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hi, next month i have my first appointment for the gnyo, becuase im 15 and have had my period irregular since i starting getting it 4 years ago,so my mom made me an appt...so anyway my concern is that, a couple months ago my boyfirend and I of 9 months decided to take are relationship a little farther and he fingered me, quite intensly and has done it a couple times..(but I have never had sex, and dont plan on it anytime soon)I am worried that the gyno will tell my mom, and i really dont think that my mom wants to hear "oh by the way your daughter has been fingered" and she will be quite dissapointed in me. If i ask should the gyno keep my information confidential?
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Ok, first of all, the gyno will definitely not be able to tell how far you and your boyfriend have gone. All they will do is ask you a couple of questions about your period and things and I think that your Mum doesn't have to be in the room if you don't want, my mum waited outside. Everything is always totally confidential and you have absolutely nothing to worry about i promise. There is no way whatsoever a gyno will be able to tell if youve been that far or not. Thats not what they look for or are concerned about. You really don't have to worry about!
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wait. No kk was the best friend ih ad first who was still my best friend the whole way through. She wasnt trying to brake us up at all... trid to make her tlak to me as well. I tried writting sussie a note now she just yells at me about corny retarded notes. (link)
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Ok, sorry not to have understood properly! If I were you I would try to keep away from her a bit. She obviously has some problems and, from all you know it might not even be about you. When you were accused of being a lesbo could someone have said that because the two of you spent so much yime together? (not that that matters if you do as thats what friends do) If so, do you think she could be trying to stay away from you because of that? Try staying away from her for a bit as she will then feel really guilty and she will I promise as any girl that says that esp when youve taken the trouble to write to her, will feel guilty. I'm sure if she is being this mean to you she probably could be being mean to others too. What you have to remember, it might be hard, is that you ahve done NOTHING WRONG! Leave her to get over her problems and bad moods and teasing. Hang around with your other friends and ask them for your support-go out and do things together to take your mind off things and then she will realise she is in the wrong. I hope this helps and sorry for not understanding the last one properly! Let me know if there's anything else I can help with-I hope i've been helpful this time
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Whenever it gets cold out and my hands are exposed and then I come back into warmth, two of my fingers go white and feel numb. I can't figure out why it does that. My hands don't go white it's just my fingers. Can anyone help? (link)
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Yup its just bad circulation! Loads of people suffer from it in the winter. Wear wrist bands , like the sweat bands as they will help keep your hands warm and prevent your fingers goign white!
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Okay i guess i left some things out. Lets call my ex best friend sussie and the other best friend kk. I tried talking to sussie and telling her things but she refuses to be my friend or talk to me. As for kk she was my best friend before sussie came along. She i know it wasnt that or anything. Sussie did tell me one thing tho. She said that i didnt knwo the whole story but truthfully i know mroe then she thinks. I decided that if she comes over to me and my friends im not leaving. I wont let her effect my life iwht my other friends. It isnt right.
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tell me if you have anymore adviec your good at it. (link)
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Exactly! Don't let her get in the way of you having other friendships! From what you said now, do you think that kk is jealous of the friendship you have with sussie and is trying to split yours and sussies friendship up? I think you need to write to your best friend as I don't think talking to her face to face will work. Tell her exactly how you feel as well. You need to say that you feel that kk is trying to stop your frienship and give examples like the ones you have told me. Say it is really upsetting you as you have done absolutely nothing wrong and just want to be friends but it is so difficult as she always gets in the way and is even trying to effect your life with your other friends. Tell her you don't understand why she is doing this and you are worried that soon she will make sure that you are no longer friends. Ask her to try and understand how it would feel to be in your position. Can you get your other friends to back you up? The sooner you write to her, the sooner you will be able to sort things out with your best friend. I really hope everything works out and that you can make sense of what I've just said! Good luck and write back if you want.
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My moms new boyfriend has a 13 year old daughter and she is the only one in the household that I can talk to, even though she is 3 years younger than me, she is very mature for her age. She is a great person and I talked to her about everything and we shared some great moments together. Here lately she has thrown me away, its like she doesnt want to be around me anymore. i feel like an inconvienence. I feel like there is no reason to stay here anymore, she is the one that gave me the courage to go on living! Now I want to die, just thinking that for some reason she hates me. I am a cutter and have attempted suicide several times in the past. i feel like I am a failure now and have no reason to live! (link)
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That's ridiculous-of course you are not a failure. You have to remember she is 3 years younger than you and although she acts mature she won't be as mature as you. I have a feeling that this might have something to do woth her Dad-I think she was used to having him all to herself but now she has to share him with you and your Mum. Perhaps she thinks that he is giving you more attention or something, and is jealous. Even if he isn't giving you more attention she probably feels quite fragile at the moment as its a new step for her as well as you but she probably hasn't spoken about it yet. You need to let her know how upset you are - either face to face or in a letter. Let her know that it is very difficult for you when you are being ignored like this and you really want to know what is going on. Say how much you value her friendship and I'm sure she will come round. At 13 she might not be used to confrontations so make it a good one and I'm sure everything will work out.
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I am 14/F, maybe like two weeks ago I was hanging out with this kid that I used to like and my parents were out of town for the next three weeks! Me, my best friend and him were at his house just hanging out, he;s in 10th and I'm 8th grade.My parets are racist and he's Jamacan! A while ago me and him would hang out alot and we were best friends! But my parents were driven by to find me one day and saw me in his garage and thought I was givin him head! Never!This was last year! Now since they have left i wa shanging out with him! He came over my house wit my best friend and we started blowing kisses at each other and then pop kissed! Later when he left I talked to him on the phone for about two hours.I sneak out of my house to meet him and we started making out for an hour or more! He told me that he has liked me for a while! On halloween he dissed me infront of my friends and then came to me school and my friends asked him about me and him! He said that I was "dirty and disgusting" and he regreted makin out wit me. Then my other guy best friends told me it was because he was embarassed about making out with an 8th grader! I become really attached to him and want to cry thinking it was stupid to make out with him and then get embarassed! I need some help! Seriously (link)
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Your other guy best friend maybe right. He is being an asshole in front of his friends as he doesn't want to be hanging around with an 8th grader. That's not your problem, its his. He obviously really likes you but he can't be nice to you one minute and then diss you the next. You have to tell him that if he likes you then he can't ignore you when it suits him. You have to let him know that its all or nothing ie: if you are friends/more than friends then you talk at school even in front of his mates and he DOESN'T ignore you. Otherwise you don't see why you should have to put up with it. Its confusing you and upsetting you and the sooner you tell him this the sooner he will understand.
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What's the step below going out? This guy said he likes me and wants to be the step below going out, because he doesn't think "going out" at this age is a good idea. We're more than friends though, I know that.. Any ideas on what it could be? (link)
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I think it's just seeing eachother once in a while and maybe kissing and stuff but not actually goin out as in not calling eachother boyfriend and girlfriend. Could he mean a sort of open realtionship where its ok to kiss other girls? Or maybe he wants to get to know you better before you make the decision?
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is it bad to be white and have a crush on someone who's black or darker skinned than you? im not racist but ive always wondered! thanks in advance! (link)
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No you can fancy whoever you want! You can't help fancying somebody and it doesn't matter what colour, shape or size they are!
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this is mostly.. to people.. 18+ just because i believe yall may have more experience with things like this but all opinions are welcome.. okay i've been on birth control for about.. a month and a half.. and well me and my b/f recently started having sex.. with a condom as well.. we had sex tonight and the condom broke he had already ejaculated and was "pulling out".. and realized it was broken.. do u think i could possibly get preg... my BC pills say to use a back up method of birth control for the first 7 days but i've been on it like i said a month and a half.. so give me ur opinions.. should i be worried???? (link)
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No you shouldn't be worried. If you have taken all your pills correctly then you are fine. BUT if you are really worried then call a doctor up or go and see one!
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im 18 i have a son and im still with his dad but we fight alot the problem is i have a crush on this guy i grew up with he has a kid too and brings his son to my moms daycare i know he likes me but he has a girlfreind they fight sometimes , i want to tell him how i fell but i think that would be tottaly out of place and wrong what do u think ? thanks (link)
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Do you want things to work out with your boyfriend? Just because you have a child together doesn't mean you have to stay together. But if this other guy wasn't around would you want to try and make things work with your boyfriend? Perhaps take some time out away from them both to decide what you really want. Ask him to think about waht he really wants (your boyfriend that is) ask him why you think you are fighting. How old is your son. People say that the first 18 months after your first child is born is the toughest part of any relationship.
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I asked this before but im asking again..Ok heres the problem..my hair is about to my shoulder and it is very thick..also very poofy. what should i do to make my hair not as poofy? i tried straightening it..that didn't work but also i have a crappy straightner. I hate my hair! What are some good kinds of Straightners? Can someone help me? please!! thanx in advance!
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The best straightners you can get are ghd's
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ok, i've been realli sick this past week. i havent gone to school at all and my mom said i cant go tomorrow either. but whatever.. the thing is, i love to drink water and its mainly the only thing i drink. i really havent had water forever cause its making me feel worse. what other drinks might be good for a really upset stomache? (link)
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Quite a few people drink Lucozade when they are ill as it ive you energy and apparently speeds up the healing process to help you feel better quicker. The most important thing is that you can't drink toomuch too quickly just sip your drinks. Warm drinks also help. You willl not be able to drink nearly as much as you normally do when you are ill.
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my eyeliner is so annoying...it comes off after about 10 minutes, and it always makes a big clumpy thing in the corner of me eye...is there any way to stop it from doing this? (link)
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Estee Lauder does the best eyeliner that stays on for ages. I know its quite expensive but its nearly Christmas.....
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okay. im still a virgin. but i think im ready to lose my virginity to my boyfriend of a year and 2 months. we have done nothing BUT kissing. and im so happy hes patient with me and doesnt push me to do anything i choose not too. but now i am ready BUT i want to go on birth conrol and use a condom just to be on the safe side. the thing is im not on the pill so what would be the best way to ask my parents to put me on the pill without them thinking imma have sex.? cuz they know im still a virgin and think imma stay one till marriage. which i was planning on doing, but i think im ready to lose it..and i've found that special one to lose it to (link)
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you don't have to tell your parents you want to go on the pill. You can tell your doctor and that will be confidential. A lot of people go on the pill because they get really bad period pains or really bad spots
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i get horrible cramps right before and during my period. what can i do to make them not hurt so much. i have had to stay home from school like every 2 months when it comes. (link)
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Taking Evening primrose oil every day and more just before and during your period will help with the cramps. Also a hot water bottle at the base of your back works wonders!
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my bf just told me he was a pothead...and hes been doing it for almost a year. and we've been going out for more than a year, i dont know what to do. hes lied to me for so long. i told him if he did it i'd dump him but he did it anyway. i only said that so maybe he wouldnt do that but it didnt work. idk what to do. im so confused and idk. please help. and dont tell me to dump him because i cant. i love him too much to do that. no matter what he does. (link)
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He hasn't told you because he is scared to and obviously want s to stop. The problem is that just because you say stop, he can't stop just like that. It won't work. Tell him you can help him and gradually help him cut down. Keep him busy, go shopping, cinema or just out so he spends less and less time on his own, leading him to smoke pot. It will work out, you just have to let him know you are there for him and can help.
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I'm 6'11" 430lbs Male. I need a plan for weight loss, and i need to lose it soon. My doctor has suggested surgery, and i do not want to go there until i absoulty have to. It is literally killing me. Please give me some low cost solutions on losing weight. Thanks. (link)
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The best weight loss programme is not to stop eating but to change some of the bad food you eat into good food. Also if you drink loads of water that will fill you up. Do excercise. That doesn't mean you have to jog but just walk fast until you break out in a sweat and do that for 20 mins/hals an hour a day. Also try not to eat any carbohydrates after 5pm stick to grilled lean meat, steamed veg and fruit after that time. Good luck!
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What the hell do i get my boyfriend for xmas? of course, he told me not to get him anything but i have to. im lost for ideas. hes 13..he likes pink floyd, jimi hendrix, and ppl. help me please (link)
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Can you get him a DVD of them playing live?
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14/F ~ My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months now, and the other night he came over. We sat around and talked for a little while, but then he started to pull moves on me... It's not the first time or anything.. we started to make out then he put his hands up my shirt and down my pants..then we started making out more.. then he pulled me on top of him and we made out more. Is it wrong for me to let him put his hands in those places? I'm just wondering so I can tlel him weather he can again or not. Thank you :) (link)
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If you feel that it is right then yes it is right. Don't do anything just because you think he wants to. He will have more respect for you if you stop him doing something that you're not ready to do yet.
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i dont know if there is something wrong with me, but i'm 15/f and everday when i get home from school (i'm usually alone for about and hour) i completely pig out on tons of junk food. ie. those little debbie desserts, chips, licorice, etc. the rest of the time i eat normal stuff. i really like salad, and other healthy foods,but i cant stop this binging when i get home. i dont like throw it up or anything. but i have been getting really insecure about how i look. i m not fat, i am 5'6" and 107 lbs. but i don't know what is wrong with me. i am afraid i might get an eating disorder help!! (link)
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You don't have an eating disorder. Is the food at school not very nice or very healthy? Or do you not eat very much when you are there? It is most likely that, like everyone else, you get a sugar and carbohydrate craving and you get it when you come back from school because the food is available that all. Also people tend to crave these foods during, and just before their periods. If you are worried then ask your Mum not to buy certain things so when you come back from school you can have some chips etc but not anything else. Or if you think you're going to pig out when you get back from school then try and drink water and eat loads of fruit before you get home as that will fill you up.
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