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confining relationships
my boyfriend left an IM screen up on my computer- an IM with the girl he would have asked out he says, but her parents would never let her.
my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 4 months now. and we're very serious, i think at least. but i dont know now.
in the conversation he says:
:yeah im happy with the relationship, a little mixed in my stomach though
:being in a relationship is very confining at the moment and I'm trying to get out and see the world.
my boyfriend and i are planning a trip to scotland this summer. he doesnt think my parents will let me go.
and he invited this girl. telling her basically
:you me and danielle, but i dont think her parents are gonna let her go.
he spends all of his time with me, which he really doesn't have to.
how can i let him know this- let our relationship be less confining on his end- without him knowing i read his IM?
its very upsetting to me- im in love with him.
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ya i agree with the person at the bottom i say that he might have left it there for you to read or why else would he leave his im open like that when his girlfriend is in the room or with him? right? so like and it made you upset. but like since you guys are thinking of going away and that why is he bringing this girl with him? even if you two only should go like alone without anyone. maybe he's having seconds thoughts on the relationship? how is your relationship with him and that does he loves you or does he thinks that you might not go becuase of your paretns and than bring the other girl without you and than something might happen like they might hook up. and if your in love with him i say you sit him down and talk to thim saying i will try anything to go with you. but there is one thing. there is one thin that has upset me when i was with you. your im was open i i accidently read it and i know i'm not suppose to read your stuff or anyhthing. beacuse it was right in front of me open. so i dont know if you did that on propuse for me to read or your having thoughts about it? im just sayin and about you wanting the girl to come? why do you want her to? i mean wasn't it suppose for me and you only? does it matter for her to come? does it seem that you might have like her more than me? why tell me i want to be able to trust you and you trust me. i want to know the whole truth nothing but the truth.
and after you say all that he would tell you the whole truth. and also be like " please baby i want to know the truth i really want to know the truth cause i really like you and i want to stay with you and be with you and be able to go with you. is that so hard to ask?
liek that and he would freakin tell you everything and dont worry your relationship wont end. and it wont happen unless you have a lil chat with him about it like adults no yellin or screaming talk to him calmling.
good luck and hope i helped <3
let me know if i did :) thanx
p.s. everything will work out great with you and your boyfriend. dont worry.
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Sorry to say but it seems like he left it there for you to see. Is he having doubts about your relationship? It would be strange for the 3 of you to go away together, so maybe he is hoping that your parents will not allow you to go. This would leave him free to go with the other girl. He is probably keeping his options open in case your relationship falters, which would allow him to then go out with her. I think you need to sit him down and have a chat about where you both think you are going together as regards to being a couple. He needs to be honest with you and you need to tell him that you found the IM and it has upset you. If this relationship is to work you need to know where you stand. I hope it all works out for you.
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