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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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Okay my problem is that my mom wont give one of my best friends a chance!!! My mom thinks just because Nicole** (**name has been changed) is just a lil different than my other friends that I cant hang with her! Ive asked many times to go out with Nicole but my mom continues to say no because "theres just something about her..out of all the people who call you, shes the rudest" hellloooo she (my mom) dont even answer the phone most of the time! I DO! Ugggghhh! is there ANY way to convince my mom that my friend isnt all trouble, even though she may be?

Explain to your Mom, that Nicole is YOUR friend, not hers. Tell her Nicloe is not bad, and even if she was, you are not and you won't do anything stupid.

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OK well I was in Science yesterday and we were taking a test and for the end of the test we had to go to these stations so this kid.... "A" was a little faster then me and so he was at the stations first so he finished first and I sit next to him so when I came back he asked me out, and ive only been asked out 1 time before and I kinda freaked out and just said no without really thinking about it and i wasn't totally sure if he was serious and now I do want to go out with him but my problems are I don't know how to bring it back up and i'm not sure if he was like kiddin or something please help!
~AHHH~

Have a friend ask him if he was for real. If he was, then he will probbaly try again. Or if he was serious, you can just ask him if he wnats to go out yourself.

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hi i seem to have a guy problem.. not that i cant get them lol but u see i've been used my guys b4.. for my looks... im not being conceited but im pretty. like guys and my friends tell me im so pretty n stuff all the time. how can u tell if a guy is just using u or is really into u?
thnx

The sad thing about this, is most of the time you really can't tell. Guys can be minipulative little jerks when they want something. they will act like they freakin love you, and then diss you when they don't get what they want or when soemthing better comes along. You just have to keep trying, but don't give a guy all of your trust at the beginning so that if he does dick you over you won't be hurt.

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ok well there are always people sayin all this crap about me and i dont know why i havent done nething to these people and i dont know what their deal is. 4 ex~last night i was at the Fball game and i walked by a group of people that i used to go to school with i dont know them that well, weve nevr hung out and i havent done anything to them and well when i walked by they were all like ewwww get away from us and they began booing me and my friend and oh, thats not all.my friend,N, asked me to use his cell phone and my batt. had gone out so i was like sorry my batter is out and his friend comes up to me and goes "ur a f---ing hoar and im gonna beat ur @$$" and all for no reason i mean this guy probably doesnt even know my name!! How can i learn to not care or git these people to stop their trash talk!! PLEASSSSE HELP ME!!
~*sOrrY sO LoNg!~*
-emily-

You will never be able to stop people from trash talking. Thats what the morons who have nothing better to do with thier lives do. Don't feel bad or take it personla, they are the ones with the real problem not you.

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i dont like my bro he is soo annoying.I love him but he always wants to copy me.He steals my cds and everything else of mine. PLease don't tell me he is looking up to me because I've heard that advice before. When we're in the car he'll do anything he can to annoy me i hate it. Please help me get this kid under control!

Honestly, he probably does copy you becasue he looks up to you. And as for him doing everything in his will, to annoy you, well thats just what brothers do. he will grow out of it. but it won';t hurt to pop him in the ehad every now and then when he really gets to you. :)

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okayy i usually wearr likee a shirrtt with my boobs hanging out and my stomach showing.. or a shorrt skirt with a shirt that pretty much coverrs my stomach with my boobs poping out .. is that wrong should i lett guyss havee to wonderr and like wunt to find out whats under it all .. or is it better to keep dressing like ido

Its okay to dress like that sometimes, like if you're going out somewhere or something. But don't dress like that all the time. It gives people a bad impression, and you are right, you should leave what you look like underneath to guys' imaginations.

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Hi. I dont know if this is the right subject for this but o well. Neways, I am allergic to cats but i was around one today and instead of sneezing and stuff I break out really bad around my eye. Now my upper eyelid and a lil below my eye is really bumpy. I have a meeting with someone later tonight and I need to do something about it. I REALLY dont want to cancel but I might have to. Please help me n tell me what I should do. Thanx.

yeah you might have to cancel. what you have might be contageous. you definitely should go see a doctor.

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I have this friend that i went to school with last year and now that we've moved on to meet new people in the school year, this girl started to get her into business that she doesnt need to be in. now alot of my new friends cant stand her and i think shes okay, but i tell my friends that she is still my friend no matter what they say. i think they are a little uneasy about that mostly because they are scared to lose a friend or something. not they they dont trust me or anything.
Please help me with what to do. Thanks!

It is good that you decide to stick by your friend no matter what. That shows you are a true friend. if your other friends can't understand that, then oh well! Just make sure you let your friends know that just because you ahve a friend who does some unapproving things, doesn't mean that you will too.

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I really dont know what category to put this under but anyway.... i started my period in July and my boobs aren't big! I mean i atleast want them to be a size B!! I am 13 years old! But do you think they will grow? **help**
P.S.-I rate high! ;)

July was only like 2 almost 3 months ago. trust they will grow, it just takes time. You are only 13, just relax.

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xXxPinky615xXx here,

I am getting annoyed with people saying "Do not delete this question!" If you're afraid it's going to get deleted then don't post it! If you've seen the question on the site before, just use that advice instead of asking the same question that we've all seen 50 million times on this site. Ex: I think this boy/girl likes me. How can I tell if he likes me or not? Seriously guys... it's annoying. Another example: I think my boyfriend/girlfriend is cheating on me. How do I tell? Honestly, if you go through all of the pages you will see those same questions asked about 5 times on each page! ENOUGH!!

Thank you!

It's true... but you aren't really making a differnce. you are just complaining.

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Ok...my friend Abby has major problems. She's always telling everyone shes fat when shes only 100 pounds!! We are 13 and also she used to cut herself. She passed herself out in the shower and she got a big bruise on her back. Her mom is always in jail for doing drugs and her mom had a mixed baby! Abby lives with her grandparents... and they dont take her seriously when she says that shes Depressed. I tell my mom everything she tells me and my mom is really trying to help her and my mom even looked up people to help her...do you think we are doing the right thing by helping her? or should we let her deal with her parents? please help my friend! i will apprecaite it soo much!

yes you are doing the right thing by helping her. Her parents won't be able to help her, they are probbaly part of the reason she is the way she is.She obviously has an eating disorder if she is 100 lbs and thinks she is fat. And even worst she is suffering from self mutilation. She needs to get some serious help, before she hurts herself.

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I live in this small town and everyone is all in everyone's buisness(well the adults are). Anyway, I have big dreams and I really like to accomplish those things. I'm a little smart and people seem to detest me at my school because, I don't get on my hands and knees to try to please them. I have a rule for myself and that rule is to trust my instincts and I really stick to that rule at times. I'm content with who I am , and I am independent . Last year I was friends with a guy and he had a girlfriend . He told me the most ridiculous things about his family, and the thing is that I always stuck with it (although I am in doubt). I support my friends. Last year, I liked this guy, and we used to look at each other and court other people to make each other jealous, but he did that the most. He became popular and became a jock and all, and he's really good at manipulating situations, I guess because we both play chess . Anyways, he goes with another girl and when I saw them together, it stung . It hurt and there's days that I feel as if I'm over him . Recently , I've been wearing make-up and that friend with the most ridiculous things to say- says I needed to take it off but others just stared and gawked at me . Everywhere I went eyes followed and the guy I like looks at me just when I have my head turned . I saw him do this in a mirror . I need tips on how to get over this dude, and why people don't like me . I'm not stuck up. Also, why's my guyfriend acting like a jerk towards me and why can't he be happy for me ? He has a girlfriend . My friend said it was because, he couldn't keep his eyes off of me . Should I stop the make-up thing to save our relationship ? Well, thanks and by .

Umm... you're independant? right? Well why would you go and stop wearing make up juts to save your friendship? That would be against everything you stand for. Do you. If you feel confident in that makeup then thats all that matters. Your friend should stick by you with this new thing you are doing just like you stick by everything he does. if he can't do that, then he is a messed up friend. I don't know why people don't like you. Sometime when a person is very independant and carries themself well, it intimidates people. So maybe they don't actually dislike you, they just don't understand why you are so mature and the only way they can deal with that is by choosing to "dislike" you. Very imature, huh? But this is not a reason for you to go and change your ways. Your ways are good. Stay straight and stand tall, don't change yourself for anyone. People have to like you for you, and if they don't... oh well! And as for that dude you can't over, don't worry, you are still young, you will get over him, these things just happen with time, everything is a process.

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If you are wearing Navy blue corderoys (sp), a turquoise and silver and black belt and silver and black and blue shoes what color shirt should you wear?

The belt and the shoes are fine, but don't wear the navy blue corderoys. They don't match. Wear a pair of jeans instead, preferably light denim, and either a turquoise or black top.

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I've lost track of how many friends I have, let's just say it's a lot. I'm really glad I have all these awesome friends and everything, but I feel really lonely a lot. I mean, I can place my friends in categories, church, current school, old school, and oldest school, dance and riding.

The thing is my dance friends. Dance is my life, literally. I get depressed when I can't go, I dance anywhere from 2-4 days a week, and we have a show coming up pretty soon. My 3 very best friends are from my studio, but all 3 of them live up by the studio, and I live on the opposite side of town. I talk about them at school quite a bit, and it makes my school friends crazy. I've tried to generally stop talking about dance this year, and I think it's working.
I just feel like I have to divide my time with people from school and people from dance. When I dont' see my friends from dance for a while, I feel like there's just a huge part of my life missing, and then people at school ask what's wrong, and it makes me crazy. Should I just call it quits with friends at school? I'm just kind of confused.

No you should not call it quits with your friends at school. Who will you talk to hwne you are there? School is boring enouhg as it is, if you cut all of your friends off, it will be even more boring, you will be so depressed you won't even want tog o anymore. It is good to have different friends from all the different places and activities you go to. It means you are a good at socializing and people like socializing with you. Think of how people will feel if you just cut them off. You have to just find time for all of your friends. And its okay if you talk to your school friends about your friends from dance. They know you dance and those other firneds are a part of your life as well. I'm sure you talk about your friends from school to your friends from dance. It shouldn't bother either of them. And if you feel like you aren't seeing your friends form dance enough, make some plans with them outside of dance. Maybe have them go to a party or something that one of your friends from school is having. But, whatever you do, don't drop any of your friends.

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my ex-gf and i broke up a while ago and we both moved on with our lives. now every time i see her, i realize how much i wasn't over her. i'm pretty sure she doesn't like me as more than a friend, but she might(probably not). sometimes i really wish i could just tell her how i feel and win her back, but i don't think that would work. wut should i do?

Make your wish come true. No one else will be able to. Tell her you still have feelings for her, and really miss her. Now that she's gone you've realized what you lost and you want to give it another try.

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well i want to put conditioner on my hair and then sleep with it on... sounds crazy i no but i think it would help. i mean my hairs not really dried out of anything but it could prob use the shine and moisture. what do u think?
lol thanx

dont use conditioner over night. use cholesterol. that will keep your scalp from being dry and make your hair shiny and soft.

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Hey!! I am 24 wks pregnant, and about to turn 18! I just thought I'd drop by and say hey, and see how your pregnancy is doing!! I haven't really talked to anyone else my age going through what I am. I was reading and saw what you are naming your baby girl! It's a really pretty name!! Me and my boyfriend are deciding on names now, ahh!! It's crazy...but fun. Well, if you ever want to talk, I'll post my screen name!! =)

I'm doing great! Thanks! if you wanna chat my screen name is same as on here lilmia811.

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i need a good hair style for pictire day tomorrow, so i'll look good in the year book. please help.
Also whats the best way to conceal a zit?

There are people who are thinking about killing themselves in this world, and your worried about looking good in a stupid year book and a freakin zit...

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My best friend's boyfriend was beating the shit out of her.. he made her give him head in front of his friends or else he'd beat the shit out of her.. she had bruises and i saw them.. she told me about it.. i tried talking to her and him.. she tried talking to him.. it was never gonna end.. so i talked to tara (a school counsler) with 2 other people.. and we told them what we have seen and what was going on.. now she blames me.. and only me.. she said i ruined her life and she hates me.. she said that i blew it out of proportion and her lame fucking excuse for it was that he gets worried about her and then he gets angry so like when ur so angry u wanna hit someone that's what he does.. hello but am i the only one who doesn't hit my signifigant other when i'm pissed off?? i just don't know if i did the right thing.. i love her so much she's my best friend and i'd do nething for her and i just felt like this whole thing with her boyfriend was waaay out of control and i couldn't do nething more to help! i had to tell someone.. i dunno but i feel like killing myself and i dunno what to do... first i wanna go kill him.. then i'll kill myself.. sounds like the best plan to me but ya know there are people who actually care about him surprisingly and i couldn't never kill neone but that's beyond the point.. i dunno what to do about my friend and meanwhile it's throwing me in a hole i can't get out of and i just dunno what to do.. please help :'(

First off, there is no reason why you should feel like killing yourself. you did a good thing. Your friend just doesn't understand taht right now or appreciate it becasue she thinks shes in love or that this guy really loves her. When in relaity, he doesn't love her. I understand about people who have anger problems and get so frustrtaed they wanna hit people, but that is not his problem. if he threatened to beat her if she didn;t give him head in front of his friends, not only did he violate her, but he is straight up abusing her both mentally and physically. You can not feel bad for tryig to help her out. She needs to get away from that guy before she is really stuck in a jam. And, she shouldn't be mad at you, she should be mad at him. I'm sorry but she's fuckin stupid for staying with him. Anyone who choses to live their life that way, and settle for someone like that is stupid. She needs to wake up and leave him.

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i have a really bad cold and i really need to get over it. Can you guys give me some helpful tips on getting rid of colds?

Drink tea with a cough drop in it.

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