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Q: is it bad to pop your knuckles? Some people say it is and others say it isn't...

No it is not don't believe what those bastards tell you! They are lying! They are really alliens out to get you! Run! Hide! PUt on your foil hat!
X~NAT~X

Q: When I walk in my bathroom, theres always poop on the toilet. I think my dad does it because my pets don't use the toilet. LOL. I know it's gross but how can I find out who is doing this. (It's not my sister or my mom either.) HELP!!!!!!!!!!

Excuze u! I do not like to use the word poop so would you plz call them brown torpidos. and I don't think that it is your dad, I think that you are just 4getting to wipe after the last ones. one more thing, I purfur Charmin ultra.
GLOOP

Q: is it possible to be to "nice"? like here is an example: i can't tell someone they are annoying cause im afriad it mite hurt their feelings... or ... i can't hang out with more than one friend (that's a girl) cause i think i might ignore one of them... it bothers me sometimes
(i rate high)

Let it all out. You will feel better.

Q: I hate my column colors, their getting old. Anyone have any cute colors that go good together? Other than Pink/black. Right now its pink/black/baby blue and I want something different. I rate 5's if you try! =)

suck a monkeys bannana

Q: my best friend is ditching me for her boyfriend, hes basically taking my place and i feel like she just wants to be with him and doesnt care about me anymore.. and i was wondering if anyone knows any songs, quotes, or lyrics that might have to deal with something like that.. or does anyone know any good quotes about life or changes

Lifes a bitch then you die. Get over it before I stick a needle in your eye.

Q: Ok...im 14 and i have been made fun of since 4th grade....everyday i get called gay and it just makes me feel terrible...and i dont know why they do it ...i make good grades and im a good person... i jsut would like to know what to do...

I WILL BE YOUR FRIEND. WRITE BACK TO ME!
x~NATALIE~x

Hello you should visit my collumn and write me I want you to be my friend!

Q: Well, I was best friends with this girl (lets call her A), and then me and A started hanging out less and now we don't hang out at all anymore. She even has another best friend now. How do I get her back to being my best friend? I rate high!

Try to talk to her when she is alone,or maybe call her and ask her why she isn't hangingout with you anymore and if she is being nice about ask her if maybe she wants to go to the mall or the movies or just hangout. And maybe even bring her new friend along too,(if you feel comfortable with it)because you never know, you may all become really close friends. But there is no saying if she will change her mind or not, you can't make someone be your friend they have to make that decision on their own. I wish you the best of luck! ~Natalie~

Q: okay, my best friend started dating my ex, which is no big deal cuz i don't like him, but he is a major stoner and its really starting to change her. she tried smoking for the first time, and about 2 weeks ago we went to the movies, and afterwards they went to the skatepark / a couple ppl and i went with, but since the stoners label me as a "prep" they wanted me to leave so i left w/ my friend rachel. I've tried talking to my best friend about how she's changing and just when things were good again she goes and ditches me to do that. she told me she'd chose me over him anyday, but she's not proving it. what should i do? ~*Tammi*~

You need to tell her straight up,"either you are my friend or you aren't". Ask her if she really thinks he is always going to be there for her like you have. No guy can replace your bestfriend, and she needs to know this. And if she still doesn't listen then you need to think about yourself before you get caught up in anything bad. Goodluck hun! ~natalie~

Q: Hey you guys!
MiSSc here, OK so here's an update from me...I have a boyfriend now and we've been going out for a month. He asked me out on Valentines Day too. I love my boyfriend so much!! He's everything that I wanted in a guy. Exactly everything that I've ever wanted in a guy! I thought I was in love many times before, but now I know that it wasn't true love. But this time I think I finally found the one for me, even my mom thinks so and our friends too. But I'm only 15, we will both be turning 16 soon. Do you think that its possible to find love so young?

Yes you can find love at any age. But sometimes you may also feel that you are inlove when you really aren't. Time is the only way to tell,so give it a while and see if yoou still like him as much a few months from now,because there is a chance that you may not,but I am not the one to say if it is love or just lust. So take it slow and see where it goes. ~natalie~

Q: ok so I think I'm starting to like this guy! He's a really good guy who isnt into drugs or drinking or anything like that; i love it! AND i think he's beginning to like me too. Ya know how you can just kind of tell? Ok well the problem is he just broke up with his gf of 1 1/2 YEARS!!!!! I love that he can commit for that long and all but... well I hung out with her this weekend at a party and we got along really well. She's the sweetest person but shes tough and funny... if that makes any sense? Well I was talking to my other friend who is better friends with her than me, and she told me that the ex gf was still really protective of him or whatever. The Ex is going to beat up anyone who trys to get with him, even though she is all over every guy!! I know it sounds like their relationship might not be over but i think it is!
WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!

If you really like this guy then tell her that. Tell her she is your friend and it matters to you if it will bother her if you ever got with him. And if she dosent want you to then do it anyways and if she tries to fight you kick her ass! But most likly it won't go that far.
~Well goodluck~

Q: My room is purple. I have a couple things hanging from the cieling an a really cute bed spread. I want some more ideas on how i can make it more decorative. Like what kind of stuff i need on my walls mostly. What colors i need, and stuff like that. i have carpet now, but i want hard wood floors. shoudl i get a light colored wood, or a dark? shoul di put a rug over it? a small on in the middle? or just leave it uncovered? I have no idea what to do i just want my room to be really cute. Please make any suggestions, i could use ANY help that you willing to give weather its a little thing or big.-->ME!

I have a purple room and hard wood floors,and a medium or dark wood will looke the best. As for the things on your wall i would say you should put up black and white pictures of your favorite idol, Like I LOVE Marlyn Monroe and I have black and white photos of her with black picture frames. It Looks really classy but still really girly. And you can do it with any of your favorite actresses of singers.
~Well good luck!~

Q: dear nat, hey wuz up? this aint a love life question, but it is a question, what is your favorite color and just in case u r wondering who this is, this is me, cassy!and it took me long enough 2 find this thing

I dont really have 1 favorite color I like Red,blue,black,pink,silver. But hey how long are u going to stay at your moms? Well love ya bye!!!

~NaTaLiE~

Q: I weigh about 131 pounds and I'm 5'4 (I'm a female) I'm kinda curvy, but I would like to weigh around 115. Is this seriously a realistic weight? If so, how should I go about losing the weight in a healthy manner?

Yes it is very realistic. And really shouldn't be very hard. You could start going to the gym and working out. If you can't afford to pay money to go to a gym all the time, then I would suggest buying Tybo on DVD or VHS. It is really fun and gives u a good work out. As for eating I would say just eat healthier and if you can get some diet bars or shakes to replace your usual breakfast,lunch,or snack. Also get hard candy and gum that doesn't have much sugar in them. They really help when you have cravings to eat something sweet, just suck on some candy or chew some gum. Well GOODLUCK and let me know how everything goes.

~Natalie~

Q: Ok. Well There's 3 Boys that i really like, the one i like the most, has a girlfriend, so i guess he doesn't count. But i still really like him, i also like 2 other guys, and the one asked me out, and i like him, but not as much as the one with the girlfriend, but he has a girlfriend, so i dont know if i'll ever get him, and the other dude, i just found out likes me. What should i do ? Sorry if this post is kindah confusing. ! *`' .

HAVE THEM ALL!!! JUST DONT GET CAUGHT OR THINGS CAN GET PRETTY UGLY!!!!!!
lol
NATALIE

Q: I don't know whats wrong with me. I've been with my boyfriend for about two years now. I really do love him, and I know he loves me even more. But lately I've felt like things are just kinda drifting between the two of us. Like- it's not how it used to be. I feel like a jerk too because when I ask him if he's been feeling different lately- he always says no and that he never would ever think of breaking it off with me. Then I feel stupid for thinking things aren't working out. I know I love him, he's the cutest guy ever and he treats me pretty good. I am happy with him, but then why am I feeling like something isn't right? Am I just thinking too much or what!? Please, whats my problem?!

You are just getting bored with the relationship. Try to make things a little more interesting. Like try new and exciting things that neither of you have done be 4. And I am not talking sexual,(unless you feel like that could help.)
WELL GOODLUCK!!!!!!!

NATALIE

Q: ok my boyfriend and i had oral sex. i fell like i have betrayed everyone and now i dont know if i was ready. is this normal?
Thanks
Lauren

Yes this is normal because you are not used to doing that kind of stuff with anyone. Eventhough you may not feel quite right don't take it as a bad thing. Take it as you learned a lesson before you actually had sex with him, because you would feel a lot worse if you weren't ready and were pushed into that. But I also say you should talk to him about it, it will definitly help you feel beter. GOODLUCK!!! Hope you feel better.

~NATALIE~

Q: I was going out with this guy that i like a lot. He's perfect in my eyes, and i am in his. we were perfect for each other and things were great until my cousin got involved. she's a little more "advanced" and he likes that. he doesnt like her like her at all, but he wouldnt mind getting some. i felt like a bad gf because i wouldnt do that stuff but he understood. anyways, things eventually didnt work out, and i broke up with him. now, hes going out with someone that i used to be friends with. all of my other guy friends talk to him and say that he still loves me, but he has a gf so i dont see how thats possible. i really wish he did because i still love him a lot. so anyway, we flirt a LOT, and lately ive been more in love with him than ever. i dont know what to do because i dont know if he still loves me, or if hes just leading me on. it seems as though he still has feelings for me but i dont know how to tell. what do i do? i really want them to break up, but i dont want them to until he really does still love me. any advice? i'd rly appreciate it. i dont care how incoherant your reponse is, i'll rate you a 5.

No you are not a boyfriend stealer he was yours first. And if there is even the smallest sign he still likes you as more then just friends, then he probably does, Don't be afraid to ask him straight up. Most guys like when a girl is confident enough to talk to him and not be fake about it. GOODLUCK!!!

~NATALIE~

Q: Ok, this is a pretty basic question, but does anyone have any really good organizational tips for school and also study tips along with that...they kinda go hand in hand! I RATE VERY WELL:)

Okay the first thing I would tell u would be to have all the supplies you know u will need. It is really helpful when it comes to getting everything done without having to borrow or share your friends. Second get a planner.They are amazingly helpful when it comes to organizing things and knowing when and what to study.But not just the planners they give you at most schools, get your own personal one. Third pay attention in class and you will have all the information you need.
Goodluck!!!

NATALIE

Q: okay so i have this friends hes really nice to me and we always have fun together and laught and we talk on the phone for hours and just have a good time but he always gets mad at me for the stupidest things! and when ever he does something mean to me then he like completly ignors it and is like "shut up" or sumthing like that and then he laughs and acts like its no big deal. and like he always ditches me for some one more prettyier or more popular and when ever hes with them he like ignors me! wut do i do?!? am i oo nice for letting him walk all over me like that?? am i a push over!?!? idk wut to do please help soon

I know people say this alot but it is because it is true, Tell him how you feel. Tell him that it is hard to be friends with someone who blows you off. Tell him that you really admire his friendship and don't want to loose it, but he should give you the same respect u give him.
Goodluck!!!!!!!!
~NATALIE~

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I love sprots,writing poems,going to school to see my friends and my crush, watching movies, music, dancing, singing, drawing, partying, and just being me and doing what I wanna do. I am a pretty independant person, I don't depend on anyone to get me the things I want, If I want something I will work to get it myself. I try my hardest to help others the best way I can. And my family, my friends, and God are very important to me. No I an not a phsyco religous person I just have much faith in God. You can ask me anything and I will try my best to help you.
~NATALIE~