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my friend.
sorry if its long. =/
Well my BEST FRIEND moved really far away about 2 years ago. We have still managed to stay very close. We only see each other once or twice a year though. Lately i feel liie she is forgetting about me. I feel like I am being replaced for her frinds down there. I mean i want her to make friends but i still want to be friends with her too. She never calls anymore so I end up calling her and she always says she cant talk and she'll call me back, but never does. So i stopped calling her just to see if she would stop and think that she hasnt talked to me in a while and should call or sumthing. It hasnt happend. I havent talked to her for about a week. So heres my question. Am i being totaly selfish about this? If so what is a better way to solve it. helpp please! What should i do?
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You are not being selfish. Thats not the right word for it.
When I was in 8th grade, Randi was my absolute best friend. We hung out at school all day and we lived right down the road from one another, so if one of us didn't go to the other one's house, we would call each other every night. Just to talk about boys we liked and every individual thing that happened to us throughout the day. We told each other our deepest, darkest secrets. We were sister friends.Then, we started high school and didn't have any classes together. We still talked after school, but she got busy with sports and wasn't home a lot. Then one day, I realized she'd just dropped me. She'd started hanging out with girls from the volleyball team and stopped calling me. I found out she'd told some of my secrets. It hurt because I had become dependent upon her. I needed to be able to call her everyday and tell her what happened with this guy, that teacher, or my Mom, and get her advice. I didn't think I could trust anyone like I'd trusted her. I didn't think I'd ever have another friend like her.
The thing is, even the closest of friends grow apart. I had more close friends, that were more like me and I never let myself lean so hard on them. Randi and I eventually started hanging out again, but we were never as close as we were in 8th grade. She'd become this Jessica Simpson dumb blonde and I couldn't be around it, it made me too nauseous.
Don't call your friend again. If she doesn't call you back, just let your friendship with her go. It was great while it lasted, now, you've grown apart. Maybe she'll call every few months or so to see how you're doing and you'll catch up and then, because you kept in semi-touch you can be better friends again later in life. But you have other friends, right? Keep in mind that no one has to immediately take her place. If you need someone to confide in, but don't quite trust your other friends enough yet, try keeping a journal. They've gotten me through a lot. I still keep them, though mine are half writing/half art.
Try to be more sure of yourself and the things you like to do and make you happy. She wasn't your backbone. Be your own best friend for awhile.
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youre not being selfish at all. friends who move away are always going to loose touch a bit. start calling her back, and talk to her about it. tell her you feel like the two of you are drifting and try to set up a specific time each week that you two can call each other and talk. something that you guys arent aloud to skip or say that your too busy for. and/or write/email each other each week, a letter/email that you have to send. make it a rule between the both of you to promise to do this.
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