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lesbian (maybe)
I am i girl and i am a young teen. And i am 13 . I have this friend n we watch porn together.. Dont hate. We have been THAT horny that we hump n grind, but with clothes on.. Normally. A couple of time we have done it naked under a cover , n another time we like played with each other not put our finger up just did circles around the top of each others fanny. I enjoyed it tbh n she did to but weve never kissed n we r into boys still. But i REALLY want someone to like finger me but what i would really like is someone to lick me out .. But im definitly not gunna ask her that would be embarrassing . But ive got this other friend that watched porn with me before but not full on porn . N we decieded to play dares but we didnt no what dare each other so i searched it on youtube. I wanted it to come up with like kissing but it didnt. And i havmt had my first kiss yet(emebarrassing..)But i want to be able to kiss somebody. Im sorry for being long i just need some advice so pleeeaase help me :) thankyou xxxx
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It sounds like to are probably a lesbian, or at least bisexual. But, you are too young to be having sex. Let yourself be a teenager. Sure, some curiosity is normal. But, you don't need to rush into things. I'm sure eventually you will get the chance to do all of the things that you are fantasizing about.
For now, don't worry about finding a sexual partner. If you want sexual gratification, try masturbating in the bathtub. With bubbles and happy music of course!
Much love,
Miss Piggy
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Hi there. Your sexual orientaion does not seem in any doubt and is really not that open to influence. No young lady who was a lesbian would ever say she was 'into boys still.' I'm male and heterosexual (meaning 'into girls'!) but it's not something I choose daily to be, or picked. I just AM. People have different views on porn. I believe it's best to consider it a visual entertainment that we either enjoy or do not enjoy. Not get on our high-horses about it being wrong or right. (I'm talking ONLY about adult pornography featuring professional models or consenting adult 'amateurs' who choose to do what they do here). We have war movies, horror movies, crime movies. They are entertainment, nothing more. So, you enjoy watching some adult entertainment with a couple of close friends? You obviously enjoy it, and it makes you feel a bit horny, right? So you enjoy a bit of a grind and a hump with your friend...and that feels even more fun? And enjoye stimulaing each other at times? It's absoultely NOTHING to worry about mate, I promise you!! It does NOT make you lesbians, and won't turn you into lesbians. You seem a bit vexed because you'd like to go a little further? Kissing and kissing intimately? Again, no worries. Your mate might want to as well, but be too embarrassed to ask. You might try it. You might enjoy it. You might think 'not for me' and just carry on humping and touching sometimes. Or it might remain something you never feel comfortable with together and never 'move on to'. Any of the above are still fine. If a much older woman was trying to persuade you or even force you into any of this against your better judgement or will it would of course be VERY WRONG. This is NOT the case. Your exploring your sexuality, with girls your own age, with the same curiosity. And it feels good. OK, technically porn is meant for over 18's but show me a girl or guy of your age who hasn't watched it? So watch a movie and hump a bit and if you both feel the urge to do a bit more it's fine. And if you don't it's fine too. If or when you both want to kiss, you'll kiss. Sorry for being 'long' myself here. Basically stop beating yourself up. You're just being NORMAL!!!
ps...Don't try an silly 'dares' that involve pushing objects inside yourselves, will you? It's much more likely to feel uncomfortable and make you feel sore than sexy. Trust me, the 'cicles at the top' bit you described will feel MUCH more exciting and enjoyable anyway!
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I just answered a question very suspiciously similar to this one a few days ago. We wouldn't be trolling now would we kiddies?
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First your not a lesbian. Lesbian is how you are born not something you learn to be and you would have felt this long before your present age.
what is happening is you and these girl friends are experimenting with your sexuality. This happens to us all when we start through puberty to both boys and girls. It is totally normal.
Why do we experiment with some one with the same sex. Simple it is safer and less embarrassing to so. Also parents are less likely to be concerned with two people of the same sex being behind closed doors together or spending the night sleeping in the same room or even in the same bed.
You are not only experimenting with your sexuality and learning about how your body responds. You are also relieving the sexual tension building up within you because of the new hormones puberty has brought out. What you are doing can come under the heading of mutual masturbation.
This is all normal and will continue to be normal well through college but for other reasons as you go through college. So relax you are not a lesbian and you are very normal for your age.
As for kissing somebody that will come when the time is right. Don't be surprised if you and one of your girlfriends decide one day to practice kissing on each other. For girls this is totally normal as well.
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AT 13 its experimenting what you like and dont. You say you both are into boys still then you are NOT a full on lesbian you can be concidered Bi-sexual (liking both girls and boys) if you are sexually attracted to girls and want to go further think it through and talk to your friend about it first dont pressure her to do anything, I being a Lesbian myself am glad to give you this advice at 13 i too was experimenting and there's nothing wrong with that. If you want to kiss this girl then ask before doing so to not cause any friction between you too. GOOD LUCK , with KISSES, KIERA XOXOXOX
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the best thing you can do is think for your self and just embrace your desires and how you feel. Nothing people feel is unatrual. Sexuality is such a stupid thing. Just do what you want.
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I have heard that it is quite common for two 'straight' girls who are really into guys to explore sexual things together because it is lots safer---they can't be pregnant. When young especially it is a good alternative, not having to go through guys using a girl or forcing a girl to do things they don't want.
So either you and the friend decide to talk further about how far you want to go to take care of your horniness in the safest way possible for now.
And no, it doesnt damage you or make you become lesbian. I am a straight woman and have done a few things with women. As long as in your own mind you are okay with it, then it won't harm at all.
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