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Hey. I want to have sex, I have a steady boyfriend for three years, and I am totally ready. I am 18 years old. The only thing is I am afraid that having sex will hurt so much it won't be worth it. I have a very small body (about 5'1, 111 pounds). Please help. I am a female. Thanks.
Rebekah (link)
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Don't just worry about the pain aspect as much as the fact that it will change the way that you and your boyfriend "look" at things. Make sure that both are you are truly committed to take this step before you do.
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OKay, well this might be quite odd, but you see I been with this guy for about 4 years, then we broke up b/c our parents starting talking and eventually dating, NOW their getting married. Both of our parents know we dated before, but they think its over, but...its been over, but we still "fool around" if you know what i mean once and a while. I mean, this is the guy that taught me like everything and what i know today is because of him.So anyway, he's coming up aoon for the wedding next week and he wants to ...you no before we are "offically" brother and sister..So should i do some things and have a bit of fun or would it be wrong? (link)
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Considering that you are basically family now, I would advise against doing that. Would be better to get into the perspective of living in close quarters with this guy strictly on a platonic level now and to have just another "fling" with him, would complicate that further.
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Ok so yesterday i was raped =(....but see the thing is i dont know how to tell my parents....or anyone. I kind of feel embaresed that it happend and idk. But should i tell them and how should I tell them.
thank you soo much (link)
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To not say anything is wrong also, you need to talk to your parents....would you want this happening to someone else? and knowing how it feels, to have them feel the same as well?
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ok im 13 and im sort of dating this 16 year old for a while we have been close and like his friend is going out with my frie so we go places with each other. well i get out of school on the 24 and we were all going to walk to there house and hang out there but ive never been to his house b for do you think i should go remember he's 16 and im 13.? (link)
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if an adult will be present, shouldn't be a problem. That would ease your mind as well.
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We just moved from Oregon to California and we have all this winter clothes. I think we are haivng a garage sale next week. The problem is, I don't know how to price my items! They may be used, but they are in excellent condition. We have many different brands from gap to abercrombie to bcbg! How should I price my clothes??-I paid good money for it! (link)
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for a garage sale, I wouldn't make things too pricey. A suggestion that may work for you is even though they are in excellent condition, but well used, take 75% or so off of what you paid originally.
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I'm never really sure what to say to the question "I love your shoes! Where did you get them?" or any other clothing item because I really don't want to say anything to incriminate me. The popular kids will laugh if you answer anything like "target", "payless shoe store", or some other department store, and the kids that I'm friends with call me stupid if I tell them that I bought them at Hollister. What is a generic answer that I can say that will satisfy everyone? (link)
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lol, there is nothing wrong with target or walmart or payless hun....the fact that you are willing to save money and not purchase something for a name shows that you are wise :) in my opinion, however, I know how peer pressure is. I hope this doesn't sound too lame, but you could change the subject quickly, or something on the lines of that. If you don't want to do that, believe me, those popular kids mom's shop at target too, whether they want to admit it or not. If they are commenting on liking your shoes, tell them in an upbeat way where they can find them. :)
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ok im j/w is constantly biting your lips until they bleed then biting them more or always pickiking at scabs until they;re completley off a bad habbit like cutting? i know itz a bad habbit, but is it ANYTHING likr cutting!
Thanks a bunch! :D
~*jemmy*~ ((ps i DO NOT cut)) (link)
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Sounds like more of an anxiety type behaviour. My daughter picks scabs and stuff like that as well. I've been working with her on that. Each time I see her start doing that, I have to remind her not to because it will leave scars.
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I have a friend and he's gay. Or maybe he's bi im not sure but he seems more towards gay but anyways. I love this kid more then anything and sumtimes i wonder if maybe i have a crush on him. At times i feel that i dont but other times i kinda want his attention when he's around other people too. I like it when he hugs me or lays his head on my shoulder or chest but i dunno if i have a crush on him. Obvously i dont really have an option or going out w/ him or not and i dont wanna tell him about my confusion, but do you think i may like him or it just might b a close friendship? and if you think i do what can i do to maybe stop myself (link)
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There is nothing wrong with loving a friend. I think you already know that it wouldn't go anywhere due to his preferences and that's ok too. To me, it sounds like a very close friendship :)
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I like this boy but i think he likes this other girl...but i also think he likes me...he knows i like him but still flirts wit the other girl...i mean i even told him that i liked him on the phon cause he asked me if i liked him and i said yea...but the only thing is that the other girl is one of thoes nasty lil girls that all the boys want because she will do anything...and im not like that...what should i do..i mean i think i love him...i know i love him but i think he likes the other girl
thankx
~in love~
~but confused~ (link)
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When boys are younger, they tend to look at the "nasty" girls more, however, those aren't the ones that they look to when it's time to settle down. I wouldn't compromise my principals to gain his attention, but I also wouldn't let him play me either. Play hard to get, keep things on a friendly basis and let him know that if he chooses you, that's it, no other girls. Hope this helps.
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hey....im 13 and this lady calls me everyday asking me to babysitt her kids...i already told her that my mom said i cant because i already babysit 2 other kids and i have homework...and a life but she keeps on calling asking me to babysitt them....mind you she has like 5 kids...and she has a older son then me that can watch them so why does she need me to watch them???
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Is it possible that she is trying to work? Just wondering. Also, she may not find her son reliable enough to trust him to watch the smaller ones. It may be annoying, but to me, this would tell me that you are a good babysitter and trustworthy. :)
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I*ve been going out with this guy for a little over 2 months now, and i really like him...but we dont ever see each other. We go to different schools, and we live one & a half hours away from each other. I see him when i go to my moms, every other weekend..but i dont think thats enough! Summers almost here and i*m gonna be at my moms house all summer, so i*ll be able to see him but people tell me that hes cheating on me and lying to me. I dont know what to do!!...... (link)
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What I would do is take what others are saying with a grain of salt for right now and not overreact. You will know soon enough when you go to your mom's for the summer. Just make sure that you keep your eyes open for anything suspicious.
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okay so this is my long story short. theres this guy i liked in 5th grade currently seventh grade i've known him like FOREVER ! in fifth grade he cheated on me and this year at haloween i went to my friends party and he asked me out i said i didnt know so he was all over in every way he could be so then a month later she had her great grandmoms 80 birthday party and he asked me out again so i said yeah because i liked him and we made out a couple of times and then another month later he asked me out nd i said no allthough i like but hes a MAJOR PLAYER !! and i think i love him everytime we pass eachother in the hallways we look at eachother then lookaway i think he likes me but is afraid to admit PLEASE HELP ME !!
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Sweetie, my main concern here is the fact that ya'll have been fooling around. That is something that you should save for someone who is going to treat you like you should be treated and not used up on a "major player". Be more proud of yourself and realize that you are worth way more than that.
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i have these excessive sweating problems under the armpits. i've heard this person say that you should apply babypowder over your antipersperant but that doesn't work for me at all and it makes that part look nasty cuz the stuff bunches up. anyway i just went to main drug mart *i'm canadian* and i only brought about 20 bucks with me and told them and they recommended drysol but they were all really expensive so i could only afford to get the mild one which says "aluminum chloride hesahydrate 6.25% w/v in anhydrous ethanol" and i don't know what that means. i sweat alot alot even if i'm not doing anything that usually makes you sweat so do you think mild would be okay to stop the sweating or should i get the stronger one? sry for the length i really need help on this.thanks in advanice (link)
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your body is sweating because it needs to cool off. Try the mild and see if it works, if not, try the stronger one.
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can you please help. me and my boyfriend were in a 3 year relationship but he was really nasty to me he hit me and i use to sell drugs for him i know im stupid but i was so scared of him any way i sucked up the courage to break up with him and i did but now he rings me and follows me i told him i was gona ring the police and he sed he would tell them i used to sel drugs unless i go back to him should i go back i dont want no trouble with the police and also ive already bin in trouble with them once because of it. (link)
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even though you've been in trouble, stalking is a very serious crime. You have the right to get yourself straight, regardless of your past, and I commend you on that. If there is an adult that you can confide in, that is where I would start, and have them approach the police with you. Keeping a journal of when he calls and when he is following you, also of threats being made will help your case. No one should have to live in fear. ...
From someone who's been stalked herself...
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this is driving me crazy...all my friends have bf's besides me..yet im not the prettiest girl in the world..but every where i go someone says something about their bf's or how they hate being single..and i am 15 and never had a bf...can someone help me? (link)
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better to never have one and learn who you are first, than to be with one who mistreats you or makes you unhappy. A good and healthy relationship are well worth waiting for, and when that person comes along, there will be no regrets... :)
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I have been dating a woman for a year now. We have shared so much with one another, love happiness, and even upsets from other people, but at the end of everyday we could each say that we were in love and truly mean it. Then out of the blue, she told me that she wasn't sure about how she felt, becasue she is returning to college in august, and we will be going to sperate schools. But it hurt her to say it, becasue she cried. We believe in morality so absolutely nothing happened physically, but emotionally we were there. I have tried everything about explaining how I felt and how she felt, she just refuses to listen to me. How to I get her to see how she truly feels? She is the only person to ever of love me, and I can't lose her. What do I do? I am a male, of 22. (link)
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We can't force people to see things the way they should be. That old saying comes to mind "if you love someone, set them free, if they come back, they are yours" or something on the lines of that. Naturally she is nervous about school. Both of you are heading in your own direction and finding yourselves. If I were you, I'd offer her my friendship, I'd offer to write to her as friends and keep in touch with one another, but as friends, that way she doesn't feel like she's being pushed into anything. Who knows what is to happen? Reminds me of that song by Garth Brooks "unaswered prayers". Good Luck
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im 16 im living with my boyfriend i know im (young its complicated)I was kind of pressured into having sex with my boyfriend i did say yes at the start but then changed my mind and told him i wernt ready he ignored me and carried on i tried to push him off he was to strong i started crying wen it was finished in the morning he acted like nothing was wrong and brought me a cuppa tea in the bed. was i raped? or am i just being a baby? what should i do (link)
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At any point in time that you state "no" and it is continued, then it is considered rape. You are not a baby, your feelings were not considered and you were technically violated. The easiest solution would be to remove yourself out of that situation completely, not sure if you have that option or not.
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my boyfriend and i broke up on monday. and i knew it was gonna hppen since a week and a half ago. but. i still like him. and i need to get overhim, hes a very bad person. i need to stop thinking about all the good feelings and times we had together. because i start crying again. i want to be over him. i wake up every morning with a heavy heart and i dont think he even cares. thats what gets me too. any advice on how to forget? (link)
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Forgetting and forgiving take time....that old saying "time heals", well, it is true. In another week or so, the pain will lessen and you will be feeling better. In the mean time, keep yourself busy with friends doing things that you enjoy doing.
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okay so whenever i tell myself to not eat some kind of food i end up eating it and whenever i promise my self to go run i cant.. so how can i keep these promises to myself and go out for a run and not eat certain kinds of foods ? (link)
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Best thing is not to eliminate any foods, but to moderate them. Instead of eating 7 candy bars a week, gradually knock it down to only one. Self control is a big factor in the things you are asking. You have to make yourself do those things, and don't make them unrealistic. Learn to change your eating habits a little at a time, that way, you can stick to it. It's basically learning all over again how to eat properly.
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I'm in 8th grade and there is this 7th grader in my Strings class that has like an aide and he is soo annoying and weird. When we went to Busch Gardens for a competition he would only be in my group and he stared at me CONSTANTLY. He wouldn't leave me alone either. He would only go on rides i went on. The other day my friend asked him without consulting me if he liked me and he said yes. My other friend wants to ask him if he'd ever ask me out but i don't want to have to break his heart. Everyone i know wants to ask him for laughs but i don't know what i would say if he did, not that think he would. What should i do? (link)
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First of all, if you were in his shoes, you wouldn't want people laughing at you or asking you things that would make people laugh. If the subject arrises, let him know that you aren't interested in him in that way, but be nice about it and offer friendship. :)
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