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Hey my names Kait and I'm 15. Music is my life i can't live without it! I am always giving advice to friends and such! Also I relate to situation very easily and love helping people. I decided to start one of these and I hope that I can help you in the best way possible. Thanx♥


advice is what we ask for when we
know the answer but we wish we didn't.





advice

Well i'm 15/f and me & my boyfriend have been talking about sexual stuff. Well I like him a lot, and i'm willing to do a lot of things, he wants to finger me. And I said i'd think about it.
But I need to know, Does it hurt, what does it feel like, is there anything bad that can come out of this situation, how long does it last.

Please help!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks in advance!


Sorry it took me a little while to answer...


Its up to you what you decide to do with your boyfriend. However if oyu don't think you are ready then tell him no it won't affect the realtionship. If you do decide to do more sexual things with him be sure that he does indeed respect you before doing anythning.
I don't know that i can explain it to you how it feels though. It may sound a little wierd but you can figure out if you like the feeling by fingering yourself. Defferent people like idfferent things and not all girls like that feelings so don't feel wierd if it doesn't pleasure you.
Also if you do decide yo let your beoyfriend finger you make sure his fingernails do not have any rough edges and that his hands are clean.


If you have any other questions leave them in my inbox. Hope i helped!!

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Hello. I lost my lighter, would it be okay if I lighted my ciggarettes with matches instead? Please let me know. I know this sounds dumb but I just need to be sure! Thanks!


if you insist on smoking then yes you can

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My parents and I moved here from Russia. It was hard for us at first. My dad worked and my mom was in school, training to be a nurse for 7 YEARS(she couldn't speak english).

Now she has a job. She's a nurse and gets paid WELL. We're living pretty good. But I barely see my parents, and that is a problem.

Ever since my mom began working, she became OBSESSED with it. She's cancelled so many plans with me and broke so many promises because she would much rather work.

I'm only 14 years old/female, and I never really had a great relationship with my parents. They've always been TOO BUSY. I missed out on so much as a kid. and I am turning 15 next month. and I feel as though my mom would rather make extra money than spend AT LEAST one day with me.

I am bulimic and I have bad mood swings and I am so so so sad, and I am losing many of my friends. I want to be able to at least talk to my mom of all people. It's just so hard. :[
what should I do or say?
I need somebody, especially a mom.


I understnad how you feel. It seems like its more and more common that parents arent home for their kids. Have you tried explaining to your mom that shes not there for you and you miss spending time with her? What about having dinner together as a family two or three times a week. You could text your mom during the week to keep in contact with her during the day.

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Alright. My boyfriend and I have thought a LOT about having sex with each other. I really want to and I'm ready but I'm only 15, and if I explained to my folks that I need birth control, they'd kill me. I know I'm ready because we've been dating for quite sometime, and I'm very in love with him and I want him to be my first. We've planned to stay together for a while and I'm not one of those girls who just blabber on and on about how I love this person so so so much. I take things seriously and I don't say I love you every 5 minutes because it's something very special to say. Not only do you have a healthy, good physical relationship with each other, we've got an amazing emotional one too. We're so open with each other, it throws me off guard sometimes. He's my best friend in the whole wide world and we even broke up with each other a few months ago but we never stopped talking like we do now and we didn't stop seeing other. He's amazing, I love him, and we can't ever get enough of each other. At school, we're together, and then after school we're on the phone until bedtime. Then on weekends we're together. Theres always things to talk about when we're together and theres always things to do. We get along amazingly and we have a really strong connection. Hes so practical and logical too. He's very smart with his decisions and he's helped me along so well. I've had a lot happen to me the past few years and I went off track but now my life is great and things are going smoothly. See now I want to have sex with him, and I already think my parents suspect that we fool around. Would fooling around be considered sexually active? Do I sound ready for sex? Someone please help me, I've talked to him about this as well and he doesn't know what to do. We need some clearing up!!


It sounds like you're probably ready to have sex. You and your boyfriend have obviously made up your minds that you want to have sex. However its really good that you are taking the right precautions in a way of protection and practicing safe sex. There is always the option of using a condom. If not you can get birth control from planned parenthood. You don't have to have a parents consent to order it. Also you can have it delivered to your house or the place of your choice.



Hope I helped!

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14/f. I babysit this adorable boy who is about 3 i think and he is so hyper and stuff! i usually babysit him at night, like i put him to bed and stay there for another few hours. i am usually only watching him for about 3 hours and then i sit there and watch tv when he goes to bed for the other like 2 hours until the parents get home. they just told me to put him to bed and then i could help myself to anything to drink and watch tv and what not, but i just feel bad when they come home and im sitting there watching tv. i dont know why but even though they told me i could i feel like i shouldnt be. like basically they're paying me to do nothing. before the kid goes to bed i always am playing with him and i dont ignore him. i just feel bad. should i do something differently? or is it ok to still sit there and do nothing when they get home even though i feel bad? please help i am babysitting for them tomorrow night. thanks!



I know exactlly what you mean!
I too babysit for a family on a regular basis and at first i too felt awkward about that. Its not that you're getting paid for nothing i mean if something were to happen you're there.
Personally after the kids go to bed i will clean up all the messes they made before they went to bed and then i'll sit and watch tv. Dont't feel bad you're not doing anything bad.

Hope that helped if not drop a question in my inbox!

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14 about to be 15/F (Grade 9)

Okay, so i'm going out with one of my ex's, and I don't know if it was just a spur of the moment type of thing, but I hung out with him Friday night, it's now Sunday morning. And I don't really have the same feelings for him.

Now my other ex, the one that i'm compleatly in love with, we never stopped loving eachother.
I really want to be with him, and I know he wants to be with me.

But my BF now, before we started going out, said that I better not dump him 4 another guy.
Anyways, I have kind of a bad rep right now at school.

People think i'm a hoe just because i've been out with a lot of guys, BUT I'VE NEVER DONE ANYTHING except making out.

I just want to break up with my bf now,and get my ex back.

HOW DO I DO IT????
Please hurry .

And thanks in advance =)



That just doesnt't make sense! Tell me why you'd wanna go back to you ex? I mean seriously the two of you obviously broke up for a reason and those reasons will just come back if the two of you go back out.

It kinda sounds like you just need to be single and get your morals straightened out. You dont sound like you're really all that sure of what you want in a guy or anything like that.

My suggestion: Break up with your current boyfriend and just give yourself some time. Time to think about wheather or not you do want a boyfriend. Also to figure out what you want in a boyfriend if you do decide you want one. Make a list of the qualities you want in a guy. Not just appearence but personality traits also. That way you'll know more of what you want in a boyfriend.


Good Luck.


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I asked a question about this earlier, but, i got a perm over the summer and it's coming out and when i scrunch it it looks really bad. Well, i am willing to straighten or blowdry it, but i really dont want to damage my hair doing that everyday. I know there is stuff you can put on your hair before you do it to lessen the damage but i'm totally clueless on what to use! I really prefer it to be under $6 and i want it to work well. Does anyone have any suggestions about good products i can use, or cute ways to style it?



i have wavy hair and straighten mine. I've tried tons of diffrent heat protectors and found on that works really well!

It's by Vo5 and is called Miracle Mist. You can buy it at most drugstore or grocery stores. The cost of it is usually about $4. and here is the link for it:...

http://vo5.com/VPstyling/pr_r_p6.cfm




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Im 17/f.

I live with my stepdad and have since i was 2 years old. Well ever single he finds a way to critize me. Like he'll say kim you going to take shower you stink. And i just got out of the damn shower he was just sleeping and came downstairs and decide to be a smartass because he didnt know i had taken a shower. Or if i wash my clothes. He goes you are causing my bill to go up when you wash and dry your damn clothes. He says i alwasy loook fake because i wear foundation and eyeliner and you cant even tell i have it on. If i buy a drink at work so i can drink it at home he tells me that i need to drink slim fast instead of vitamin water or sobe drink. He calls me a whore & ho because i wear thongs ( i dont let the world know that i wear them ) He picks me up from work and i usually work till 9pm. If im not out by 9:02 he bitches at me when i get in the car. ( i cant help what time i get off )

There is so much more. But those are the basics,
Im so sick of this shit. He treats me like crap but when i tell him to shut his mouth he calls me a stupid teenager and i think i know everything.

Please help me


Have you talked to your mom about this? I mean after all he is her husband so maybe he will listen to her. You said he yells at you when you tell him to shut his mouth but have you considered letting him know in a nice way that the things he says hurt you.

There could be the possibility that he does indeed care for you but doesn't really know how to express that to you. Its hard for step parents to actually be good parents. Because of the fact that they know thaey are not your biological parent which makes their job tougher. So keep that in mind.

Yes he may say things to put you down and everything but just keep a posotive outlook. You know those things arent true so don't take the things he says to heart.

Look on the bright side though you only have one more year until you leave and go to college. Have you considered living with another relative until you're 18? For example a grandparent or maybe an aunt or uncle. I'm sure your extended family would be more than happy to give you a place to stay and probably be pretty undestanding.

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I am looking at a dress at Macy's online that is xs (juniors). Does anyone know the approx. measurements of what it might be? I couldnt find a size chart!!1 I need to know asap!!


i got my homecoming dress from macys and i got a small. It was a 3 so a XS is probably a 1.

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I'm going to a wedding tomorrow and I don't know how I should do my hair. It is a couple inches part my shoulders in layers. I wear it straight every day, so what kind of style should I wear to the wedding?


spiral curls would look so adorable!

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theres this guys that likes me and keeps telling me that he likes me but the wont ask me out cuz he thinks i like other guys cuz it alk to some of my best friends in the hallway which just happen to be guys and he always mad at me and he is also always trying to make a move on me but im not sure if im ready for that yet what should i do?


It sounds like this guy is really intimidated by your guy friends. Personally i woulndt go out with him and heres why... If he's this jealous now and you're not even going out think of how jealous he'll be when you are! And you dont want some one whos jealous and tries to control you. Besides he should be able to talk to you and act the same around you infront of your friends.
But if you like him then let him know you do. Also thought dont go rushing anything you're not ready for. you can always take it slow with him.

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after i have had sex with my ex why does she walk all funny


who cares!
doesnt anyone ask questions anymore that arent about sex?!

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What is up with these 13 yr olds and getting pregnant/asking for advice about fingering and sexual things like that. wtf is our world coming too.When I was 13 I was still playing coodies with the guys next door or riding my bike around the neighborhood. Gahsh by the time I turn 30, 5 yr olds will be worried about sex. WTH


OMG! i so agree!
When i was 13 i thought all boys were evil and that they had cooties! I didnt even know about that kind of stuff until i was 14. I mean what the heck is up with society these days! I mean seriously my 7 year old cousin has a boyfriend and they kiss at recess. I mean when i was a little kid and had recess i was more worried about getting my turn on the tireswing! I mean seriously what the heck is imfluencing all this stuff?!


Kait

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13/f

i want a belly button ring so bad. not this year though. next year, in 9th grade. the thing is though, my mom won't let me. she said i have to wait til i move out when i'm 18. SIX YEARS?! um no i'm not waiting that long lol. i know a ton of people who have them and they haven't had a problem. i know they can get infected, but that's only if you don't take care of it and stuff. how can i convince her to let me? it's not fair 6 years is too long lol.
thankss


go on google or another search engine and find information about belly button rings. Make sure to put alot of time and effort into this. By doing so this will show you mom that you really want this and that you are aware of the pros and cons. Make sure to let her know that you are going to take care of it. You could suggest that you pay for it too. That might help convince her.




Kait

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my boyfriend just broke up with me over email...we've been together for a pretty long time and i thought he would be more considerate then this. also, he didnt tell me why he wanted to break up, so i have no idea...i just dont know what to do


have you considered asking him why he broke up with you? you could send him an e-mail asking him why. but if you do be sure to not sound whiney and desperate. just simply ask him why.

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all my mates have kissed some1 , i havnt, what is the first kiss like and "how do you"kiss lol!
13/f
sadie x


Don't rush your first kiss!
there isnt a way to really teach some one to kiss.
A kiss should be a natural thing and should happen at the right moment.
You want your first kiss to be special not something that was planned!


Kait♥

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I have dyed dark brown hair thats a little past my shoulders and is super thick. (which i hate)

What are some websites that have just pictures of really punk/scene/emo hairstyles? You know edgy stuff. I don't really wanna change my hair that much since its so damaged from bleach and other crap. But I can flex on the legnth.

Thanks!

I agree with the girl below but if you're looking for a hairstyle....

http://i9.tinypic.com/44jdjc9.jpg
she has choppy layers done by razoring her hair. and also side bangs. she simply straightens her hair, pulls up her top layers, and sprays hairspray at the roots. also refered to as teasing your hair.



http://i21.photobucket.com/albums/b251/kaitzaqt2lyf/6-28-06/sex038.jpg
Side bangs, choppy layers.



http://i21.photobucket.com/albums/b251/kaitzaqt2lyf/Kait495.jpg
Side bangs. with shorter shoppy layers. straighten hair and flip the top layers out using a flat iron.



http://media.urbandictionary.com/image/large/emohair-38198.jpg
shorter layers and side bangs. teased roots and fliped out layers



http://myspace-811.vo.llnwd.net/00207/11/85/207695811_m.jpg
Shorter than the other styles but i didnt know if it was something you were interested in?



http://img461.imageshack.us/img461/913/cimg69267oj.jpg
theres another shorter style




Hope i helped if you still have questions or need further help feel free to drop a question in my inbox!


Kait♥

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If she had all the same beliefs as you, would you vote for her? Tell me Why?

I Need this for a project, thanks.


I would deffinatly vote for a women for president!
Gender or race doesn't affect the way you do your job!
a women would be just as good if not better that the presidents we have had in the past!
I'm 100% for a women president!



Kait♥

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16, female!

what are a couple cute ideas to put on like a sign? my friend joe wants me and my other friend to make him a sign for their homecoming football game this friday. he goes to a different school than us..their colors are maroon and gold i think and he is their starting quarterback for varstiy and is in 9th grade. he is NUMBER 7! he has a girlfriend so no like really love things..i mean it can say i love you something but i dont know! we are just good friends but i want the sign to look good and not boring :)

thanks!



you could make it say....
" Number 7 in our programs... Number 1 in our hearts!"
Then decorate it in gold and maroon glitter!


Kait♥

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could i be pregnant?

deffinatly.
how about giving us more information next time...

Kait♥

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