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Uhm...Love Triangle.
Okay, I'll try to make this short.
My best friend introduced me to this boy, and we all decided we want to be best friends. Well, him and her got super close (they go to catholic school together; i go to public school) and he and I aren't so close. She and I are because we live very close. We've hung out quite a but, and my best friend told me she likes him. Well, of course, after liking her brother for over a year, I decide to like newboy. My friend understood, and was happy that I didn't like her brother anymore. She and I even kind of came to the conclusion that we're taking the "May the best whore win" route of who gets him (if he even likes one of us) But the problem is: I really am getting fond of this boy. We have lots in common and he's everything I could ask for. And we're kind of throwing hints at each other that we like each other (well, that's what it seems like to me). I don't know what to do! I don't want to loose my best friend, but I really like this boy!
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hoe's before bro's, right?
the most important thing is to make sure that you dont lose your best friend, so i would put her before the boy.
in my opinion, none of you should go for this boy- it could ruin your friendship
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elodie
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both of you leave him alone in that sense. It would spoil 3 friendships. Think about the consequences.
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The first thing you need to do is re-discuss the whole situation with your best friend. It should not be "Let the best whore win". Not because you affectionatley refer to one another as "whores", but because its not about who's "the best". If you leave it at that and the new boy does decide to see one of you, the other will feel inferior. You or she could feel like the reason he chose the other was because she was prettier, more fun, or nicer, when really, it could just be, as with you, that you have more in common, or that you get along better.
Keep in mind that the boy and your best friend see each other almost everyday, and are already closer, making it more convienient for them to have a relationship. That said, it might also let your best friend think that if the new boy had to choose between the two of you, he'd choose her. If he ended up choosing you, she'd not only be heartbroken, but would probably feel a little betrayed(I bet she thinks she and the new boy are throwing hints at each other, too). There could be a lot going on with them that you don't know about. It sort of reminds me of the lame reality show "The Bachelor" (which I'm admitting I watched last season for your benefit only!!!). It was down to Sarah and Muwana. The bachelor in Paris had spent lots of time with the both of them, getting to know them, sometimes intimately, laughing together. Both girls thought they were the one he'd choose because they'd shared so much with each other, they'd gotten so close, and when he ultimately chose Sarah, Muwana was destroyed. And angry. You or your best friend could end up feeling this way.
Meanwhile, its going to start being uncomfortable to hang out with the both of them when you feel like you and your best friend are competing. Its going to make you mad when you see her flirting with him and vice versa. On top of that, he's going to pick up on the tension between the two of you, and he might get tired of it and not want anything to do with either of you.
One more thing, if he chooses you, she'll probably be jealous and might intentionally or unintentionally start saying mean things about you to her best friend the new boy. You know, just to "protect him". Because she "doesn't want to see him to get hurt".
This is such a difficult, emotional situation. I say back off the guy, even though its hard. Give this thing time. Let all three of your hormones calm down. With time, she might decide she could never really like him that way. Or maybe you will. Let him start seeing her if he wants. You don't have to encourage it or anything, but think hard about this. How long have you had your best friend? This will put a strain on you two and you may not ever be able to get back what you once had.
If you think you might miss out on the guy of a lifetime and don't care if you have to sacrifice your best friend, just be cool. Be cool around him, have fun, if she starts getting competitive, don't take the bait. She'll knock herself out of the running if she starts becoming possessive and weird.
Shade
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if you are joking around with ur (girl) best friend and he likes one of you and not the other in the end it wont be worth it. you will have eachother and boys will always come and go out of your lives..wut im saying is lose the guy or lose both friendships.. sry
i hope i helped
kristin
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honestly, this is a tough situation. even though there are millions of guys out there, sometimes it feels like there isn't anyone right for you, so when you find one you like it's hard not to go for it.
but this is your best friend you are talking about. basically you are choosing between her or this boy. yeah there are plenty of boys out there, but are there plenty of best friends like the one that you have now? is she easily replaced? if the answer is no, then i think you should both reconsider. tell her that you shouldn't risk your friendship over this, and that you should both move on and forget abotu this boy for now.
how would you feel if she "won him over" and they started dating? that's exactly how she would feel if you get with him. talk to her and tell her you feel a connection with him that you don't feel for every guy. if she understands and is willing to back off, then go for it. if not, i would either forget about this boy or leave it alone for now but go back to him once she decides she has stopped liking him.
ultimately, it is up to you, but there is a risk involved, and you have to decide what is more important... your friend, or the boy? good luck! :)
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