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Q: How do you put an Open Office slideshow onto a floppy disk and/or cd? A step by step process for both would be helpful.

i know how to on a CD
okay, put in a blank CD in the drive
A box thing should pop up like, asking what you want to do
Click on what says "open writable CD using Windows Explorer" (or something like that) with a picture of a folder next to it
Once that is open, go to where you have the file stored (easiest if on the desk top)

For desktop:
Click and drag into the open CD Drive folder

Other folder:

Right click on file, hit "copy"
go to the CD drive, right click, hit paste

Hope that helped ! :)

Q: hey... well my boyfriend jordan and i have been going out for a month now. but my problem is that he invited me to go to the community pool with his family tomorrow. but, i don`t want to go. i am veerrryyy self-concious when my stomach is showing, because i`m quite chubby for my age. i don`t want to lie to him, but i also don`t want to be in a bathing suit around other people. so, i`m scared to go because i`m afraid he`ll be embarassed to be seen with me. what should i do??

Tankini
they are perfect
i am chubby andhate swim suits, also, i have terrible backne, and hate my back
you can tell him you arent comfortable
or wear bottoms and a tank top
there are plenty of ways to hide the tummy :)

hope i helped! and have fun! your boyfriend is with you because he likes YOU :)

Q: K so i have an oily T zone, inbetween my brows and along my nose and i was wondering if anybody can suggest some good skin cleansers that can get rid of oily skin cuz i usually get zits and what not around that area and its annoying to take care of, haha. thanks, ill rate high.

Get clean and clear oil absorbing sheets at CVS (or CVS brand, which, are cheaper, my friend uses them, but i perfer clean and clear, cause i use all clean and clear products)
they come with 50 little blue wipes that turn clear when the oil is rubbed on it
pretty cool
it takes off oil, and doesnt smudge makeup at all

hope i helped! :)

Q: Sometimes when im alone in my room i will talk to myself..like its hard to explain but i talk to myself out loud..except i answer myself too..its like i work myself thru my problems by talking to myself..does anyone else do this? or is there something wrong with me? i feel stupid for doing it and if anyone were to ever hear me i would die but is it okay to do this?

haha i thought i was the only one who did that!
okay, seriously though,it is perfectly normal, as long as you arent like, arguing with yourself, you know?
your not like
"but i should have said this"
"no, you shouldnt have! you are so stupid!"
"okay, guys, seriously, stop fighting!"
that, is bad ha
so yeah, talk away to work through stuff
just make sure no one hears you
and, if people are home, turn on music and do it :)

Q: unbelievably long but i only rate 5's

15/f

okay. well i know it's normal for some people to read a lot. i havent ever been into reading until maybe 2 weeks ago.. i went through all my library books and my mom let me borrow some books from her.. one of them was named Melody and it was from an author named V.C. Andrews

i know its kinda wierd, but i absolutely LOVE the book to the point where im making my mom get me her other books in the series. now here's the problem, there's only five books in the series and im not reading the last one because it's about Melody's grandmother and it just doesnt sound interesting. I dont know what to do when im done with the 4th one, i seriously am not gonna start reading again because i know that im gonna miss everything about those books. i cant even understand how i'll live without them.. so what should i do.. i want to write a letter to the author asking her to write more books in that series but someone told me the author was dead and it wouldnt make a differnce because i doubt she would really care or write more books for it (she only writes book series that go up to 5). i have to wait a whole week to get the 2nd book.

when i started reading the first book (the only one i've read so far) i read it nonstop. i read it at home, in school, in the car, everywhere i could.. what do you guys think i should do? dont tell me to see a psychologist or doctor or anything lol.. im not THAT crazy

lol there is nothing wrong with you.
Just for now, enjoy the books
and when you are done, eaither A) get into another one of her series or B) find other series to read
i also like to re-read books over and over
i have read the sisterhood of the traveling pants series atleast 10 times
try them
the series of unfortunat events is amazing too

hope i helped! :)

Q: 16/F, Recently, this guy told me how he felt and he said that he loved me since 7th grade. I'm thinking isn't just an obsession or a huge crush? and is it possible to love someone even if you're not with that person and you don't have a relationship with that person?

i was (and kinda still am) in love with this guy, almost a year and a half now. You can ABSOLUTLY love someone with out a relationship. I dont think he is obbessed w/ you, you would know that by now. So yes, love doesnt have to be in a bf/gf relationship, but hopefully the guy actually knows you, like, you are remotly friends.

hope i helped! ask back if you need more! :)

Q: Okay so, I'm 14 and I weigh 105 pounds [[i'm 5'1"]] I've never really had any issues with my weight or self esteem or anything but lately whenever I look in the mirror I feel super fat. So for around the past 4 months i've been cutting out the foods I don't need and i've been counting how many calories I consume daily. Well, it keeps getting lower and now I'm down to 600 a day. I don't know what's wrong with me but I think something might be wrong.. I keep telling myself that I'm going to not look at the calories in everything or that i'm going to eat more but then i'll look in the mirror and it'll all go down the drain and i'll start doing it again. I didn't really think much of all of this [[I just considered it dieting]] but then the other day my boyfriend came up to me and asked if I was sick because I was getting too skinny...[[i've lost 5 pounds in the past 2 days if that gives you any idea]] and ahh I just don't know what to do. So my question is; a.) Am I anorexic? and b.) if so, what should I do about it?

Any help would be great.

in 4th-6th grade, i was so fat
well, i always thought so
the end of 6th grade, i was 4'10, 100 lbs
over the 3 months from 6th-7th
i became 5'1 and 65 lbs
now, i never thought i was anerxic, i thought i looked so much better then i ever did before
but everyone was so worried about me
A) you arent anorexic, yet, but if you continue, you will be. B) TALK TO YOUR PARENTS OR A SCHOOL GUDIENCE PERSON! i know it sounds cliche, but you really need to!
oh, and congrats on such a great boyfriend for caring and noticing!

i hope i helped, and i hope you get better! If you need anything else, just send me a question okay? :)

Q: im so sick of MYSELF right now! i dont know what it is with me but i just am so sick of my looks. all the other girls no matter if they are older or younger than me are soo much prettier! i mean i think i have a nice body but my face..is not pretty at all and im a shy girl! im about 5'6 and i weigh about 120-125 with brown hair and brown eyes which i hate! but today i went to this county fair and these ugly boys would always say somethin to us never the cute ones and whenever i saw a cute guy i would always think ohhh hes never gonna look at me there are SOO many other prettier girls than me. i just get so down on myself! i dont know what to do i mean yeah i try and try to tell myself differently but i just dont see it! im jealous of like every girl. even my best friend. and there is this boy that i have always thought was cute but i dont even think he know i exist and he goes to a different school than me and he was at this fair tonight but he was around a bunch of people and everytime we walked by him he never looked i dont think at me and just i dont know its hard for me to look at other guys looking at so much prettier girls. i am also very very shy which doesnt help! what should i do? by the way i just turned 16..
thanks
i will rate 5

i think i am one of the ugliest people on Earth, yet my friends tell me im pretty.
All you have to do is focus on the good, and maybe wear your hair differently, try different make ups, get new acssories
and as cliche as it is, remeber, beauty is only skin deep!
being a teen blows, we all think we are ugly, even the beautiful ones!

hope i helped! :)

Q: I am 15 years old and i have never made out or had a real boyfriend. I just started going to an all girls private school and i'm worried that i wont have boyfriends in highschool. I am trying to stay close with my old guy friends--but its hard. What should i do?

There is nothing wrong with never having made out of having a real boyfriend. Out of me and my 3 best friends, only two of us have made out, and we are almost 15. Staying close with your guy friends should be as easy or hard as staying close with your girl friends.
Make plans, talk online
and you arent going to a boarding school right? then you will be in the same house?
if yes, then it shouldnt be too tough, you will just have bf's outside of school
and if you dont like the all-girls or private school life
talk to your parents
One of my very good friends went to an all girls school for a year and hated it, then she came back to public the next year. Good luck with your boy toys :)

Hope i helped! :)

Q: Me,and my ex broke up about 3 months ago.
Last day of school,i got high and stuff.
I was with one of his friend that well i kinda like.
Well stuff happened,like sexual stuff.
But now he left for the summer,right now.
And my ex just told me,he misses me.
And im not sure what to do.
Because,he always talks about all these other girls and i hate it.
But,now with the whole thing with one of his friends.
I dont know what to do.
And right now,the guy i did stuff with im starting to like his friend.
But the promblem is,his friend only started talking to people because he heard about the stuff i had done.
Can,someone help me with this promblem?
Because,im not sure what to do.

Okay, so you and your boyfriend broke up
you got high, and hooked up with another guy, who is gone for summer
Your ex misses you, but still talks about all these other girls
and a friend of the guy you hooked up with likes you, because you hooked up?

if this is correct, let me know, and i can answer your questions.

Okay then.

If you ex is sayin he misses you, yet is still talking about all these other girls. Screw him.

The guy that only likes you because you did stuff, is a jerk. Screw him as well (not literally lol). Just get away from this whole circle of boys! Im pretty sure you said it was summer, so go and have fun! Be with your girls, dont have a bf right now. Flirt, get sun and have fun!!!!!!!
Worry about boys in the fall.

if you need more help, just lemmy know!

:)

Q: tomorrow i am meetin my boyfriend of 10 months mom. i would like to know some do's and dont's about. i was wondering if it would be okay to wear make-up and what is something to wear. thanks 4 everyone who answers. i will rate

*for the added info scroll to bottom*

dont over do make up
if you are going out to dinner, a nice skirt and blouse
NO V-NECK!
if you are going to their house, nice jeans and maybe a t-shirt will work
just overall BE YOURSELF! wear what you are comfy in, be polite, and just act how you would around someones parent. I'm sure you are nervous (i know i was the first time i met my bf's parents) so just try and calm. Don't be fake and cheesy, compliment them, but not in a weird "oh i see where so-and-so gets his looks" cheesy and werid!

Hope i helped! :) Good luck!

P.S. im sure you will do fine!

P.P.S. no one is unworthy of anyone! EVER! if his mom is nice on the phone to you, im sure she is nice in real life, and in my experience, if boys moms dont like you, they wont be nice to you! If she doesnt think you are unworthy, you shouldnt eaither!

Q: So there's this boy who is 10, my babysitter's son, and he's all nice and stuff. Anyway I'm 14 and it's not that I'm anti social but I rather not talk to him. The boy is creepy...he always watches and talks and laughs and then after just looks at me. It's so annoyin. It's not like I feel to high but I'm scared of him, not in a "i'm going to kill u" more in a way of "he likes me". I don't like young ppl like him and it's really scary. I think he has a crush on me cause he's always lookin at me and then he's being all friendly.

I don't want to sound anti social...but wen he talks to me i jus say yeah or no and shunn away. Wen he looks at me I look away or jus ignore him. What can I do without tellin him?

you arent anti social
my moms boyfriend has a son
he is 8
and his little friends allways look at me
they are just little kids!
Be nice to him, you shouldnt be mean to a little kid that likes you! It is just a little kid crush, he will out grow it
but till then, dont be a brat

Q: i'm a good size for my age...i would say that i was average for my age. the only think i think i need is to be toned (flat abs, stronger arms, thinner thighs) what are some good excersized that can help me accomplish these tasks- relativly quickly?

get a subscribtion to Cosmo Girl!
they have the BEST work out things!
if you cant subscirbe, www.cosmogirl.com
im pretty sure they have them posted
Also, if you have a bike, ride it to friends houses (close ones)
summer is comming, go and swim at the pool
put on music, and dance around your room

they are like, excerise without excersising

hope i helped! :)

Q: I smoke but I want to stop. I dont want to buy the gum or patch I just want to do it naturly. I didnt need anything to help me start so I dont need anything to help me stop. The other day i went with out a cig for a day but then the next day I wanted one. If I am not around them I can deal with it better and dont think about them. The problem is my family and friends smoke so I am mostly around it how can I stop smoking

First off, let me say good job and congrats! Wanting to quit, is the first step TO quitting!

Try and quit naturally. It will be hard, i know as my mom, brother, sister and most of there friends are smokers. So yeah, try natural, I heard if you get past the 2nd week, you are golden. Because it takes a full 2 weeks for the nicotine to get out of your system. This is the best because the patch puts some nicotine in your body (why it works) but if natural doesnt work, try the patch.

There will always be people smoking, but with your friends and family, if someone lights up, try and get away, but if you are in a car or something, just say "okay, you know that i quit/am trying to quit, so can you please wait till later?"

hope i helped! :)

Q: well, i was in my bf's room a few weeks ago and he left for a moment, and i found a piece of paper saying "her" with an email address. I got immediately suspicious and remembered the email.
Later I added the email using a fake account and it turned out to be his ex! I started talking to her out of curiosity and we became "friends" she soon started going on about her ex and I know it was my bf she was referring to. i know they had been together a very long time and i think he really liked her, but the rest of the details of the relationship he didn't tell me because he knew i would be jealous. we were only friends when he was dating her. now i'm finding out all sorts of things, and i've found out he's lied to me about a few things from his past. she's also made out that he still isn't over her but she is over him. he told me he was over her. i really didn't mean to find this stuff out. the more i find out, the more upset i get. besides, i keep comparing myself to her because she's older than me and has had so many bfs and experience, and my bf seemed to like her more than me!

what should i do? should i continue speaking to her, or tell my bf everything and confront him? i feel awful about it now.. i wish i had never added her because it was going behind his back. but i also feel i need to keep speaking to her to find out the truth. this is a hopeless situation - please help? thank you

First off, we both know you shouldnt have done it. But, too bad, you did, (and ive done worse) so, moving on. You shouldnt still talk to her, and you should seriously re-think this relationship. But, you also need to really think about how serious the stuff is that he "lied" to you about (which, you dont even know if he really is lieing, it is very possible she found out it was you) and if she is someone with so many bfs, she may think he isnt over her cause she is too into herself.
AND STOP CAMPERING YOURSELF RIGHT NOW! it is terrible! Trust me! It takes too much energy, and soon, you wont feel good enough for anything, okay?! There will always be someone prettier or skinner or better looking or a better personality. But with the prettier someone, they have a prettier someone. What ever you compare about you to her, compare HER to YOU.

If you need more help, just ask...and i hope that made sence! :)

Q: i am not very athletic. I hate running, and i'm not particulary competitive. I dont like being responsible for things on a team because i'm always scared i'll let the team down.Also i hate practices where you have to do sprints and drills esp. since i'm not a fast runner. I take dance and i play a little tennis but i'm not particularly good at eaither. What would be a good sport for me to play?

Ah! Straight from my mind to your question! lol I SUCK at running, and i am TERRIBLE at sports. But, i was an awesome soccer goalie. Its crazy, i have NO hand-eye corrdination, yet i rock. Also, you could try cheerleading, i did that for a while. Two of my best friends, who arent very in shape at all, love field hockey, so you could try that.
Also, to get your indurence up, try going running with a friend twice a week after school. (someone with about the same endurence level as you, cause, if not, you might feel bad about yourself, aka NOT GOOD) Just run as much as you can, then walk, when you feel ready, run again. It will take time, but you will build endurence. If your friend needs to stop, and you dont, stop with her.
hope it helps! Ask back if you need any more :)

Q: ok so here is the deal. there is this guy me and him are close friends and what you would call "friends with benefits", but i want more than that we have talked about having a realtionship and i know that he likes me and i like him. but it is the same old same old, he says i am not ready for that, you need to be with someone who deserves you. i told him i thought he meant i did not deserve him and he said that i had it all wrong. that all it was, was that he did not have the time and energy into making a relationship work. what the hell does that mean. he said darlin if it meant to be it will happen. can someone please help.

Last year, i was in just about the same situation. Except the fact that he had a girl friend, and the first time we made out, they broke up. Then we were still FWB (friends with benifits) for a while. Then, he said he didnt like me as a girl friend anymore, and i was still compeltely in love with him. You need to eaither A) Stay FWB, hope your feelings go away (Which, they probally wont) and just be that till one of you finds someone else or, B) just stop the fwb, still be friends, but trust me, making out with someone you like that much over and over, knowing its going no where, OUCH! both will hurt like hell, but option B will hurt a lot less in the long run...
Hope i helped, and that that made sense :)

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Hey! I'm Em, my friend Tori got one of these, so i decided to check it out, and got OBBESSED! i am always giving my friends advice, so please, ask away, and i will do my best to help!