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okay, my best friend started dating my ex, which is no big deal cuz i don't like him, but he is a major stoner and its really starting to change her. she tried smoking for the first time, and about 2 weeks ago we went to the movies, and afterwards they went to the skatepark / a couple ppl and i went with, but since the stoners label me as a "prep" they wanted me to leave so i left w/ my friend rachel. I've tried talking to my best friend about how she's changing and just when things were good again she goes and ditches me to do that. she told me she'd chose me over him anyday, but she's not proving it. what should i do? ~*Tammi*~
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You need to tell her straight up,"either you are my friend or you aren't". Ask her if she really thinks he is always going to be there for her like you have. No guy can replace your bestfriend, and she needs to know this. And if she still doesn't listen then you need to think about yourself before you get caught up in anything bad. Goodluck hun! ~natalie~
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Time for an intervention!!! Talk to her!!
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Umm, yes, she has proved it. She's smoking pot, and once you start theres no stopping, no matter what someone says. If she told you she'd choose him over you, then say something very crude to her in return and drop her as a friend. Potheads aren't worth fighting, and they're nobody to be friends with. So boom. No more best friend. No more shroom mongers. End of story... <3 EJ
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Your friend would probably pick you over her bf but that doesn't mean she can't try new things maybe she was just cuious. It may not be just her bf thats changing her. Everybody changes, but just keep talking to her. She probably wants to talk too...if she has tried talking to you try to be really understanding..don't just say what she did wrong. hope i helped
p.s. maybe what she needs to hear is that you will still be her friend no matter what she decides to do!Make sure you mean it tho.
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Talk to her about it. I know you've already tryed but insist again.
Sit her down and tell her how you feel about it, if she flips out just explain how you're looking out for her and if she doesn't listen there isn't really much you can do unless you want to grass her up and tell a parent or someone you can trust to see if they can help.
Whatever you do don't get in to the same shit she's starting to get in, if she wants to ruin her life it's fine but don't be dragged in to it.
Still, even if she does want to ruin her life like I said, explain to her how you feel about it and maybe she'll see some sense
Good luck, hun.
♥Em
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