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Q: I met my best guy friend 3 years ago (lets call him mark)...we were friends for about two months before we started acting like a couple but we'rent going out. About a year later we were nothing but friends and a new friend of mine (lets call her aly) needed a bf. So I introduced them. Aly went out with Mark on and off for about 5 months...they have been broken uhp for 6th months now and me and aly have been best friends for a year. Me and mark have recently (2 months ago) had feelings for each other again. I went to the movies with him yesterday and I relized that I had fallen completely in love with him. I dont want to hurt aly but is it ohkay for me to date mark eventually? what should I tell aly so she can accept it. Ive know mark for at lesast a year longer than aly...and I used have a realtionship like theirs before. what should I do??? i'll rate high

you should talk to aly about it before she shouldnt have a big problem with it because you and mark have had a thing before and you have known him longer 6 months is a long time she should be over it by now..goodluck.best wishes

Q: With the money I get for my birthdy next month I plan to buy some sort of MP3 player. I have been researching it on google. I have come to, two different MP3 players I might consider buying. Zen Micro 4GB or the iPod Mini 4GB. My boyfriend has a iPod mini but I don't know if that is what I want because I'm always hearing people complain about them including my b/f. So before buying either of these do any of you know any pros or cons of either products? any help will be very appreciated. Also of there is any thing tha you feel is better than these products let me know

i dont know what a Zen Micro is but i know iPod Minis need their battery replaced within a year and if you dont send it in to get it replaced before your one-year contract is up then you have to pay around $100 for a new one and you probably already know each song is a dollar so think about like 300 songs each at a dollar so ya a pro is that its cute and its easy to work so ya

Q: In November, this guy liked me. I liked him too. We didnt become a couple until January. We've been together since the 12th of January, and Ive fallen in love. Hes the best thing thats ever happened to me. But I have a problem. Ive been having some family issues, and i wasnt myself for the past 2 weeks. Its too late. Today was the last day of school, of 6th grade, were going on to middle school, and he doesnt love me as much. Were trying to decide whether to break up or not, but i really dont want to. I love him so much. It will be hard though. Were so young. No one has ever made me feel this way. I miss him so much and have been hysterical all night. I dont know what to do. Someone help me either get over him, make it work, or atleast calm down. Its gonna take more than that though.

all i have to say is your barely ending elementry school you will get over it soon i promise when you look back at this relationship you will laugh and remember all the goodtimes it brought you but there will be many of those good feeling great memories relationships trust me you have 6 more years of school you will have at least 8 more of these relationships good luck with junior high and high school

Q: hi, i remarried 10 years ago.i had 3 children when we met.he's been a great father and husband.about 2-3 years ago my(our) eldest son (15) and my husband tarted to argue all the time.i suggested that we all og to councelling,my husband said he didn't have a problem.it was all my sons fault.about a month ago he moved out.we didn't have a problem when he moved out ,then all the sudden he 's acting like he hates me. he says it's all my fault for not doing anything about my son.he says he'll move back ion when my son is out of the house.could be 1-4-6 months,or longer.he's blaming me for all of it.he wanted me to kick him out or put him in foster carte.now were on the verge of a divorce. i love him very much but i can't go on like this much longer.help please.

you should always put your childrens needs first always find out their side of the story if he wants you to kick your son out thats really wrong and you shouldnt ever kick your child out unless he did something really wrong and one arguement isnt anything to kick a kid out for your husband needs to understand that your children come first and he needs to realize that kids are gonna yell and get into fights with you because thats what we kids do we feel that is the only way you listen to us is if we yell so what im trying to say is you need to keep your son in the house no matter how big your husband thinks the fight was and i realize that you love him but you also should love your children and care for them more because they are children they arent adults like him he can take care of himself your children cant..i hope i helped

Q: Ok I have a problem I'm currently going out with this guy *lets call him bob* and I really like him, but the thing is that he has dumped me many times before but this time he says that he really likes me. Now there is this other guy *jeff* and hes pretty hott but I haven't ever gone out with him before and It's the summer so I could go to the beach with Bob and i don't know what I would do with Jeff but I don't know who to choose!

PLease help me I'll rate you a 5 for a good answer please

well i think before you go out with bob again you should make sure he knows that if he hears a rumor he should talk to you and ask you if its true instead of assuming its true i didnt give advice much on which one would be best but i would say pick which one you see yourself having most of the fun with

Q: ok im 15 and sometimes i feel like my boyfriend wants me to do more than just making out. But i dont think im ready and i dont want to yet. We've been together for 6 months and some people say thats a long time. But what should i do? is it bad for me to be 15 and not wanna do anything yet? is 6 months along time?

no its perfectly fine dont do anything you arent ready for dont let anyone pressure you to do anything you dont want to..its not bad to not want to do anything ever

Q: how do you add people as ur friends on myspace??

log in and go to whomevers site you want to be friends with under the picture of them there should be little links that say like IM this person and send message then there will be a link that says add friend and click it

Q: ok see im 16/f and my mom hates my boyfriend. like when we first started talkin she was ok then out of no where she hated him. then she changed her mind and let me go to his moms wedding reception. so we were ok. then he called me a fag on the answering machine(just playing around)she got upset he apologized and we were ok now she hates him and wont let him call my house, so he calls my cell. i love this kid and he loves me but shes messing things up. what should i do?

try to talk to her about it tell her how you feel about her hating him explain to her about the message..not much advice sorry

Q: umm I’m turning 16 in a couple of months and I haven’t really had a real boyfriend. I mean I did when I was in 6th grade and only for a week and we did nothing it was a waste. I have never had my real kiss but all my friends have and they think I have too even my best friend thinks so. Also all the guys I talk to think I have to because I’m very flirty. I never really set my friends right about all this because I was scared to tell them. But I’m going into freshman year and I haven’t had a boyfriend, my real kiss or anything and I’m really sad about that im also scared to kiss someone now because i could be bad at it and that scares me a little. I don’t know what to do. Guys have asked me out and guys have hit on me but I just never liked those guys that have. My question is: what is my problem is there anything wrong with me?? and I’m VERY picky about guys if that helps u answer my question. thanks for the help.

P.S Sorry that it is so long I'll rate high thanks!!

*K

you dont have a problem you just know what you want and dont settle for less and there isnt much wrong with that just try to think of one person who fits all of those qualities it probably rare you will find someone my advice to you would be set your standards a little lower no guy is perfect they all have their imperfections but you can find one whos near perfect and you will never know if you are a good kisser unless you give it a try but dont go and give your first kiss to just any guy you see make sure its special..and the whole never having a boyfriend really isnt bad because well think about all the good times you had flirting with other guys come on being single isnt that bad..telling your friends you havent kissed a guy before isnt bad either some of them probably havent and they say they have because they feel the same way as you do..hope i helped

Q: does anyone have a simple recipie for cookies? i want a variety but i like chocolate chip and basic stuff like that. i'll rate 5 for simplicity!

http://cookie.allrecipes.com/az/AbsolutelytheBestChocolate.asp
thats a site that i found an easy recipe hope i helped

Q: Ok I can't decide if I should go to the movies with strangers tonight. My friend knows this girl from another school and they are going to the movies, and their supposedly bringing a bunch of hot guys. My friend wants me to come, but I don't know if I should. I'm just shy. These people are all the same age as me. I don't have a boyfriend, and I do kind of want to meet guys, but I'm nervous. I don't know, should I just go out with my normal group of friends tonight?

well i say make sure you are at least comfortable and trust this friend that knows the friends so then if you want to go she wont ditch you but i say go for it go meet some hot guys and have fun

Q: How short do you have to be to be considered a migit? im 15 and 4'10...does that make me a migit?

well i think its you have to be 5 foot to not be considered a midget thats what i think it is im not 100% positive

Q: i just bought a new side kick 2 from t-mobile today, and i have a plan and everything through them. but i know there is an unlock code i can use with my imei number so i can use my SIM card from at&t wireless also! please help me. i am pulling an allnighter

well i dont know if thats really possible to put in a SIM card from at&t into a t-mobile phone..it should tell you in the handbook it came with or on monday call in or tomorrow i dont know if they will be open for long since its sunday

Q: well, i've known this guy for about 2-3 years, and he's one of the sweetest guys i've ever known. i can talk to him about anything, and everything. and if i asked or wanted the world, he would give it to me. he means a lot to me, and i dont want to lose him. im not sure if he likes me, or is just being a good friend. he calls me hun, sweetheart, and his little princess. i know what you're probably thinking, whats the problem, why not just ask him out or something. well heres the problem... i'm sixteen (almost seventeen), and hes, twenty-three. is this right? i dont think my parents would have a problem with it, because they really like him. but im afraid my other friends/relatives will,because of such the difference in age. i really like him, and he's basically what i've been looking for. and i think im in love with him. can you please help me out?

well i would just make sure that he isnt trying to get something from you but after 3 years i think thats not the case so i say just ask him or bring up the subject of a higher relationship with him and hopefully youll get the answer your looking for the age thing shouldnt matter much just as long as you know how people can be out there in the world and how they can talk but if you love him then all of the things people say wont matter

Q: I am going to be staying in a small village in Northern Italy this summer as an exchange student for 6 weeks! I know I should dress modestly there as to not offend who I am staying with, but what are some cute ways to dress and stay in style while abroad?

well have you seen sisterhood of the traveling pants Alexis Bledel wears some cute stuff that i dont believe offended the people that lived there

Q: 16.f -- i met this guy at a party i had this past weekend, hes 21, and really nice .. he seems like hes into me and invited me to his party this saturday. the only catch is that hes 21, and hes 1 of my sister's, boyfriend's best friends. Either way, i'm probably going to go to the party, but i just want to know if yall think i should "persue this"..?? thanks yall

well i know im younger than you but i would tell you to take a friend even though you think you can handle yourself sometimes girls get caught up in the things boys can say to them sure your saying no i wont ill be careful but most likly it wont end up that way so anyways back to my answer which would be take a friend and have fun make sure you get drinks for yourself so you know noone is slipping anything in..goodluck and have fun
-Marissa

Q: I have a best friend named Amanda, and today at lunch at school she didn't say a word to me so I was like hmm o-well. So I just asked her on aol and here was our conversatoin...

me: Are you mad at me?
Amanda: No, why would I be mad at you?
me: you didn't say anything to me at lunch
Amanda: hmmm yea
me: yea?
Amanda: yea?

Then I told her I had to go...I didn't know what to say...is she mad at me ? What do I do?

just ask her why she didnt say anything to you and ask if you did anything wrong
..*..MarissA..*..

Q: Okay my best friend just told me shes bi..And im a girl to.I dont know what to do, should I still be her friend or should I like not be..Im kinda creeped out cause I dont want her to like hit on me or nething.What should I do? Im only 14 to what should I do

okay i dont think you should stop being her friend cuz keep in mind she still likes guys too but you should keep out from doing things that might seem like your interested in her
hope i helped
..*..MarissA..*..

Q: i wanna start shaving should i just ask my mom?

definatly or you could just do it and get caught but yea id go for the asking her thing because most likely you can convice her to say yes and just by doing it without asking then you could get in trouble
hope i helped
..*..MarissA..*..

Q: I got poison oak really bad on my leg this year and it finally went away but it left a big white scar-its like a circle- on my ankle and like dots all over my feet (from where it was) and i don't know what to do! it looks really weird cuz im tan and then theres a whitish spot! is there any way to get rid of it? or will it ever go away?? ill rate!

well im not a doctor which is who you should probably ask but i think eventually it will go away but im not sure
i dont think i was much help but goodluck and dont feel selfconcious about it
..*..MarissA..*..