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Okay, so last year in 8th grade I had a group of 5 of my best friends. We always hung out and told each other everything. Now I'm in high school and the 2 middle schools combined. I have a lot of friends, I'm cool with almost everyone in the grade. I have really good friends in scattered groups. But I have one problem. I've really been excluded from my circle of best friends. We'll talk in school and hug sometimes, but nothing else. They don't tell me anything anymore, they don't call me or text unless it's for homework help. They don't invite me to hang out. One of them had 3 parties this school year and didn't tell me about any of them. I know I didn't do anything wrong... it's like they don't even realize it. I'm sick of having best friends in scattered groups because I just want to hangout with my own group sometimes! I haven't hung out with anyone this whole school year... literally at all. Besides going to the gym with one of those scattered group friends. I don't know what to do. Everyone in my old group wears such cool clothes and they have sleepovers and trade clothes and I have no sense of fashion. I always wear jeans, sweatshirt, and sneakers. They always compliment each other on what they're wearing but never me. They'll ditch me in the middle of the cafeteria and it's nearly impossible to find a new seat somewhere else. They all have had/have boyfriends and have hooked up plenty of times. I've done neither. I'm not as pretty as all of them, not nearly. They included more girls into the group that they met just this year and now they always invite those girls to hang out and trade clothes. I lost my best friends and now it's like they are just friends to me. They all have a video-making thing on Facebook but none of them have ever made a video on my wall. I feel like my life is in turmoil. I can't stand it. I get sick thinking about how I have no group of friends to hang out with on the weekends. My clothes aren't cool enough for them to care about. I don't know as much amazing music as them so they never ask for cds and never make me any. I tried telling one of them how I feel online but she just stopped answering me and entered a video chat with someone. I'm desperate. I don't know how to get these old friends back. I've tried to think of cool outfits but I can't pull it off and I don't have a great body like they all do. I'm hanging on a thread here trying to fit in. They're all friends with sophomores and juniors and they go to a lot of their parties that I've never been invited to. I just don't fit in and I don't want to try "finding new friends". I wake up everyday and I honestly just wish I was someone else, someone they wanted to be around all the time. I don't know what to do. I'm not going through my highschool years friendless and not having any fun or hanging out at all. Help.
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I know what you mean about the whole friends splitting up and in different groups and stuff. It happened to me. But its not hard to make new friends. I know its not fun "looking" for new friend but it isn't hard. If you open up more and find people more like you and into stuff that your into can help. I had classes without any of my friends. I felt so awkward and alone. But if you open up more it will help and you will have friends. Trust me. Now I have lots of friends and its great. Don't go and try to fit in. Be your own person. It doesn't hurt to have a sense of fashion either. You can find clothes that are cute and will fit you and your body. Just because you don't have a perfect body doesn't mean your not good enough. Those kind of girls who think that are not the kind you want to hang out with because sooner or later they will put you down. Go to the store and look around and find some cute clothes that will flatter you and your body. Open up a bit more too and go out and make some friends! You can do it and you'll make it through the year.
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what he thinks about me. sometimes it seems like he is just my friend, but other times it's like, woah, totally new Brady talking to me. does that make sense? hmmm....I kind of like him, but I'd totally still be cool with just being friends. my friends tell me all the time "Oh, I think he really likes you" or "He talks about you all the time." idk, I'm just kinda curious. (link)
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The one way you can find out for sure is ask! Just say something to him like, "people have been saying you like me and I was just wondering if it was true" or something like that. You never know, you might gain something out of this and if you don't you still have nothing to lose. Its not like you guys are going to lose your friendship over this. So good luck!
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14/f-I really like this guy, his name is Ruben, and I have liked him since the beginning of the school year. He is really a great guy, but we don't get to talk much, and I really want to ask him out, but I am not sure how. And on top of that, I think he has a gf. Plus, I don't think he likes me because of how quiet he is around me. Idk though because when he is around his friends, he is almost as quiet as he is around me. I think that we would be great together, but I am not sure why I just can't seem to get close to him. When we hang out, I just freeze up, not like what I usually do around my guy friends, but just like freeze up and can't seem to find the right conversation and words to say. He is one of the sweetest guys I know and he is beyond cute. Should I ask him out or just stay from afar until I figure out how he feels(which may be impossible because one of my other friends has known Ruben since like 2nd grade and he still cant figure the guy out)? Should I talk to him and like try to get closer to him? I really don't know what to do! T_T (link)
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I think you should try talking to him more. I know you might hear this alot but act as if you are talking to your guy friends. Unless you push them around or something but I doubt it. So just act as if you talking to your best friend or guy friend. I get nervous around the guys I like too but the only way you are going to find out if they will ever have the same feelings for you is to talk to them. First check around and find out if he does have a girlfriend. I wouldn't really want to go up to a guy and ask them out and hear them say, "sorry, I have a gf" But if you guys do start talking he might mention it or say he doesn't. So first thing you should do is start talking. Good luck!
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so guys at my school..not trying to sound a certain way...a lot of the guys that like me talk to me all the time and follow me and weird stuff and if i even say hi to them once they automatically think i like them and were talking..which is totally not the case AT ALL! lol but idk what to do i mean i dont want to be mean but i just want to be friends with them! (link)
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I agree with the person below, you could be flirting or leading them on and you might not even know it. That might not be the case but you should just make it clear that you don't like them. Whatever you do, don't flirt with them at all. If you don't want them thinking that. Be nice, but don't be a jerk. So the most important thing to do is just tell them. Tell them that all you want to be is friends and that don't like them. Hopefully this helped a little. Boys are weird and are hard to understand. Good luck!
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I’m 16/f and so I had this saxophone teacher for three years. I was never super serious about saxophone...I really enjoyed playing and all but I certainly didn’t intend to pursue it as a career. He knew that and I knew that. Acting and singing are what I really love to do but this guy and I became really great friends, as artists and just in general. I saw him once a week at the music studio (occasionally we held lessons at his house) and we made plans to see a movie, but it never took off.
Well, back in April my mom told me that we couldn’t afford sax lessons anymore. I was sad to break off the friendship but I had no choice. My dad and I had plans to break it off formally. But things never took off and my dad just ended up giving him a phone call. I got an email from him later saying that we could still be friends but sooooooo much has happened since then in my life. I’ve been insanely busy and haven’t been able to keep in contact with him.
It’s been more than six months since I last talked to him on the Internet. I’ve got his MySpace and I just realized that I really miss being friends with him, and I want it back. He was like one of the coolest people I knew. But I’m afraid that it’s too late and the friendship has died already.
Also, since he’s no longer my sax teacher and he’s an adult, I’m really not sure what would be an appropriate way to get things together again...
I’m thinking about writing a Myspace email. But how does one go about writing a note to a former sax teacher about that?
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I agree with the person below. Just write him on myspace about how you have been really busy lately and you haven't been able to keep in contact with him but that you would still like to be friends. Don't stress too much about it, if he reply's back then thats good, if he doesn't then you'll be fine. So don't go crazy over someone in that past because there is a reason they never made it to your future. So good luck and I hope everything works out!
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17-f
dating 17-m
i have no clue what to get my boyfriend this christmas we've been together for 15 months now and i just want opinions on what you would give your boyfriend. i want to spend less than $100 but not to much less than $50 im thinking of getting more than one thing.
need ideas!
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Well some ideas would be making him dinner or making him brownies or cookies. You can also go out to eat somewhere nice. Now things you can give him is you can go buy a cute picture frame and have the two of you in it. I think thats really cute. If you know what kind of things he likes then get him something with that too. Like you can get him a CD or a shirt or something that you know he likes. You can even make him a CD with some songs that remind you of him and songs you both like. Just be creative and have a good time!
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17/f
I have a close group of best friends & I think I favour one more so than the others, except now she has started to argue with me about everything & ditch me for some other girl. I have tried to talk to her about it and say that this isn't know things usually are between us but she just doesn't get it; consequently, she started to bring up a bunch of topics of how I 'get on her nerves' .. except her reasons all basically relate to me being stronger academically than her, which I don't flaunt. I just don't get it.
I'm pretty sure she will end up completely ditching me, then I'm moving away next year so I guess I'll never see her again. Is this normal? I feel so frustrated by this whole situation. I don't have many friends at my current school so I couldn't imagine losing another. (link)
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There can be many reasons why she is doing this. It seems pretty normal though. Lots of girls do that even with their best friends. This may sound really sad but sometimes girls want different friends because they got bored of their old ones whether they admit it or not. I'm not saying thats your case but its what happens. Another reason is how you said that she said, "you get on my nerves" and it all related to to being stronger academically than her. It happens, she might get the feeling she isn't as smart as you or something like that. But if she doesn't want to be hanging around with you, then you shouldn't be around her either. You can always make new friends, she did. So you can too. When something bad happens something good usually comes from it somehow. So think about it. Maybe you are better off without her. Don't be a jerk to her though. Still be nice and everything but find new friends. Good luck! I hope everything goes well.
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When I was younger, I used to be of such unshakeable faith in myself. No matter how hard things got, or whatever befell me, I always kept trying.
I'm still trying, but I lost so much faith my ability to succeed. And I'm worried I'm becoming a jaded cynic.
How, besides actually really succeeding at something, can I regain my confidence and faith in myself? (link)
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Ok well the first thing you are gonna have to do is believe in yourself. I have lost faith in myself before and I had low self esteem. You just need to think higher of yourself, but not too high. you don't want to put people down.
Look at other people around you. Think about those people that seem hopeful about their future, expectations, dreams and faith. They will boost you up and you should hang around them more.
Wake up fresh imagining new opportunities everyday.
Work slowly but steadily
Get training and don't give up.
Decide to ride on top of life! Accept it and embrace it.
In other words all this is saying, don't give up and keep trying and look at the best of things. Its you that is making yourself lose faith. You can do it if you put your mind to it. Just look to the best of it and you'll be fine. Good luck!
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hey so one of my best friends always seems unhappy. like when i see her in class or in the hallway she just looks really pissed / sad. so, naturally, i ask her what's wrong and she gets annoyed because it's just her natural expression. but sometimes, she tells me something that's bothering her. i don't want to constantly ask, "what's wrong?" cause i can see why that's annoying and yeah i'm not expecting her to be smiling 24/7 but how am i supposed to distinguish between when she's just neutral or when she's mad / sad? do you really think that's her natural expression... ? like she beams when she's laughing but otherwise she just looks pissed, and this is especially frustrating for me when i comment on something and she doesn't respond. i want her to know i'm there for her but in what ways can i ask, "what's wrong?" without explicitly asking that? i already use, "how are you?" .. (link)
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Sometimes my natural expression is like that. I'm like sitting there having a good day and someone will ask, "whats wrong?" I'll be like, "nothing, why?" they say, "oh you look mad" Its weird though. She might be going through something hard for her and when she is ready to talk to you then she will. Just let her know that if she ever wants to talk that you'll be there for her. So after that you can stop asking her, "whats wrong?" or "how are you?" so she doesn't get annoyed by that. So good luck and I hope everything goes well!
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Does anyone know of good flirting tips?
I really need help. (link)
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Some of my suggestions are compliment them on things that are actually true.
Give them an intense stare that cute but mysterious if you get what I mean. Just don't be creepy. You can also try staring at the floor and slowly raising your eyes, looking at him. When you catch his eye give him a subtle smile.
Haha, bat your eyelashes. It works cause it makes guys feel...powerful I guess. Just don't go crazy with it and make it seem like something is in your eye.
Play with your hair. You can casually flip your hair over your shoulders, twist it then untwist it, tuck it behind your ears, or run your hands through it. Thats one way to get their attention.
Giggle and smile. Guys love it.
When you talk, touch them on their arm or something but don't make it too obvious.
Just barely touch his left shoulder if you reach for something or whisper to him. The left side is linked to the right brain and that is in more tune with the emotions.
Play with your hair or clothing.
When you do get his attention look him in the eyes and then smile. If he smiles back, slowly look down.
Well I hope this helped and make sure when you do this, think "flirt" it will help. Good luck!
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hey theree..
so..im 14/female.
and latley, i've been breaking out ALOT. i cant seem to make my acne no away. i've NEVER had this bad of acne. ill get really bad acne around my forhead or my nose or cheeks. and they're really bad. i started re-using Klear Action. it worked really really well when i was younger..but it seem's to just be making me break out even more.
i just started high school..im a freshman. so could it maybe be stress? i just got done with my period. so i know that it cant be that.
and also..are they're any at home thing's that i can do to keep it under control? my mom just today bought me a new face wash from clean and clear and a spot treatment.
thanks for all your help ;))
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I'm your age and it happens to me every once in awhile. It could be stress too, since we started high school. I've managed to handle it and I haven't broke out too bad since then. Clear and clear works amazing. I would definitely use that as the directions say. I also use AcneFree. It comes in a package kinda thing and its like the step 1, step 2, step 3 kinda thing. I bought it at a regular store and it wasn't very expensive so I wanted to try it. It works very good. I also got something I use at night before I go to bed. Its called Clearasil. I use it after I wash my face. That helps the most because it dries up the acne when you put a little dab on it. Also don't use toothpaste on your acne. It clogs up pores. It might get rid of them for a little but trust me, in the long run it will not be pretty. So I hope everything goes well for you!
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I'm a 13/f
All my friends have started shaving, waxing and putting that cream on their legs to get rid of hair except me! My mum says I'm too young and when she was my age (that was back in the sixties) that no one cared about their legs. But times have changed people! I do care! How do I convince my mum that I need to get rid of my hairy legs? (link)
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I would just talk to her. I started shaving when I was 12. I think you should just sit her down and explain to her the reasons why you want to shave. Not just because everyone else it doing it. Only because you don't want everyone to notice that you are the only one who doesn't. Things are different now than it was back then. Tell your mom you do care about your legs and that you don't want to be seen with hair on your legs. So good luck and hope everything works out!
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So the other day I was downtown at my cities Remembrance Day ceremony. I was walking with my dad and sister to where we were going to stand for the ceremony. When we finally decided on a place to stand, I noticed I was standing about 5 feet behind a girl I knew from middle school. I’ve only talked to her once in my life and haven’t seen her in a few years, I didn’t really look at her first because I was afraid she would think I was checking her out or something, Every 3-4 minutes she would casually glance back at me sometimes for more then 10 seconds and would look right at my face. Sometimes she would smile and sometimes she looked at me with a blank face like she was thinking about something. She bent down a few times to pet her dog but other then that nothing else really happened. The whole time I think are eyes met 3 times and every time I caught her looking at me I was looking out of the corner of my eye so she didn’t know I caught her. Anyways on Thursday I went in for detention in my math class (I’m in grade 10) and decided that while I’m in there I should do some trigonometry homework, so I get it out and about 5 minutes later she walks in the door starts talking to the teacher and then sits down at a desk a row behind. One of my friends was in the row behind her and I turned around and asked him if he knew anything about trigonometry and he said no. She looked up at me and smiled and sad she knew how to do it but not that great. So she walked over and came and looked at my homework sheet. Shes in grade 9 so she didn’t know much about it. So this is my question, how can I start talking to her again? Should I talk to her on facebook? (link)
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Adding her on facebook would be a good idea and start talking to her on there. When ever you get your chance to talk to her, use it. Once you start talking to her more then it can go on from there. Other little ways you can talk to her is if you guys walk past each other and all you do is glance, you should say hi to her or wave instead. There are tons of things for you guys to talk about too. Like how was your day and her day. Homework even if you guys are in different grades something will come up. School, teachers, classes, there is so much to talk about. Current events too. And if you can't think of anything at the top of your mind, weather always works. But I would say start with facebook, a hi every now and then, then some conversations. You guys will be friends in no time! Good luck!
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Umm... I'm a really shy person and I was wondering if anybody can help me become more talkative and less shy. Maybe even some reasons why I'm quiet. Well thanks to those that can help.
With love,
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I was the same way. You have to work at it yourself little by little. First some reasons why you are quiet could be many reasons. I think the reason I was, was because of who I hung out with. My best friend was a really quiet person. So it shows that your friends affect the way you are. But I don't know your case. It could be many reasons. I was just afraid of what people thought of me and of being weird. Just get that out of your head because it really doesn't matter what people think of you because the people you see at school or where ever you probably will never see them again years from now.
Ok well first off, you need to get it through your head that you want to stop being shy and want to be noticed!
Seriously, what do you have to lose? Speak up more and say your opinion.
When people talk to you, talk to them! If you feel good that day, start a conversation.
But when you talk to people, make sure to have eye contact. But don't freak them out by staring at them for so long. But I think you know what I mean.
You need to be comfortable when you talk to them. Everybody gets nervous so don't make a big deal out of it. At least pretend, then it will come natural like talking to your best friend.
You probably will hear this alot but be yourself.
When you walk by your friends or someone you know, say hi or wave.
Well the last thing is to have confidence in yourself. You don't want to be shy so just work at it. To build your confidence a little is to try and look nice. Wear clothes that flatter you. But not too tight. And make your hair look cute. You know what I mean.
So I hope this helped and good luck!
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I'm really interested in my friend who we'll call J. I've know him for a couple months now, but we only talk in school. He seems interested in me as well. Another friend of mine, who we'll call B, told me not long ago she's starting to like him. She got him to join drama with us, and at drama she hangs all over him. I'm not like that, it's just not me.
He's very smart, and no offense to her, but she's not the brightest bulb. It's a rollercoaster of emotions going from confidence to discouragement. I need some help to say the least.
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Try to keep your confidence. It won't happen all the time but if you try then it will stay longer. Just be positive about yourself. You don't wanna be the girl who hangs all over a guy, you want to be you. He will eventually see right through her if he is a smart guy. So don't get down about this guy. If you say it seems like he is interested in you thats a good thing. Most of the time girls are right about guys. So talk to him but don't hang all over him like your friend. Maybe if you guys become closer you can hang out more. So I hope everything works out!
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There is this guy at school that I sort of like. I'm not sure whether I really like him or not. I hope you guys can help me know if I truly like him.
Thanks, with love
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You are gonna have to figure out if you like him. We can't tell you your feelings but here are some signs to know if you like a guy. When you see him does your heart skip a beat or you feel nervous or something? Even if your thinking of him and it makes you nervous or excited you probably like him. Notice if you are always trying to be around him or close to him. You might even try to make this guy jealous. If you talk about him to your friends thats another sign, if your trying to make friends with his friends. You might try to find as much info about him. If you just think about him alot thats like the biggest. If you get jealous if he talks to other girls, if you blush when someone mentions him or you see him around, he get dressed before school and wonder what he will think of you wearing this, if you have a class with him and you look forward to that class you probably like him. So I hope this helped!
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I don't know what to get my boyfriend for christmas he is 20 years old and he is very spiritual if that helps any ideas. (link)
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There are different things you can do for him and get him. You just need to think about what he likes and stuff. Maybe music, shirts, watches and stuff like that and since he is spiritual you can get him music like that too. I don't know if you guys are all mushy and stuff but here are some other ideas...
-Make him dinner
-Go out to dinner
-Make him cookies or brownies
-Get a picture of you two and put it in a frame
-or get him something that reminds you of him or something you two have shared together.
-Maybe you can make him a CD of songs that are cute for you guys.
I hope this helped and have a good time!
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alright, so i've been dating this guy for about a week, and everything was really great we were hanging out the first couple of days, holding hands, being cute, you know exactly how sappy every new couple is, haha.
but then the other day he just wasn't very talkative. i didn't mind it much because i figured he might've just not been in the mood for conversation. then the next day we were going to hang out, but something on my end got screwy so it didnt happen, but he went out anyways and just texted me every now and then the rest of the night.
but then today i asked to hang out and he said he was busy with something, which i understood and made small talk so i wasn't bothering him too much while he was doing whatever he was doing. so i stopped talking to him for a couple hours cause i was watching movies, and sent a text to him just seeing how things with what he was doing were going and he didn't answer, so i just assumed he fell asleep. well then it was 3 in the morning and i was online with my friend and he was on, sat there for a couple minutes, and then signed off. i thought it was weird that he didn't IM me or anything.
so its been like three days and just not much conversation has been going on and i just feel like if i don't hang out with him soon he's going to distance himself more or something.
i think i might just be being paranoid. i just need someone's views on it. i'm just getting some feelings of distancing, but that just might be because every time i tend to date/almost date a guy within a week something happens and then they just like, break it off with me. i think i might just like this guy alot and i'm worried, so i just need voices of opinions here, please. (link)
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There could be many reasons for this. He could be going through something big at the moment or he could be distancing himself. So I think you should try to talk to him and see whats going on. But wait a little bit before talking. But if this doesn't change soon then you really need to talk to this guy and see whats up. But I hope everything goes well!
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i told my best friend's crushes's best friend that i liked his best friend [my best friends crush] so most likely he told him that i liked him. But the thing was I wasnt serious but I just dont care if they think I am. I know my best friend would kill me for saying that i liked her crush but at the same time i dont care because she has a boyfriend.. so she needs to get over this guy. I really dont like him but I could just see myself with him which is apart of the reason why i dont care if he thinks that. Would it be wrong in your opinion if I went for this guy? Or what do you think i should do about the whole situation? (link)
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I don't think it would be wrong if you did go for this guy. I think its fine. If your friend has a boyfriend and likes this other guy and has a problem with you going out with him then something is wrong there, obviously. I think you should talk to your friend about this. Trust me, you don't want to lose friends over a guy that may not be there for that long. Friends last longer. So you need to think about what you are going to say, or if you are going to say anything at all. I don't your friend so I wouldn't know what would be right to do. I hope everything goes well for you!
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So me n this guy (Joe) have liked eachother for about two months. Before that..we were really good friends and we realized it was something more. The thing is..our little relationship hasnt gone anywhere..he still considers me his "friend" and i just dont understand why. Sometimes we hang out as friends and sometimes we hang out as more than friends but we dont hookup..im confused about this..i want have a relationship with him while he wants to be friends with me..it makes me mad because if he doesnt want to be more than i wanna move on..
i need advice on how to handle this! (link)
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I think you should talk to him about this. If he just wants to be friends with you then there isn't much you can do. At least the two of you can be friends even though there may be more. When you talk to him and he ends up saying he wants to be friends then its time to move on. It will be hard, trust me. But if you guys are gonna be friends and thats it, then there is another guy out there who may be the right one. So good luck and I hope everything works out!
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