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I might be pregnant, Il find out in a couple of weeks if i miss my period or not but im so stressed out about that fact that i might be pregnant this could cause my period to be late. If i am pregnant, what do i do? I cant keep it but i wouldnt know what to do if i was to have an abortion? I cant tell my family. I feel so alone, i always cry. Please can you give me some advice.
First off, you need to take a deep breathe and calm down. You haven't even missed you period yet. So I'm guessing that since you haven't missed it yet you're probably feeling that you are pregnant because you are feeling sick and moody? That could mean anything at all. In a few weeks if you do miss your period don't freak out yet. It could be stress or something that you ate/haven't been eating, or something else. If you miss it you need to take a pregnancy test.
This could end your misery, or not.
If you do find that you are pregnant you probably shouldn't be telling many people, because things spread. Just tell your family and the guy, and maybe a friend you really trust. There are a few options that you have. And although abortion is a quick fix I have to urge you to think past it. It could cause you harm and will also definatly cause you emotional pain. Women who get abortions are often stricken with deep lasting depression. Not to mention the fact that you will have taken a life.(Yes, a life. The doctors will lie to you. These babies are alive, their hearts are beating, and their brains are working. They can also feel the pain of the abortion.) You don't want to be a person who let that happen to a child. I bet you that someone you care about deeply was almost aborted. I know 4 people who I care about who were almost aborted. They are amazing stories and I thank God that the mothers of these people did not go through with it.
You did not mention how old you are, so I can't give you the most specific advice. But if you are young and live with your family then think about this: if your family refuses to have you seen being pregnant then you could move away for a while. Maybe to go with a relative or friend or to one of those home at which pregnant women can move to while they are having the child in order to have it in secracy. If your family is supportive then just have the baby and put it up for adoption. Your child will mean alot to people who want a baby. If you are older and don't live with you family my advice is about the same. Have the baby and put it up for adoption. Or if you do find out that you truley are pregnant then tell the guy. You might be surprised and happy to find out that he would want to take the responsibilty and help you keep and raise the child.
If you are feeling alone and afraid then try calling one of those hotlines that helps pregnant mothers with all of the stress that they are going through. And you could try confiding in the one person who will never shun you or tell your secrets, God. It may sound cheesy to say that, but it's true. God never gives up on you and will never hurt you. He's always there and makes everything happen for a reason. Thats one more reason why if you are pregnant you should not consider an abortion. God planned this for some reason, whether it was to change you, or to change the world. Think about this, Someone once asked Mother Teresa 'If God is all powerful, then whe hasen't He made someone to find a cure for aids and other diseases' Mother teresa replied 'He did. That baby was aborted 20 years ago'.
I hope that you will choose with your heart and head, and that you will choose love and life.
This guy at school has been calling me really mean names such as a fucking bitch and a skank. I found out about it and I was really mad but I just let it go. Then, he started calling me it again so I went up to him and asked him politely to stop. Then, he now did it a THIRD time. I'm just really mad now and I feel there's nothing I can do exept tell the teacher. If I tell my teacher, he could get expelled from the school because my principal is REALLY big about harrasment. I'm not sure if I want him to get in trouble. But I'm sick of him making fun of me. Do you think I should tell a teacher? And why?
calling him it back wont help. i think that you should just tell. i mean, he deserves it. you shouldnt be treated like that. or just threaten him with that....i dont know if thatll help any but its worth a try
Has anyone on here ever played with a weegee board? If you have what was it like? Was is weird?? Honest answers please!
hey, i'll tell you this. wiegie(or however you spell it) boards are bad!!! what happens when you use one is your basically calling on the devil and giving up your body to be possesed by spirits! it sound kind of fake but its not! dont use them, i always wanted to try one but then i found out about the spirits thing and heard about stories when people did become possesed from using them. they had to have an exorsism preformed and everything. scary buisness, have you ever seen the movie the exorsism? enough said...
4 the past 3 years ive been feeling like i want to die and i have stress that just wont stop.i feel like everybodys like against me and i havent eaten in 4 days and i hope that im not turning anerxic.eveyday i get in arguments with my parents and teachers.i tried to commit suicide a few times but either the pills were old or it just didnt go through as planed.i think im adicted to cough medicine.i dont know what is wronge with me ill be overly happy one min. and they next ill freak out and start balling.i dont know what to do.please..HElP
you probably dont feel very comfortable talking to many people about this do you? but thats what you need to do, you need to talk to your guidance counselor at school and write it all down and stuff. it will help get some of it out. cry when you need to because its calming. you should start eating again, it'll be healthy, try healthy foods. and try exercising to relieve some stress. and one very important thing is to talk to your doctor. how your feeling might be something chemical that you need medication for. which isnt a bad thing, lots and lots of people have depression that they are treated for and it really does help. just try to relieve as much stress as you can, take a break from it all, and talk to someone
sorry if its long. =/
Well my BEST FRIEND moved really far away about 2 years ago. We have still managed to stay very close. We only see each other once or twice a year though. Lately i feel liie she is forgetting about me. I feel like I am being replaced for her frinds down there. I mean i want her to make friends but i still want to be friends with her too. She never calls anymore so I end up calling her and she always says she cant talk and she'll call me back, but never does. So i stopped calling her just to see if she would stop and think that she hasnt talked to me in a while and should call or sumthing. It hasnt happend. I havent talked to her for about a week. So heres my question. Am i being totaly selfish about this? If so what is a better way to solve it. helpp please! What should i do?
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youre not being selfish at all. friends who move away are always going to loose touch a bit. start calling her back, and talk to her about it. tell her you feel like the two of you are drifting and try to set up a specific time each week that you two can call each other and talk. something that you guys arent aloud to skip or say that your too busy for. and/or write/email each other each week, a letter/email that you have to send. make it a rule between the both of you to promise to do this.
I'm a 22 year old girl and my 24 year old boyfriend and I have been going out for nearly 5 years. I wasn't initially attracted to him but when we got talking I noticed he had a different, positive way of thinking which appealed to me. He was only 19 at the time but he had set up his own business at 17, had a strong desire to make money and was full of remarkable ideas. I had never talked to anyone around my own age who was so focused on their future and wanted the same things I did. He gave me a different perspective of looking at the world which then in turn lead to me starting my own business a couple years later. We both enjoy the fine things in life and are set on reaching our goals of being successful and having financial freedom so we can live the 'high life'. The problem is that when we first met we were all over each other at every opportunity, sex was a big part of our lives. We were living together not long after we met but had to move into my mums house for 6 months, 3 years ago when we were both having financial difficulties. Having sex regularly became a bit of an issue but we still got by. When he moved out we lived separately for a while and we found we still didn't have regular sex. I wasn't really as interested anymore as it felt routine and I was too familiar with all his moves. We'd already done most of of the sexual things we'd wanted to do together throughout our relationship so to me it seemed hard to spice up. My boyfriend wasn't bothered by it, he just wanted sex with me in any way, shape or form. We have now gone from having sex a few times every day to once a week then once a month to not at all. In my mind it is because there is no longer any lust. He has given up on initiating sex because he knows I'll reject him. Over the last year he's gained a beer belly and although he has never been overly fashionable I find his constantly casual clothes, never changing hair and carelessness with his appearance is getting to me - although he's not unclean. I'm no longer sexually attracted to him anymore and even though I had thought our personalities complimented each other so much that we were meant to be I now find myself picking on parts of his personality that never bothered me before. I still love him overall but I'm not sure if I was ever inlove with him. We still hug and talk to each other but only give each other a peck on the lips and no longer have sex. I do want sex but with someone who makes me swoon. Someone who is sexy, stylish, artistic and deep - things I think my boyfriend lacks. If we broke up and I found someone with these qualities would I then be satisfied? Or would I be sacrificing a valuable long-term love with someone who treats me like a princess and wants the same future? What if I got my hot guy fix then realised I'd done the wrong thing, would I ruin what I've got. My boyfriend thinks that I'd discover that I can't find my ideal and that we're meant to be but by then he says it would be too late. He'd be with someone who loves him flaws and all and wouldn't want me after I've been with another guy. We live together so it's not an easy decision to make... Perhaps we need a break? Perhaps we should stay together because this is what relationships are like after 5 years or perhaps I should start a new life but is it possible to find long-term happiness with my 'dream guy'? I'm so confused and don't want to hurt my boyfriend because he's also my friend but I need some lust in my life. Help!!!
i like the other persons answer that told you to go see a counselor. it might help you to realize why you are feeling this way. i dont think that you should leave him because you really love him, but you need to find a way to work it out.
okay i juss got my haircut nottttt that long ago & i got the whole sidebang thing but i'm running out've ideas. my hairs curly too so if anyone has any ideas. i thought maybe scrunching it & juss leaving the bang go?? what do you guys think??
thanks!!
do you like your hair curly??? cause if its already naturally wavy/curly then you should try this(its what i do), take your shower in the morning, then with a towel get out excess water, scrunch in some gel, and blow dry it using a diffuser, a diffuser is an attachment for your blow dryer, and youll need a round ended blow dryer for the attachment to fit, to dry it just flip your head and let the hair sit in the diffuser
recently, ive been cutting. i cut because i have so much emotional pain, it relieves me when i cut. it makes me forget all about my emotional pain because i focus on the physical pain. well, just this morning, i found myself thinking of suicide. this afternoon during health class too. We were talking about cutting in health class today and i just wanted to die. i was so uncomfortable. only 2 people knew about me cutting in my health class besides me but i still wanted to die. I dont have a boyfriend. I dont think im pretty enough to. My life is fucked up. no one cares about me. my parents are never home and when they are, they just yell at me. They always fight too. But the thing is, i wouldnt trade my life for anybody elses. its the way that i know life. I wouldnt trade it. and im serious. I wore a belly shirt to school a few days ago. Bad choice. some people saw my cut i made on my stomach and they said stuff to me. No one understands me. They think that i have the ideal life and they even tell me that. i dont. every one thinks i am perfect (or have to be) becuase my dad is a pastor of a small hick church... which i hate. I dont believe that shit. w/e. i wanted to stop cutting until today. i did it again today. its just a bad habit. any suggestions? anything anyone wants to say to me?? yes i have contemplated suicide. several times.
you should realize that your parents do care about you, i dont know them or you, but they do, and so do all of your friends, my friend has cut before and it really made us all worried about her, it really hurt us to see that she was hurting herself so bad, try talking to your school counselor about depression if you dont feel comfortable talking to your parents, and dont be afraid about it either, its not something thats bad, lots of people need help with it, depression is caused alot of the time from medical reasons and not your life, medication really helps, i used to be on it and it was helpful, and try exercise over cutting, find something you love to do
I am 13/f and I do dance, however can 30 mins of dance twice a week be considered enough excercise? Also, I am 5ft 4in and weigh like 140lbs which is considered Overweight. Would I need to do more excercise just to even maintain my weight and not get any bigger? Also, what types of clothes (for girls) look very slimming? I have a problem with fat protruding under my clothes making me look very horrible. What can I do about the saggy skin? It just hangs there. I want to look very tone and not jiggle at all. Society is so unaccepting of Big people like me it is hard to belive sometimes!
try dance a few more times a week, all of those health reports and stuff now are saying that you need to work out at least about 30-45 min. for like 4 times a week, makes sure to eat breakfast, and try diffrent sports too, im overweight and am trying to lose alot, but i hate to run, so i play tennis every day, and i really enjoy tennis, find something you really like and it'll feel good, as for clothing, try watching the tv show WHAT NOT TO WEAR on THE LEARNING CHANNEL(TLC), watching that show will help you learn to dress your body well by giving you tips on body types like yours
what is love really about?
i think that love is...
love is when you hurt inside because you cant bear even the thought of being without them, you never stop thinking of them and they are the only person you want to be with, your mad at them but a the same time you just want to cry and tell them how much you care,love is when your heart smiles, when your eyes fade and brighten at the same time, love is when everything you every knew is totally turned upside down and nothing is what it seems,love is when youve found your best friend, love is when you become a child again, love is something that you cant even find the words to describe, when you cant even tell someone what it means and how you feel
love is really about finding yourself and letting someone else know the true you, and having that person want you for everything you are and nothing else
My name is Alex, I am a female, and I’m thirteen years old.
Well I have this friend I knew since the 5th grade, and now we are in the 8th grade, and she has changed, a lot. And she has been telling me I changed but I think it's the opposite, she's changed! She has gotten meaner than ever since Elementary school. Anyways, the day before a dance at our school, I told her that I like a guy that she knows & that is in every single one of her classes. May I add, he is also my ex-boyfriend. But then when the dance came, she started dancing with the guy I like. I got pretty mad, after all, she knows I like him and she just dances with him in front of me! I don’t know what to do, I am not going out with the guy, but I like him. But then I don’t want to ruin our friendship over a guy. But I really like this guy though. Please Help!
sometimes a dance is just a dance, but that dosent mean that she had the right to dance with him when she knows you like him and would be upset,mabey you 2 are just growing apart, its really hard to let friendship go sometimes, but that might be what you have to do, if you dont feel like she respects you enough to not dance with the guy you like and respect you in other ways, then you shouldnt be friends anymore
i like this guy who is one year younger then me.he liked my friend before but my friend didnt.i think he still like her couse she is clearly pretier then me.he told me he like her and all and told me im like his pet sis.dat really hurts me.but he doesnt know i like him im acting normal when he around.but i do really like him.what should i do.
i have a friend in the exact same situation as you,but the guys 1 year older, not younger, and since i can see this from a diffrent view from her it helps me give you advice,
first ask yourself why you like him, and anything that your secretly denying about him, dont deny it if you truely know its true,like if you know that he really dosent like you and your denieing it,dont denie that,it makes things more complicated, and if this guy is in anyway a jerk, think about that, dont go crying over him if he is, because he wont care, and after thinking about his personality for a while(about what your denying if anything, and about the level at which he cares about you)then you need to personally decide if you should tell him that you like him,you really need to think about what he would do in this situation, cause my friend told the guy she likes and he was a total a$$hole about it,if you do decide to tell him, face to face is always good, but if you cant a letter is perfectly acceptable too,
basically you need to think about why you like him,why he(might)not like you like you like him, and whether you should tell him or not
p.s. if he really is a good guy and likes you then if (you think)your friend is prettier than you its shouldn't matter
Okay, I just read the question that someone wrote about malcom x. You said it was offensive that they didnt know who he was and they should read a book once in awhile. I read about 2 books a week, get straight a's in history, yet I have no Idea who he is. I dont know why it would be viewed as "offensive" that you dont know who someone is. Its not our faults. And the person who asked the question was trying to find out, yet you tell them that its offensive for them not to know already. I find you pretty rude for that. We know you're offended for your "homies", but maybe you could help the person find out who he is, instead of making them feel stupid. So basically, because I have never heard about him in history, you are saying I am being offensive to black people? HAH then you need to get a life. JEEZ I dont know who malcom x is, I MUST BE RACIST!
Tell your homies I said I'm sorry.
ok, since your obviosly trying to be rude to me id like to start off by saying that i too read many books a week and get straight a's,and id also like to say, like i told the person who asked the question, that i wasnt trying to be rude to them,history i a very important subject and im not saying that they are stupid because they didnt know who Malcolm X, im just saying that most schools have taugh it around 6th grade and for most people they at least know who he is,and i admit that the way i said it may have come of offensive to those who did not know who Malcolm X was but in no way was i implying that they were dumb in any way,especially since i am not a Malcolm X expert,but to tend to you poor sad heart which i have broken by my cruel word i shall tell the the litte knowledge i have of him,
Malcolm X was an very important activist fighting for the freedom and civil rights of african americans,he fought for these rights at the same time a Martin Luther King Jr. was, as we all know who MLK Jr. is we also know that his way was in peace and none violence, Malcolm X's theory on how to win his freedom was slightly diffrent,he believed that the only way to find freedom was through force, and violence if need be,he was not a violent man but did not believe that he should let white people use violence against him without fighting back,he started something called the Nation of Islam, which i believe was a group of temples all over to study the Muslim religion,later followers in the nation were given orders to kill him,and like MLK Jr. he too was assasinated,he became one of the most prominant activists in america, around 1500 people attended his funeral,and like MLK Jr. had the most famous words of "I Have A Dream", Malcolm X had the famous words of "By Any Means Necessary."
I hope that your heart has been mended by my sencire apology to this misunderstanding, i did not mean offense to anyone who did not know who Malcolm X was
i dont really want a site, but can someone just tell me..who was malcolm x? i was watching trading spouses and the family got mad because the caucasion mother didnt know who he was thanks bye
even though your obviously white, everyone from third grade up knows who malcolm x is, and even though im white too i find that offensive to my homies( lol i know that im not cool yall! ) and im not trying to be mean or anything, but broadening your knowledge of history and the world is very important, read a book once in a while
Hey. I need a lot of help with deciding what to get my family for christmas. First of all, I know that I have to get my mom 2 presents because her birthday is December 29, and my dad also needs 2 because his birthday is December 21. I already have the gifts for all of my siblings. I've asked my mom and dad what they want and they said, "You being with me for Christmas." So I have no clue what to get them. I don't spend much time with my mom so I don't even know what she would like, and my dad is kind of the same..What should I get? Thank you.
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someone said gift certificates for places they like, but since you dont really know what they like thats still hard, they have these visa gift cards, what they are is giftcards that work anywhere you go, not just one specific store,go to www.giftcards.com to get one
K I really need girl help. I changed schools a few weeks ago because I was doing really bad at my old on. THere was this girl there that I really liked. I went to the homecoming dance with her and we talked on AIM a lot. After I left I told her how much I loved her and she was all "aw that's the sweetest thing ever" and stuff like that. We've been TXTing a lot and she even called me on my birhtday last week. I was even suppost to see Harry Potter with her and some of her friends but then I got sick. I'm falling even more in love with her every day even though I don't get to see her because we go to different schools now. I really wanna ask her to go out with me but I have two problems.
1. I have no idea how to do it.
2. Is it weird to go out with a girl from a prep school when you're going to a public school.
I really need help! x.x
in answer to number 2, NO! lol, i can imagin how you feel being away from someone you love, what lots of people dont realize is that teenagers can be in love and that they know what it is, and if you feel that you love her you cant let school diffrences stop you, what you need to do is show her how much you care, woo her, visit her one day and say i really like you and i miss you, will you please go out with me!?! just basically something normal and sweet... youll figure it out
im about 5'1 and i weigh around 130 or more...
this isnt very proportional, but whats the best way to loose weight, fast, but without much time on your hands?
first you need to realize that lots of people have trouble loosing weight and diffrent things are for diffrent people, i suggest that you eat small portations more often, thats what all the experts are saying these days, small portions often, also make those portions healthier, and try lots of diffrent types of exercises so you can find what works for you
As you all know Christmas is comming up and i dont know what i should get my bestfriend for christmas..should i make her something ?? or buy something ?? I dont know..im lost!! lol so if yall could help me that would be great..im 14/f and my bestfriend is 13/f ( almost 14 ) if that helps!!
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i liked the other persons idea of a photo albumn, memories are always something people like, or bake her a plate of cookie and buy her a movie that ya'll can watch together
does anyone know cheat codes for sims 2?? (for money), and can you explain what buttons to press so i can get money? w.o having my sims get jobs and such. Ill rate!
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press *Ctrl* then *shift* then *c* all at the same time, a bar at the top of the game will appear, type in motherlode to get 50,000 sims dollars or whatever they are called and hit enter to recieve the money. the bar will go away. so either do it again or type in motherlode; the first type, if you add the ; to it then the bar will not dissapear so you will not have to constantly retype ctrl shift c to get the bar up.when you are done with the bar hit esc and it will go away.
Im only in 8th grade and i hate the way my math teacher explains the things. im stressed because my mom wants me to have good grades but algebra is not my subject. I dont know what to do.
well i havent been on this site in FOREVER so i dont know how old your question is nut ill answer anyways, i had the EXACT same problem in 8th grade, my teacher totally sucked, all she did was make us write about 3 pages of notes everyday and didnt really teach us anything, but you really need to try your best,ask your teacher lots of questions and for extra credit work, and do all of the extra credit,always do your homework and study for test, no matter how well you think you know it, and if you still arent getting it ask another teacher for help, or ask your parents to get you a tutor, after 8th grade i had to retake algebra(i had a 73 by the end of 8th grade) and although i had a great teacher in 9th grade i would have been better to go on, even though algebra was still on level i had been used to advanced classes and getting as far as you can ahead is great for college and later highschool years