This is a very big question with a million answers. Suggestion:
Invest in a subscription to Cosmo, honey.

Here's what you DON'T need to do: tell him you've changed. If you really have, that is. First of all, don't think that you need to just to make a rough relationship work. There are guys out there, probably within your range, that aren't so easy going (they really dig the uptight thing), and there are also guys who don't mind the argumantative type. These traits you say you have aren't easy to change. But they aren't anything to be ashamed of either. I'm extremely quick tempered and I scream a lot. I don't like it (I've been dumped because of it) , but I don't fool myself into thinking I can change it anymore. A guy that wants to date me has to just love that about me.
Maybe something about him made you react in negative ways. Ask yourself if you two honestly brought out the best in one another. He's obviously made you feel bad about your behavior. You could get with someone else and realize you're not causing any arguments and feel much more easy going and happy.
But if you really think you were super terrible and want to prove you're worthy of him (if he's all that great) again, like I said, don't tell him you've changed. Don't even talk to him for awhile, aside from cool, short (yet friendly), hellos and very small chit chat. Then SHOW him you've changed through how you act. I'm guessing you hang out with the same people, so maybe loosen up around them, let him see you laughing a lot and having more fun, maybe getting into a little fun trouble. Don't be sad or angry with him or around him. Don't cause drama. And if you see him chatting up another girl, don't let ANYONE see it getting to you. It could be nothing and you're not with him anymore so just wait until you get home to vent. Your friends LIVE for drama, someone to gossip about. I wouldn't talk to anyone about him, not even you're best friend (girls can be really catty, even the ones you trust, especially about boys) just be cool and laid back about it all. Let him approach you since he's the one that broke it off. Know that this time you might have to take it much slower with him and gradually build everything back up. If he's all you want, it'll be worth the wait. Good luck.

Some say that a male and a female dog or cat will get along better than two of the same sex. This may be a scientifically proven fact, but in my experience, it hasn't mattered. Since I got my cat Simon (about 7 years ago) I've brought many animals into my home. Some stayed, some I just rescued from the side of the road and found homes for. He was always upset when I brought another animal in. It always took him a few days, sometimes even a couple of weeks to get used to the new cat or dog. This is normal. I'd bet that your mellow cat will either hate the new one, and you may have to keep them seperated for awhile, or he'll just ignore him completely. Simon has seen so many come and go now that he doesn't care anymore. My suggestion is to keep the new one in your bedroom or bathroom for a couple of days. They'll be able to smell each other and get used to one another's presence first. Then slowly open the door and just see what happens. One may hiss while the other just wants to play. One may smack the other. I'm not condoning cat fighting, but they probably will fight or show aggression towards one another. Sometimes you just have to let them sort it out themselves. Sometimes the new animal stresses out the old one so much that you have to rethink whether or not its worth putting your old cat through it. Stress can kill them. Your old cat may become depressed. Bring home the new cat on a trial basis, see how it goes. Both being neutered should help in the territorial department, but its definitely not the bottom line. I think every animal is different with its own personality, no matter their breed or where they came from. I hope they do get along, just remember, hissing and hating at first is normal, but if it goes on for more than 3 weeks, you should reconsider, for the sake of your old cats feelings. Good luck.

Don't get me wrong I love all the sexy non-scary costumes (I was a Naughty Cop last year) but my hearts with the classic devils, zombies, mummies and witches. I decided I wanted to be a witch this year and while I was going through them online I realized that alot of them were made up of just a cute little black dress, fishnets and a hat and/or a broom. Just do your make up a little on the pale side and there you go. I saw a lot of cute teen costumes at Halloween Express. CHeck out their website : halloweenexpress.com
Or the lesser known: electriqueboutique.com

My man and all his friends are into comic books, they begged me to be supergirl- and i'll admit it, its a really cute costume. I just don't have blond hair and don't want to wear a wig. Anyway good luck!

I had braces from 8th-10th grade, in most cases you don't have to wear them anymore than 3 years. I had a couple of boyfriends and let me tell you, they wanted to make out with me more than tehy were worried about my braces. Almost everyone has to wear them at some point in their lives. If you know you need them and you have an opportunity to get them now, don't pass it up. They're almost like a college education in that way. You really don't want to be that 30 something year old who had to get them b/c they put it off in school. You'll more than likely have them off by your senior year, but if not, ok, you'll have them off for college! I don't think your guy will mind. Everyone pretty much forgets that you have them after a couple of weeks, even you will, its weird. But one peice of advice- DON'T GET COLORED BANDS. THEY ARE RIDICULOUS. They're not fun or cute, they're tacky. Always get grey or silver!

Peace,

Shade

"The Blue Mirror" by Kathe Koja...
Its about a 16 year old girl, who's an artist, and has to take care of her alcoholic mother. She meets a dark, kind of squatter, run away kid named Cole and she's fascinated by his life on the streets. There's weird cult like things going on, too. Its a great book. Most libraries have it, I know for a fact that Amazon does.

Shade

Your friend really messed up. She put the chance to have apparently meaningless sex with YOUR EX-BOYFRIEND ahead of your friendship with her. Instead of apoligizing and letting the guilt get a hold of her, she gives you a lame explanation like, "I'm a ho, if someone wants to hit this I let them." !!! Did she really think thats all she had to say? That your feelings weren't even worth a heartfelt discussion? I mean, you broke up, he wasn't your property, and yeah, there's the code of girls, friends, decent human beings that you don't go after your friends exes, at least until all wounds are healed, you know, but things do happen. I understand that. I also understand that once they're done, they're "in the past" and you "can't undo them". I can't believe she patronized you even further by saying that! And tries to excuse her behavior by saying "its in my blood." What?!?! Shock and awe. Where's her self-respect? Is there a possibility that he was all she was after the whole time? That she used your friendship to get next to him? If so, I wouldn't have anything further to do with her. If not, tell her you want to talk about what happened. Don't let her blow you off with all her "I'm a ho, I'm a ho, I can't stop whats in my blood" idiocy. Tell her it hurt you to think she could betray your trust like that for a one night stand. And that it hurts even more that she could just shrug it off. Tell her you're angry. You might even not want to hang out with her for a while, because you probably need the time to be upset. Things happen, maybe they'll get together again, and you'll have to stand by and watch, but friends don't ignore each other's feelings. They at least have enough respect for each other to talk and be there for one another.
She's in the state of mind that she can do whatever she wants, hurt whoever she wants, and that everyone should understand and feel sorry for her because "its in her blood" and its excused. As if she has no control. Thats crazy. You can rise above what you're expected to be, and become more, better. She's not strong and has no pride in herself (sounds cliched out, but really sucks when you think about it). So yeah, you can feel sorry for her, I know I do, but you do not have to understand or accept her behavior. Hope it works out for the best.

Peace,
Shade

You say you have acne prone and dry skin, but that your moisturizer is oil-free and shouldn't be giving you grief. Maybe the problem you're having is related to the type of facial cleanser you're using. If you are using a cleanser with harsher acne fighting ingredients like benzoyl peroxide, or a scrub with fine little granules meant to "exfoliate" your skin (like Clean & Clear's "micro-scrubbers"), this could be why its freaking out. Extreme irritation. I don't know how old you are, but my skin started changing when I was about 18. I couldn't use the harsher acne products like Clearasil, Oxy, or even Neutrogena. Suddenly ( and it did feel like it happened suddenly), I had adult skin and had to start using gentler products, like Aveeno, Clinique, and Cetaphil. Crappily, they're more expensive, but of course worth it. So try using less abrasive cleansers, even beware of some make-up remover wipes that can be drying.
PS> Try this product also: Merle Norman "Miracol". Its a liquid (that calls itself a lotion) you brush on your face (avoiding your eyes, of course) and let sit for about 10 minutes. It burns a little when you put it on, and you'll find yourself thinking: "Hmm, how can it be moisturizing my face when it feels like its on fire?" but it does. Anyway, you leave it on for about 10-20 minutes(don't try to talk or anything), it dries up, and you rinse it off. I don't know how, but in about 2 or 3 days, it just solves every problem with your face, dryness, oiliness, acne. You don't have to use it all the time, thats how well it worked for me, and I have combo skin like yours. Its about $15 and lasts forever. Get the kind with the brush applicator.

Peace to your face,

Shade

I'm 22, and my biggest regret from high school was that at precisely sophomore year, I decided doing things with my friends and dating were more important than my GPA and my future. I didn't have the option of going to a great school, like you, but still, loads of opportunities were thrown my way that I simply blew off because I kept thinking, I'm 16, you know, I don't want to miss this game, that party, or the possibility of seeing this guy at this particular event...I stressed because I always thought I was missing out on something fun. Junior year, everyone I'd gone to school with since kindergarten began to hate each other and seperated off into what seemed like smaller and smaller groups until senior year, and then we all just sort of floated around the halls with senioritis, doing our own thing. I would've felt the same way you do now, not wanting to leave them, but the truth is- after you graduate, they're gone anyway. Some are able to keep friendships between 2 or 3 people, it is possible, but not typical. Point is, you'll have to leave them eventually, why not now? At least that way you won't have to see them at each other's throats junior year and be wondering what the hells happened to everybody. You'll make friends at this new school (everyone wants to know the new girl), you'll have a clean slate, and I'm sure there will be plenty of guys there and *bonus*- they could be more intelligent, or at least be more on top of their lives and what they want to do with them. Thats pre-judgement, yes, but I'd always wondered what it would be like to go to a really great school with an excellent curriculum. All we had was the bare minimum to get by, everything else was sports. All we had to offer in the guy department were big, steroid given bodies with meat for heads. Meatheads, you see.
So you were excited about the new school at first, but now that you've gotten the chance you're not sure. Sounds like you're just scared. Change can be scary. But its natural. You'll have experiences similiar to your first day at new school for the rest of your life- first day at a new job, etc. So go ahead and throw yourself in there, get used to it. Push yourself to be better and not let fear take this opportunity away from you. You know you'll be glad when you're 22.
As far as your crush goes, if you stay, of course, and you were right about his feelings, you'll be able to see him whenever and it could be great. If you go, I'd let him go as well. Its hard to chaulk something up to what might've been, but it would seem kinda neive to get into a somewhat long distance relationship with a guy who openly flirts with other girls in front of his girl-friend. If you two were to make it exclusive, just think what he might do, when you're not there to catch him. I mean, would it bother you, not being able to see him a lot and knowing that he's a flirt? Maybe one of your old girlfriends could keep an eye on him for you! Sounds like a not-so-ideal way to have a relationship, and probably once you're around all those new guys for awhile, you'll want to drop him as soon as possible, anyway.

With all this said: I absoloutely think that you should chainsaw whats tying you down to your old school and beat up whichever good, old, friends are begging you not to go(aka,holding you back)- just kidding, assure them you can keep in touch, and get a better education. If given the choice, ALWAYS choose a better education. Don't settle now for friends and boys who are probably only going to be around for approximately 3 and half more years of your life. Hope this turns out to be an easy decision for you!

Peace,

Shade

Try "Miss You When You're Gone" by the Cranberries. I know thats not the real title of the song, but if you search it with those words it'll pull up. Good tear jerker, if thats what you're looking for.

I love burning cds for parties. Here are a few that I never leave out and some recent. Its a pretty eclectic mix, and some of them are old/played out, but most are just classics and fun.

Poppin' My Colla- 36 Mafia
Hurt So Good- John Mellencamp (from Footloose bar scene)
Mr. Jones- Counting Crows
Gin and Juice- Phish
Snap Your Fingers- Lil' Jon
Dancin' With Myself- Billy Idol
Promiscuous Girl- Nelly Furtado, Timbaland
Ignition (Remix)- R. Kelly
Bump N'Grind- R. Kelly
Push It- Salt N' Pepa
Miss You- Stones
Gangs All Here- Dropkick Murphys
Whiskey, You're the Devil- The Pogues
Lean Wit It, Rock Wit It- Dem Franchise Boys
Change Clothes- Jay-Z
Dirt Off Your Shoulder- Jay-Z
You Make My Dreams- Hall and Oates


These are just SOME that are great...hope you like!


Shade

You could always go with the standard bottle of lotion or body spray from Bath and Body Works or Victoria's Secret. The lotions are typically right under $10. Its not very original, but she won't be expecting much from you since you're a new employee. I would think it was sweet. Hope I helped!

First of all its great that she's in therapy- thats exactly where she needs to stay. I think her boyfriend is trying to help. But he's an idiot. This girl is disturbed, the root of her problem is mental. She could be depressed, bi-polar, obsessive compulsive, etc. Most people who starve or purge themselves feel like they've lost control of their lives, in one or more areas, and by not letting themselves digest food they feel like they at least have control of that. Self-mutilators typically hurt inside and don't know why, so they'll cut as if to say, "This is where it hurts." They don't just cut for the sake of cutting, which is what her boyfriend must think she does. I'm sure you knew all that, so you can see that when her boyfriend says he's not going to eat or he's going to cut himself and does, how stupid that really is. I hope thats what she thinks when he threatens to hurt himself. I hope she goes, "Okay." because this is one of the dumbest things I've ever heard. But from what you've said, she feels bad about it. Does he not realize that he's just adding more drama to the situation? He thinks she loves him soooo much that she'll stop hurting herself so he won't hurt himself. Her disorders are bigger than him and his ego. Please tell him to stop. The best thing he and you can do for her is be there to listen, whenever she needs you, and try to make her laugh more. Keep her mind off her pain. If he doesn't want to stop what he's doing, he may have a problem himself and you might need to let his parents know. You were very right to be concerned about this.

Peace...

Shade

I don't know how close you and this "friend" are or used to be, I think it really might depend on that. Personally, I wouldn't want a friend who would treat me the way he has been treating you (like a bum), especially after the EXTREME kindness you showed him when the situation was reversed years ago. I think you're right, in that he should have absoloutely paid you back as soon as he could. But just because he didn't and showed his true colors more recently with all his nasty behavior, that doesn't mean you go back on your principles. I'd pay him back. After all, you borrowed it with the intention of paying him back and you probably wouldn't have just taken it then, right? No, because you're not him. He's a taker. And a jerk.
After I paid him back, I wouldn't have anything to do with him ever again. I wouldn't even accept an apology if it didn't come with over 1,000 dollars, either.


Shade

Sounds to me like Brooke is the one who wants Cody. By any chance, does she ever see you and Cody flirting or talking? Does she see him pay attention to you? Whether or not he's really into you or just wants to be friends, I think she must see the two of you together and she assumes he likes you. This makes her jealous (c'mon, everyone's had a crush on the class clown before, right?), and she tries to get back at you in this idiotic way. Definetely trying to embarass you. She might think she can treat you like this because you're younger. Don't let her!

If Cody does seem to be interested in you and you think she's going to try and embarrass you both, mention to him that she's been acting really strange lately and what she's doing. Just be real cool and casual. Be light about it, you might even say something like, "I told her we were friends nd nothing more, but she's obsessed!" and just laugh. But if you don't get the chance to talk to him and it happens without warning, don't scream out in front of everyone "I do not like him!" all angry like. You might embarrass him. And she'd love for you to get angry. Say something like, "Brooke, we're friends and thats all," in a calm, mellow voice. If she keeps harassing you, just say something like, "Wow, thats old." Still won't stop? Um, why do you hang out with her again?
Some situations (especially with girls) call for a full-on confrontation. Not this. Its too stupid. Just be mellow and laid back when people try to do this crap. You always look cooler and far more intelligent.

Peace...

Shade

I rarely ever check. My problem, as I said before, is obsessive, intrusive, and guilty thoughts. So, I feel you. My worst time with it was when I was 13. I hadn't been diagnosed yet, I'd never even heard of OCD, and I had no idea what was wrong with me. Disgusting and mean thoughts kept running through my mind, lighting it on fire. Things like, "You want to kill your family," or "you want to skin your cat" , sometimes sexual things that made me physically ill. Don't get me wrong, obsessive thoughts aren't always like that, they can be about dirt, germs,jealousy, or anything at all. Anyway, I couldn't concentrate on anything else and the only way I knew how to make it stop was to go to sleep. Therefore, aside from school, I slept for about 2 weeks straight before it let up. I don't mean I heard voices, thats different. I realize I'm thinking, as I'm sure you do too.
Shortly after I'd been diagnosed, it hit me hard again. This time I concentrated on not letting the intrusive thoughts process. Soon, though, I'd conditioned my mind to not let ANY thought or feeling go through. I was just, blank. I could picture my mind as pure, white, nothingness. I felt nothing. I remember being amazed that when I looked at my friends or family, I felt no love. I didn't care what happened to them or myself. I had thoughts of suicide and it was quite a dangerous time for me. Ironically, I'd become obsessed with not obsessing. Point being: If its serious and interferring with your life, you really need the direction of a doctor or therapist to handle it by yourself correctly.

The way you describe what happens to you, I agree with your couple of people and think you may have OCD, or some type of anxiety problem. Only a doctor will know. If so, its something you'll have to deal with all your life. Its not something you can just become immune to. Its like living with diabetes. You have to learn to control it. Whether that be through the excersises a therapist would give you, or through medication, or both. Its not something that I feel is everyone's business. But the people that are closest to me know. I don't want them to get hurt or angry with me if I lose control for a moment and start behaving irrationally. That being said, I think, when you're comfortable, you should talk to your boyfriend about it. Because you and I both have run men off. Try looking up some web sites on OCD, maybe show them to him and your parents, so they have a better understanding of what might be going on with you.

If you're not quite ready yet, or after looking over the web sites, or talking to your doctor, you don't think you have OCD after all, here are some things I do when my mind starts spinning:

*I'm very pro-journal. I think everyone should keep some type of one. To get everything that you're feeling out on paper is cleansing and therapeutic in itself.
*Try some anxiety support group chat rooms.
*This last one I thought would never work because it seemed so simple. I had no idea how hard it actually is...
When you feel the thoughts or that bad "feeling", automatically immerse yourself in something. Just get busy. Walk your dog, go shopping, clean out your closet, throw in a DVD that makes you laugh, anything to clear your head. You get the hang of it.

And here is something I do when I feel less than amazing in the sack:

*Buy a Cosmopolitan and try their "Sex Goddess Sex Position of the Month" (whatever its called)

Look, you may just be an extremely jealous and insecure person. Maybe thats a part of who you are. I tend to play mind games. Its ugly, but its a part of me. Therapy can help you, no matter how big or small you think your problems are. Some people go just to have someone to talk to.

I hope I've helped you figure some of this out, don't wait to get help if you need it.

Peace,

Shade

You're not going crazy. I know where you're coming from, I happen to love spiders, but I'm completely terrified of centipedes ("All those legs!"). I was just minding my own business the other day, going through our DVDS in the entertainment center when the biggest, longest, leggiest, most disgusting, horrifying beast came out from betwixt Kill Bill Vol. 1 and 2. Seriously, the sight of them makes me scream, run and cry, like one of those people on a Maury Povich "Phobias" show. I've been afraid to get a DVD out for a month now.

Here's the thing: there's phobia ("I'm afraid of brown recluse spiders"), and then there's obsession("I can't sleep at night.."), and then there's obsessive compulsions ("I'm constantly checking under chairs, under tables, etc..."). You could have a disorder. But no worries for now, I think you can stop this thing.

First step, find out more about these spiders. Know what they actually look like. They're usually brown or tan with a black, sort of fiddle shape on their backs. Hence, the nickname, "The Fiddleback Spider". Know where they can be found. Know that spiders DON'T just attack you in your beds. They actually have better things to do with their time like eat bugs and spin webs. They will try to avoid contact with you. But do know what precautions to take if you get bitten. Here's a good link you should definetly check out:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brown_recluse_spider

I bet you know more about what happens when they bite you than anything. Arms and legs turning black and rotting off and all that. I think, in reality, most bites from these spiders guarantee an emergency room visit, but you don't have to give and arm or a leg for it. Anyway, I don't mean to under-estimate them at all, they are venemous, and can hurt you bad, I just mean, they get played up, and life's too short to worry about them. Its so easy to let ritualistic behavior (checking) take a little piece of your life here, and a little piece there. Eventually, it takes control of you. Rise against it, friend.

If you're still having trouble, and the checking gets worse, and/or you can't get the thoughts of them out of your mind when you know the thoughts shouldn't be there and you don't want them there, you might want to talk to a Cognitive Behavrioral Therapist. Sounds complicated, but they're just someone to talk to about your phobia, who'll help you change the way you handle it. I went to one (I was nearly suicidal and on a heavy dosage of Prozac) and my disorder (OCD), I'm proud to say, has never gotten a hold of me the way it did before the therapy, and I went for a good three years before having to go back on medication (I'm not on nearly as high a dosage as I was before). It helped me handle the repetitive thoughts, my biggest problem, on my own. If my small town has one, I'm sure you can find a therapist near you. If not, just talk to your doctor, maybe he/she could reccommend you to someone. If you'd rather try the meds, Prozac is good for this, but there are others.

Try finding an internet support group or chat room for people with phobias. I'm sure there's a great arachnophobia site out there.

Peace...

Shade

First of all, I want you to please not ever say "a lot of people think we should go out" ever again. You're probably in the age range of 13-17, so I know what other people think seems important to you now but I'm telling you DON'T let other people get involved with you and a guy. Not your friends, your best friend, his best friend, no one. Especially if there's real potential there. I'm not saying keep it top secret, I just mean its no one's business, and believe me the second they know something's going on, they'll try to make it their business. They might even change their minds and say that you shouldn't go out with him. What then? Would you not? Maybe this is a little heavy for this situation, but I just think the sooner you understand this concept, the MUCH better.
With all that said, lets get to your actual question. What about his height makes you think it would be weird? Do you feel like if you go out, because you're taller, this means you should drive, pay for dinner and walk him to the door? You don't have to be the girl in "Sixteen Candles" that gets with Long Duc Dong. Going out with him will not be any different than going out with any taller guy. So don't sweat this. I think, from what you've said, that he likes you. Once you get to know him more and if he's wonderful, you won't worry about how tall he is.
I had the longest on-again, off-again relationship with a guy who is shorter than me. I thought about his height when he took me to prom and I wore high shoes; other than then, it never crossed my mind.
Think about Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman, or every tall model who got with a short, old and/or ugly rock star...
If it still bugs you, hey, its not wrong that it turns you off. You can't help it. I don't like men with hairy backs. Sorry, can't get past it. I don't care how perfect for me he is.

Shade

I absoloutely love Carmen Electra's Fit to Strip DVD. Its the second DVD in the Strip Tease series she did last year and its my favorite. There's a great cardio session thats led by her personal trainer, a guy, who's not annoying, and its really effective. Then there are a few target excercise routines, one for upper and lower body and one for your abs. You can get these on amazon.com (used and new) pretty cheaply, or go out to Best Buy. The strip routines on the other DVDs are fun (she doesn't really take anything off, its just the dancing)so get those too. Congratulations on your marriage and good luck!

Shade

The first thing you need to do is re-discuss the whole situation with your best friend. It should not be "Let the best whore win". Not because you affectionatley refer to one another as "whores", but because its not about who's "the best". If you leave it at that and the new boy does decide to see one of you, the other will feel inferior. You or she could feel like the reason he chose the other was because she was prettier, more fun, or nicer, when really, it could just be, as with you, that you have more in common, or that you get along better.
Keep in mind that the boy and your best friend see each other almost everyday, and are already closer, making it more convienient for them to have a relationship. That said, it might also let your best friend think that if the new boy had to choose between the two of you, he'd choose her. If he ended up choosing you, she'd not only be heartbroken, but would probably feel a little betrayed(I bet she thinks she and the new boy are throwing hints at each other, too). There could be a lot going on with them that you don't know about. It sort of reminds me of the lame reality show "The Bachelor" (which I'm admitting I watched last season for your benefit only!!!). It was down to Sarah and Muwana. The bachelor in Paris had spent lots of time with the both of them, getting to know them, sometimes intimately, laughing together. Both girls thought they were the one he'd choose because they'd shared so much with each other, they'd gotten so close, and when he ultimately chose Sarah, Muwana was destroyed. And angry. You or your best friend could end up feeling this way.
Meanwhile, its going to start being uncomfortable to hang out with the both of them when you feel like you and your best friend are competing. Its going to make you mad when you see her flirting with him and vice versa. On top of that, he's going to pick up on the tension between the two of you, and he might get tired of it and not want anything to do with either of you.
One more thing, if he chooses you, she'll probably be jealous and might intentionally or unintentionally start saying mean things about you to her best friend the new boy. You know, just to "protect him". Because she "doesn't want to see him to get hurt".
This is such a difficult, emotional situation. I say back off the guy, even though its hard. Give this thing time. Let all three of your hormones calm down. With time, she might decide she could never really like him that way. Or maybe you will. Let him start seeing her if he wants. You don't have to encourage it or anything, but think hard about this. How long have you had your best friend? This will put a strain on you two and you may not ever be able to get back what you once had.
If you think you might miss out on the guy of a lifetime and don't care if you have to sacrifice your best friend, just be cool. Be cool around him, have fun, if she starts getting competitive, don't take the bait. She'll knock herself out of the running if she starts becoming possessive and weird.

Shade

Hi, I'm Shade. I'm an artist, living in sin in a small town, hopping from job to job, and recieving no support from my family. I was diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder when I was 18. I've suffered through many, many, many bouts of depression, panic attacks and just plain fun ole' anxiety. Since I left my Mom's house years ago, I've lived a lot of places and met a lot of strange, horrible, and beautiful individuals. I've learned a lot about people in general and I'd have to say I'm a good judge of character.
As mentioned earlier, I'm "the artist currently known as starving". I do some oil and watercolor, but mostly acrylic painting, also some clay and metal sculpture. I appreciate all kinds of art and love to talk about it. I like to read, mostly twisted, weird fiction or memoirs about drugs and the fellow insane. I love all types of music, mostly rock, and doing anything outdoors, all my animals, horror movies, and mexican food...I drive an old, crappy, loud car that embarasses me and I just left my job at the art gallery, so as of right now, I am unemployed, livin' off my man.

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