Hey my names Chrissabelle and I love giving advice. I always have. Most of my friends call me Chrissie but really like to be called anything. Well... :p I really would like to be a psycologist when I get older. I love listening to other people, I've always been a good listener and I love to help people to the best of my abilities. I love being with family, hanging out with friends, ice skating, and tennis. I also love to laugh and have fun. Who doesn't? Honestly I just am a really happy person although I can come off really serious to people who don't know me which really sucks. I haven't been answering advice for a few weeks because of numerous reasons but now I'm back and so glad to be able to help everyone again. I really hope I can guys =) That's about it so ask me anything, anytime you need advice and I'll try to help you as best I can!
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we known each other since december 5..at that time i broke up with my ex & i met him..first we friends..i told him about my ex,,like how i feel,why we broke up,..he listened & try to ease my pain.he really good guy.but we had long distant realationship. but we ok.now he had base in hawaii.he in marine corps.now he in hawaii.we mailing each other,chatting everynight,made a phone call each other.but 2 weeks later,,he said he crushed on me..i said that too early to say that because we haven't meet regularly each other...& i can't believe that.after that we haven't talk each other,,because of me because i didn't contact to him.i missed him all days,i really missed him at X-mas.i sent a mails to him.i didn't make a phone call cuz i afraid.but he in my mind always.after that we contacted each other again,,but i think he don't have any feeling for me{lately..i know he really in to me}i called him at new year day..at 4:00 Am..because we had a different time zone.when i fell to sleep he left the message on my phone{i kept that till this day}we still talking each other..but the last 2 days ago..he blocked his account..dunno why,,i try to visit his palce this summer..because he have to deploy in iraq again in this ocotber..that why.now..i don't know what to do..because he didn't care about me anymore{in my opinion}I think i love him but i can't..because..i had a experience with my ex..{i told him i loved him but he goes away}..that why i afraid.I love you do you think that word can save me?plz...tell me/..my pals told me to tell him how i feel about him..i afraid he laughing at me. (link)
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Hey. I would definitely tell him how you feel about him. If you don't you may be letting true love go. He may feel the same way about you too and if you don't tell him how you feel, you may never know. He may be too shy to say anything or he may be worried that you don't like him, just like you're worried. You both will feel guilty if you don't tell eachother how you feel so be the first to initiate it. I really hope this helped you and good luck! =)
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does anyone know of a catalog that has an almost identical style to gypsy moon only with alot cheaper prices (link)
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You're totally right about that I just love to help people, ratings don't matter. Sorry I couldn't have helped more. I just feel it's cruel to give people such low ratings when they're trying to help. Best of luck finding help, I wish I could have!
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I am 28 now, graduated from high school 10 years ago. I am taking part in planning our high school reunion and I was looking through my old yearbooks, for phone numbers and stuff. I came across a note from a guy I always knew was in love with me, but he was a nerd so I never gave him a chance. I was good friends with him, when no one was looking. I always kinda had a crush on him too, but could never go there. I remember him writing this note, but I guess I never really looked into it.
Here is what he said in 11th grade:
"Well, what a crazy year! It went by too fast. By the way, the reason why I didn't go to the prom was because I didn't know how I could handle seeing you with your date. Oh well, I have to live with that now. I'm sure you kow my feelings about you. But I know you just want to be friends. I can handle that. Until then, see you in my dreams. Your Imzari, Rob"
He never would tell me what Imzari meant, and of course none of my friends knew. And this was before you could just look up anything on the internet :)
Here is what he said senior year:
"I really can't say anything more. I guess I have already said it all. See you in 20 years. Love, Rob"
I spoke with him maybe twice since then. We have both grown up and got married. I am happy, but I do sometimes think of him.
I looked up what Imzadi meant today, it means soulmate, beloved, first. It's roots are in fantasy but it's conception is in the soul. How deep is that?? Oh my god, it made me cry! I think that's the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me!
My question is, what do I do when I see him? I want to tell him that I was sorry for letting my social status get in the way of how he felt about me and how I secretly felt about him, and I want to tell him that I looked up the word Imzadi and I know what it means. We are both married, and I am happy- I am not looking to leave my husband or anything, I love him. But I am wondering if it is appropriate to say those things, or maybe I should just leave it alone. Maybe I should just give him a hug and say how happy I am to see him. I really do want him to know that I am sorry, and that I looked up that word. I just don't want to cause any problems.
What do you think???
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Hey. Wow that was really touching to read =). But anyways, this guy obviously really loved you and he probably still thinks about you from time to time. I think it would be really nice to give him closure and tell him how you feel. He will be so happy to know this rather than always feeling like he was the guy who wasn't good enough for you. Now, I'm not saying you made him feel this way at all but I just mean that when you like someone so much and they just wanted to be friends (which is totally ok), he probably felt that way. I would tell him that you really did always like him and that it made you cry when you looked up that word. He would really appreciate it. Obviously I wouldn't do this around your husband or his wife because as you know they wouldn't understand why you were doing this =). Anyways, I think it would make him feel really good if you told him all this and gave him closure. It will probably make you feel a lot better too! I really hope I helped and good luck! =)
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ok there is this guy i really really like but im not sure if he likes me he is sooo funny and cute but there are other people that like him to but he doesnt even give them the time of day so i started talking to him on myspace but he never answers back every time i see him or talk to him i get butterflies in my stomach im not the prettiest girl in the bunch but im definately not ugly people tell me im pretty but i dont think i really am so i was wondering what i could do to make him notice me more i would also like to know from guys wat they look for in a girl PLEASE
HELP!! by the way im 13 and female (link)
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Hey. Well if you want to stand out towards this guy try just try to be nice, friendly, and outgoing. I wouldn't go to any extremes of changing your clothing or hair because he may just look at you as cute for trying to do something like that. Although, if it makes you more confident, go for it! A lot of times guys don't even realize this many girls like him and he may just consider them all friends in his class or something like that. I wouldn't get nervous around this guy because he probably doesn't even realize what an item he is (sorry for the use of words heh heh). But anyways, he probably doesn't always answer you on myspace because a lot of times people really don't feel they need to answer you. They're probably just pleased you commented them in the first place and there are so many things to get distracted by on the internet that they never think to answer people all the time. Who knows he may secretely like you too, you never know. I really hope this helped you and good luck! =)
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i am only 15 so i cant get a job anywhere yet, but i need money and babysitting doesn't rake in enough cash! ive tried other things like petsitting and plantsitting but its still not enough. help me! -poor (link)
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Hey, I'm only 14 but I have the same problem. Certain places Will hire you even at 14 though. Two places near my house hire fourteen year olds and even more hire 15 year olds. Not many, but some. I know that McDonalds definitely hires 15 year olds, this play place thing near my house hires 15 year olds (if you have any place like that near you). I'm assuming Burger King if McDonalds does too. Also, try to look for a little neighborhood joint or a place run by a family because they're always looking for extra help. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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I go to a school OBSESSED with sports.
We win everything, every sport..you know. Anyway, people take gym wicked intense. I dont know why? I have never been a gym fanatic, being a girl. This semester, I have to play volleyball and I cant. Literally, I am so bad! I cant even hit it over the net and I duck when the ball comes towards me. Any advice on this and how to make it seem less like I cant play? Laughing with my friends isnt working, its just making me look like a flake. But not being able to play well is embarassing. (link)
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Hey. I completely understand where you're at. We played volley ball in 7th and 8th grade and I rarely could get the ball over the net. But I laughed it off to myself because I know that not everyone is good at certain things. We're all different. Some people are great at science, others hate it. I love english, some people hate it. I think you get the point =). Anyways, one day at volley ball I really wanted to try and do well so I set my mind to it and looked really hard when the ball was coming to me. Then I thought, hey it's not going to hurt me because everyone else goes right to it and they're fine. So I put my hands into fists and I just tried to aim for it whenever I could. Even if you still miss the ball people will respect you and be happy that you tried so hard. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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Ok so i told my best friend that if she starts "talking" or going back out with a guy named Jay that i wouldnt talk to her anymore.
And the reason i told her that is because for one, he is rude to me and is an asshole to me.
2nd reason is when jay and my best friend went out they fought almost EVERY day and when i tried to have a conversation with her, ALL SHE WOULD TALK ABOUT WAS THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER AGAIN.. about how they fight abt the same thing. and i got sick of it.
Third reason is that he changed her attitude towards me and more importantly her parents.. he would get mad that she couldnt hang out like everyday (because she has strict parents) and so like he would make her go ask her parents then she would just end up gettin in a fight with her parents bcause she wanted to hang out with him. (and this happen almost every day too)
4th reason, they only knew each other like a week or two and he kept tryin to do stuff with her and she wouldnt.. and he WOULD get soo mad and start a fight about it almost every time they hung out bcause she wouldnt ever mess around.
anyways i confronted her about all this and finally i sayd well if you want to go back out with him then DONT TALK ABOUT HIM AROUND ME... and seriously i dont want her goin back out with him because i know its goin to end up the same way.. but i want to know if i am doing the right thing and if i am not.. then what should i do and what should i tell her? (link)
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Hey. This guy sounds like a complete jerk and I completely agree with you first of all. You're being a nice friend for caring about her this much. Rather than tell her "I'm not going to talk to you if you go out with this guy" explain to her the reasons that you told Advicenators rather than acting angry about it. This way she won't think you're jealous or something or she may go out with him on purpose if you act like you're restricting her. Tell her that you really think this guy is hurting her relationship with her parents and her friends (you). Also tell her that this guy is hurting her too for making her do things she doesn't want to do. Just tell her that you're really looking out for her and that if this is what it takes you'll find her a really nice new guy to go out with. This way she will feel less paranoid all the time about hanging out with you and being with her family. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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So im the type that always gives all my friends advice and now im the one in need.
My boyfriend and I had a fight 2 days ago.
And he emailed me saying he loved me and he was sorry.
And i dont want to lose him.
But im scared maybe this might be it.
what do i do?
I need him. (link)
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Hey. Well if he e-mailed you and apologized than you're definitely not going to loose him because it sounds like he really likes you. That's a nice guy to apologize like that. I would talk to him about it in person so you can clear it up and everything will be back to normal =). This way you can see how he feels and I'm sure he wants the argument to be over too if he apologized. Just talk to him about it in person and everything will be back to normal. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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i am 15 year old boy and about 2 months ago my friend gave me pot. i had some and since then i cant stop. im addicted to it and i dont want to tell anyone because i would totally be busted. my dad would find out and i would be dead. but i really want to stop because i no its bad for you but now, whenever im not high, i feel like crap. and my girl friend is trying to find out whats wrong and i want to tell her but i dont want her to turn me in. help (link)
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Hey. There are probably so many people in your family that care about you. Your girl friend too. When you said your dad would kill you for taking pot that's because of how much he cares about you and would never want anything to happen to you. As I always say it takes 30 days to develope a habbit. You have to just put your mind to stop taking this pot because you will become seriously ill or you may even die. Please just day by day try your hardest not to think about it and it may be hard for a while I'm sure but pretty soon you will feel better than ever now that you stopped. Think of how much pain the people who love you would be in if something happened to you as you're trying to quit. If you stop it will benefit them and it will benefit you too. I really hope this helped you and good luck! =)
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I have two best friends and now everything is changing between us. We all three have boyfriends. Amy is always like her boyfriend and I never get to hang out with her anymore and when we actually do get to talk it's always about her boyfriend. Andrea, my other best friend is not as bad its just I dont want to lose them. My boyfriend seems to be not interested in me or something. He never calls me to hang out and then always has an excuse. He would rather play videeo games, or cheat on me I guess. (he is known for cheating). But I dont know what to do because if I break up with him then I will be by myself at school with no one to talk to because my friends will be with there boyfriends. (link)
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Hey. If your boyfriend never wants to hang out with you and is always cheating on you he is a jerk that you don't deserve. He's probably making you even more depressed that your friends have good relationships with their boyfriends and yours is a jerk. I'm sure you can do much better then him and I would definitely break up with him. Find a nice guy that treats you right this way you'll have someone to brag about to your friends too. Just kidding. =). Anyways, right now your friends are probably so happy to have boyfriends (like you were at first) that this is why it's all they ever talk about. Give it time and this will wear off. I mean of course they'll still talk about them but probably not as much as they do now. Please find a guy that will treat you right too! I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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Okay, so I'm a 14 year old female. There's this guy in one of my classes, and he's a junior, so he's probably 16-17. Since the beginning of the year, he has always paid "special attention" to me, like teasing me and stuff. I even recall a while back in October-ish, I was walking in the hallway afterschool, l and he was with his friend, and he stopped to talk to me for no reason at all. Back then, I thought he was kinda hot but never seriously considered him as a potential bf because a guy 2 years older than me having a crush on ME? The notion was impossible.
But as time went on I noticed more and more hints being dropped by him..for example, he always holds open doors for me and makes a huge scene of it "HERE, [myname], LADIES FIRST!". And when any of his friends try to talk to me, he instantly turns and stares at me. Whenever I talk to HIM, he stares right at me and gves me this huge grin.
Now, he's always like looking at me in class, especially when I talk to any guys. But I don't know if I'm just imagining the signs or if he teases me just to look cool in front of his friends. Or maybe he's just a friendly guy.
Oh, let me add some more details about us, I guess. I gave him a present over christmas break (it was just a card lol) and he seemed to really like it, he had this big smile on his face. And he's always telling me how nice I look. Also, I'm the girl he talks most to in class (this isn't much though, because there arent a lot of other girls in the class and all the girls are freshmen) I expect HIM to tell ME if he likes me or not, because he's a junior, and if I say no to him (which I wouldnt), it shouldnt be a big blow to his ego. But he keeps on dropping hints that he likes me as something..more. That's where I'm getting confused. Luckily there's a winter formal coming up on the 9th that he can ask me to AND valentine's day 5 days later. Think I should ask him to the dance?
oh and there was also this time in December, when we had free time in class and him and his friends were talking about THE basketball game of the season, and suddenly the guy turned to me and asked me if I was going. I told him I wasn't, and he asked, "why not?" Of course, me being STUPID and MISSING the hint, I said "i'm kinda busy," when I really wasn't (i was completely and totally free!!), because I was embarassed at being singled out like that. If i were smart i would've said "no, because I can't get a ride". and he mightve invited me to come. sorry it's so long T_T (link)
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Hey. From everything you've told me, from an outsiders point of view it is Very obvious he likes you A lot =). I would definitely go for it and ask him to the dance and I think he would definitely say yes if your positive you're the only girl he does this with. So yes he likes you and yes I would ask him if I were you. Just be careful because a lot of times older guys use younger girls. Now he may be the nicest guy ever so you can't listen to me but just be careful. I really hope I helped and good luck! =)
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I have a deep fear of germs and getting sick. Even the thought of catching a regular cold drives me crazy. I was my hands for 10 minutes, and at school, I wear a bandanna that covers my nose and mouth to help keep the germs away. I mean, hey it's not my fault that kids at my school go swimming in 10 degree weather over the weekend, and then catch a cold. Basically Everyone is sick at my school ALL the time.
Some of my teachers get mad at me when I wear my bandanna, but if they make me sit next to, talk to, and help out sick people, why shouldn't I be able to wear it? I'm not going to get sick because of one stupid person. Last week, I skipped alot of my classes just because I sat next to sick people in them and I don't want to get sick. Mainly because I just started working out, and if I'm sick, I won't be able to work out. (yes, working out is REALLY important to me.)
Now my question, I guess my question is, is there anything else I can do from getting sick? Any healthy tips that you can inform me on? (Besides obvious stuff like washing your hands.) Do you think the bandanna is a good idea? I've actually considered wearing a surgical mask but then people would think I'm even weirder.
Also, how possible is it that I'm going to get sick if I sit next to someone sick, for about 45 minutes every day? (Keep in mind that I'm wearing my bandanna over my nose and mouth.) ANY advice you have would be helpful because I'm flipping out right now. (link)
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Hey. Now I'm completely NOT saying this to offend you because everyone has something. But it sounds like you're a germaphobe which isn't a bad thing at all. I know many people who have this. You can't walk around with a bandanna over your nose of all of your life because it's not healthy if you're this paranoid. Sick people is just like anything else. It would be like avoiding walking under lights above your head so they don't fall on you, or not going swimming because you're afraid you'll drown. If this was the case we would all be walking around in bubbles =). Everyone has to get sick once in a while, it's only normal but you're not going to catch something every time you're near people or people who are sick. Please trust me on this because I really want this to help you =). As for ways of preventing getting yourself sick, drink lots of orange juice and take vitamins. Also you have to get lots of rest because a good nights sleep always prevents a cold. Eat healthy foods like salads and such. Those are the main things, and like you said washing your hands. But please don't go around walking with a bandanna on your nose every day because the average person gets a cold Tops once every three months which is actually a lot. I really hope this helped and if you need anything else feel free to send me a message. Good luck! =)
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i was thinking about my pasts relationships, and they're all with boys i didn't know really well. like, we were "companions", but right now, i like this guy who is like one of my best guy friends. and it feels completely different. so i was wondering. would you rather go out with a companion or a best friend and which do you think lasts longer and is just a better relationship? (link)
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I think a best friend would be a better relationships. The person you're with shouldn't be a companion but someone who is like a best friend. Someone you can talk to and laugh with. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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theres a guy had a crush on me in like september..i think he still likes me cuz he like flirts with me and stuff but not as obvious as he used to so i just want have someone else's opinion if he still likes me. (link)
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Hey. If he's still flirting with you he probably likes you A lot. He's probably backing away a bit because he's getting intimidated that you don't feel the same way or by the fact that you're not flirting back since you may be intimidated too. I would just keep flirting with him and show him that you really like him too. I really hope I helped and good luck! =)
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Okay, so I'm confused when to use an ice pack or a heat pad if you:
Sprain something
Pull a muscle
Muscle ache
Cramp
Feet hurting from walking too much
From wearing heels
From uncomfortable shoes
AHH!! I just don't know when to put what..help? (link)
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Hey, I just looked this up online. I found this website which should definitely help. http://www.trimlife.com/newsletter/new/11192004/helpfulhints.asp It pretty much answers all of your questions about ice and heat so I really hope I helped! =)
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okay, so heres the deal. i always know when im about to get a sore throat, i feel my throat acting weird a few days before, and i get chapped lips. well i got that sign yesterday and its a little worse today, but im not totally sick yet. i have something important to do saturday, so i need something to stall my sore throat until late saturday or something. ive been drinking alot of orange and grapefruit juice for the vitamin C and ive been using chap stick for my lips and everything. i need something to stall/eliminate this cold or whatever it is, so please, if you know anything that will help let me know asap. home remedies are great also! early answers are appreciated
THANK YOU! (link)
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Hey. When I have a sore throat I do the same as you, drink LOTS of orange juice which helps a lot. Get lots of vitamins in. Drink hot soup which will soothe your throat and honey may work too. Also, try eating really healthy. Something like a salad. Lastly and very important is that when you have a cold you have to get lots of rest! Go to bed early and try to sleep fairly late the next day. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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How do you get a guy to notice you that doesnt know you exist? (link)
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Hey. I would try to keep saying hi to him whenever you see him. Smile and be really outgoing. Then one day bring up a class you both have in common or something like that and he should really like that. Try dressing your best (as you may know) and one day slip him a note or something about how you feel. Or... you don't have to go that far but write about how funny you think he is or something. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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Hi. I'm wanting to get my fiance a necklace for our anniversery. Its really hard to describe what I'm looking for. A lot of guys have them and they come in silver or gold. Its like a chain sorta. Its sorta fancy. Sorry I can't describe it any better. If you have and idea what it is or any ideas at all for what I'm looking for please let me know.
Thanks (link)
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Hey, first of all that's a really nice necklace. Do you have a jewlery exchange place near your house? It's like a place with a ton of different jewler vendors and you can bargain for prices. I know this sounds kind of bad but it's actually like you're putting more effort into it by finding a wonderful necklace at a great price. I really hope this helped at least a little and good luck! =)
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My friends really make me mad! They say that if I bring my boyfriend to the dance that there not going to go. Thing is, I really like him a lot and we have been dating for like 4 months now. Should I let what they say affect my decision or not. Im so confused and I feel like crying!! Nothing even happened between them. They just do not like him. I asked them why and they said they dont know why but they just dont like him. (link)
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Hey. It sounds like your friends are a little jealous. If they don't understand how much you like this guy than that's really not nice of them. I would talk to them and tell you how much it's hurting you because you really like this guy. If you really like this guy take him to the dance. It's not right that your friends are making it this awkward for you. They should be much more understanding and I'm sure if you tell them how much this is hurting you they will understand. If not than they're not good friends. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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THe guy I like asked me to my high school's Winter Semi-Formal. I'm very happy about it, we have so much fun together. The only problem is that i don't know how to slow-dance with him? How do i do it without looking like an idiot? I want to be close to him because i don't want to look like I just came from middle school. HELP! (link)
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Hey. I completely understand how you feel. Just try not to step on his feet (as you know) and kind of move back and forth. I hope this helped a little and good luck! =)
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