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PLEAZE! i need help badly
okay here is the problem.
my friend entered in a beauty pageant and she is in the finals and she had them send ME info so i could enter. but my mother won't let me. my mom is 53 years old and im REALLY bummed out that she won't let me. i feel that im very pretty and that i could even beat my friend if i wanted to (not that i want to beat my friend) is my mom afraid that im not pretty enough to be miss teen of the nations? or does she think i will get a big head? im not going to get a bug head because thats not me. my mom use to do all this stuff when she was younger. is it that she WAY old or am i not good enough for her?
anyways im on this site to GIVE advice no ask but i really wanted some advice.
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~kat~bare~
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maybe there r other reasons so ask your mom the reasons and she might tell u. maybe something bad happened so just ask her. can u please rate my advice and ask me lilattitude2004 some more qustions
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i know this probably isn't what you want to hear but but, chances are, your mom only wants what is best for you. have you actually sat down and had a heart to heart with her? does she know that you are serious about it? tell her what you're feeling and let her know that it bothers you (the fact that she had the opportunity to do all of this stuff and now that you have the opportunity, you'd really love to find out what its all about) i have been in three pageants..one of which i tied with my best friend for 1st runner up. the other two were far more competitive and not nearly as much fun...and looking back i wonder why i even particpated in them because at the end, i realized that i shouldn't have to parade around with a fake smile for people who don't even know ME to judge me and to decide whether or not i was fit to have a particular title. im just telling you from experience...make absolute sure that this is something that you really want to do because at the end of the day, when the pageant is over and you're broke from spending money on things here and there (dresses and hair etc...), unless you win, what do you really have to show for it? i mean really? pride? cause all mine was gone when i didn't even place.
i'm just telling you..make sure its something that you REALLY want!
GOOD LUCK!
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i say you should ask your mom again if she won't let you this year try again next year. you could enter anyways but that would be wrong. u culd tell her that u reaally want 2 do this.
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There a lot of things aside from being pretty that is involved in beauty pageants. It is sometimes time consuming and expensive to join one of those things. There are rehearsals that you would need to attend. You would have to spend money on outfits and matching shoes and makeups and not to mention entrance fees. Have a serious talk with your mom and ask her why wouldn't she let you participate in this competition. Hear what she's gotta say. If she fears you're not ready for this then explain to her that you would really like to committ yourself to this and you're ready to accept any challenges that will come your way. Convince her that you are physically, mentally and emotionally ready for this. But if she says it will be a financial burden in her part if you join or that she has to work all day inorder to support you and can't possibly drive you to rehearsals and practices, I'm sorry to say but it's out of your hands. I mean she is your mom after all and if she says no then there really is nothing you can do about it. Goodluck!
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Maybe your mother had a very traumatic experience when she was in the pageant. Do you know if she won or loss.Maybe it made her life a living hell with all the pressure. Maybe she's afraid that if your in the pageant, she might turn into a raging, teen-pressureing monster because that's what happended to her. Why don't you try to find out what's going through her mind cause you really never know.
Thanks!!!
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It is possible that your mother thinks you might lose and she doesn't want you getting hurt. You should talk to your mother, ask her why she doesn't want you to go and to give you a reasonable excuse on why she won't let you. If she won't give a reason, demand one!
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Your mother most likely knows about all the shit and nastiness that goes on in "beauty pagents". There are people who literally make careers out of it; know every trick, every strut, every jiggle, every answer and every cutthroat technique to destroy the competition. Girls in pagents can get unspeakably horrible. They sabotage and play off each other. I'm not saying they're all like that, but pagents are designed to bring out the cruel cutthroat woman vs. woman hatred that brims inside every girl.
When a woman sees another girl that looks better than her, she gets jealous and hateful because looks get attention. In a pagent it's all centered around looks and attention--about money, conniving, lying, flaunting and working the judges in any manipulative way they can just to WIN.
If you don't care about all that, and are shallow and catty enough to say to yourself "I can take them all on! I can do nasty things like destroying their dresses, stealing their purses, smashing their cars and tripping them down the stairs. I can jiggle and strut with the best of them, like cows in front of a farmer, deciding which to buy. I don't care because I want cash and attention," then rock on to you. If not for girls like that, fat drooling middleaged alcoholic slobs would have nothing to watch on TV but old reruns of Wheel of Fortune and The Price is Right.
Better yet, get a real job where you learn to work, think, and apply your inter-personal skills to get things accomplished. My mother is 53 years old too, and she's rediculously anal retentive, commanding and outmodish. I ignore her.
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I think you should ask your Mom why she won't let you enter. It might not be any of the reasons that you think it is. Maybe she thinks your are pretty enough, and is not jealous because you are younger but she had bad experiences with beauty pageants and doesn't want you to go through that. Who knows? You can guess, we can guess, but only your mom can tell you why she won't let you enter.
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If your mom did this kind of thing, it could be that she had some disappointing experiences and she's trying to protect you from them. If you really want to do this that badly, try to convince your mom that without doing things like this, and succeeding and failing, you will never learn. If it's something you really want to do, persevere and don't give up.
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It may be that she doesnt have the time or think of finacial issues. Ask her why, but when you do try not to make it in a big deal. Like not with an attitude.
-shay :-)
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