feel is comfortable and leave everyone else to theirs. It keeps people from getting pissed off.

Um, yay?

thank god.

People have been coming to me for advice so long, I might as well do this all in one spot. I watch a lot of unfathomable Japanese TV and drink a lot of coffee. I'm a freshly-hatched Illustration major, formerly trapped & dying in the American South, now busily teaching phrases to all of Nagoya Japan. I'm always on the lookout for more video games and sushi.
I have lots of interesting pets. Wanna see my beetle?

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