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So, I'm 14 and he's 13. Basically this boy said to my friend that he thinks I'm annoying and he hates me, I really like him a lot and he has liked me before in that way but now he hates me. I think he said I'm annoying because my friend spammed him on MY snapchat, he knows it was her now but I still feel bad.
What can I do to make him like me again? Just as a friend at least, I hate knowing that he doesn't like me as a friend 😩😞 (link)
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I am very sorry this happened,it must have made you feel awful!I would send him a text and tell him you are really sorry about your friend spamming him on snapchat and hope you can still be friends. Now here comes the hard part,and no matter how hard it is,if he doesn't respond to the apology or accept it you have to walk away and let him alone. Any thing else would be kind of weird and stalkerish and I know you don't want to come off like that. I will let you in on a little secret about boys(even grown up ones) they often want what they think they can't have. If this boy won't accept your apology then the best thing you can do is totally ignore him. Pay attention to any other boy in the world besides him! He may just decide there is something he likes about you after all! I hope it all works out!
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How do you train a puppy to walk on a leash? (link)
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I watched an excellent video recently on how to leash train a puppy. I can't remember where so I am going to try to explain. Bring some doggie treats along that your puppy really likes. Hold a treat in your hand up by your chest and make sure your puppy knows you have it. The puppy will focus on your hand instead of his surroundings so he isn't distracted by other dogs and such. As son as he finds that "sweet spot" by your side where you want him to be then give him the treat. Continue to do this throughout the walk when he is he walking where you want him to. Do this every time you walk him, gradually cutting back on the treats until he will stay at heel just for praise alone. I haven't tried it yet but it seems like a great idea!Good luck!
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I do basically all the housework - which I am totally okay with. I don't resent my boyfriend at all that I do all the day to day cleaning. He's not a lazy guy or anything, and there are lots of reasons our lives work out that way right now. If things change in the future and I'd like him to take more on, I'll talk to him about it.
But right now, I really, truly am happy just like this.
My problem is that when jobs require his input, or when he gets an attacks of the guilts and forces himself to help, he complains a whole lot. He gets cranky, he swears, he gets frustrated. There is always some sort of stupid drama about something. It's not that he cares about how the cleaning is done, it just puts him in a bad mood and it's really unpleasant. He'd be more helpful if he sat on his ass and just kept me company.
So, how do I get my boyfriend to understand that I really don't care if he doesn't clean (I know he feels a lot of guilt) but that if he does help, he really needs to calm down? (link)
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Find out the one chore he really loves to do around the house, maybe the cooking or the grocery shopping? Tell him you love the way he does it and you were were wondering if he would mind just taking over this one chore and letting you do the rest. He is probably cranky and frustrated because he really doesn\'t know how to do those other chores so well and guys really like to do a good job and be appreciated for their efforts. He probably feels like he will do all this and it won\'t meet your expectations and you will think he is a screw up. Guys think like this, really! How about it guys! Underneath all that grumpy, cranky facade they really just want to please you. If all else fails find a project to keep him busy on cleaning days! Ask him to change the oil or wash the car or something he would probably rather be doing anyway. You could send him on errands, give him a grocery list, anything that will make him feel useful while you gets things done at home. If you have a yard ask him if he would mind doing some things out there. Maybe he could start a small garden or a little koi pond, he could go out and tend these things and spiffy up the yard while you do the chores. You know him so I am sure you can find a way to personalize this plan where he will feel useful and appreciated and you will enjoy getting through your chores stress free! Good luck!
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GiddyGeezer:
Thanks for your reply. All that you wrote is correct. This is especially true: "In your brothers case I am guessing that control is the issue and watching you squirm is the payoff!" He is a control freak where money is concerned. I had no idea about this until our folks passed.
Latest is that he paid about 95% of the estate. He has been holding back the rest for expenses. In the meantime, despite our folks requesting the estate be split 50/50 between siblings (after disbursements to the grandchildren), he has decided to charge an executor's fee. Under law, he is entitled to this. I reminded him of our parents' *wishes* (sent a handwritten note by our father requesting his two wonderful children divide the remainer 50/50) and sent a copy of an earlier email where he had said he would not charge a fee.
It's such a pity that there is this tension between us. It was the farthest thing from our parents' wishes; they planned and worked hard to make everything go smoothly and amicably. (link)
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You are absolutely right, no parent ever wants to see conflict between their children. It is the most heartbreaking thing a parent can ever go through. I am also sure it was the last thing your parents would have wanted. If sending your brother a copy of your parents\' last wishes did not soften his heart toward you then I don\'t expect anything is going to. You will now have to decide if you wish to forfeit your share of the estate or get an attorney and force your brother to do the right thing. Sadly, either way your relationship with your brother is probably changed forever. To all reading this, please let this be a lesson to give your family members what you wish them to have while you are still here. Things are not always carried out according to your wishes once you are gone!
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Sorry if this gets long, but I REALLY need advice... And yes, I've asked questions about this before but this one is a little different.
Me and my friend, lets call her Amy, have been friends for 5 years now. We have a lot of differences. For example, I'm born and raised small town girl from Wisconsin and she's a more wealthy girly girl from the Chicago suburbs.
I think I should also mention that Amy's father has a drinking problem, and recently has been having a huge effect on her family as he moved out and I think her parents are getting divorced.
Amy had never treated me very well. She used to make me do stuff like eat her spit, make fun of me, rarely took my wants/feelings into account, and all sorts of mean stuff.
I stayed her friend because she was the only one who would hang out with me at the time, and I was to young and naive to realize how mean she was. Though it wasn't all her being mean, we do have quite a few good memories. Which if it weren't for those good memories, the occasional fun times we have now and her home life, I probably wouldn't be talking to her at all.
We've gotten into many fights over the years, but after a while we'd always end up friends again.
But the last few years she's gotten much better in some ways, she doesn't do a lot of the things she used to, but she still calls me dumb a lot and is still, at times, not as nice as a friend should be. She will make me do stuff I don't want and deliberately do things I hate just to make me mad. And because of it I tend to resent her.
I have another friend, lets call her Sophie. We where friends since diapers. We went to the same church and our older brothers where friends. But around middle school, we never hung out really at all, we'd say hi and talk at church activity's, but never much else than that.
But when I started doing stuff with Amy, Sophie became her friend too. And we all three hung out a lot together for like, 2 years. But then Sophie realized how mean Amy was she would stand up for me, but then stopped hanging out with us as much over time before never hanging out with Amy at all because she doesn't like Amy much anymore.
(And yes, me and Sophie did tell her about how mean she was a couple times(I remember one time in particular where she left crying, but we worked it out. But she didn't change much at the time and, as you know, is still mean on occasion.)
A few months ago Amy started this huge thing over something really stupid, I don't even remember what it was about anymore. Just that it involved Sophie(they've had their own fights in the past), and I had started to hang out with Sophie by myself more.
I remained calm and just told her that she was welcome at my house when she wanted and left it at that. For a month she barely contacted me much at all, just a few phone calls here and there to ask what I was doing or tell me about a Youtube video she thought was funny.
(I'm homeschooled and she when to public school with Sophie, so I was used to her calling me first because I never knew if she had plans, and I was never doing anything since they where basically my only friends)
After the month, her mom was having a garage sale and my mom wanted to go so I asked her when it was and told her I was coming to it, and when we went there she asked if I wanted to stay the night and I did. We where friends again after that. But we've never hung out nearly as much as we used too since.
As time has gone on since then, we hung out a few times. But I've noticed she's changed. She even cheated on her boyfriend because he 'didn't talk to her as much and it wasn't as fun anymore', and is basically from what I've seen/heard, is turning into a...sl*t. Not only in that regard, she just a different person almost. Yeah she somewhat acts the same, but she's doing stuff I wouldn't imagine she ever would.
Our interests have also differed over time and between our different personality's and how she used to/still treats me, just being in a room with her for more than a few hours drives me crazy most of the time.
When she asks me to do stuff with her I usually don't say no, but I rarely ask her to go anywhere or do anything because I don't really want to.
But because of what's happening with her family my mom always wants me to hang out with her. Even though I usually hang out with Sophie all the time.
But now to the real question.
I'm now in 4-H Club with Sophie and one of her friends that I've hung out with a few times and we often go to her farm because we are showing her calves at the County Fair in two months. But since the fair's so soon and we just started working with our cows, we have to go there a lot to get them ready for the fair.
And Sophie wants to go there with me this weekend and work with our calves and go Mud Bogging(which I've never done and I really want to). But My mom is all but forcing me to call Amy and make plans with her this weekend, even though I don't know if I even want to hang out with her at all anymore.
(I do like and care for her, but I'm sick of her behavior and attitude to everything. But I don't really mind hanging out with her, but I don't like to too much...)
But I feel like I should because of what is happening with her family and is why my mom wants me too.
But I'd MUCH rather go to my other friends farm with Sophie.
I don't like drama with conflicting plans as that has happened way to many times with Sophie and Amy. I just want to keep it simple.
I tend to hope that one doesn't call when I'm with the other one. As Sophie gets annoyed because she says Amy says she's to good for me at school and tells me about all these bad things she's doing.(Which I don't necessarily believe, but I give her the benefit of the doubt, as I could see Amy saying/doing those things) And Amy just...I don't know... half the time you can tell she's mad even if she doesn't say anything, and sometimes she'll even start things like she did before and others she'll be strangely okay with it.
Basically what I'm asking is, should I go to the farm with Sophie, or should I make plans with Amy instead? Or should I cut contact with Amy all together?
If you can I'd also like some advice on what to do with Amy in the future.... just literally ANY advice would help... (link)
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If your Mom insists that you go to Amy\'s then maybe you should just tell her everything you said in this letter. Obviously she doesn\'t understand what all Amy has put you through and feels sorry for her because of her family situation. Once she knows the truth I don\'t think she will try to force you be close friends with Amy anymore. As for you, you already know the answer. You have outgrown Amy as a friend and it is time to go on with your life and do fun things with your new friends. There is nothing wrong with taking a call from Amy or saying Hi when you see her but you are not under any obligation to do more than that. The most important thing here is coming clean with your Mom. If she doesn\'t know the truth then she is going to continue to insist on you being friends with Amy. Good luck!
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my g.f has very small hole she is 22 year old...my penis is not going in when m trying to insert...what shud i do to insert??
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Honey, if a 10 lb .baby can come out of one of those your penis is just a blip on the radar screen! Believe me it will fit! Is she a virgin? Obviously you have never had yours in there so maybe no one else has either. If that is the case her hymen(cherry) may still be intact and that could be where you are meeting with the resistance. You need to ask her this question. Make sure she is turned on before you try to insert. I am going to assume instructions for this are not necessary. If she isn\'t getting wet enough to insert then you need to buy some lubrication at the drug store. I have heard of a few rare cases where the doctor has had to preform minor surgery remove this tough little piece of tissue so if all else fails tell her to make a GYN appointment and see what the problem is!
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hello,
i met a guy 8years back...without even looking at him..i fell in love(seriously!!!)but we never spoke,he is very very silent.from then i had been loving him secretly.we two stay in different states..never met again,now after 8 years i got to meet him in a get-together..he looked at me many times but when i look back at him he turned away his gaze.this happened many times but, once he looked into my eyes continuously for say..hmm..6-7seconds..i too noticed that but pretended as though i wasn't looking at him..but i felt it was getting too much bcos if people saw him staring at me,it wouldn't look good..so i looked back at him...can u guess what happened????LO!nhe turned away "IMMEDIATELY"..and while he was leaving he dint even look at me once...this is driving me crazy can anybody please help me understand this..??thnx in advance! :) (link)
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Oh my, all this looking and pretending... I am not so sure this is love. I think it would be a far better idea to try and meet some people in the state where you live(maybe even the same TOWN) and go out and have fun! When two people really have the same feelings for each other they will usually find a way to get together before 8 years go by! Maybe you two just enjoy playing this game, if so then by all means knock yourselves out! I assume you are not hurting anybody!
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I am i girl and i am a young teen. And i am 13 . I have this friend n we watch porn together.. Dont hate. We have been THAT horny that we hump n grind, but with clothes on.. Normally. A couple of time we have done it naked under a cover , n another time we like played with each other not put our finger up just did circles around the top of each others fanny. I enjoyed it tbh n she did to but weve never kissed n we r into boys still. But i REALLY want someone to like finger me but what i would really like is someone to lick me out .. But im definitly not gunna ask her that would be embarrassing . But ive got this other friend that watched porn with me before but not full on porn . N we decieded to play dares but we didnt no what dare each other so i searched it on youtube. I wanted it to come up with like kissing but it didnt. And i havmt had my first kiss yet(emebarrassing..)But i want to be able to kiss somebody. Im sorry for being long i just need some advice so pleeeaase help me :) thankyou xxxx (link)
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I just answered a question very suspiciously similar to this one a few days ago. We wouldn\'t be trolling now would we kiddies?
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I'm a high school sophomore and the year is almost over. My mom wanted to make me a bank account but I kinda lost my student ID and I haven't gotten my permit so I can't really make one. Are there other things I can use as identification? (link)
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I am almost certain if you already had a student ID and lost it the school will issue you another one. If not, I believe most states will issue a non drivers ID at the department of motor vehicles for a small fee. You will need a birth certificate and two other forms of ID such as a social security card and a piece of mail with your name and address on it. I hope this helps!
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Feel something round like ball in my vagina what is that please.. (link)
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You need to make an appointment with a GYN and make sure everything is where it should be! You are probably feeling your cervix but you should have it checked out ASAP, especially if it is something new that you have never noticed before.
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Im at 22 year old female, from the age of 12 I have always known that I am bisexual, however recently I have jumped from lad to lad, I have also started to feel its more myself and happy flirting with the ladies, im just confused if this means im more gay then straight (link)
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Why stress over it? You don\'t have to tack a label on yourself before you go out do you! When you find someone who makes you happy then run with it!
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I'm 19 and he's 27. We've been dating for 4 months, we're in love and I can't picture my future without him. Though, I'm afraid problems will occur regarding our age difference. Not so much what people think and say, more of me worrying if it will cause problems between us.
Whenever we go grocery shopping, he can't buy alcohol with me. I can't go with him to any event that is serving alcohol. It makes me feel utterly indifferent, I have 3 more years until I can drink. That's just one problem that has occurred regarding the age difference.
I would just like know, do any of you fellow Yahoo users know of any cliche and or very real situations that can occur because of a vast age difference in a relationship? I'm not looking for relief, I would just like to know of what could come and prepare for it. (link)
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I don\'t think there will be a problem with it unless you go looking for one. If either of you place this much importance on whether or not you can purchase alcohol I am not sure age is going to be the major problem in this relationship! Are you seriously saying that he can\'t go without alcohol long enough to get through a date? And if he wants to buy alcohol in the grocery store then why can\'t you wait in the car while he gets it? I had a good relationship with a man 18 years my senior(we have two lovely daughters but sadly he passed away at the age of 57) and these things you are mentioning seem trivial to me but then we didn\'t drink alcohol, so go figure!
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Can somebody please tell me what to do! I'm only 13yrs old and I'm having a lot of white hair! I know it's because I always keep my hair up when it's wet, but now, I don't know what to do to get it back. I don't want to dye my hair, because it'll kill the hair cells. Someone help please! (link)
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Nope, that is not why. I believe a couple of other Adviceinators already explained it correctly so I won\'t bother reiterating but if I were you I would try combing some strong tea or coffee through it. That will put some color back into it without the hassles of dye. You will have to reapply it often but it works for brown hair. If you like red hair try some henna. If you are blond then does any of this really matter? The white hair will blend in anyway! Now for the dumb blond joke(You all saw it coming didn\'t you?) The Tooth Fairy, Santa Claus, a dumb blond and a smart blond were walking down the street when they spotted a ten dollar bill on the ground. Which one picked it up? The dumb blonde of course! There is no such thing as the Tooth fairy, Santa Claus or a smart blonde!
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So I'm a 21 year-old male and still have never had sex. I know it may not seem like a big deal, but the thing is I just started school at a university that is known as a "party school" where there is a lot of casual sex going around and many hot girls. I just kinda feel pressured to get into the whole party scene and the casual sex thing, but I'm really kind of an introvert. I am not bad looking or anything (average weight/average heigh), but I can't say that I'm the smoothest guy out there. I live away from campus and dont really get the chance to be around people that much. I just feel like everyone else is just having sex with random people but I feel like i need to do it with someone whom I'm in love with. (it sounds kinda lame) but i dont know, there are different parts of me that doesnt know what to think. Is this something I should be worried about? I just feel pressured and kinda like a loser for not having done it yet, especially when I am in college. Any advice would be helpful. (link)
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You worry me son! If you are this easily influenced by what the others are doing sexually then you don\'t even want to get me started about what could happen with drugs and alcohol! For Heaven\'s sake keep your own mind in your head! Maybe you could find a like minded friend to accompany you to these parties and the others will just assume you are together in a committed relationship! Otherwise, I would just make an excuse and get out. If this group doesn\'t think you\'re cool, oh well! Can\'t you just be good with that? It seems like you are mature enough already to know this type of behavior isn\'t cool anyway!
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Last year, I fell and had a concussion. After I was released from the hospital, my best friend offered for my girlfriend and I to crash with him for a while, until I was 100% again. Due to the stress of my injury, he told my girlfriend and I to just sit back and relax for some time. He has cooked large and delicious meals for us since Day 1 and he encouraged us to "get lazy".
Well now its been about a year. I have recovered and we are still staying with him. My girlfriend and I have been sitting watching TV everyday while he has cooked on demand. We have both gained about 60 lbs and started wearing stretch pants and slippers around his house, which he thinks looks bad.
Anyway today, my girlfriend and I were sitting on the couch with our feet up, each holding a bucket of chili. He comes home, sees us, pushes my GF's slippers off the end table, tells us both we cant eat chili on the couch, and screams at us to get up. Then comes the abuse. He asks if the TV remote is under my belly. When we get up, he points out the impression left by my girlfriend's butt on the couch. He then kicks us out saying we've become a couple of gluttons that overstayed our welcome. (link)
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To answer Mr. Wombat, this is trolling at it\'s finest! It starts out believable and gets more and more ridiculous as it goes on. This is not the first version of this story either! Not to worry, my plump little chili eating friends, my advice: KEEP CALM AND TROLL ON!
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My boyfriend and I are both 15 and we are both virgins. He wants to have sex with me but he knows that I am not ready. He says he will try not to do anything that I will not be comfortable with but he told me he doesn't know how long he can hold it off for. Also, I don't really like the idea of giving him head or him fingering me as I have not done any of this before. Any advise? (link)
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Rainhorse68 already gave you some excellent advice and since I can\'t top it I will concur that you should not be pressured into anything you are not ready for. As far as how long can he hold off, the real question is how long WILL he hold off! It is not medically necessary that a 15 year old boy have sex! If this boy is pretty mature then he should respect what you are telling him and stick with the good old DIY method for a while longer. If he really has feelings for you he will wait until the time is right and you are ready for this step. If he dumps you then good riddance, that means he was not good enough for you anyway!
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I feel really good when I laugh and I love laughing. The problem is that I find almost nothing funny. A lot of people laugh when other people get hurt which is what most "funny videos" on youtube are about. And I honestly don't think they're funny ._. I also don't like most "funny" movies. Can anyone give me some ideas what I can watch? The only person I can think of that makes me laugh is ellen degeneres ._. (link)
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I am the same way. People can be sitting around laughing like idiots at something on tv and I\'m sitting there with a straight face like \"really?\" On the other hand not everyone appreciates my quirky humor either! I love the movie \"Oh, Brother Where Art Thou\" and when Everett says \"look to Delmar here as your paradigm of hope\" and Delmar says \"Yeah, look at me\" I still have to chuckle. I\'ve seen that movie at least 20 times and it\'s still funny! The same way with Bill Cosby telling the story about going to the dentist, I\'ve heard it since I was a child and it still makes me laugh!You are on the right track to figuring out what tickles your funny bone though! You already know you find Ellen funny so look for similar types of humor. I hit pay dirt on Pinterest! If you don\'t find something on there to make you laugh then I don\'t think there is any hope! Ellen is on there too! One of my favorites by Ellen: \"If I get up and the temperature is less than my age, I go back to bed!\" I don\'t care who you are, now that\'s funny! There is also a joke out there on the internet called \"the bricklayers insurance claim.\" I usually don\'t find accidents to be funny either but this one is hilarious! I hope this helps!
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i did sex wid my g.f i just rubbed outside but i dono whetehr sperm gone in or not..i dnt want her to b peragenent ...yestrday she got he period i did xxx on 5th may now also chances is their to get peragnent???
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You need to wear a condom. It\'s just that simple. No matter what your plan is, if it involves taking the horse out of the barn put the dang thing on!
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I'm going to try and keep this simple because I know how boring it is reading through a long question.
I want to break up with my boyfriend. He's the sweetest most lovely guy, just I don't fancy him, he's already talking about marriage (we've been together 6 months) he's a bit immature-and I think I can do better.
Idk how to break up with him know because saying all this will break his heart and will come so unexpected. Also his parents love me which makes it harder.
I just want to have fun-you know?! Any advice would be appreciated :) (link)
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There is never an easy way to do this but if you don\'t fancy him it MUST be done. You can not stay with someone out of pity or fear of hurting them. I think I would start off gently by letting him know you are not in any way ready for marriage or commitment. That way it will not be unexpected when you tell him it\'s over. You don\'t have to feel guilty, you should be having fun right now at your age. You should also try to get your boyfriend to understand that. It is very immature to want to tie someone down when they are not ready! If his parents really do love you they won\'t stop because you broke up with their son. You might even want to let his parents know how you feel before the break up. That way they will understand what is about to happen and be prepared to help their son get through this. I hope he takes it well and it isn\'t too hard on either of you. Good luck!
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So me and and my boyfriend haven't been dating for too long but he always makes me feel so special. Almost all the dates we've been on he makes me flowers with yarn (he crouché's) and the other night he planned a whole night about me to make me feel special. I want to do something to show him how much I like him and make him feel special as he does have some confidence issues. We are going on a date in a few days where we are going to do a picnic in the country but during a thunderstorm since we both like watching the stars when it's raining. I plan on writing him little love notes that I'm going to hide in his car and places so he can find them. But I wanted to either make or bring him something to surprise him and I need some suggestions? Any have any ideas of what I can do, even if they are actions I can do to make him feel special? Preferably not something sexual as I want it to be more of a romantic thing but if it's a good sexual idea I'll take it :) thanks in advance lovelies (link)
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If he crochets he must be a pretty great guy! Wow, your rainy date sounds amazing already! I hope you have a reliable forecast, it would really suck to plan all this and it wouldn\'t rain! You could make a cd of your favorite love songs and play it on the stereo while you dance in the rain. Find out what homemade treat he really loves and surprise him with it on your picnic! Download a map of the stars and print it off. Bring it along on your date and look for the Big and Little Dipper etc. then you can choose your own star and name it,(maybe a combination of your two names, you know like Kimye or Brangelina) and you can mark it on your map and then later have it framed. Nothing could be more romantic than having your own star together! Good luck to you both!
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