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want him back
I really want my ex-boyfriend back. He broke up with me because things weren't working out and neither of us were getting along. Since then, I've changed and I miss him terribly. We talk once in awhile but I want to show him that this time it could work and it might even be better. I admit I caused arguments and wasn't exactly easy-going. How do I go about letting him know we should give it another shot without seeming desperate/pathetic?
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Sometimes when you're the one being broken up with, you begin picking out all of your mistakes and what you did wrong. It's ok to point out where you messed up, but do you really think that you were causing all of the pain in the relationship you had with this guy?
I wouldn't know the answer, but you do. So if you truly believe that you can do better and make it work, then just call him or ask him in person. Just tell him that you really liked being his girlfriend and that maybe you could try again because overtime you realized what you could have done to keep things good between you both.
If you feel uncomfortable with telling him, then you should wait and maybe he'll miss what he had with you and come back. Either way, you won't sound desperate. It's very brave to stand up and ask for another chance, if he says no, don't let that get you down. It probably will, but don't worry about looking desperate. It's about taking chances, and it's better to know you tried again rather than wondering about it.
-TheTeenGirl
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Here's what you DON'T need to do: tell him you've changed. If you really have, that is. First of all, don't think that you need to just to make a rough relationship work. There are guys out there, probably within your range, that aren't so easy going (they really dig the uptight thing), and there are also guys who don't mind the argumantative type. These traits you say you have aren't easy to change. But they aren't anything to be ashamed of either. I'm extremely quick tempered and I scream a lot. I don't like it (I've been dumped because of it) , but I don't fool myself into thinking I can change it anymore. A guy that wants to date me has to just love that about me.
Maybe something about him made you react in negative ways. Ask yourself if you two honestly brought out the best in one another. He's obviously made you feel bad about your behavior. You could get with someone else and realize you're not causing any arguments and feel much more easy going and happy.
But if you really think you were super terrible and want to prove you're worthy of him (if he's all that great) again, like I said, don't tell him you've changed. Don't even talk to him for awhile, aside from cool, short (yet friendly), hellos and very small chit chat. Then SHOW him you've changed through how you act. I'm guessing you hang out with the same people, so maybe loosen up around them, let him see you laughing a lot and having more fun, maybe getting into a little fun trouble. Don't be sad or angry with him or around him. Don't cause drama. And if you see him chatting up another girl, don't let ANYONE see it getting to you. It could be nothing and you're not with him anymore so just wait until you get home to vent. Your friends LIVE for drama, someone to gossip about. I wouldn't talk to anyone about him, not even you're best friend (girls can be really catty, even the ones you trust, especially about boys) just be cool and laid back about it all. Let him approach you since he's the one that broke it off. Know that this time you might have to take it much slower with him and gradually build everything back up. If he's all you want, it'll be worth the wait. Good luck.
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