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Hey, what's up? My name is Annie.

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ok so im desperate here. im 14 going 2 have my 1st kiss on wednesday. it is currently sunday night so i have 3 days to get rid of this cold sore. it is almost gone! you cant pop it because it looks more like a scab now. im taking about 4 lysine pills a day (thats how many you can take) and 2 little bottles of the liquid lysine. i am using every medicine i can think of on it. lip balms, liquids, creams. and i put hot tea bags on it. ive had it for a week or maybe 8 days now. please give me something that will work :)thank you so much for the advice

I found a very hepful site with treatment options:

Home Treatment: http://www.emedicinehealth.com/cold_sores/page6_em.htm

Medical Treatment: http://www.emedicinehealth.com/cold_sores/page7_em.htm

Best of luck :)

I'm grounded for the whole summer....im always in my room im not aloud out only to use the bathroom and eat....what r some things i can do in my room...p.s i have no tv and im not aloud to see my friends and the only reason why im on the computer now is cuz im at work! HELP!

I agree. You really should tell us your age. It'd help with us giving you a usable answer. I'm guessing you're older than 16 so I'll give you advice based on my assumption.

I would suggest read. Ask your parents if you can at least get some books from the library or maybe stop by the library on your way back from work. Have you ever heard of the Uglies trilogy? I highly recommend it. The books are Uglies, Pretties, Specials, and Extras. They are very, very good.

On the other hand you can always write.

http://www.wikihow.com/Find-Things-to-Do-While-Being-Grounded

http://www.wikihow.com/Find-Things-to-Do-While-Being-Grounded

Best of luck :)

Hello
So I have a new job and it's a waitress , and i'm really stressing out. I would like to know what are some key factors to keep in mind when you waitress someone in a big hall.
Thank you

I found some great sites that might have the advice and tips you're looking for.

These are general tips you should keep in mind:
http://www.thriftyfun.com/tf487219.tip.html

http://www.make-better-tips.com/waiter-waitress-tips.php

For waitressing in a formal setting (like a hall):
http://www.ehow.com/facts_6173854_job-description-banquet-waitress.html I would look at the requirements from this link and make sure you have them. It'll make your job easier.

Best of luck :)

Hi, not sure if this is the right category but im looking to get my second tattoo. First is a swallow. Now, I want to get writing on my side. I was thinking something like "a broken nest can still create beautiful wings." Or "A broken nest created beautiful wings." I just want it to mean that a broken home, or past, does not need to dictate your future. I want it to show that I made it through the broken times and am happy with who I am now and can fly :). Does anyone have any ideas about how to make this quote better in any way, or any other sayings that would mean the same thing?

any suggestions could be helpful, thank you!

I actually really like the first saying you had. "A broken nest can still creat beautiful wings" I think it shows exactly what you want it to mean and it goes great with your first tattoo. It's a cute idea and I think it'll work fine. Just be careful with the font you choose.

Best of luck :)

im on vacation after losing about 15 pounds and im really stressing about gaining the weight back. im currently in cali for the week. usually at home i run every day but here i have only run twice out of the 5 days ive been here. i try to do some ab work and pushups in the evenings but i still dont feel like im getting a workout in. im busy allk day at the beach and stuff so thats why i havnt been working out very much. pretty much all my meals have been food from restaurants and such. ive done all my research in advance and know what healthy low cal options there are at these food places. im not eating any more then 2000 calories a day and usually am only eating about 1000. my technical daily caloric intake for my height and weight is 2400. i eat more calories at home. my question to you is A. do you think that i will gain a significant amount of weight while on my week long vacation because i am not working out as much. and B. could i still gain weight because im eating restaurant and fast food even though i am not eating too many calories and am really looking for the healthy things on the menu.

i just dont want to go home from vacation and people to notice that i gained weight.

I honestly think you'll be fine. It seems like you are taking lots of steps to prevent yourself from gaining weight and it should work. I think what you should try to do if possible is just load up on your fruits and veggies because most restaurants add so many things to their dishes that the fruits and veggies don't have many nutritional value. Also take runs on the beach. Running on the beach actually makes your body work more than if youo were running on say a treadmile. SO it'll be more benefical and more of a workout.

When I went to Cali this summer I actually lost weight because of all teh walking I did. I was surprised because I ate (like you) restaurant type foods most nights (I was also very careful like you were), but I think all the walking I did helped.

Best of luck :)

how can you tell if i guy is not into you
and how can you tell if a guy is into you

If he does: http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Guy-Likes-You

He does not: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/419980/signs_that_say_hes_just_not_into_you.html

Hope that helps :)

Well, I've done it again - under estimated how much sun I was really getting today. I thought I was mostly in the shade, but when I got home tonight, I realized I got another bad sunburn. (Even with sunscreen, though I didn't reapply it as often as I should have).

In the past, I've tried aloe gel, tea baths, yogurt, lotion, and honey. They soothe momentarily, but don't last and don't really help the healing process. I'm currently using BananaBoat Aloe After Sun Lotion, but I've got so much on and I'm so burned, the lotion refuses to rub in anymore, so its just kind of sitting on my arms/shoulders/back.

Does anyone have any home remedies or products that can help soothe sunburns, and make them heal quicker? Also, is there anything I can use on my face? My forehead burned pretty badly, but everything I've ever used on my face before just burned and made me break out. Breaking out with a sunburn is certianly not fun.

I'd really like a "Miracle Breakthrough in Sunburn Healing technology" if at all possible! I would love to find something that soothes and speeds up the healing process.

Thanks!

This summer I've helped entirely too many of my friends with their sunburns.

First let me direct you to some helpful sites that will suggest different treatment options you can try.

This site has many options though some seem a little too ambisious for me: http://www.natural-homeremedies.com/homeremedies_sunburn.htm

But I'd say this site is the most helpful: http://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-and-treatments/tc/sunburn-home-treatment

The treatments thats worked the best for my friends are:
-Taking cool showers often. You have to make sure they aren't super cold at first because it hurts more
-Take a cloth and dunk it in cool water and place it on your sunburns. The cooling effects of this and the shower heal the heat in your body from the burns.
-Aloe vera. You have to be careful. A lot of other lotions contain fragrances or other ingrediants that irritate the skin. You need to be sure you are applying natural creams made specifically for sunburns.
-Wear estrememly loose clothing
-Pain relievers work great with the pain

Best of luck!

yes i had a question about my period mine last for about a week. And my cramps are relly bad what can i do for them?

On this site you can campare your symptoms to see how bad your cramps are and then treat them accordingly. It's really helpful and contains many treatment options so I suggest you read it: http://www.medicinenet.com/menstrual_cramps/article.htm

This site contains home remedies for menstrual cramps like using hot pads on your lower back or warm tea. http://www.homeremediesweb.com/menstrual_cramps_home_remedy.php Often time these treatments with pills make cramps bearable.

If taking the pills suggested in the site above or anyother treatment doesn't work, you might want to talk to your doctor. Birth control pills might be an option.

Best of luck!

i looove jansport bookbags. but do they sell any with a burberry or fake burberry plaid pattern? i REALLY need one or something cute! or a sequin bookbag! if anyone has ideas can you leave me a link? easy five points (:

Well I browsed through some site looking for patterns similar to the burberry pattern and I found this to be the most similar:
http://www.bodypunks.com/product.aspx?brand=Jansport&browseby=brand&sku=T5015YM

I'm sorry that I couldn't find any more :/

ok so i really need to have a serious talk with my friend(soon to be girlfriend) but everytime i try to talk with her about this i either et really nervous or she pretends she doesnt know what im talking about and if e don talk about this im not going to be her girlfriend how do i work up the confidence and tell her whats going on inside my head

Well, it would help if you have your thoughts straight before you talk to her. Why not type up a letter just to write up soem thing you might want to say. This way you can be clear on how you feel. By doign this, when you talk to her you'll be able to be more direct and won't be tounge tied as much. I think doing that will really help you and you should try it. And also, sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and conquer your fears. Another thing that might is talking to her in a place you are comfortable in. SOme place where you guys can have privacy and not many distractions so you can focus and get to the point.

Best of luck!

is non-iodized "refined" sea salt okay to use to clean piercings? what is "refined"?

I think it would be ok to do so. Here are some helpful tips on cleaning your piercings: http://www.wikihow.com/Clean-a-Body-Piercing

Here are the differences between refined salt and unrefined salt: (from this site http://www.alkalizeforhealth.net/Lsalt.htm)
Unrefined salt tends to be off-white or gray in color, whereas refined table salt is bright white. It's prettier.
Unrefined table salt tends to clump in the presence of moisture and be unusable in shakers. As for table salt, what's the slogan for Morton® Salt? "When it rains, it pours."
Since unrefined table salt tends to clump in the presence of moisture, grocers and suppliers have to eat the cost of salt that has to be pulled from shelves when it becomes unsellable. Not so with refined salt that doesn't clump. In other words, refined salt is more profitable.
Refined table salt has added iodine to make up for the nutrients lost in refining.

Hope that helps!

Im christian but I was researching islam & they seem to be very similar, and i think islam may seem more true. I read that christians believe that mohammed was a liar about being a messenger, but isn't that what happened to jesus?, didn't people think he was a liar about being a "the son of god" ?? I think that islam may seem clearer & makes more sense. & how can christians say there is three "????'s" in 1 god? I'm starting to think that christians are hipacrits, & now I feel like one & i feel stupid around muslims. i'm really confused. & i bet christians would get mad for me thinking this, and if they do, it just makes them seem even more hipacritical. i think that a lot of christians are in the wrong state of mind. & they don't believe in evolution which is very ignorant because its highly misunderstood, its simple, god created life then life evolved. & the evidence is houses and furniture from old times because you can clearly see that people were tiny back then & have evolved, which thy don't believe

Well, I'm Muslim.

Chirstinaity, Islam, and Judaism are all very similar. This site will help you see the similarities and differences: http://www.religionfacts.com/islam/comparison_charts/islam_judaism_christianity.htm

If you think that Islam is more clearer then I can be bias and say you are right. However, you have to figure it out for yourself. The best way to do that is by researching more into the two religions and understand where they are coming from.

You don't have to feel like a hypocrite. Everyone has their own beliefs that appeal to them. There is nothing wrong with being drawn to another religion. And you shouldn't feel stupid around Muslims. Learn from their good by following them and from their bad by avoiding it.

If you would like to talk to me some more please don't be afraid to shoot me a question. I would be more than happy to help you out in any way I can. Just know that it's ok to be confused and that things will make sense if you work hard and when others help you. :)

I have a really bad stomach ache it's because i have my period. It really hurts, any suggestions for relief?

The best thing in my opinion is using Ibuprofen and a heating packs while you are laying down. That's what I use.

for the past 2 years, ive been liking this guy in my class. once he found out i liked him he stopped talking to me completely for the rest of the year (which was like 8 months) and that hurt me pretty bad. Before this we were cool with each other but then he heard that i liked him, he treated me like i had a sick disease. i also had my friend pretend to do a fake interview with him so we can learn his interests. he found out about that which also contributed to him treating me like some kind of stranger. I even apologized for that and he still acted like he hated me. He hardly talked to me that whole year. So anyway a couple of days ago, i saw him and he actually talked to me as I was walking in the opposite direction. He only said hi let me remind you that this is the first time he tried to start a conversation with me in a long time. He pretty much shouted it as if he really wanted my attention. Is this a sign that he's over what happened last year and actually wants to be friends or something? thanks for the answers
p.s please don't criticize me for blowing something as simple as "hi" out of proportion

I think that before maybe he got freaked out and didn't know how to react to your crush. But, perhaps he has gotten over it because it has been that long. Maybe you can try to give him more attension now that he's giving you attension.

Best of luck :)

In xoxo which ones are the kisses and which are the hugs?

According to most sources, "o" means hugs and "x" means kisses, however, some believe that the symbols "x" and "o" are reversed, with "x" meaning hugs and "o" meaning kisses, although this interpretation is seemingly less popular. I guess it's up to you to decide :P

so i broke my right ankle (gruesome story), and now im in a wheelchair, and ive been doing quite a bit of upper body physical and occupational therapy. Now I have sever joint pain in the elbows, arm sockets, and shoulders as well as my right leg cramping up (i have been training in a walker as well)
The vicitin (if it is spelled right) can only help for so long and they are trying to ween me off.

What are some things i can do to releave pain?

Well, I did some research and the best way to relieve that pain aside from pain relievers is to simply take a bit of rest if you can. I mean that's why you are having pain, because you are putting so much strain on it that it's not used to. If you can rest and not have say move around as much that would be ideal. But seeing as you may have work or school, you might not get too much chance to stay in bed all day (plus you might not want to). Heat also provides fantasitic relief. If you can soak in a tub with a bit of rubbing alcohol and warm/hot water it will really relax your muscles. If you can get someone to massage those muscles, that'll help a lot. It'll help relewase some of the tension you've built up. ANother idea to strengthen those muscles. There are some stretches you can do to help relieve the pain. Here are some sites that migth be helpful: http://factoidz.com/exercises-and-stretches-to-relieve-elbow-joint-pain-elbow-tendinitis/ and http://www.joint-pain-solutions.com/shoulder-pain-relief.html

It would also be a great idea to keep your doctors on par with everything going on. I know they are takign you off the vicodin, but you can ask for some alterantive ways to relieve the pain.

I really hope that helps and hope you have a speedy recovery!

what is the thrid eye?

Do you mean "Third eye?" If you do, then check out this link: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_eye

Hope that helps :)

i found this guy on facebook. he's so cute and i want to meet him really bad. we have like 10 mutual friends. would it be weird if i friend requested him and then started talking to him? and like what would i say? not to sound conceited but i'm a pretty girl. so what would is ay? i don't want to sound desperate and/or creepy. thankyouu.

Why not first ask those 10 mutual friends what kind of guy he is and if they think it's ok. I mean if they say he's nice then why not. Atleast this way you'll find out if he's creepy or not, lol.

I turn 15 on August 23rd and i wanted to look for a job. I live in Illinois so i dont know if ill be able to find one. Anyone else live in illinois doing the same? please respond D: i really want/need one

Unfortunately many places don't hire people less than 16 and even 18. The best jobs for you to find would be the ones you can manage on your own like babysitting or mowing the lawn. I know this is probably not the answer you're looking for, but I just want you to know the facts. You can also ask around like with your family or relatives to do chores for extra cash.

I hope that helps and best of luck

What do i do if this jr likes me and im a freshmen my moms fine with it but my like going crazy.....?

If your mom if fine with it, then you don't have much to worry about. If you do go out with him and such just let some people know where you are and what you'll be doing. That way if anything happens they know your whereabouts. Also, keep a striaght head. Think before you do anything and make sure you are okay with what is going on.

Stay safe, have fun :)

Best of luck

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