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I'm Steph. I love helping people and I have a great interest in music, I play the piano well and I hope to be a vet nurse one day. I am easy to trust and whatever you say to me personally will be strictly confidential. Thanks for reading! :) x

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im a 14/f ok, theres this guy that i like and that likes me. but...my freind also likes him and he likes her too but she has a bf so they dont have a chance of hooking up. would it be wrong if me and him hooked up..i mean with my freind liking him and all even tho she has a bf. i need advice fast. all thoughts are appreciated. thnx p.s. (( ill rate 5))

I'm not bothered by the rating - I'm here to help! :)
I believe that you do have a right to go out with him. After all, your friend HAS got a boyfriend and she should be commited to him. On the other hand, she could get annoyed with you because you knew she liked him. In the end, I guess it's all about your priorities. Talk to her about him and her boyfriend, see which is more important to her. See what she says when you talk to her about asking him out!
Good luck!!
x Steph x

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Well i am a grl and i like to wear boy clothes!!!
is that weird or normal?

I'm not bothered about the rating - Here to help!
And no, that's perfectly normal. I know several people who are going though/have gone through that stage. It's to do with comfortability isn't it, it feels and looks nice.
Be yourself! :)
x Steph x

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Is it true that lifting weights stunts your growth?

No no no, it's a myth! :)
x Steph x

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Here is my problem my dad and I are kind of a like but that isn't always a good thing. We are always arguing about some thing or another. We try to be nice to each other but that doesn't last long. Does anyone else have this kind of problem with your parents? If so what is your advice.

Sometimes I suppose. I just say to myself that it is my life and I don't want them to run it. Everyone is entitled to be an individual who can look after themseleves. Just think in the end, they have to accept you as who you are sooner or later! Chin up, the arguments won't last forever!!
x Steph x

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im wanting to help my partner lose weight because i'm worried about his health.
I'm not a cook so i need some simple recipes that i can cook and that are healthy.
if you know of any please can you give me the ingredients and method. thank you

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifehack/over-100-quick-and-easy-healthy-foods.html

There's 100 easy-to-make recipes for you.

x Steph x

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i have had one period (in july) and it was at the end of the month. like the very end carrying over into the begining of the next month. i haven't had it since then and now my discharge is kinda brown-ish (gross, right?) and it kinda burns/stings when i wipe... whats wrong w/me???

It's perfectly normal, don't worry. It's basically female hormones having a party in your body (pesky little things!). Just make sure your hygeine is kept up high or it could lead to infections etc.
x Steph x

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O.k Well my best friend is a total whore... i mean like shes the type like if you have a dick .. shell suck it like after an hour of knowing you.. i confronted her about it like.. why have you changed so much (because she was never like this)The Other night i said some
things to her i maybe shouldnt have said..

but i meant them she told me i was never on her side, and i never helped her through anything meanwhile when she broke uph with her boyfriend i was there, through everything and when other people called her a whore i was there through it allll!!!

Well I Told Her i hoped she got pregnant and, shes a f****** whore, and a slut, and guys only want you for a#$ soo yea, i was pretty mean she was probably crying...

But today i was thinking am i just jealous of her. I mean shes a whore and she gets all the guys she wants, i always thought that if you havent done a lot of stuff with guys they'd want you more, am i wrong... AM I JEALOUS?

Perhaps you're jealous. The majority of males prefer girls with experience a.k.a. the type of girl who sticks out her chest to get the male attention. I wouldn't encourage you to do that. Be yourself and don't become like her just because it looks like she's getting all the attention at the minute.
x Steph x

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No matter how much or little I brush my teeth the night before, I always wake up with a nasty tasting coating all through my mouth that also gives me bad breath. It shows up on my teeth as like white patches sometimes, that can't be brushed away. I've used mouth wash and it doesn't change it. I brush my teeth twice a day, and properly. Does anyone know what the problem could be?
I also have braces and I can't remember if I had this problem before my braces or not, but it certainly wasn't this bad.

Try an electric toothbrush, that new one that has come out where it scrubs your tongue too. You're not the only one who suffers from it, it's a common thing and it won't stay with you forever! :)
x Steph x

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Ok Well theres this Amazingly Gorgeous kid in my 6th period lunch named, Joe and hes soo amazing like i almost passed out the first day i saw him.. no jokee!! and belive me if i think a guy is hitt hes majorly hottt.. because i dont think many r hott.. but moving on...

My friend chelsea is obsessed over himm... and hes always looking over to me and my (girl) friends tables.. soo like yea i looked at him and he looked at me and it was almost like we had a staring contest (laugh out loud) and than his friend like tapped him on the shoulder soo he turned his head..

but my friend Chelsea totally thinks he stares at her all the time.. but hes nott.. and hes in 11th grade and were in 9th soo its like were 14 hes 17 but what ever (laugh Out Loud) we got one of our 11th grade friends to talk to him..For chelsea and the 11th grade friend who was a girl.. never told chelsea what he said but she told me..

She said Chelsea was gross and wear way to much make-up and he'd only go out with her for some "booty".

So Chelseas always tlaking about how hot he was.. yesterday she said she was in love.. i feel soo badd.. i wanna get her mind off this kid because hes not interested.. what do i sayy to her?

Why not say something to her on the lines of:
"You're my friend and I just wanted you to hear from me and not other people that there is a rumour going around that that 11th grade lad said ________________"
That way, she knows you care and it might leave you a little open way into getting that lad.
BUT - he'd only go out with her for some "booty", doesn't that give a little insight into his personality?
I'll let you decide, good luck!
x Steph x

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What song can I sing to audition for my schools musical? I do not have a very good voice, so I am only looking to be in the chorus (I have been in it the past, so yes, it is possible to be in the chorus even if you don't have an amazing voice). I am a 16 year old female, who cannot sing very high at all. I would like something that is easy & will sound good on my voice. I would like something from a Broadway show, or Disney. (preferably A MUSICAL PLAY). THANK YOU!

Here are some ideas!
- Beauty and the beast
- Enrique - Hero
- Jesus Christ Superstar - I don't know how to love him
Best of luck!!! Hope you get through!
x Steph x

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Last year I got in a lot of fights.(not fist fights but like curse fights online) So I kinda had a bad reputation. Well now this year I'm more girly and its my last year in my school then i go to high school so I'm trying not to have any fights this year. Well this girl in my grade who is mean to me but I'm not mean to her (i just get mad when she gives away my sn to strangers)she found out some how that I'm on advicenators. Well today she asked me a question a private one to me and she said my full name (first and last) and said that I pick on her and bully everyone. She also said that i take everything from her even the boy she liked that liked her. Now I have no clue what boy liked her that I liked/like. I just feel like I'm hated by everyone and no one likes me. And I don't know what to do to make myself cheer up. Wouldn't she be the bully now? What should I do? I feel so hated and unwanted.

I'm sure you're not hated by EVERYONE and I don't dislike you and I don't even know you!! :)
You "bullied" her by curse fights but yes, she is the bully now. Either ignore it, deny it or joke about it.
Ignoring it - This could do your head in over time but surely, if you just ignore it, she'd go away..
Deny it - Does she have proof of this so called "stealing" boys away from her or bullying?
Joke about it - Call her pathetic and for her to grow up. It sounds like she is in a desperate need to grow up and I think you could tell her that!
G'luck!
x Steph x

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There are these girls on my soccer team and their really popular and i'm a lot like them but I only started on this soccer team this year but it seems like they just wanna keep the clique their in and dont wanna let anyone else in although if they got to know me I think we could be really good friends what can I do to make them see that?

Compliment them discretely such as "I like the way you did your hair today" or after the soccer match/practice, say "You played really well, congrats". Start conversation with them, find out their interests and I'm sure if they see that you're interested in similar things, they should be more comfortable to letting you hang out with them!
G'luck and be confident!
x Steph x

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This may seem disgusting to most and you might feel uncomfortable answering but pelase help me. I am 17 years old and i still havnt done anything with a guy. The reason is i was always afraid i would do something wrong a=or i wouldnt know what im doing. How do you give head anda hand job? please help me.

I don't believe this to be a disgusting question and I'm sure you're not the only one with this on your mind. I'm not giving you a step-to-step guide because I'm sure you could find that on the internet for yourself. The only thing I want to say is talk to your boyfriend (if you have one), if you talk to him and ask him in what ways he wants you to do it, then I'm sure he will guide you to his pleasure. Relationships are based on many things, one being communication. Communicate!
Best of luck!
x Steph x

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I am a 25 and i would really like some advice i am at the end of my teather and would really like some reasurance i have suffered anxiety problems most of my life more and got much worse at the age of 17 i stupidly tried a drug called speed and it caused me to take panic attaks,i have been left battling with them for 8 years now i have thought i have been insane,thought i would stop breathing ,thought i was taking a stroke etc but i always looked forward to going out with my friends and haveing a drink although in my younger years i think i over done it a bit untill one day i was sitting with my gran and mum and they were talking about young ones and alcohol abuse and that how we would all be addicted and suddenly out of the blue i started to panic the panic was so stronge i thought i was turning into an alcoholic i thought oh my got my fear has just came true i have turned into an alcoholic like my dad (my dad passed away through alchol he wnet missing when i was 7 and that was always with me)what do i do i thought i like a drink cause it makes me confident confidet eventually the fear subsided but the thought was always with me and when ifell pregnant i thought oh no what if i cant stop drinking i will be a boring person,i did stop though i did have some. After my little girl was born it was always on the back of my mind the worry what other people would think of me if i was drinking or smoking do they think im a good mum i just felt terrible as erin goe older i experienced more stress sensations to my body i thought i was craking up, before a night out i would feel riddled with guilt and anxiety feelings but once iwas out and had a few they subsided and i felt great.I began to become very aware of the fact that alchol was making me feel better and that itself was scaring me again i would begin to feel really really anxious and the thought swould be am i an alcohlic why does other people not bother about alcohol and i do.When the night would come that we would be having a little drink i would become anxious even scared that every drink i was taking would make me an alcoholic but once i had a couple the worry would go away.i came through quiet a stressful time and moved back in with my mum i begun to feel really depressed and my anxiety was terrible.one day i went out with a friend for lunch erin had been playing up so i was experiencing these really terrible stress feelings on our way down to the restaurant i was think i would really like a wine with my lunch but i had erin with me and if i did what would people think of me as a mother any way i had a couple of wines it was a gorgeous day it was really warm and i thought oh no im really enjoying these couple of glasses of wine i wish i could sit and have more i started to feel panicky i thought oh got nichola are you an alcoholic i camed myself down and thought ill buy some wine for when i come home and we can sit out the back but i felt really guilty an was arguing with my self, i had a couple then felt really dissopointed with my self after them.
the next day i felt quite deppressed ithought why do i keep doing this t myself then all of a sudden fear gillted through my body i thought all this stress ive been feeling all these years what if ists because im an alcholic in that moment i thought oh no i feel like i could have i another drinkthe fear that pulped through my body was so intense i was burning up going cold the next i couldnt think straight i rushed to my mum and told her i thought i was an alcoholic she laughed at me an told me not to be silly but i couldnt make the fear and the thoughts go away. I went to my doctors and he told me i was suffering from anxiety and panic attaks and depression. I still cant gat this panicking thoght out of my head though could it really be possibe that i could be making myself feel like an alcoholisc that i am craving alcohol because of not wanting to be one,i also feel the fear starts if im drinking or before i am what if i cant stop drinking it is very scary when i calm down i feel differet but its when the panic is happening i cant function and get so scared it my worsed night mare come true to be addicted to something pleeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaase help and give me some reasuring so i can put my minfd at ease. xxxxx

Well...this isn't easy and you must accept that to cure yourself, you must listen to people around you (well..most of them) - they're there to help you. I suggest putting something around your wrist or having a piece of a drawing which your daughter drew for you in your pocket. Whenever you're going through a panic attack, you can look at your daughters drawing or the object around your wrist and think that you're over-reacting and sink back into that stage where you are no longer panicy. You're allowed a drink or two, you're 25 for Heaven's sake, of course you can have some. Don't think what people will think about your mothering skills, because you know deep down that you're a good mother to your child and possibly other children to come. Why not try anti-depressants or soothing music which will calm you down. It'll take time but I'm sure, if you want to stop feeling this way, it'll help relieve some of the anxiety.
Best of luck to you!
x Steph x

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ok so i have liked this guy at school for like ever and earlier this week he asked me out and i said yes of course! Then the next day he started to ignore me and tell everyone we were going out. He is really starting to confuse me what should I do?

Hmm, I'm not judging him but is he the type of lad who would say he's going out with someone to impress his peers? If not, then why not talk to him? Surely a main part of a relationship is communication. Communicate, girl! Ask him why he didn't say hey to you in the hall or talk to him at break.
Best of luck!
x Steph x

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I live in a really small apartment with my mom and sister. Its not even a nice one either. The floors are a different color in each room, the walls are different, the tiles are coming off in the bathroom. Its a really clean apartment but just very ugly and i get embarressed to bring people over. I havnt had a boyfriend in a really long time becasue im afraid he will have to come over sometime and see what i live in.. a dumpster! I dont know what to do im reallu nervous about having one and then letting them see this place.

You shouldn't be ashamed of your house. Why not tell a little white lie and say you're in the middle of decorating the place? I'm sure if you did have a boyfriend what you think of your current living situations, I'm sure he'll understand! Or you could talk to your mother and sister about how you're feeling, maybe they could put in a little money into getting the place fixed (even if it is just wallpaper on the walls!)
G'luck!
x Steph x

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umm...doesn anybody know like..andy good cheers that i could use for my swim team??? we are the southwestern trojans...ill rate high for good ones


♥ rrenef ♥

Southwestern Trojans are the best, they are better than the rest, they can swim a mile or two, clap your hands for them - thaaaaank you!

A cheer is like a poem, so include "Southwestern Trojans" into the poem somewhere and you should get some decent ones! :)
Best of luck!
x Steph x

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i wanna earn some money.. problem is, im only 13 is there ANYTHING i can do to get some money?

Hmm, work with your parents for a set amount each week perhaps? A paper round? Or sell things in school maybe? Or you could do the easy thing and ask for money for Christmas!
Best of luck!
x Steph x

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Hi!! im new to this website and Im 15 years old. I was just wondering if I should shave my vagina or do I leave it like it is. I have never been told yes or no, and I am too embarassed to ask. Thanks...I will rate high.

Hey! :)
No need for the rating, I do it because I intend to help!
I'm not going to tell you what to do, I don't believe that's my job. Everyone is an individual and are entitled to treat their bodies in whatever manner they wish. If you want to, you can but please don't feel pressured by other people into doing so. If you have/going to have a boyfriend and he didn't like it, then he would have two choices
1 - Live with it (not literally!)
2 - Command you to shave it
Be yourself!
x Steph x

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Ok. If ANY of you guys have been paying attention you might have ehrd a similar question. But I am asking this again because I didn't get alot of responces. Ok...

Ok I still LOVE my ex boyfriend. Yeah he is single and I 'sorta' think he likes me. Here is why.. When we talk he jokes with me, he will make stupid remarks to make me laugh, when I was at the ball game the other night (he plays basketball) he kept starin at me and showing off. And when It was over he came up to me and Sais "are you cold?" and I was like "yeah" and he smiled and left. soooo.....

Right...to prevent a heart break, make sure you know that he IS giving off the right signals and that you're picking them up as they're being given off. If he was showing off to impress you, you could make some humorous remark like "Show off!" (but laugh/smile when saying it) and see what he replies. Smiles and see if he smiles back, wave and see what he does. These little tests help to determine whether he is giving off the right signals!
G'luck!
x Steph x

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