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Emily prefers to be called/a.k.a em,emz,lili,mimi,lee or emi
13 from England living in Spain - loves; giving advice, making friends, music, photography, the color pink&more ..
hates; racism, terrorism, poverty , animal testing, cockroaches, darkness, sluttyness, being tired


♥MUSiC
+ : r&b
+ : rap
+ : hip hop
+ : reggaeton
+ : slow jams
+ : acapella
+ : pop


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msn&email :: myxboo@hotmail.com
aim :: siimply x emily
yahoo :: emilys0tempted


advice

Okay my friends b-day is coming up and i want to give her a mix CD well I duno how to get the music. I know how to make the cd and everything. but is there any sites where i can get the music to put on the site?? thanks so much i rate high

www.winMX.com
winMX is really good, there's no advertisements with it or anything and it's pretty easy to understand. By the way, you don't get the music from the site it's self you have to download the software obviously (like with Kazzaa, iMesh, e-Mule etc..)
♥Em

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i'm 14/f.. me and my ex.. zack.. went out for 3 months and 6 days in 2003.. then we went out over christmas break for like 4 days and he has a gf right now.. he dumped me during christmas break for her because he missed her. well i miss him so much! i cant stop thinking about him and i smile when he talks to me. when i look at him i feel sad though because he was a lot of 1sts for me. 1st time lying to my mom to go on a date with him, 1st time making out at the movies, 1st time holding hands, 1st time having his arm around me, i know.. pretty pathetic but i miss him! i'll always have feelings for him but i want him back, he knows and he was kind of weirded out because i talked to him and.. well.. he wasnt weirded out but he thought it was.. odd and so i told him i was over him but i'm not.. i dont want to tell him though.. i know i cant get in the way of the 2 of them.. but i want him back!!!!! but then i have like.. side feelings for other guys and they like me back but they dont want to go out or anything.. its weird but i need help! if you want to ask me specific questions you can IM me on msn ( sisofasoldier23@hotmail.com ) or aim / aol instant messenger ( xoxo pink rosez ) thanks!!

plus. he was my 1st boyfriend and my 1st love..

Try sitting him down on his own and telling him how you feel ask him not to be freaked out or anything but he means alot to you.
If that doesn't work and he still wants to be with the other girl then there isn't much you can do but keep working your charm to try and win him back.
Good Luck, hun.
♥Em

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This isn't really a sexual question, but it involves my genitals, so I figured this would be the best place to ask.

My labia is very irritated, itchy, and sometimes downright painful. I know it's not an STD, because I haven't done anything that could give me an STD. It's a bit like a rash, but I wouldn't call it one, it's more like irritation. Sometimes, I'll put vaseline on it, but it doesn't help much and not for long. It's a sharp, burning pain. It especially hurts when I'm forced to touch it, like after I use the restroom, or if I have to insert a tampon. Again, it's just my labia (inner and outer, mostly inner), not anything else, really.

Anyone know what it is/how to relieve it?

It could be a yeast infection. You should definatly go to see a doctor to get it checked on. If it is a yeast infection and it something isn't done against it it can effect your chances of having children later in life.
♥Em

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I've been making clothes for myself for a while and Its so much fun...but I can't think of anything to make. So I was wondering, does anyone have any good do it yourself clothes ideas?
domo arigato to all!

If you're making your own clothes, I already know you full on rock =P haha
Anyway, if you're running out of ideas go through magazines and see if you can put outfits together from there but giving them your own personal touch. You can buy plain tank tops and stencil/screen print your own stuff on them.
I found a tutorial for screen printing if you want it ( http://www.livejournal.com/community/craftgrrl/3674467.html )
Hope I helped
♥Em

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hey im 15 and never had a boyfriend, and not even kissed someone, and all my friends have! i dont hang around with any guys, so how can i meet a guy?
thanxz for the help
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Hey hun, don't worry about not having had a boyfriend yet, it's normal and loads of teenagers your age have gone through it even though you probably don't think so.
But try being more outgoing get to know some of the guys in your classes or around your area. Once you've got to know them a bit start hanging around with them around school/your area/whatever
&good luck =D
♥Em

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alright.. well me and this guy started talkin one night for the first time, and ive always thought he was super hot so i thought i would go ahead and start talkin to him for the fun of it.. so when we got to talkin it ended up he thought it would be a good idea to do soemtihng together.. and we did.. and we kissed and did stuff together.. and then spent the next liek 3 days together (this was during spring break)and yes we were all over eachother .. so i thought i had a decent chance and he told me adn other ppl he liked me.. BUT there is another girl, and he is at the movies with her right now, and this is an ex.. and she still has feelings for him but i dont know if he feels the same.. and i really thought i had a chance with this guy.. and he made it seem that way to but now that that other girl is back in the picture i dont know what to do.. its competition with her.. and i dont know what to do to win him over..? :/

Talk to him and ask him about it.
Tell him you thought you had something going on with him or whatever and see what he makes of it.
To win him over, well, I don't really know how you could win him over at the end of the day it's his choice who he is going to choose.
Just talk to him first and don't jump to conclussions nothing might've happend between them maybe they were talking about getting back together, trying to sort out there differences or whatever.
Good luck
♥Em

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I recently found out that my boyfriend drinks. Every fiber of my bones is completely and utterly against drinking and alcohol. I hate it like you would not believe. My dad was an alcoholic and my best friend died from drinking and driving a few years ago.

I love him. I really do. I care about him and beg him not to drink. But he tells me he knows his limits. He says he doesnt get drunk just "tipsy". The other night he went out with a few of his friends and they played drinking games. He didnt tell me about it but his friend did.

I feel lied to. I feel betrayed. I know it's his life and he can do as he pleases. I dont want him to think Im trying to control him. But I dont want him to die either.

Help me. Should I leave? Should I stay? How can I look past his drinking habits?

Tell him how much it means to you that he stops drinking. If he doesn't stop drinking maybe you guys can come to an agreement as to how much he should drink.
He may feel controlled by it though so you must let him know that you're not trying to control him that you're just scared of losing him after everything you've been through that happens to be drink related.
As for him lying, I don't think it's a biggie. Talk to him about it too, maybe it has a good explaination. He might not of wanted to tell you because he didn't want to worry you or he didn't want you to flip out on him even though that's not excuse to lie he might have a good explaination for it.
Good Luck, hun.
♥Em

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Well hi I really need help. I saw this guy that is my frinds friend and we r going out. Then one day when we were at dinner he told me that he is a crossdresser. Ya no not a guy that dresses like a girl, a GIRL! that dresses like a guy! I was petrified! I didnt know what to do. I mean im in love with a girl, now I felt dumb that I was d8ing a girl the whole time. She keeps on calling trying to apologize but I dont want to pick up! What do I do?

Wow, what a situation.
I think you should be honest with her. Tell her you can't trust her anymore since she lied to you about something so huge and that you feel uncomfortable about it. Avoiding it is one of the worst things you could do just be honest and maybe you guys could be friend. Although me, personally, I'd be freaked out so much I'd feel weird being friends with her haha.
I doubt you were actually in LOVE with this girl or else you wouldn't of cared what sex she was ;] you were probably in lust not in love. Meaning she atracted you.
Good Luck, hun.
♥Em

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Hey you guys!
MiSSc here, OK so here's an update from me...I have a boyfriend now and we've been going out for a month. He asked me out on Valentines Day too. I love my boyfriend so much!! He's everything that I wanted in a guy. Exactly everything that I've ever wanted in a guy! I thought I was in love many times before, but now I know that it wasn't true love. But this time I think I finally found the one for me, even my mom thinks so and our friends too. But I'm only 15, we will both be turning 16 soon. Do you think that its possible to find love so young?

Congrats! =] That's great!
I belive you can find love at pretty much any age over 13-14 when you actually know what you're talking about, by the sounds of it you do know what you're talking about and you seem mature enough to recognize when you're inlove.
So yes, I think it's possible that you can find love so young.
Good luck with your boyfriend :)
♥Em

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okay well my best friend is always telling the people i like that i like them!! and she's always mean and like, yeah you have no friends, haha im just kidding! and then she says that the kid i like, matt, would never like me. and its really annoying.

And my other best friend is ALWAYS up on the guy i like. and if i stop liking them, she loses all interest. its REALLY annoying.

Talk to them both, tell them how you feel about it and if they continue to be inconsiderate and make nasty comments and such then you really need to think about whether you really think these girls are worth all the hasle.
I mean there's people out there willing to be your friends and actually listen to your problems and try to help and support you where as these girls are just trying to spite you by making nasty comments.
Think about it.
Good luck, hun.
♥Em

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ok so i like this guy from work...and he obviously lieks me back...he flirts all the time and he asked for my number.is it bad to date someone from work...i mean i dont even know if it would get that far...im just asking for furture referense...i read the code of conduct or whatever for my job..and they say you can date ppl from work but you have to tell the "big boss man" whoever the hell that is..and he has to give you persmission or sumthing weird liek that. But just in general is it wrong to date someone from work??

Well people always say it's a wrong mixture, work and relationships aparantly don't go together. You're up for a challenge though, right? =P You should definatly try to prove whoever said that wrong and go for it.
Give it a shot, what's the worst that could happen?
Go on a friendly date or something and if it goes further then go with the flow.
Hope I helped&good luck
♥Em

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A few months ago, I fell for my friend, we went out and it was really great and all. At first, I didn't want to go out with him because we were such great friends and I didn't want that to change. Now, since we broke up, we never talk and he always talks about me behind my back! What can I do to help change this? Pleass help me!

Catch him alone one day and try to talk to him. Tell him even though things didn't work out between you guys that you should stop fighting and become friends again. Let him know you don't want to lose him as a friend and that whatever he has to say badly about you he should say it to your face. You don't need anyone talking about you behind your back.
If he continues to talk shit about you and doesn't want anything to do with you have you've talked to him then the only thing you can do is keep trying or leave him to get on with his bullshitting.
♥Em
- Good luck.

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okay, my best friend started dating my ex, which is no big deal cuz i don't like him, but he is a major stoner and its really starting to change her. she tried smoking for the first time, and about 2 weeks ago we went to the movies, and afterwards they went to the skatepark / a couple ppl and i went with, but since the stoners label me as a "prep" they wanted me to leave so i left w/ my friend rachel. I've tried talking to my best friend about how she's changing and just when things were good again she goes and ditches me to do that. she told me she'd chose me over him anyday, but she's not proving it. what should i do? ~*Tammi*~

Talk to her about it. I know you've already tryed but insist again.
Sit her down and tell her how you feel about it, if she flips out just explain how you're looking out for her and if she doesn't listen there isn't really much you can do unless you want to grass her up and tell a parent or someone you can trust to see if they can help.
Whatever you do don't get in to the same shit she's starting to get in, if she wants to ruin her life it's fine but don't be dragged in to it.
Still, even if she does want to ruin her life like I said, explain to her how you feel about it and maybe she'll see some sense
Good luck, hun.
♥Em

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this is my proplem my crush asked out my best friend and i really like him this guy is my ex he has been my boyfriend 2 times he really likes my friend so what should i do assk him out or what?

Hey hun,
If your bestfriend already said yes and they are dating then I wouldn't tell him how you feel, I know it sounds harsh and pretty hard not to let your feeling run wild by telling him but it really would be the best thing to do imagine he was your boyfriend and your bestfriend came along and told him that she likes him. You'd be a bit bummed, right?
If they aren't dating then you should go for it and tell him before they do start dating. You never know, he might change his mind and want to be with you but then again he might not. Whatever you decide to do, don't get your hopes up because if in the end you tell him and he still wants to be with your bestfriend you're going to be totally bummed.
I hope I helped&good luck
♥Em

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i have these jeans that i want to put rinestones on. what kind of glue should i use???

Cute idea (:
Fabric glue, they should sell it at any craft store near ya'
♥Em

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Is it true that sperm dies once air hits it??

Don't quote me on this because I'm not 100% sure but I'm pretty sure it takes a couple of hours at least.

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this is kinda gross but does anyone know a good way to keep your armpits dry? i have even tried mens deoderant...i need something stronger HELP

That's probably genetics, you can go to a doctor and they can perscribe you something for it.
♥Em

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is it just plain wrong for a 15 year old straight male to babysit?

Course it isn't!
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Oh god, help! My friend Michelle is getting raped as we speak. I already called the cops. The worst to know if that the person raping her is Danny and she's lettting herself! Rada and I heard it while we were talking to her on the cell phone. Oh god, Rada is bleeding and I'm afraid that he might commit suicide because he told me never to forget this day. I was like ok. I'm crying right now and my arm is bleeding loads and so is Rada's. Oh god, help...please...what can I do to make her stop everything?!

First of all, stop making shit up. Becuase if you were really in that situation you wouldn't take the time to come on here and type all that.

Oh and next time you make some shit like that up just to let you know that next time when you say ''SHE'S GETTING RAPED'' don't say she's letting herself, because if she's letting her self it ain't rape.
♥Em

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I have so much going on in my life right now and i feel like i dont have anyone to talk to and i found out all the people i thought were my friends are just using me or are just jerk and my family is always fighting and my parents are divorced and i had to live up to all these high standardands and i cant get over this guy ahhhh i dont want to go back to my bad habits...drinking...drugs...cutting...any of that can you please help me

First of all don't do anything stupid. There's no need to risk your life over assholes who were supposed to be your friends or over anyone.
You need to get away from your so called friends and get out there and find some real friends. Join an after-school activity, really easy way to make friends or just go on a friend hunt one day hehe =P.
As for your family you could try talking to them, taking them all out to try and sort things out or just let them get on with it.
About the guy if you's broke up you just need to forget about him there's plenty of fish in the sea.
I hope everything goes well, hun.
If you ever want to talk you can IM me on siimply x emily
♥Em

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