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Ok when you excercise and your heart beats really fast then that's good but when you smoke your heart beats really fast but that's bad. Why?

Both make hearts beat fast I don't know why one is good and one is bad

The difference is Smoking gives you Cancer. It has nothing to do wheter your heart is beating fast.

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What are hopeless romantics?

Hopless romantics are people who never give up on love. They crave the flowers, candle lit dinners, everything, the whole nine yards. They never listen to anything negative that people say about love because they truly believe in it.

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what are some intellectually stimulating books

Farenheit 451 by Ray Bradbury is the best book I have have ever read in my english class.

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I think ive become desensitized to all the violence on tv. When I hear statistics about 10000 people dying somewhere I don’t feel anything. Its horrible but theres something wrong with me! Am I a sosciopath/psychopath?

No, there is nothing wrong with you. Everyone is desensitized now, if you remember when 9/11 happened a lot of older people were very very upset but most children and young adults were not phased by it. We just live in a different time then our grandparents did, which is why they become upset at things like that. We see things like that everyday on the news so to us it is normal, but our grandparents only could watch news reels before movies and listen to the radio.

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i hate my life so much. just everything about it im always mad or sad never ever happy except with my friends which is only like every other 3 days. everyone of my friends have had a time they need all of us and now its me but nothing helps and im only happy with them. my parents dont let me express anything at all. so when i get mad its hell then im grounded. in my life everything bad happenes to me and my friends try to keep me out of it. they can tell out of everyone i am deppressed and what all happenes to me. so when i am with them we go scream till our lungs give out then im fine for a day then im mad enough to kill myself and they say ill end up suicidel. i have to wear pink and brights when im not with my friends. my mom thinks im deppressed and going gothic. no duh i have been for almost a year. and its not getting better they make it 10X worse. im crying my eyes out now. i canot get a therepist what else can i do.

Everything WILL get better. Believe me I know. I was in the same position you are in. Life can be very difficult at times, and I know that right now it seems like it has been this way for so long and that there is no way out of the cycle, But there really is. It is good that you can rely on your friends. Tell them everything. Write it all down in a notebook, if you are angry at someone write them a letter then rip it up. I Promise you that things will get better. Maybe there is someone at school you could talk to? A teacher that would just let you close the door and vent? I don't know the whole story of why you are depressed, but if you would like you can Instant message me at wishes count or send me an email at pvbandfreak@yahoo.com

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What programs or classes/courses would I have to take in a college or university. (Both graduate and undergraduate) to become an Investigative Reporter?

Communitcations classes. Every college has diffrent programs and call them diffrent things (Journalism, mass communitcations,public speaking, public relations, brodcasting, radio and television) If you are in high school now I would recomend joining the newspaper staff.

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this guy i like keeps calling me hott. what else do i say besides thanks thanks thakns thanks. im 14 hes 16

Say "You're not too bad yourself" or "Right back at ya!"

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ok, so there is this girl at my school, who thinks that I'm her best friend! except, the fact is, i cant stand her
she is always excluding herself to get attention, and sometimes she talks about hanging herself, for attention
and whenever she invites me over to her house, all we do is sit and watch tv or get on the computer
i cant stand it!! she annoys the crap out of me!!
what can i do to try and get her away from me???

Just slowly stop talking to her. When she invites you over, just say your busy. Don't confront her or talk behind her back. You could also become more involved in something at school or get a job. If you do this right it should feel to her that you just grew apart while in reality you just wanted the friendship to end.

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"Nothing’s worse than watching a friend in pain and knowing there is absolutely nothing you can do about it"--- what does this quote trying to say? sorry im just a exchange student from japan.

It means that one of the worst things in life is watching someone you care about be in pain, whether it be emotional or pyshical and you can't do anything to ease their pain. One example is when a friend has a broken heart, all you can do is give a shoulder to cry on, but they have to do all the healing themselves.

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"never take someone for granted hold every person close to your heart cause you might wake up one day and realize that you've lost a diamond while you were too busy collecting stones"-- what does this quotes trying to say? is it about friendship? or what?

It is really about relationships in general. It means that if you worry about small unimportant things like drama, clothes, being popular and even just having as many friends as possible you can end up pushing really great people away.

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is it bad if im 14 that is 5ft 10???? tell hte truth

No way! It is pretty cool that you are that tall, it makes you stand out from other people. You could be a model, or really good at volleyball,or basketball (although I'm sure everyone always says that) There are even scholarships for girls who are that tall!

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ok so there's this guy and we'll call him jim. jim is like my deffinition of a perfect guy, and ive liked him for a long time [6th, 7th, and now 8th grade] and he likes me back. so lately its been going really well and were not like going out or anything, but we kissed and stuff and have been flirting and talking a lot too. so yesterday he called me and told me he still likes me, but he also likes this other girl too. well call her emily. so emily is a total bitch, who flirts with every single guy and leads them on. its gay and im not jsut saying that cause jim likes her. i dont understand why he likes her, shes so like un-genuine and i dont know. oh and well she likes him back too [along with 3 other guys which jim donest know about]. and first of all i cant believe emily would try to like make a move on jim because well the whole school knows about jim and i, like a sort of "unnamed couple" and so ugh i dunno. what should i do? should i move on or keep holding on to jim? i mean i cant decide who he should like, so im completly vulnerable! helpp please!

Tell him that he needs to decide between the two of you. Then explain why you think you are the best choice for him, but try not to trash talk about this other girl becuase that might make him think that you are the bitchy one. If he wants to be with you, thats great! If not, then move on and maybe someday down the road you can be together. Good luck!

Kate

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i just wanna know the name's of some really good alternative rock bands. NO screamo, heavy metal. just alternative rock. i already have fall out boy, panic! at the disco, and cute is what we aim for songs, so you don't have to mention them. thank you

Acceptance
The Academy Is...
Houston Calls
504 Plan
Hot Hot Heat
Dashboard Confessional
Reel Big Fish
Streetlight Manifesto
Armor For Sleep
Brand New
Taking Back Sunday
Thursday
Senses Fail
Green Day
The Pink Spiders
Gym Class Heroes
Hellogoodbye
Long Shot Hero
Mae
Matchbook Romance
My Chemical Romance
The All American Rejects
Motion City Soundtrack
Patent Pending
Punchline
The Starting Line
Story of the Year
Sublime
The Used

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theres a guy who i've been inlove with for about 2 years since we've went out then broken up. he totally ignored me for half a year and i was depressed pretty much. then we became friends with benifits. it was suppost to be secret but i told and some word got out, he basically hated me for 2 months. then he would tell me he wanted to be friends with benifits. this went on and off threw out april threw october in 2006. we had sex the first time over summer then he said he never should have because he loved someone else. he never had feelings for me just lust, but i had feelings for him (stupid i know).. i just cant say no to him. then when had amazing sex in october and he said we had to stop bc he was inlove with someone else. it hurt. for around 5 monthes i tried to forget about him. we never talked. then a week ago we started talking again and it seemed like we were normal friends. now we plan on having sex another time soon because we can't stop lusting over each other. i know he likes someone else and this little secrect hookup has to end sometime like before, i just don't know what i should do.. have sex with him or just keep putting it off and avioding him. i really don't know if i love him but i just feel a strong feeling towards him and its so intense. and when we'd hook up he seemed not even to care but then when we would finally talk about what we did he would admit a bunch of stuff. he can't show feelings at all. im so sorry this is confusing, but i just need comfort. i don't want to tell anyone else about this whole issue because its my responsiblity to make sure no one finds out. i mean if everone knows ive done it 3 times before i was even 14 they'd never stop talking about me. just please help

Look, he does not sound like he has any real feelings for you. You cannot keep hooking up with him, you are only making things more difficult for yourself. Please for your own sake, do not have sex with him again. Please find someone else, who cares about you and loves you. He is only seeing you as a hook up and not as anything else. I'm sorry I had to be so blunt, but you needed to hear it this way.

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What is a good summer job that pays high, and I can have it as a second job? besides a summer camp?

Being a waiter or waitress at a resturant is a good job. You don't get paid minimun wage, but you make so much money in tips!

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whenever i find a boy DOES like me, it always seems like they are the ones i don't like! i always find something wrong with them. this is going to sound stupid, but there's a boy in my grade who i don't know well but i have always had a feeling he likes me (he compliments me, trys to startup convos, etc.) i don't have anything against him, and i think he's nice...but sort of awkward...like not totally sure of himself). he is also sort of emo punkish...not usually my type (like he likes screamo music, etc.) it's just not really my thing. i don't know what to do...whenever i am at home i think "oh well maybe i'll give him a chance", but as soon as i see him i change my mind & feel all awkward. what should i do?!?!

I say just go for it! Opposites attract, and you never know, he could be the most amazing guy out there, behind all that emo exterior. Good Luck

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okay heres the deal :\ my bf has been my best friend for a few years & we have been really close. well last week we ended up getting a little "too close" (;]) & hooked up for the first & it was amazing and then we both decided that we wanted a relationship with eachother & now were in a comitted relationship. okay well he told me he was in love with me yesterday and weve only been dating a week & i guess its possible. but the feelings arent there "yet" on my part. i really really really like him a lot and i care about him so much & he means everything to me; and its definetley as more than a friend..but im not "in love with him" and i feel awkward saying "i love you too" because the feelings arent there yet. but he thinks i dont believe that i love him! i guess i believe it, but i dont know if he really does because he didnt think of me as more than a friend until last week. also; i dont want to reject him when he says ''i love you'' but i dont want him to think im lame by saying ''i care about you too'' or anything like that. hmm what should i do any advice is appriciated thanks :]

DO NOT tell him that you love him until you know you do for sure. Otherwise he will just end up getting hurt. And just tell him exactly that. Explain that you believe he loves you, but that you are not sure that you feel that strongly for him. You don't have to say it, But PLEASE if you do say it make sure you mean it.

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Ok so i got a boufriend we have been going out for like 2 weeks and ii have absoultly no feelings for him ='[ when he touches me i feel werid and everythiing i want to end it but i dnt know how if i do alot of people will hate me so pelase help i dont nkow what to do please anyone help me the more advice the better =[

If you do not have feelings for him then end it. Yes he is going to be hurt, and other people might be mad at you. But if you stay in the relationship for any longer he will get attached and end up heartbroken later. Just explain this to him, you haven't been dating that long so it won't be so bad.

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giving blowjobs.. how is it done?

is it full on blowing??.. do you have any examples, can you compare it to something? PLEASE!!!

im really curious

It actually does not involve any "blowing" at all...

I got this off of urban dictionary :
To lick, or suck a mans penis. Usually done by swirling the tongue around the penis while sucking at the same. This causes a sensation of pleasure to the reciver making them ejaculate.

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Cany someone give me a summary of the 2nd half of this book? (The book Theif) A family member gave it to me and she wants to know what I think. I barely got half way without boring myself to tears. She already read it so I can't BS anything. Help?

If she wants to know what you think, why don't you just tell her that it bored the hell out of you. Instead of lying about how much you liked it. I doubt she would be offended. Just say something like "It wasn't really the type of story that can hold my attention"

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