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ok my girlfriends parents are neo nazi's. she a few bad grades and now shes grounded for over a month... this sux it means i cant do anything for her at all no two month annervirsy no dates no flowers nothig i cant even call her she has to call me...is this complete bullsht... we are trying so hard to stay together and it seems like one thin after another gets in our way we spend more time defending our relationship than atcually having one...her parents are cool but only to my face once i leave they say horriable things to my girlfriend...what can i do ive decided to start writing letters to her by snail mail since i cant see her or talk to her online but other than that i dont know what to do...i could use some help on this if anyone has any bright ideas please pass them my way thank you very much.
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First, I don't think her parents are neo-nazis for grounding her for a couple of bad grades. They're in tune enough to know that she is just to young to realize that the grades that she makes now, will greatly determine the quality of the rest of her life. And hell, she only got a month, lol. My kids bring home a "couple of bad grades" and they stay in the entire six weeks, unitil the next report card proves that they have brought the grades up. As for them not liking you, have you ever asked why? Sit down with them and ask. Believe it or not, they may actually like you alot more than you think. If they don't, then I'm sure it has alot to do with the EFFECTS they see regarding your relationship with their daughter. Honestly, if I thought for one second that my daughter's boyfriend was detrimental to her future in any way, you wouldn't be around long enough for me to talk about you, either behind your back or to yur face. That's how important their daughter's life is to them. Try to understand things from their point of view, and if you can't speak WITH the parents, then show them through your actions that their daughter's future is something that you value, as well, and give them a stronger sense of security. hen they feel that you care for her in the same manner that they do, things should start to get easier. Good luck, I mean that.
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I don't know how bright this is. I say you should talk to her about your relationship. What else can I say.
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neo-nazi's eh? how special.
Really, it isn't bullshit, as, well, they are her parents, and she's a minor and has to live by the rules they set forward.
Ask yourself this: why do you keep having to "defend your realtionship"? There must be some sort of reason.
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A month is a long time to be grounded. Her parents probably believe that her grades went down mainly because she has a boyfriend, and for her to do well in life in the future, her grades are much more important than her romantic life.
If you really care for her, and it sounds like you do, just be patient.
How are your grades?
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If you really care of her, you'd stay with her through thick or thin. Encourage her to make good grades so she won't be grounded anymore. Try to make a good impression with her parents so they won't think you're not being a bad influence on her. Goodluck!
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OOH! OOH!! OOH!! You sound just like one of my friends.. and have the same problem too ^_^.. *gasp* maybe you ARE him.. *cough*.. ok anyway lol..
Maybe you could possibly try talking to her parents about it, see if they can lighten up a bit. Tell them how much you love her and that you wouldn't want anything getting in the way of that and if they could please just let you talk to her on the phone at least, or online like maybe every other day or every 3 days or so on. If they still don't approve, have a messanger! Give someone that goes to the same school as her a note and have them give her the note for her.
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This is a very difficult situation because I have been in the same one, only it was MY neonazi parental units. If you are making the effort to stay together, that's about all you can do right now. Don't you see her at school? Try to contact her through a mutual friend and have them pass on your messages.
However, she's only grounded for over a month, not over a year. she's not Rapunzel. Since you have only been going out for less than two months, it's not really going to be a lifethreatening situation--and her parents aren't going to see it that way either. They consider you a passing fling in their precious daughter's life. Basically her schoolwork is more important than some two-month guy. And I'm sorry to be cruel and unromantic, but it likely is. Unless this is true-love, schoolwork is quite necessary. Be patient and things will work themselves out.
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