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anxietyandalcohol
I am a 25 and i would really like some advice i am at the end of my teather and would really like some reasurance i have suffered anxiety problems most of my life more and got much worse at the age of 17 i stupidly tried a drug called speed and it caused me to take panic attaks,i have been left battling with them for 8 years now i have thought i have been insane,thought i would stop breathing ,thought i was taking a stroke etc but i always looked forward to going out with my friends and haveing a drink although in my younger years i think i over done it a bit untill one day i was sitting with my gran and mum and they were talking about young ones and alcohol abuse and that how we would all be addicted and suddenly out of the blue i started to panic the panic was so stronge i thought i was turning into an alcoholic i thought oh my got my fear has just came true i have turned into an alcoholic like my dad (my dad passed away through alchol he wnet missing when i was 7 and that was always with me)what do i do i thought i like a drink cause it makes me confident confidet eventually the fear subsided but the thought was always with me and when ifell pregnant i thought oh no what if i cant stop drinking i will be a boring person,i did stop though i did have some. After my little girl was born it was always on the back of my mind the worry what other people would think of me if i was drinking or smoking do they think im a good mum i just felt terrible as erin goe older i experienced more stress sensations to my body i thought i was craking up, before a night out i would feel riddled with guilt and anxiety feelings but once iwas out and had a few they subsided and i felt great.I began to become very aware of the fact that alchol was making me feel better and that itself was scaring me again i would begin to feel really really anxious and the thought swould be am i an alcohlic why does other people not bother about alcohol and i do.When the night would come that we would be having a little drink i would become anxious even scared that every drink i was taking would make me an alcoholic but once i had a couple the worry would go away.i came through quiet a stressful time and moved back in with my mum i begun to feel really depressed and my anxiety was terrible.one day i went out with a friend for lunch erin had been playing up so i was experiencing these really terrible stress feelings on our way down to the restaurant i was think i would really like a wine with my lunch but i had erin with me and if i did what would people think of me as a mother any way i had a couple of wines it was a gorgeous day it was really warm and i thought oh no im really enjoying these couple of glasses of wine i wish i could sit and have more i started to feel panicky i thought oh got nichola are you an alcoholic i camed myself down and thought ill buy some wine for when i come home and we can sit out the back but i felt really guilty an was arguing with my self, i had a couple then felt really dissopointed with my self after them.
the next day i felt quite deppressed ithought why do i keep doing this t myself then all of a sudden fear gillted through my body i thought all this stress ive been feeling all these years what if ists because im an alcholic in that moment i thought oh no i feel like i could have i another drinkthe fear that pulped through my body was so intense i was burning up going cold the next i couldnt think straight i rushed to my mum and told her i thought i was an alcoholic she laughed at me an told me not to be silly but i couldnt make the fear and the thoughts go away. I went to my doctors and he told me i was suffering from anxiety and panic attaks and depression. I still cant gat this panicking thoght out of my head though could it really be possibe that i could be making myself feel like an alcoholisc that i am craving alcohol because of not wanting to be one,i also feel the fear starts if im drinking or before i am what if i cant stop drinking it is very scary when i calm down i feel differet but its when the panic is happening i cant function and get so scared it my worsed night mare come true to be addicted to something pleeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaase help and give me some reasuring so i can put my minfd at ease. xxxxx
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Sounds like an AA meeting might do you some good.
If you are drinking enough that you have sudden confidence...you have a problem.
Studies have shown that children of alcoholics are more prone to it themselves.
This doesn't make you a bad person. It doesn't make you a bad mom. But, it is something you need to get under control. I think you know that already (panic attacks and fear).
I took a couple of college courses on the subject. As part of the class I had to attend an talk to some of the people at an AA meeting for a report. You will be made to feel very welcome there. They are all good people, they just have a problem. They help each other and they will understand exactly what you are going through.
Almost every one of them told me that when they went to their first meeting...and the people told their stories, they all thought the speaker was talking about them. So, I would suggest you muster the courage to go to a meeting. Their should be a list in your local phone book. Call and get the details. I am sure someone will greet you there so you won't be scared if you ask.
Good luck to you. Please get some help. :)
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Well...this isn't easy and you must accept that to cure yourself, you must listen to people around you (well..most of them) - they're there to help you. I suggest putting something around your wrist or having a piece of a drawing which your daughter drew for you in your pocket. Whenever you're going through a panic attack, you can look at your daughters drawing or the object around your wrist and think that you're over-reacting and sink back into that stage where you are no longer panicy. You're allowed a drink or two, you're 25 for Heaven's sake, of course you can have some. Don't think what people will think about your mothering skills, because you know deep down that you're a good mother to your child and possibly other children to come. Why not try anti-depressants or soothing music which will calm you down. It'll take time but I'm sure, if you want to stop feeling this way, it'll help relieve some of the anxiety.
Best of luck to you!
x Steph x
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All is not lost. There is really a simple explanation for what is going on with you. You are among those (Myself included) who are chemically sensitive. Believe it or not, the alcohol is one of the contributing factors to your anxiety. I haven't had a drink in about 20 years. I quit drinking before I became addicted to it and so there were no problems when I quit. My mother (when I first quit) would tell me I was boring. She's a functioning alcoholic. No one else thinks this of me. I'm a lot of fun and I tell people that it takes 7 drinks for them understand me! I can go in any bar without wanting to have a drink. I'll order grapefruit juice or soda water with lime. The fun thing about this is that the bar tenders usually don't charge you for this or when they do it's only $1.50 and then the rest of the night is free refills. I usually tip them $5 and anytime I go back I am treated like royalty at no charge (but I still tip). The problem you may run into is when you go to a party. People are so entrenched in alcohol that they want everyone to drink. They are pushers so to speak. They will say something like, oh just one drink won't hurt. Simply stick to your guns and don't drink. Eventually you will feel so much better. Alcohol also contributes to depression. Now the chemical sensitivity that you are experiencing is due to all the chemicals that have been put into your processed foods. MacDonald's and other fast foods should be kept to a minimum if at all (I recommend not at all). But start out with slowing down with it. There is no way I can go into the integrate details of they types of foods you should eat here, but I have included some websites that will go in more detail for you. An alternative is you could go to a doctor and get medicated. I am opposed to this method frankly. The medications have all kinds of side effects, it will cost you tons of money and your body builds up a resistance then you eventually have to go to another kind of medication. This becomes a vicious circle. In the long run, you don't really feel much better. I've gone both routes. This is why I highly recommend the nutritional route. If you choose the nutritional route it will be about a month or so before you start feeling better. You may even feel worse for a few days. This is your body detoxing and getting rid of those harmful chemicals. Just bare through it and you will be so much happier. Good Luck to you!
Namaste,
LULABELLE
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