My favourite quote is 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you'.
Life really is a roller-coaster with it's ups and downs and varying speeds. Yet no matter how hard you try to stay on an even keel, something always comes along to kick you in the teeth and remind you just how fragile life is. We are all trying to live the best we know how and to get along together. So take time to appreciate those around you and tell them how much you love them occasionally. A smile and a kind word speaks volumes.
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I'm positive that I have OCD and I'm almost positive that I had SAD, but I haven't told anyone yet and even though my parents see my compulsions they dont make the connection or anything and I don't know how to go about telling them or asking them to take me to a psychiatrist. Any advice?
Also, if there is anyone on here who has OCD or SAD that I could ask some questions to that would be great.
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My advice for you would be to get as much information as possible together, ie booklets and information off the internet, and then ask your parents to have a read. If they ask you why, just tell them that sometimes you feel that you may have OCD and would like their help.
Most parents will want to do everything in their power to make sure their children are well and healthy (mentally and physically) and would want to explore any problems together.
I hope this helps. Good luck.
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my mother bithday is coming up on 10/1 and shes making 41 any idea on what to give her
THANX (link)
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Some things my daughter has done for me:
Decorated a plain free-standing mirror.
Put together a collage of photos of herself and her brother and sister.
Hand-sewn a small cushion for my GHDs.
Painted a small picture of a night scene and framed it.
She has given me home-made birthday and Mothers Day cards.
She has simply told me she loved me and made my day special by coming home (she's at Uni).
Mum's love anything that is made with love.
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Couple weeks ago, my friend has a party. I went with one of my good friends, Amber. Since she drove, she promised that she wouldn't drink and if she did, she wouldn't have a lot. Once we got to the party I asked her for her keys just INCASE and I hid them in my purse. Like usual, she thought she wouldn't get drunk, she did.
She got SOO wasted that she couldn't even walk for 5 seconds and it freaked me out because everyone there was drunk and I didn't know how to drive but we both had to get home since our parent's and her sister were calling non-stop.
I finally answered to her sister's phone call and explained to her what was going on and she came to pick us up. I did not want Amber to be driving drunk and get us killed. I would never let that happen.
The next day, she was so furious with me that I took her keys and wouldn't let her drive. She even knew I had them. She was also very mad at me for calling her sister and now her sister is mad at her.
I can't help but feel like this is my fault. I didn't want us to get hurt and then regret anything later. What do I do? Advice? Thank you. (link)
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Younggrandma has said everything I would have said but I would like to add that I felt tearful reading your question. The reason is because you acted so sensibly and saved many people such a lot of heartache. Hold your head up with pride, and from this Mum thank you very much. :)
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I have never been this lonely. Last year, everything in my life ended. My best friend, and basically only really close friend moved away, my sister left for college, my mom sold her business that she has had since I was 3 and has put a ton into, my step mom who I was close to moved out and now i barely see her. Last year sucked, but even so, I thought that after that there would also be a new beginning, and now that I'm back at school, I realize that isn't true. I have plenty of "friends" but none i'm all that close to. I really love my school (it's a tiny all girls school) but now there are all of these new girls and the whole place just feels different somehow.
What should I do? I feel so depressed that it's hard to focus on homework, but I feel like my life isn't "screwed up" enough to go to the counselor.
help please (link)
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I know it's difficult at times to get through what seems an enormous emotional time in your life. It always gets better I promise. I didn't meet my very best friend until I was 18 and had started working. She came into my life and has been the greatest best friend ever since. My daughter, who is now 20 and at University, didn't meet her best friend until last year and she spent years crying over the fact that everyone else had lots of friends and someone special they could confide in. I spent a lot of time reassuring her that she would meet that special 'sister' one day. All you can do for now is enjoy the friendships that you make at school and when the time is right it will happen. Once you accept that life can be a bitch at times, you can refocus your attention on the next couple of years at school and once you have reached the big wide world outside, then life becomes fantastic. Counsellors will talk to anyone about anything regardless of how petty you may think your problem is. If you have a problem that is bugging you, talking is the greatest therapy there is. Lift up your chin, put a smile on your face and look to the future. You will get there, all the best.
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can my parents get him arrested do they even have a say so in my life (link)
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No your parents cannot have your boyfriend arrested unless he is physically abusive to themselves. You are an adult and they do not really have a say in your life, but if you are living with them you will find it easier to abide by their house rules. However, do they have any reason to fear for your safety? Ask them to sit down with you and point out their reasons for their concern if they do. If they have some valid points, please take note of what they are saying. If they are just being over-protective then there is not a lot you need to do except to gently point out to them it is your life and you need to make any decisions for yourself, right or wrong, and live with the consequences. Best of luck.
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my boyfriend left an IM screen up on my computer- an IM with the girl he would have asked out he says, but her parents would never let her.
my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 4 months now. and we're very serious, i think at least. but i dont know now.
in the conversation he says:
:yeah im happy with the relationship, a little mixed in my stomach though
:being in a relationship is very confining at the moment and I'm trying to get out and see the world.
my boyfriend and i are planning a trip to scotland this summer. he doesnt think my parents will let me go.
and he invited this girl. telling her basically
:you me and danielle, but i dont think her parents are gonna let her go.
he spends all of his time with me, which he really doesn't have to.
how can i let him know this- let our relationship be less confining on his end- without him knowing i read his IM?
its very upsetting to me- im in love with him. (link)
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Sorry to say but it seems like he left it there for you to see. Is he having doubts about your relationship? It would be strange for the 3 of you to go away together, so maybe he is hoping that your parents will not allow you to go. This would leave him free to go with the other girl. He is probably keeping his options open in case your relationship falters, which would allow him to then go out with her. I think you need to sit him down and have a chat about where you both think you are going together as regards to being a couple. He needs to be honest with you and you need to tell him that you found the IM and it has upset you. If this relationship is to work you need to know where you stand. I hope it all works out for you.
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I need some smart come backs to my aunt when we come to her house and she verbally abuses me and my siblings calling us fat (we're a size double zero!) and other sutff!
I like one I got from hollister_lover09 saying, "and what did YOU look like when you were my age?"
some really smart ass comebacks would be great because she's picking on us and i know she's older then us and we're nto supposed to talk back but this is merely standing up for ourselves because I'm tired of just standing there, taking it in while a lot of guests are there and watching my siblings on the verge of tears. (link)
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Get your Mum to have a word with her about her attitude, or persuade her to stop your visits. If that is not possible try blanking her because she obviously gets a kick out of insulting you. If all else fails try "yeah whatever!".
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I know this is a stupid question but can you iron paper? or will it burn or stick? (link)
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Yes you can iron paper. In certain circles the newspaper is ironed before it is given to the master of the household!!!
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I'm 15, going to be a sophmore in high school. I'm already engaged to an 18 year old man who's in the army right now. We planned on getting married when I was 17, the beginning of my senior year. If my parent's don't sign me over however we're going to elope on my 18th birthday. I'm going to move to Colorado and attend college there and live with him. He's also going to pay for me to go to college. My question I guess is basically just looking for an opinion on if you guys think this is an ok thing to do. I know I love him and I know I'm young but this is what I want. Everyone keeps telling me I'm stupid though. (link)
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15 is quite young to be thinking of marriage but it seems to me that you have thought everything through. You might regret not having your parents blessing for the marriage and although eloping might sound romantic, won't you miss out on your big day with all the family around you? You are giving yourselves a couple of years before settling down to marriage, so your parents may well give you their blessing eventually. Hope it all goes well.
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i had been dating this boy over the summer and i really really fucking liked him. and one night i got really fucking drunk and had sex with one of his best friends in the bathroom at walmart. slutty, i know. but i was trashed. i didn't know what the fuck i was doing. so he found out and dumped me, ofcourse. and seriously, i've never regretted something so much.
so he dumped me about a month ago. and i'd almost kind of gotten over the fact that nothing was ever going to happen between us again. and then he invites me over to his house saturday night out of no where and tells me he's giving me a second chance. and then last night when i talked to him, the whole time he just made me feel like shit. he said he'd only ever date me again if things went MORE than perfectly when i see him saturday. he said he doesn't think i'll do anything right. and as for me, i really like him, and i want to atleast try to get this going again because i know that we could have something amazing. but the thing is, i'm realllyyyy fucking grounded right now, and the only way i'd be able to go see him is if i snuck out after my parents went to sleep. but they know i do this so they constantly check on me, i think. but i REALLY need to go see him. so, do you think it's worth getting caught for?
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Quick answer to that is no. It is not worth risking yourself, your health or your self-worth. Especially it is not worth risking the trust you have with your parents, even if they do keep checking up on you. Your priority is number one and if he makes you feel that bad, he is not worth the effort.
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14/f
I think I smell "down there" it's not a fishy smell, I can't explain it, and I don't think it's from discharge. What could be wrong with me? I'm a virgin to, if that helps any. Someone even noticed it, i'm so scared. How should I tell my mom? (link)
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Please go and talk to your Mom. She will be well aware that these things happen and she can advise you on what to do. Your doctor will also be able to help sort things out.
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I found out my wife is cheating on me and she is pregnant with this other guys baby whats the most worst way to get back at her? And trust me she deserves it. (link)
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I have looked at your previous questions so I am wondering if you are asking on behalf of someone else? If you are asking for someone else, the best advice I can give is to walk away with his head held high and to divorce her. He does not need to get into any law-breaking etc., that will end up with him getting a police record. She does not deserve his time or his energy with reprisals. It may seem that she is getting away with cheating but he needs to think of his future. I hope this helps in some way.
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i have had my hamster 1 day and she keeps making sneezing noises is this normal because of the smells around her or could it be something serious??? (link)
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It is possible hat your hamster may be allergic to the bedding in her cage. Change the bedding and see if that makes a difference. Otherwise take the hamster to a vet, or as the previous answer said, take her back to where you bought her to get them to check her. All the best.
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okayy so im not so sure how to ask thiss but,
how do you know if sombodyy [or yourself;tampons] "popped your cherry"? (link)
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Without being looked at by a gynaecologist, there is no certain way to tell if you have popped your cherry. A guy will not be able to tell when you have sex if you are still a virgin. Hope that helps.
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Alright, well it seems that lately It feels like I have to pee ALL the time, but when I try to go i either cant, and when I can its an extreamly miner amount, and its very painful. it seems like when I bend over while sitting its extreamly uncomfortable and painful. I've been having a LOT of discharge lately, and I had my period like 2 weeks ago.
this may be beside the point, these are new panties (have been washed a few times) and normally discharge looks kinda yellow or whitish on it, but its kinda looked pinky-purple almost, its very strange.
can anybody tell me whats wrong? is it an infection? please help! (link)
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I'm not a doctor but it sounds like you may have cystitis - a bladder infection. The only way to be really sure is to see your doctor, then he/she will be able to say for certain and give you the medication you will need to clear it up. Just so you know, it is not an STD but something that a lot of ladies suffer with from time to time.
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Guys, beware!
Ladies, a question involving that particular once-a-month period... how heavy can a period get before it becomes a concern? My current period is extremely heavy, with clumpy bits of tissue. I can't even move without gushing like a stuck pig.
I've never had one quite like this, but then again, I've been losing weight, so could that affect it? What should I do? (link)
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I think the best thing for you to do is make an appointment with your GP or Gynaecologist and have a chat with them about it. It is possible to get heavier periods as you get older and if it is starting to concern you then that is the time to get it sorted out.
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Well my mom's making me wear my grad dress to this wedding I'm going to but i don't know..i never want to wear my graduation dress ever again or anywhere because somethng embarassing happened and wearing it and seeing it reminds me and haunts me of it.
I can't get a new one because it's wasting money and the weddings is in three days.
I know that there's no way to get out of it but can someone just say something to make the situation better? Im a sucker for sweet talk (link)
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If you think of the situation as the bad memory and not the dress, that might help. Also could you add some accessories that will change its look slightly? Try wearing a pashmina over it or another pretty shawl, or add a brooch or some flowers. If you had the skills, could you alter it in some way? Also, if the people who made you embarrassed are not going to the wedding then you don't need to think about them. Best of all hold your head up and smile, because if you act happy you will feel happy. Enjoy the wedding.
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Okay, so my bf and i have decided to have sex for the first time, both of us are virgins. we are mature enough and everything, and i know all about it, but i would just like to hear advice from other peoples point of view. like what advice or tips do u have, and what to expect. (link)
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You say are mature enough to have sex, but are you mature enough to cope with the consequences? Have you thought about contraception, and if that fails, whether you are mature enough to have a baby? You are still so very young and I know you don't want to hear this - please don't start having a sex life at such a tender, young age. Enjoy being young before taking this step into adulthood. If you sleep with your boyfriend and then part company, will you sleep with the next one, and the next one? You will end up with a reputation for being easy and will no doubt end up having to deal with either a baby or an STD, or worse, AIDs. Please go and see Planned Parenthood or the equivalent relevant to your country before you take one of the biggest steps of your life. None of this advice is what you ask for, but it is what I am giving because of your age. Please take care.
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what does "ooer" mean in british (link)
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It doesn't actually mean anything in the english language. It is just an expression like 'doh' or 'oops'.
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my mom wont let me get my belly button peirced.
im 14 & i want it done.
how cna i get it done w.out her finding out
please&thankyou (link)
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Sorry, but it is not a good idea to go behind your Mom's back. She will find out eventually and any trust you had between you will be gone. If you really want that look, try using a fake one for now and have a piercing when you are 16 or older. It will be worth the wait to keep your Mom's trust.
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