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the older i get, the more self destructive i get. it hasn't led to drugs or anything, but the older i get the terrible at attendance i am. i only had perfect attendance in certain years of elementary school. the idea of missing class wouldn't have even crossed my mind, then. now that im in college i guess im stuck in this rut and spend days not talking to other people face to face. i go online but im not having serious convos with anyone about my life. my phone has been off for nearly a month now and when i turn it on the only people i'll call, and who will call me, are immediate family members. im tired of being depressed over dumb teenage problems like not having friends and stuff cause i want to be fine with solitude. but nothing i do ends up working for me and i end up digging myselff deeper and deeper into a hole of my own creation. sure, a few things aren't my fault, but i feel most are, cause they are. i know i should be grateful and etc but no motivation i give myself works when i actually have lofty, but attainable career dreams. i sometimes just wish i was a robot so i'd never make mistakes even if it meant i could never experience love cause even when my parents say they love me i do feel obligated to do well cause of them but like.. i also feel obligated to myself to do well and i clearly suck at that. i just need to form new, good habits and stick to them. but its hard now in college with nobody telling me what to do or calling home if i skip class or something. my self discipline is terrible. i hate even talking about this here. ive had these problems since at least.. 7th grade but they just got worse and worse each year. "im lazy" is the answer but at the same time, when i complete an assignment it ends up being one of the best in the class, because i go overboard. i was that kid that would always go to the extreme with essays and school projects. but i wish i wasn't like that.. and just was more consistent as a student. i have all this spare time and i spend it online cause i've just trained myself my whole life. it's an escape from my problems but its not really an escape. it's the root of them. i guess i sometimes wish i had an assistant or something, to help motivate me everyday. i guess that's what a friend is idk anyone who would even want to spend time with me everyday. i would do the same for someone else, like keep track of their stuff and hold them accountable.. i once had a roommate and she never even questioned things, like why one period of days i'd just stay in our room and she'd always be going to class. im a newly adult but i still feel childish. when i was 12 i was more mature about school. i still like to learn and i actually am my most productive during class, but after class, after im out of that supervision, im a mess. im just wondering how adults with jobs, kids, etc. keep themselves together when im struggling with just school. i dont even have to balance that with a job and i know people who get as juggling 2-3 jobs. internet savvyness has given me a certain kind of knowledge but one that's not really helped me in school, to be honest. how do i draw back the time? cause if people can juggle so much and still get as at top schools even, and im not even at a top school, then i should be able to get stuff done. despite my problems ive always been a good kid.. and while i've thought about suicide i know how pathetic it would be since i could still improve my situation and my family doesn't deserve it. i've never done drugs and dont even want to try, especially not in my current state. i dont want to be a failure. my parents are putting a lot on me cause i have an sibling who is mentally ill and a younger one still in elementary school, so they expect success from me. but they know i've even had problems as a teenager. they know a good degree of my problems. like i wish i was like hermione from harry potter with her diligence and intelligence. i just really hate myself right now and would like some helpful, but positive feedback. like please don't be harsh cause im already my harshest critic. some people say they've gotten bs and cs like its fine but every grade i've gotten under an a has bothered me. sometimes even getting one mark off something bothers me, so naturally im never satisfied with myself and constantly ruin my chances at doing things to make me happy just because my childhood and teenage years weren't what they were "supposed to be like" and were really insular
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It sounds like you may have obsessive compulsive disorder. The reason I say that is that often people with ocd often have parts of their lives in total disarray. The aspects of your life that aren't micro managed totally fall apart. I'd suggest reading a bit about ocd and to see if it sounds similar to how things are for you.
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I have a crush on this guy but idk what to do because he is so confusing. One day he is all nice to me he will hug me and give me a kiss on the cheek and he makes me laugh so I think he likes me. He even shares some of his interests with me. The band that he is in has a fb and he sent me an invite to like their page and so far I'm the only female friend he's done that for. All the rest of the people he has done that for or his male friends or family members. But on other days he will seem uninterested and annoyed so I then I don't think he likes me so I go off and talk to other people. But when I stop paying him attention he keeps staring at me all time but wont say anything. I don't get it. Why does he act this way and what should I do the next time he acts distant? (link)
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Some people like being the center of attention. He may be interested in getting your attention that being around you. It's wanting what you don't have. When he has it he simply takes you for granted.
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I love my fiance, I really do, but some nights I have to beg him for sex. I am not exactly healthy, I'm in pretty bad shape and he's genuinely concerned about my health and hurting me but it makes me feel bad to have to cry and beg to get physical attention. I have issues with my hands but moreso with my back. Is there anything I can do to get him to stop being so protective? It's not something I can ask friends or family so I'm hoping strangers won't be biased. (early 20s, female) (link)
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it's great that he is concerned. but you have to tell him that if you had to live in a padded room then life wouldnt be worth living. you need to experience life and one of it's greatest joys is a sex life. it helps you be closer, it feels good ,it makes you feel pretty and good about yourself. tell him that this is one time you don't want or need to be protected.
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My whole life I have been really active. I did a sport every year in HS and ran/worked out during off season. However, my health now is not good. I started my 1st job in September as a server for a nursing home. While I do get a lot of exercise from picking up heavy trays and running around, I haven't been getting the exercise that I need. My eating has also been whack since I pig out on food when I'm working. Prior to working as a server, I had a lot of issues with food. I struggled (and still do) with bulimia and disordered eating. I wish I had more time to do stuff with my health, but I work so much (5/7 days a week) and don't have time to do anything when I get home from work (I basically go to work right after school, don't get home until 8, then have hw to do). I can't cut down my hours because I need the money badly and I can't seem to get into the habit of eating correctly (I bounce from eating healthy, to barely eating, to binging). I've managed to balance school and my job relatively well, but I'm worried about my health. I've also noticed that I don't feel as happy anymore, especially during the weekends. I would rather sit in watching a movie than go out to a party (Which before was not my personality at all). I don't know how to balance everything. I just wish someone could give me insight on what to do or how to manage everything. Thanks. (link)
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it may be hard for you to find the time to do aerobic type exercise. but you could start taking yoru own lunches and just have that already planned in advance. so if you going to work maybe take a drink, a sandwich and a piece of fruit. but if u have that in advance and know it's your portion you may have a bit more willpower.
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im 21 female and my bf is 23.im on holiday at the moment.i flew out 3months ago and met my bf here while being on holiday with my family.we really clicked at the beginning and since ill be back next year we decided to have a long distance relationship.we both got eachother promise rings and i really do love him but the thing is im having problems trying to read him.im afraid hes gone off me.
at the beginning of the relationship he was all really sweet and loving and kind and cared about me.he use to always call and want to see me and send me txt messages telling me he misses me and loves me etc.
Now 3months have gone by and about a week ago (same time he brought his car)hes been acting distant.i go overseas in 6days and i thought hed want to be closeer to me but hes distant.i havent been getting txt messages from him and hes hardly been calling me.i mean we still see eachother and its fine when were together but when i go home its as if i never met up with him.i dont hear anything from him until i txt him first or until hes about to sleep to send me a goodnight txt.I was also thinking that because he got a car hes driving and cant txt or call or hes with his friends picking them up etc BUT STILL!!
i spoke to him about this about 5days ago and he said its because hes trying to prepare himself for when i leave so that it doesnt hit him hard when im gone.
but love is human,you need to feed it to keep it alive.
i spoke to him again about this 2nights ago and he said its because hes scared of saying soemthing ill take the wrong way.(we got into an arguement over soemthing he said and he didnt mean it the way i thought he did)
now im scared hes gone off me...what do i do?what does this sound like?
thank you for your help! (link)
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i think that his driving is probably part of it. it is new found freedom. also if someone is distant there is usually more to it than just being busy. anytime i've been close to someone online and they told me i was distant i could even tell i was and had actually lost interest. i can't say that is the case here. but see if his ways change and that this just isnt a phase.
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okey doke
there is this guy who is ayear older then me who goes to my school and added me on facebook out of the blue when i have never talked to him and like a week later he is in the cafeteria and i look at him and then he sees that and he eyes went HUGE and then he continued to stare and lately all of his friends smile at me and so does he and stares constanly do ya think he likes me or is just being friendly idk thnx! (link)
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he probably added you on facebook because he was scared to just go up and talk to you. but i would think he is interested in you. guys just simply look more at girls they are interested in.
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Me and this guy have been talking for about 3 weeks and we hungout the last two weekends and during the week and at school and stuff and we kissed in school and he bought me a drink and held me ,etc.We kinda made plans to chill on the weekend but not officially.His brother (who he considers his best friend) came down from college for the weekend and it was his birthday, so he called me on friday and said he couldnt hangout because of that.Then he didnt text me the rest of the night until the next day and he just texted me to talk and he was still spending time with his brother. He texted me really late at night and was drunk and we talked for a bit and made plans to hangout the next night.He texted me a little bit but then i asked him to hangout and he said he was going to a sweet sixteen and he could chill after 12am ...and he never called me.I don't know if he's just been busy this weekend or if he doesn't like me anymore.When he was texting me ,he was doing smiley faces and talking so idk what the deal is.Should i be concerned? (link)
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it does sound like he just wanted to spend time with the brother he doesn't see much. there is no 100 percent guarantee that is all. but until you have reason to not trust him, i'd take his word for the time being.
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Me and this girl have been friends for quite awhile but now to the point where we're talking every single day and A LOT. I am totally falling for her and I want to ask her to be my girlfriend. How should I ask her? Please be specific, like how to start the conversation and stuff!!!
Like should I just straight up tell her?
Should I ask her if she likes me, and if she says yes then profess my feelings?
Please help! And PS, even if she doesn't like me back, I would like to still be friends with her, so is there a way to ensure that? (link)
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I think that the first person that answered this well. I do think you should handle it like that. What I would like to add is that you don't want to scare the girl by saying how much you like her. If you go on and tell her how in love you are with her and stuff she's going to feel like it came out of nowhere. It will seem stalkerish. Just let her know that you like her and are interested. If you said too much she's likely to wonder if she could ever return such a "big love".
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Okay we all have a point i think at witch we are stuck in between two people right? Well i am currently dating someone, who is absolutly amazing and there is no doubt that i love him and id never risk anything to lose him. BUT the thing is one of my really good friends says he loves me. He lives about 2 hours away from me so we dont see each other very often. I have always been interested in him and i love him as more than a friend but im not IN love with him. We have been friends for almost a year. Now heres the catch i got pretty close with his best friend and he told me a whole bunch of stuff about collin that threw me off, basically he was a huge player and would say anything to get into a girls pants, it fit considerably well with all the girls around him and his myspace. So i backed off and began questioning his intentions with me. Then i found out that Aaron, his best friend had it really bad for me. Of course collin denied everything but i question some of the things aaron told me not all but some. Not to mention i flat out told collin that i wasnt going to sleep with him and he still tells me that he loves me and im still number one on his tops. Not to mention hes very loyal to his girlfriends. He calls me 'his baby' and makes me feel all special inside. I let him know that i love him but that nothings going to come out of that because i dont trust him. he understands that. i guess i just need some advice on what everyone thinks of him. (link)
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I think both of the guys are probably trying to get with you and are both player types. You have a good thing with your boyfriend. I don't think you can really trust the 2 guys all that much. It's just better safe than sorry. Plus you have something good already.
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heyy well ill cut to the chase. i have a boy friend and weve been going out for 2 months and i love him sooo much ... but i went on vacation a lil while ago and i cant seem to get this one guy out of my head. the guy and i didnt talk that much but when we did i could tell he had something for me just by the way he smiled but i would never do anything with him cause i love my boyfriend. the thing is idk what to do now i talked to the kid on the computure and he told me that i caught his attention the most and if he didnt get with a girl while we were away that he would of talked to me more and when i told him i had a boyfriend he said the girls he liked always do and i feel bad cause i dont like making ppl feel bad... like ill be in class and just sit there and hell pop up in my head and ill laugh but i dont like him like that i just dk wat to do........
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I think that it's a mistake by keeping things too friendly with the 2nd guy. It's tempting and seems nice to keep in touch. But as you do there is always going to be this part of you open to the idea of being with him. You really need to limit that or cut that out. If you ever break up with your boyfriend you can always get in touch with guy number two. But at the moment you are kind of juggling affection for 2 guys. It happens. It's just always fun when there is a spark with someone new. But when things are that way, it's really easy to get in over your head. It's likely guy number two could persuade you to hang out. Before you know it, you're making out on the couch and who knows? Some distance and time is really the way to go for now.
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Okay, here goes it. I'm in marching band. Band camp has started, I love it, it's my life. I know I can count on any single person in the band. They're like my second family. I spend everyday with them during the school year and three weeks of summer with them, getting sweaty & muddy & nasty. It's an amazing opportunity, if one person in the band is upset, the entire band is, we have parties in the guys locker room before our home meets. It's amazing, I can tell anyone of them my problems & I know they will understand & give me amazing advice to fix it. so my question is: with a tight nit relationship with everyone in the band do you think it will be possible to start a deeper relationship (boyfriend girlfriend) with one of them? See, I'm falling for our drum major. I wasn't to close to him to begin with, we run in complete different social circles. However, seeing him direct us with the passion he has for music made me see the different side of him that I'm starting to like. Yes, we do talk, little sentences but not like 1 on 1 time, which i barely ever get him in seeming as he is always on the ball doing something to help the band in any way possible. What do you think I should do? (link)
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I don't see anything wrong with having a relationship with someone in the band. It was fairly common for bandmembers to date at my high school. You have to meet people somewhere. You seem you want a real relationship instead of a fling. A fling may be a bad idea but a real relationship doesn't seem so bad when it comes to gossip or team morale. You only live once.
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Hi. im 16. going to be a 10th grader. i dont know why, im just so depressed. there are always bad things happening around me.
when i was little i had a best freind, whos parents were freinds of my parents. we knew each other since birth, and we ended up liking each other and stuff. i dont know. but something happend to him, and he totally changed (we are thinking he was maybe raped or something.) anyways, i lost him as a friend in about ... 5th grade. that was the major begining of my depression. his parents then divorced (his dad is mental) a couple years ago and well now, his mom, who i feel like shes my aunt, is gunna die in 4 months of cancer. and my old freind (who i havent talked to in 3 years) is going to prolly go live with his mental dad who he hates..
then in 7th grade i finally got a bf. we were together almost 2 years, and then we had some issues, and he ended up being upset that we never did much, so he went behind my back texting girls (including my cousin) very inappropriate texts and everything. he broke up with me after i found out. that was DEVASTATING. it took me forever to get over that, and i still really havent. he says he still loves me and he was just fghting with himself and stuff. i dont know im not going back to him because he will hurt me again.
i now have a bf, tho i emailed him a break up (because i dont have his home number and his cell broke) and i like my best freind, who i've known for 4 years, and we are guuna go out. but no one makes me as happy as my bf who i dated for 2 years, or my old childhood friend who was like my brother and more than that.
i dont know if that relly has anything to do with my depression but i feel like theres no happiness in the world and idk why. im prolly not gunna commit suicide or anything, because it would devastate my parents, but i still dont see a reason to live, and i feel like im just here, dead, with no happiness. i try to depend on my friends to help me happy, but i cant because i feel bad that i depend on them, and i feel like i annoy them, tho they say idont. i just dont know what to do. i've lost all reason for life. i like music, but alot of it just depresses me. and it helps me sometimes, but i dont know. i also have a weird feeling of wanting to do drugs to get away from it all, or maybe because i feel like im on them, mindless or something. i know i'd get addicted too, but i dnot even know how to get any, and i'd get in major trouble, because im like... an honor student and stuff. so i dont know...
please help me. i just dont know what to do. and i dont wanna tell my mom that im depresed because she will worry about me,and also, depression runs in my dads side of the family.... so.. yeah.
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I'll just take this piece by piece for you. There is nothing too unusual about being depressed at your age. Every breakup hurts and just the world feels like it's crashing in on you at times. Don't start using drugs or alcohol. The temproary relief from your problems makes them seen even harder to deal with when you sober back up. If there is a lot of sad things in yoru life one way to help fix it is to do things you like. Let's say you like animals, maybe taking the dog for a walk would distract you. If you like sports or the outdoors, try to get out a bit more. If you spend your time doing things you like, you will have more fun and also it will distract you some. Breakups hurt. Worrying about loved ones hurts. These things get slightly easier to deal with as you mature. We tend to think that life is going to be some fairy tale and it rarely is. When we don't have this perfect experience it's devastating. It seems you just need an outlet. Maybe talk to your mom some. But, of course you probably don't want to say everything. If you have to keep an online journal about stuff that is hurting you. It's not important if anyone reads it. It's just so you can express this stuff and let out a bit of emotion. Maybe share some of your worries with online friends. Those friends you go to school with may be a bit judgmental so usually an online friend is a good way to go. Just keep tabs on how you feel. It is possible your problems are because of hormones or your body's chemistry so maybe medical help will be needed down the road. But usually it's just stuff you need to work through. Everyone goes through similar things. It's okay to hurt. But these sad things do really pass. They aren't forgotten but they don't hurt after awhile.
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me and my boyfriend broke up and my best friend asked me why and i told her i dint know.
the next day she asked me again and i said "uhmm idk because we felt like it"
then this morning she pulled my boyfriend over and started questioning him..i got soo mad that i waited until she left and confronted him and asked him what she asked. and what she asked him was why we broke up.. and what happened. my friend is kinda happy
i dont know why she is questioning soo much . maybe she likes my ex.
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she could like him or she could just be one of these people that just has to know every little thing that's going on. in the past have u had any reason to think she likes him?
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But what if he is always flirting with me when she isnt around? It makes me feel really uncomfortable when he is around and unsafe when we are left alone, like im afraid he is going to try something. Should i tell her that i dont feel safe around him? or just talk to him face to face and tell him what i heard when he was talking to his friend? (link)
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first, don't let yourself be with him alone. most guys are alright but you never know which ones may not be. it'stough to say which to say something to. becasue with that part, you kind of have to say something. if u say something to him it's likely he will tell your friend you were flirting with him. you may have to bite the bullet and just tell your girlfriend that you aren't comfy with him. i don't know if you should say that he flirts with you. that could backfire if you did and may hurt her.
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14 female
Ok sorry its so long!
Ok so a long time ago (well like three months ago) and i really thought we were going to start dating. I thought this because we went to the beach and hung out like ALL day together! Him and one of my best friends were really good friends and she was like IN LOVE with his best friend. well like a month later, he asked her out!! i was soo mad. she said yes. after like a month of them dating she changed COMPLETELY!! our friend talked to her about and she apologized and then kept making the same mistakes over and over again. This guy tried to hug me and thought we were really good friends and i just gave him the evil eye and walk away each time. The more and more they got closer i knew he wasn't right for her. She is so annoying now! She always complains about her "problems" but when me and our friend want to talk to her she runs off with her boyfriend or her new best friend. Her boyfriend knows i REALLY hates him now. every time i see him and we make eye contact its like this intense stare down of pure hatred (both ways) our mutual friend told me he really likes ME and is just dating my friend to make me jealous!! this made me so mad, but i didnt want to tell my friend because i didnt want to hurt her feelings cause she really likes him. like a lot. and last Saturday, HE CHEATED ON HER!!! he kissed another girl!!! and then he was blaming her for not giving him any "action" and he was being completely immature about it. Well, she FORGAVE HIM!!! ugh this made me sooooo mad!! and now, i have to spend ALL day with him tomorrow!! its a long story why but im afraid im going to yell at him and make the wrong move!! My friend is still really into him but he isnt into her, at all. I heard him talk to his friend how he is still trying to get me to go out with him!! Now i feel really insecure about being around him. Im afraid of what he will try to do. What should i do? Should i talk to her about it? I really don't want to be around him all day but i have to!! SOMEONE HELP!!! (link)
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With your situation I don't think you should really tell her. Boyfriends come and go. They will break up soon enough. If you say something now it could just lead to a big fight. If you don't want him around, then try to say something like that you'd want to hang out with just her like a girls night out. This way you get to be around your friend and don't have to be around the boyfriend. Usually people have to find out for themself that their bf or gf sucks. It sucks waiting around for them to break up but it's better than losing a friend forever.
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Well, a little bit ago I just had a serious discussion with my boyfriend and we decided to take a break and just be friends. We had been dating for half a year and it just got to the point where [ he's very outgoing 24/7, I'm mostly serious and have fun when I feel it's truly a fun moment ] he'd always have a sort of complaint of me every month whether it be I didn't hold his hand he always had to do it, I never talk about my emotions and have deep emotional conversations, etc. He just seemed very sensitive, which I find nothing wrong with, I just like a LITTLE sensitivity in my guy but for the most part to be a typical guy. I know it doesn't sound too bad on here, but whenever you're in the moment, it's weird. Well it just started feeling to me like I was some big empty shell of a human to him and I felt bad about myself and everything. But I tried anyways more but then everything just began to feel forced like I'd think "am i holding his hand enough? am i being emotional enough?" which isn't really a relationship then. So it just seemed like he wasn't getting what he wanted out of the relationship and I wasn't fully getting what I wanted either. ( There's so much more to explain in the contrasts of our personalities and how we handle relationships, but it'd take forever ). It just felt more like a role switch; I the male, he the female and I don't like that.
So we talked and decided to just take a break and be friends for awhile. But there was just this weirdness in the air like obviously we didn't want to break up, but we did at the same time.
I guess what I'm asking is; does anyone think this was the right thing to do for us? It's just an awkward situation where you want to be together but it just doesn't seem like it's working, so it's sad, yet relieved. I've just never been in a situation like this; usually with a break up it's like, fight, stop talking, and either talk months later or never talk again. But we're going to hang out in a couple days like everything's cool. (link)
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honestly only you will know if this will be for the best and it will be some time before you know. you do have a few things going on here and i'll try to address them. first off, with your emotions, your body and mind knows when to feel them. you shouldnt' have to fake them or have to over do them to keep someoen happy. there are some people that have issues and are do feel nothing but it's less than 5 percent of people. i'd assume you are just normal and probably are more of an introvert. you're guy seems very touchy feelie. it's like he was raised around a lot of women and just has that side to him. it's not bad if you have reversed roles if both people are comfy with it. you aren't though. it seems smart to step back and reevaluate the relationship. but he doesn't really have the right to change you. you know what's natural to you. i will say this though. if there are emotions you wanted to share with him but were unable to then he may have a point. but nobody shares everything or every thought with who they date. i'd think that to a degree your guy comes off as insecure or is insecure. it's almost like he wants to check every 2 minutes how you are doing or how you are feeling. sometimes we just aren't feeling a thing. we are in the moment and have no thoughts about it. this is why guys get angry when girls ask "what are you thinking?". in a way you got to see how it is for the other half. anyhow, i'd say you did the right thing. it's not bad to step back sometimes.
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16/f
Right, so i really like this guy(who is 16), but the problem is he has a girlfriend, but liek two weeks before he started dating her he asked me to be his girlfriend and i said no cause i didn't think i lieked him liek that, anyway now i do. Would it be so dreadful for me to flirt with him a little and try n win him back? Any tips are useful, ty.
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are you sure you don't just want him because now he's taken? we tend to want what we can't have. before anything else, just go over that possibility in your mind. i do agree with the other person that you should wait until he's single again to make any sort of move. also, maybe you will have a change of heart before that point as well. but if you did want to win him back. well you had him before. you shouldn't have to change how you act at all. i dont' know if this guy will ever ask you out again. personally, if a girl says no to going out with me i never ask a second time. i'll let myself be rejected once but not twice. at some point you may have to just tell him that you made a mistake.
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14/f
what happens if i get pregnant? like will i be able to move out of my parents house? and live with my boyfriend? or will i have to stay home? and how would i tell my parents? what if i runaway and call my parents and tell them. will i have to go back home? because i know my parents dont want me to do this. and would pretty much beat me if i did. but i dont care about them. they just make my life worse and worse everyday. and starting a family sounds like the best thing to me right now. im not actually pregnant. but im kinda thinking about it. because of things ive talked about with my boyfriend. i know your gonna say dont do it. and im not ever sure i want to do this. so PLEASE dont tell me i shouldn't do it. or how its going to ruin my life. because it wont ruin my life. my boyfriend already has things planned out if i do want to do this. and no. he's not pushing me to do this. its only if i want to. and i just want these questions answered before i do make a decision.
thanks for the help.
- cuttechick24 (link)
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i don't know your boyfriend's age. but if he got you pregnant and was older there could be a number of legal problems with it all. it's quite possible that he could go on a sex offender list or be charged with statutory rape. the baby would just be simply evidence. you're not alone. many people that have bad family lives want to have a child because they want unconditional love. maybe you could do it. maybe you'd do a great job. but there is more to raising a child than simply love. there is more than just getting by financially. babies constantly need doctor's care and bills add up in a hurry. there is just a lot to consider. if you are serious, there is a site called "www.babycenter.com" but they have a calculator on the costs. but it can give you a clue of what you'd need financially. all i'm suggesting is you do your homework if you decide to do this. babies are great. but they don't fix things. if this is a mistake, you may resent the child later in life.
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I feeling mentally unstable and im only 15. My mom was very mentally unstable and I dont want to bring the family more grief now that shes well. For example, I'm getting paranoid like her, about irrelevant things. Second, I think im a mild sleep walker and im definetly a sleep talker. I dwell on negative things that dont matter too much and I talk to myself when i think of something stressful, in like an outburst. Its really weird and I didnt used to do this until stress came into my life. I dont have as many friends as I used to, im a little boring, and I used to have it all, kind of. I come off as confident and fun and most like me but inside dont feel the same, all the time at least. I know im really pretty but I use it to feel better about other things, for example, me saying im prettier that some girl whos skinnier than me but has a boyfriend is my escape from the pity of my singleness. I've only had one real bf and he wasnt amazing, never made out either, but this was my awakening this morning. I wet the bed. I dreamt I was peeing all over a toilet when i was peeing all over myself. It wasnt a full blown thing but still visible. I havent done this once in 5 years, embarrasing enough, and I didnt have to go badly- I can go to sleep having to pee badly and wake up fine. I never had sleepovers with friends, and at one many years ago with my cousins i wet the bed once. When I go out of state I sleeptalk more often, and I don't want to reveal private information. I've slept away at a 3 day camp once when I was ten with my friends and nothing bad happened, so now im going out of state for 4 days, and I want to be more normal. I want to know whats up with my in my many ways, and how to fix things so I can be closer to the old me. Great things happen to me that would bring most tons of happiness, but i really want a ton of good, real friends at school, and maybe a boyfriend and less enemies, because i don't do anything to offend anyone. That would make me happier than being the homecoming princess (link)
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i'm just going to talk about the early part of your question. we all have stress but from how you put things your stress is different. it sounds like you either have panic attacks or may be obsessive compulsive or both. does anyone in your family have an irregular thyroid? i just ask because thyroid conditions are usually an idicator for ailments like you had mentioned. i only ask because i used to have panic attacks. i suffered from insomnia. i've slept walked alot and at stressful times i'd even wet the bed as well. for starters i'd stay away from caffeine and/or tobacco. both of them will stimulate your body and mind and that's not good when already having scary thoughts. odds are you don't have anything truly wrong with you. it's probably just a slight chemical imbalance. it's much more common than you'd guess. it's nothing to be ashamed of or anything.
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I am a senior and soon i will graduate, my biggest regret is that I never asked the girl I like(who is a sophmore) to the prom or a date or anything, I have classes with her but other than that we rarely make contact out of school, I am a really shy guy but I have fun talking to her and she is also easy to talk to, and trust me a shy guy like me doesn't have an easy time to talking to many people, basically I like her alot and I have a big crush on her but I don't want to tell her how I feel about her because if she does'nt feel the same way, talking to her again would be really akward, Some friends say it's too late and some say I should just walk up to her and just ask her. What should I do? (link)
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what you are going through a lot of guys go through. shyness sucks and i can truly relate. i've been in the same situation as you before. it's probably going to be too too hard ask her out on a date date. the simplest thing to do is someday while talking to her, just say something like "we should do something some time". just ask her to come over to watch videos or something. it's very low key but it's something she'd likely want to do. if in class she says how she likes to surf or rollerblade or whatever, just say "we should do that sometime". you want to get this being more of an out of school thing. don't do soemthing like meet up and confess your love. you'll scare her away. it wouldnt be bad to maybe say something when you hang out like. " i'm glad we've got to spend time together, i've always liked you" you want her to know you do like her but not be too too forward. it's hard to like someone and be shy too. rejection is not easy to deal with or to get over. you're not alone at all. i'm s shy guy that took forever to get over this. i'm not even completely over it. if you're shy and not model material you have to put work in. in the future, try to ask people out before you like them. it's much easier. when shy, we tend to want to make some kind of connection before actually asking a person out. but when you go to ask this person out it's much much harder to have the courage to do. there is too much riding on it. if you do ask her to do stuff and she accepts, you can't hang out too many times before you let her know that you'd want to actually go on a true date. if you wait too long you'll be in the friendzone and it's darn near impossible to get out of that. i hope i was some help and if you find my advice helpful...feel free to ask me any questions. i'd try to help.
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