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I feeling mentally unstable and im only 15. My mom was very mentally unstable and I dont want to bring the family more grief now that shes well. For example, I'm getting paranoid like her, about irrelevant things. Second, I think im a mild sleep walker and im definetly a sleep talker. I dwell on negative things that dont matter too much and I talk to myself when i think of something stressful, in like an outburst. Its really weird and I didnt used to do this until stress came into my life. I dont have as many friends as I used to, im a little boring, and I used to have it all, kind of. I come off as confident and fun and most like me but inside dont feel the same, all the time at least. I know im really pretty but I use it to feel better about other things, for example, me saying im prettier that some girl whos skinnier than me but has a boyfriend is my escape from the pity of my singleness. I've only had one real bf and he wasnt amazing, never made out either, but this was my awakening this morning. I wet the bed. I dreamt I was peeing all over a toilet when i was peeing all over myself. It wasnt a full blown thing but still visible. I havent done this once in 5 years, embarrasing enough, and I didnt have to go badly- I can go to sleep having to pee badly and wake up fine. I never had sleepovers with friends, and at one many years ago with my cousins i wet the bed once. When I go out of state I sleeptalk more often, and I don't want to reveal private information. I've slept away at a 3 day camp once when I was ten with my friends and nothing bad happened, so now im going out of state for 4 days, and I want to be more normal. I want to know whats up with my in my many ways, and how to fix things so I can be closer to the old me. Great things happen to me that would bring most tons of happiness, but i really want a ton of good, real friends at school, and maybe a boyfriend and less enemies, because i don't do anything to offend anyone. That would make me happier than being the homecoming princess
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worring can bring alot of stress on your self and make you worry about every thing. its normal to be stressed but thier are ways to help you have to find the ways like getting a hobbie reading a good book. but god can aslo help with problems with this I was going throw some tuff time with every thing with my family and my life so I had to change I had to get all the wrong things out tell your self in the morning when you wake up im going to have a good day Im not going to let any thing get to me. when something upsets you you need to get away get some air go for a walk go to the park. if you want real friends its not hard show the real side of you you seem like you have grown up you use us mannerly words like unstable, but unstable means you don't take care of your self and means you cant do any thing your not unstable don't let that get to you OK her is something don't compare your self to other girls this well stress you out be you that what confident is keep your life bizzy go to the library go to the gym pool do something make some goal and never give up. worry about your education do something different with your hair. ask your mom if you can try to wear heels trust me I had to take lady lessons this helps with image and people appreciate you better image is not every thing but manners,being graceful,poise,and dainty this helps be social and experience every day as you get older these tips will help you they did me its not making you different just a new change making more friends a new boy friend better career in your future etiquette but if you get more stressed getting a counselor helps to I went throw counseling for 14 years and therapy pf my life got on some depression pills for a while and it helps so I could be happy.
How to act Like a Lady
Acting like a lady is a skill that takes time to learn. Most ladies learn their ladylike behavior from the time they're little girls. However, you can learn to act like a lady later in life too. A few etiquette classes and practice will get you on your way to ladylike behavior.
1Observe other ladies to see how they act. Watch old movies, and actresses like Audrey Hepburn, to get a good feel for how a lady should conduct herself
3Keep your voice down and never yell because it makes you look unattractive and unladylike. Keep your curse words to a minimum and maintain your composure Dress like a lady by not showing too much skin. Dressing ladylike requires you to toss out your micro mini skirts and fishnet stockings and opt for a flowing skirt, silk stockings and pearls. Learn to walk. Ladies don't walk like
6Read up on the latest trends and fashion as well as classic literature and poetry. Being a well-rounded person will help you act like a lady in many situations. they should be wearing overalls, they learn to walk, and even run, in high heels. Also, learn how to sit and exit a car properly so you don't show anything the world shouldn't see.
I like it. It is true. A gentleman would want a lady How to Walk in High Heels
Heels do not need to be long and thin to be considered fashionable. But no matter what the length of your heel, take extra caution to keep your balance and place the least amount of strain on your muscles.
How to Be a Lady
It is likely that every girl hears "act like a lady" from their mother at some point in life. It involves a number of well thought-out mannerisms and actions that might not come naturally. A few simple steps can help anyone be a lady
1Be polite. While traditional guidelines suggest that women should act as shrinking violets, being a lady does not necessarily mean being submissive. A lady, in all her wisdom, should keep a cool head under pressure and outwit her adversaries with meaningful, well chosen words.
Maintain a well groomed appearance. While women should not feel that they need to dress up every day, grooming is a sign to the outside world that a woman is ladylike. Instead of throwing on tattered sweats, choose a nicely fitted jogging suit to run errands. Instead of leaving the house with no make-up, try a quick 5-minute face in the morning. Carry your sense of the ladylike throughout your wardrobe.
Educate yourself. Today's proverbial "lady" should be educated and able to hold up her end of a conversation. By staying on top of world events and keeping your mind active through reading and meaningful television viewing, you can carry on a conversation charged with intellectual heft and interest4Be independent. In a drastic shift away from traditional ideas of ladylike, the contemporary woman is considered a lady if she can stand on her own two feet. Women hold down careers, raise children or live the single life dependent upon their choices and preferences. An independent woman is the pinnacle of ladylike.
5Nurture kindness. Perhaps the most recognizable sign of a lady is kindness. Whether a woman is kind to her parents, friends, lovers or the community at large, hardly any other characteristic is as valuable and contagious.
How to Look Graceful
There are people in the world who are truly beautiful but born clumsy. This fact can cause some of us to feel self conscious or have low self esteem; but there are ways to cover looking inept and look beautiful, graceful and balanced instead. Looking awkward can be avoided. You just need to know how to look graceful even when you’re not. Try these steps to attain that graceful beauty we all desire.
Laugh at yourself. Not only does laughing make a person look beautiful, but laughter is contagious and brightens a person's day. When you make someone laugh that is how they will remember you, not as a lumbering ox.
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2When you run into a wall keep going, don’t stop and make a scene. Chances are witnesses will simply smile and forget about it.
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3Take dance, yoga or ballet; anything that will help with balance and coordination.
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4When you drop something remember it isn’t your clumsiness they’re considering, it’s your butt, so stay in shape and take your time standing up!
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5Make up a funny story about how you dropped that cup of water on purpose. If you manage to make a joke of it they will laugh at the joke and not at you.
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6Always appear confident. Remember, confidence is attractive. Grace and beauty are in the eyes of the beholder.
How to Be More Graceful
There is grace in disposition or acts and there is physical grace. Here we will discuss the latter and how to be more graceful. Natural physical grace isn't something everyone is born with. Many of us tend to rush, slouch and move with less grace than we'd like. You can be more graceful by being aware of your body and training yourself to move in a more self-assured manner.
Stand tall. Bad posture is the anathema of physical grace. Practice standing tall, with your shoulders back and abdomen pulled in. Not only does this make you appear more graceful, it elongates your body and has a thinning affect. 2Slow down. Many of us rush through our day moving quickly from task to task and place to place. Slow down and become aware of your surroundings. Graceful people don’t rush into a room looking harried, they move slowly and purposefully. Slowing down will also help you avoid falls, spills and other less graceful mishaps. 3Get stronger. Graceful movement is much easier when you have strong muscles, particularly core muscles. Consider strength training routines that focus on making your muscles stronger and more flexible. Pilates and yoga are excellent choices for strength, coordination and balance.
Watch your stride. Stomping or walking heavily is not only anti-graceful, but it’s not particularly good for your joints. Adversely, small mincing steps do not denote grace either. Adapt a self-assured stride. When you walk, walk with a purpose and be aware of your stride. Consider dance classes. Dance classes are great for helping people become more graceful. Individuals with dance training tend to have more coordination, flexibility and grace. It’s never too late to take dance classes. Many community centers or gyms offer dance classes for all ages. 6Practice makes perfect. When you practice slower more graceful movements, the idea is to incorporate these movements into your daily routine. As with any training, the more you practice or use new techniques, the more likely these changes will become habit.
How to Develop Poise
Having poise means you display self-confidence in any given situation. People look to you for leadership and guidance in tough and highly charged situations. If you want to be the "go-to guy" during when times get tough, develop poise to give yourself that strong and steady appeal.
1Take up a competitive sport. Sports helps you develop poise by putting you in high-pressured situations2Participate in modern dance, ballet or yoga. These types of activities help you relax. Center yourself through dance and maintain your focus. Relieve your stress through stretching and rhythmic body movements. When you feel less stressed overall, highly charged situations are less likely to frazzle you while you maintain your poise.Volunteer for community organizations. Find your cause and ask to serve in a leadership position. Give yourself a sense of purpose. Taking on big responsibilities gives you a feeling of accomplishment and builds your self-confidence. Develop poise and help others at the same time Control your emotions. React to situations objectively, regardless of how tempted you are to respond emotionally. If you want to develop poise, maintain an even keel. Show that you have the self-confidence to deal with the problem first. Learn to deal with your emotions after the problem is solved
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How to Walk in High Heels
By eHow Fashion, Style & Personal Care Editor
Step with your heel down first, then let the sole follow quickly and smoothly.
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2Walk with your toes pointing straight ahead or as close to straight ahead as possible.
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3Swing your arms as you walk for balance.
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4Keep your legs straight, close and parallel.
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5Take smooth, even steps; consider shortening your stride a bit.
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6Avoid walking on ice, slush, mud, grass, sand, gravel and grated surfaces, on which you can slip or sink. When in doubt, take off your heels and carry them across such questionable surfaces in your bare feet.
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i'm just going to talk about the early part of your question. we all have stress but from how you put things your stress is different. it sounds like you either have panic attacks or may be obsessive compulsive or both. does anyone in your family have an irregular thyroid? i just ask because thyroid conditions are usually an idicator for ailments like you had mentioned. i only ask because i used to have panic attacks. i suffered from insomnia. i've slept walked alot and at stressful times i'd even wet the bed as well. for starters i'd stay away from caffeine and/or tobacco. both of them will stimulate your body and mind and that's not good when already having scary thoughts. odds are you don't have anything truly wrong with you. it's probably just a slight chemical imbalance. it's much more common than you'd guess. it's nothing to be ashamed of or anything.
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I would say to either talk to a close friend, or maybe a school counselor. They're there for your health. You can even talk to the school nurse. If you feel that you're mentality is going to become dangerous to yourself, please seek out a real doctor.
Wetting the bed is normal when a person is in a weak mental state. When a person is young ( a child), they mostly wet the bed because of the fact that their bladder control is not fully developed, but some adults and teens who are uncomfortable in their place and time actually do wet themselves.
As for your wanting to be closer to the old you, well all I can say is to do things that you used to. Talk to some of your old friends and try to get together. Maybe you lost a hobby or sport that you lost along the way that you want to pick back up again. Maybe you just need to get all of your frustration and vent to someone. Writing also helps!
Message me if you need someone to talk to; I'm here for you!
-Nicole
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