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It's gross, especially when it's overt and/or persistant. I thought a relationship was meant to be between 2 people? Why do some couples try to get other people's attention? I noticed yesterday at the mall. There was this interracial couple all over each other, as we stood in line at this food place, and i'd focus on other things but they'd sometimes look back with this look on their face line they want their relationship to interest people, incite anger or jealousy, etc. it was awkward for me, directly behind them, and others in line. I have no problem with any couple, interracial, gay, lesbian, transgender, one young and one old, etc. I'm happy others can find love and be in relationships. I'm not jealous either, it's just uncomfortable to essentially be viewing foreplay without consent. There were children in line, too. Some people seem to get a sexual thrill out of people seeing their pda and that just seems sick and self centered. It makes me understand why there are countries that ban it.
Maybe you should speak up in protest next time, maybe even go as far as to wear blinders of some sort so you aren't offended or disturbed. Maybe you should carry blind folds and ear plugs everywhere you venture and pass them out to people the way people passed out fancy cigars in old time parties, or how some people passout religious pamphlets?
Haha, no I'm not being serious. Doesn't that sound a little ridiculous? Of course it does!
But in all honesty I can understand that it can be awkward, but if you are really bothered by something you have two choices, stay quiet and idle stand by or speak up.
We can't control anyone except ourselves, and even then humans lack power over self control in times of distress. So maybe you should see what exactly makes you uncomfortable and what you can do for yourself when a time such as that presents itself.
As for worrying about "the children." With today's media, the internet and gossip at school; I think two people sucking face in public is the most tame sexual exposure they'll have honestly.
You can worry about other children such as many people do, you can most certainly worry about your own, but even then you can't 100% control their development and or their surroundings.
So That's all I can really say, I hope I haven't upset you or offended you in anyway; not my intentions, but no use getting upset about the weather when we can't control it right?
Be well.
Thanks for the advice. It really is weird to be afraid of a girl! I probably will tell someone if she wants to fight again, but kids will tease me for backing out of a fight especially a girl. But I guess that would be better than getting beat up again because I know that I'd loose to her after what Already happened, because I fought back my hardest and she still got the better of me, glad I was able to get away. One of her friends said that shes just messing with me and knows I'm scared of her and she wouldn't beat me up because she could get kicked off her gymnastics team. Seems to be blowing over because she hasn't gone out of her way to say anything intimidating to me yesterday.
Sure thing kiddo.
She might just be "teasing" you. In either case, if she gets violent towards you and tries to hurt you, speak up.
Glad to be of some help, take care (:
Hi im a boy in the 7th grade and I recently went to a playground over the weekend thats just outside the county where i live and witnessed a girl who goes to my school beating up a boy really bad for whatever reason I don't know. He wasn't anyone I knew he probably went to the school in that area. Anyway she finally let him go and he was limping and crying as he went by me and the girl and her friend were laughing at him and saw me standing there in shock and her friend said something"Tina kick his ass too" so she came at me I pushed her away but she was able to punch me in the face and take me down and started To get me in a headlock and punch me some more. Well I was able to get away and on my bike. Now after that I was so scared out of my mind of her and I knew I would see her in school. so today she's been hassling me intimidating me, by coming up behind me at lunch and said "I love making boys cry" and "I won't let u get away next time"
I don't know what to do! I never been afraid of a girl before and im scared and nervous as hell! Im to nervous to tell anybody esp my dad! Not sure how he would react and I don't want to admit to anybody that I'm scared of her, but im definitely scared of her after what I seen her do to the other kid and what she did to me! and another girl who's on her gymnastics team told me she knows im afraid of her now and said she overheard her saying she plans on beating me up after school to get out of practice! Any advice please!
I advice you tell someone, preferably someone from school staff, for example a counselor or teacher. You can't be someone's punching bag just for fun, apart from physical damage there will be more emotional and psychological damage. You have to speak up what is going, her hurting someone is not okay by any means. The fact she is a girl shouldn't be any reason for her to be allowed to hit you a boy, gender/sex has nothing to do with it.
Violence is violence and physical assault and bullying is still wrong!
She needs to keep her hands to herself and needs to understand that such actions have consequences.
I understand you might feel embarrassed and scared to speak up, more so because of these ridiculous gende roles and stigmas for boys having to "toughen up" and to not "cry."
No. As I said before, she is hurting others around her for whatever reason, that is unknown; for you personally if she is threatening you, you have to speak up.
Go to an adult in your school, your mother perhaps? A school nurse, or counselor; just don't stay quite or else she will continue to hurt others around her and perhaps even you.
Which is wrong.
I hope you speak up and I am here if you need to talk, luck be with you kiddo!
I daydream a lot and I did a little research and I am not sure if it is a maladaptive daydreaming. I think it becoming a problem because I don't like pain. However, when I have a painful experience I create a scenario in my head. The scenario is even more painful but I am in control of what happens. During these daydream I get emotional because they are very painful experience but it worse than the pain I am going through. It my way to escape and process my emotion. I can cry without dealing with my actually emotionally pain.
Hello and happy Holidays! (:
Well my friend, it sounds to me that it is indeed maladaptive daydreaming, I myself have had this problem...I daydream quite a lot whenever I am not putting my mind to use; being focused on something.
Yes sometimes the scenarios can seem very real and be very painful, they are usually triggered by something..you must identify what it is that triggers these thoughts that unfold into daydreams.
I have had the very painful daydreams happen...they have been triggered by numerous things and they seem to be linked by emotional and psychological trauma I have been through from my past growing up and from past romantic relationships.
I have had a psychologist help me through a recent break up that left me nearly insane and emotionally stunted; the past month and a half have been a major break through and I have been able to realize when my "mind" is drifting and I can now stop myself 3 out 5 times.
The key here is to keep yourself occupied, if your mind is focused on something; preferably something constructive, than you don't have time to wonder and daydream.
However, considering you seem to be using this as emotional coping mechanism it might be harder; I am assuming you play over whatever it is that you have hidden and or kept bottled up emotional; so you create a scenario in your head where you act upon your feelings or something of the sort.
You need to work on expressing your feelings and unleashing whatever part of yourself you are suppressing, which you are living through vicariously with these daydreams.
I will link this site that can help inform you further and it has boards you can talk to others about MDD: http://www.healthguidance.org/entry/15944/1/Can-Maladaptive-Daydreaming-Be-Treated.html
I hope this helped, feel free to contact me again if you wish too! Good luck stranger~
I am 20 years old girl.2 years ago I met a boy (23 years) on facebook.He was from the another city of my country.I never add unknown people. Actually I was searching someone from his company. And I sent friend request to him. But after chatting I came to know that he was not the one. I decided to remove him. But from his old status I came to know that he lost his mother last year. I really felt bad. And decided not to remove him. We became friends. We used to chat for long time. He shared a lot of things with me so did I. He was a nice boy. He cared for me. I forgot to take my medicine. He asked me everyday that I took my medicine or not. He asked my opinion about his business card. I mean he gave me priorities. But after 2 months don't know what happened he started to change. He didn't reply me back like before. I didn't ask why. And I started to realize that I like him. I felt bad about it that how I fall in love with someone on internet. I decided to move on and not to talk to him anymore. But that time it seemed very difficult to me. I decided to remove him. One night I knocked him and told him something about my family and then told him that I am going to remove him. He said please tell me the reason. I told him and removed him.but still I used to message him and he replaid me. That time I came to know from other source that he hided things from me. He didn't told me that his father got married few days ago. He told me that he had a girlfriend for one year but he never loved her. But I came to know that after that he also had a girlfriend almost for 3 years. But he didn't tell me anything about it. After one months I added him again. He accepted friend request and talked to me like nothing happened. Everything became normal again. I gave him my number. We started to chat on whatsapp. Almost like before. It was my birthday. I asked for gift. He asked what I want. I told as your wish. He told me to ask for something. I told him that you won't be able to give me. He asked me what. I didn't want to tell him. But he forced me and requested me to tell what I want. I told him that I liked him seriously and I really wanted to spent my life with him. He told me that we didn't meet each other ever so we shouldn't think about it. One night I asked him,won't you ever love me?He said "you are a very silly girl,stop this childish,it will be good for you and relationship are really trouble thing for me". On reply I said I will wait for you because I am unable to love anyone else.He didn't say anything.One day I called him and we talked for the first time. That day he told me about his father marriage. We talked for 20 minutes. And he was nice. After that we used to talk. His birthday was coming I decided to send him a gift. I asked for his address but he refused to give it to me. But I knew his addressed already so I sent the gift. And he accepted it(There was his another female friend. She also liked him. She also send him gift but he didn't accept it.I came to know from someone.) And on his birthday he called me and said that I am crazy. But he was happy.Every thing was going well. One day I knocked him on whatsapp and after sometime he replaid. Like he always does. But I felt something is wrong. Don't know why!!! But my mind telling me that something is wrong. I felt that he was not replying me. Someone else was doing it. And the person talked to me little rudely. I knew that he couldn't talk to me like that. I end the conversation. I was so upset that he allowed someone to reply me by his phone. After 7 days I knocked him and asked about the matter. He told that it wasn't he. I asked who it was. He told it was his colleague. But he didn't tell the name. I got very angry. He tried to explain me that it wasn't intentional. But I didn't pay any heed to his talk. I asked him how could he allowed someone to message me. He said that his colleague borrowed his phone for some work and I knocked that time and she replaid. She also deleted the message but told him what she wrote. And she did it for fun. I was so angry. I shouted at him. And told him not to contact me ever. At last he also got angry and told me that I was just a facebook friend to him nothing else and he never thought about me.
After that I found out the girls name. She is 1 year older than him. She also proposed him. But he said no. I contacted him again almost after 3 months. He also did. One day he called me we talked for so long. And the next day the girl tried to commit suicide and admited into hospital but he didn't even go to see her. When I heard about it I really felt bad.I come to know that the girl is back in his life.They talk to each other.But they are just friend. He never tells me anything about it ever. I found it out from another source. I also ask him that if he has any problem to talk to me he can tell me directly I won't contact him again. But he says he has no problem to talk to me.
We don't talk like before.He never knocks me. I don't knock him much. I still have that feelings for him. I still like him. But it doesn't hurt me anymore. I am doing okay in my life. I call him sometimes(like once in a month/months) . And he talk to me nicely like before we used to talk. I wonder he still remembers little things about me. I talk to him like a friend. I never talk about my feelings and all this. But last time when we talked he asked me,do I have a boyfriend now? I said,no. He asked,why? On my mind I was telling,because I told you that I will wait for you. But i didn't tell him that. I told him that you know the answer but may be you don't remember it.I was a little angry.
Should I move on?Should I cut contact with him?
And yes I always feel that he has some feelings for me. May be its not love,but its special.Did/does he have?I accept the fact that he would never love me. But I still love him. And I am okay with that.
Tell me what to do now?
I cannot tell you what to do. I can however, give you my advice for you to consider and then you can come to your own decision.
Long distant relationships are difficult, meeting people online is nice but if you don't talk on the phone or video chat, or visit one another than it puts stress on the relationship; leaving you with doubt and insecurity about many things. For instance this other woman who "likes" him.
You cannot see him all the time or that easily in person, you do not know what he is doing, who he is talking to and what is happening. You only know what he tells you; uncovering "lies" or "secrets," he held from you for whatever reason personal of his...seems to have had a negative affect on you.
It is understandable. Because then you question what is real and what is a lie and or what else they might be keeping from you.
He got upset, said you were nothing but a facebook friend, whether he said it because he was angry or because he really holds no romantic feelings towards you, only he knows.
You might say you have a feeling that he does have feelings for you, while I won't say you are wrong or right...I will say that psychologically speaking, you are more than likely projecting your own personal feelings onto him and hoping and wishing he feels the same as you do. Since you grew to have feelings towards him.
It is possible to grow feelings towards someone though they are so far away, feelings are complex. I won't get much into it, but if he already told you he had no feelings towards you than you should reflect on everything that has happened up until that point; take a deep breath and think about what is best and realistic.
Though you say you cannot love anyone else, I'd suggest you try to think more in the form of, "I cannot love anyone else like you, for you are only one person. Special to me, but there are other people in life...perhaps I will grow to love someone very different from you, or slightly similar...we shall see."
Depriving yourself from other relationship opportunities, or "waiting for him" seems romantic; but think about it...as I said, you cannot see him. He might be going out, meeting people and you are just waiting for something that will never come.
So I think it is best you try to "move on."
You two can remain friends but you should take time for yourself and go out more.
Speak to people, make new friends; have fun and live life.
Don't just stay on facebook waiting for one person your whole life.
That's my advice, hope it helped.
What qualifies someone to give advice on this site?
I personally would say the qualifications lie in 3 key factors: Intention, experience and knowledge.
Of course there is "good" advice and "bad" advice. This is where intention comes into play, there are people who give advice while not always having the best intention in mind. I would hope that most people on this site reply with good intention and for the best helpful outcome for the person in need of advice. Because though we do get "trolls" on this site and questions that might not seem serious or real scenarios we should still always take them seriously; just to bare in mind that what we say can impact/affect someone's life.
Personal experience comes into play in everyday life, it can be something as simple as not recommending the soup at a certain restaurant because you have had it before and it isn't all that great, to sharing a very personal experience that is similar to someone else's and helping them through a rough patch in their life; by sharing the good and bad things that have happened. The "mirror" effect, using your personal experience to mirror someone else's so they don't commit the same mistake as you or at the very least they can have some possible foresight.
And of course knowledge is a very important part of qualifying to give advice, getting your facts straight! Researching topics or already having the information that is concrete based on fact and scientific evidence is very helpful. I personally take it upon myself to briefly search information on a certain subject that someone might need information on or advice on and I also include links...because I enjoy learning and if I don't have any knowledge on it beforehand then I will for the next time around; I also enjoy reading a lot so I do read a lot about everything I can that peaks my interest and anything I think will come in handy. As they say knowledge is power!
It's just a sense of humanity, having compassion, sympathy, combined with righteous indignation.
So those are my two cents on this topic.
will god forgive me and will I still go to heaven when I follow through with what I'm about to do. I figure if I'm going to loose everything I'm going to loose it on my terms. I am going to jail for driving under suspennsion and I,m on disability and I'll loose everything I'm already living my life in a wheelchair from a motorcycle accident. I already have my mind made up
Well my friend it seems you have quite a lot going on. As a fellow human being I understand the feeling when life feels so heavy and you just feel as if you can't go on anymore, and the only wait out seems to be giving up and throwing everything away.
All of us here on this site are not doctors, nor are we psychologists. We are merely people who try to give the best advice and information and sometimes even support, to people who need it. That might not seem like much, but sometimes just knowing that someone understands or in the very least is listening to what you have to say and is sympathizing with you/for you..can mean a lot to someone.
As for God forgiving you, well no one can truly known. I personally would believe that yes, he would. He is a God of love is he not? Not to get all that into religious debate or anything, and I don't mean to offend anyone who's views/beliefs might differ from mine; but I would assume he would. Depending what your religious background is..we are told Jesus died for our sins. And once we accept "salvation" i.e. join some religion and attend Church and read The Bible and preach and live to serve him than your sins are forgiven.
This is a delicate topic and thoughts/beliefs/views and facts will vary from person to person. Based on the dogma and moral their religious path carries.
I would think..like any parent, God would be very hurt and sad. The Christian and Catholic Bible state that God gave us the path to choose life or death, between blessing and curses. He created us to live. I'd interpret this in my own way and say he'd want you to live, whether this be spiritually as in serving him in his path of religion or to be physically alive here among the living; I would say both.
I'll include a link that has a very touching story and someone's personal experience on the subject: http://christianity.about.com/od/whatdoesthebiblesay/a/Bible-Suicide.htm
Anyways, I honestly thought for an hour about whether or not I should answer this question...because I wouldn't say I'm quite on the "right" path as most religious folk tell me, do to my lifestyle. Because of ways that I was born and personal spiritual paths I have accepted and take into practice; however this does not waver my ability to connect with humans. To want to help and be as good as a person as I can be, to want to understand my fellow man and to get a long with them; despite contrasting beliefs and life choices. This is why I answered.
Because I have felt the same anguish both mental and sentimental and physical, that have made me contemplate suicide before. Yet I am still here, because one way or another I fought it. I do personally believe God is a God of love and forgiveness, and that "rebelling" (such as myself as some think and say) children hurt him. But he wants us to lead our life as we choose to hoping we one day will walk straight hand in hand with His name. That's what I think and I do believe I am still alive because he has put the right people and right scenarios in my life to help prevent me from doing something disgraceful.
I think you should speak to someone, a psychologist or reach out to the people of your Church or family. As much as we want to be alone and deal with things (or not) in our own way, it is important to surround yourself with people you trust and who will support and even motivate you to keep going.
There are many people who have disabilities born with or not, whom go on to have fulfilling lives. Not problem free of course, because conflict is part of everyday life; but at the very least they are happy and they overcome with fearless endeavors.
As for your trial you should speak to your lawyer and speak of possible outcomes and what exactly you are looking at.
I am sorry the weight on your shoulders is much and the pain your are battling with is excruciating; I hope you overcome it and realize your life is valuable. And that you do have a reason for being on this earth. Hope it all works out for you my friend.
For some reason I was surfing and checked to see what was written about Ray Marcois and the kennel he owned when he died..........WHERE IN THE WORLD DID YOU GET THE INFO THAT HE AND DIANE WERE SHOT TO DEATH?????
Ray and I were married for a few years and he and I acquired Mandelyn Kennels from the prior owners during the time of our marriage. Diane was a friend of ours - and continued to remain a friend of mine after Ray and I split up - and for quite awhile after Ray died OF A HEART ATTACK while out on the training field talking to his head trainer Tony Barios. Ray was giving Tony instructions on what was to be taken care of while he was at the Air Force Base in Texas to work with handlers and canines. Ray was dead before the ambulance arrived arrived!!!! NO SHOOTING INVOLVED IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM.....and his wife Diane was still alive the last time she and I talked several months later.
Please let me know - and better yet, inform your "source" that he/she was WRONG/WRONG/WRONG. Ray was too good a man to have this stupid incorrect information on the net.
So very confused, I haven't the slightest clue about what is being mentioned here.
I havnent been able to sleep very well for the past week, and when I do it's maybe 5 hours a night with me waking up every 45 minutes in that time span. What should I do to get some sleep?
You can try doing some light slow breathing and yoga stretches for 5 minutes, to ensure muscle relaxation.
Try reading something boring, or at the very least something that doesn't peak your interest. It will tire your eyes and send you off to snoozeville!
You can also try organic herbal teas that help relax and sooth tension, as well as induce sleep. Some good sleep-aid herbs include: Chamomile, Valerian, Lavender, St.John's Wart and Peppermint.
You can find already prepared sleep-aid tea mixes in your local grocery stores. Or shop online.
NOTE: Always read the contents and talk to a physician before trying anything new, to avoid food allergies and any side affects.
Hope this helped.
i liked this girl i started dating who i thought was an innocent girl. in fact i didn't even try to kiss her until the third date because of how innocent i thought she was. well the thing is after i kissed her and don't ask me why we started talking about sexual experiences ( i thought she had practically none so what did i have to fear). well i found out she is what is known as a virgin slut or virgin whore, a girl who is still a virgin but has kissed around 40 guys and had blown off 4 guys just because she was horny and returning the favor after they had sucked her off.
i feel a little disgusted with the horny attitude with random guys in the past and don't know what i should think.
anyway, she is leaving the country for a year so we broke up but still talk as friends. we only kissed so i didn't even get blown off myself but she is going to do some religion studies outside the country, meaning no more sex life for at least that year (no kissing, no nothing). the thing is she went to Aruba as her last opportunity to party and i hate the feeling i get when i think about the certainty of she kissing at least a couple of guys a night (which really doesn't bother me that much)and the possibility of she sucking a guy off just because she is horny (that one does bother me).
i know this inst exactly a question but i need counsel from someone.
thanks in advance.
Alright well first off, the words slut and whore are terribly misogynistic term. Now what I will say from here on you might not like but, here goes.
First off her "romantic/sexual" experiences are hers and hers alone. Such as yours. Kissing is not sex. Kissing many people whether it be flirty, romantic, platonic and or sexual all it really is, is just kissing. If she has kissed over 40 people then that is her business and she has her reasons for doing so, as "wrong" or "gross" as they may seem. The same goes for her giving head to those 4 men.
The past is the past, there is nothing you can do about it. She had those experiences and that is that. Such as you have had yours. This is not to say that you shouldn't feel jealous or grossed out, everyone is different. And to some giving head to 4 men and kissing 40 people might be no big deal and to others it might be disgusting and wrong.
I think the real key point to your conflicting emotions and thoughts is the fact that you thought she was this innocent, naive, prude, inexperienced virgin. And when you uncovered how strong her sexdrive is and she revealed her experiences it might have distorted your perceptions of her. I wouldn't be surprised if your ego was slightly hurt as well, many guys (not all,) but quite a few; especially young ones have this "thing" about virgins. They tend to fetishize virgins because they want to be the first to taste that which has been untouched. The same goes for women! People in general at one point or another I think experience this lust.
Anyways, If she has left the country or is going to leave, for religious studies a year..I would honestly suggest not waiting for her. The fact you are complaining about not getting head from her before she left, is a bit silly. She must have not been in the "mood."
You say you like her but you see her and speak of her with terrible slurs. If you are as disgusted with her as you claim to be and it bothers you a lot to think of her with other guys, just move on.
Plenty of fish in the sea as they say. Even if she isn't kissing or giving head to other guys, the fact is you will be racking your brain, driving yourself insane thinking about her doing so. So just let go I think is the best; if you don't love her. Which I am assuming you don't because you never mentioned you did.
Think about it this way, you are broken up. You are not together, she might kiss/give head or even sleep with someone and you won't even know it. She will be miles away. Most importantly once again. YOU ARE JUST FRIENDS. This means she is free to kiss or do other things with whoever she wants and not have any consequences. The same way you can kiss/sleep with whoever, whenever and she can't say a word about it because you two are not together.
That is all I can say on the matter hope that helped
I am so confused. I dont know what to do anymore. I am depressed all the time. To the point where all I want to do is cry and at times it takes all I have not to. I feel so alone. I have been married for 8 years but we never talk and lately he and I have been sleeping in separate rooms. We dont even argue we just dont talk. I know I am not happy anymore and I havent been for a long time. But we have children together and this is the only serious relationship I have ever had. To top it all he is controlling so I have never had a job and I dont know if I can support myself or my kids without him. I dont want to be miserable forever but I am terrified of life without him. I dont know how to survive without him. And I have absolutly no friends not a single one because my high school friends and I have drifted apart and I am not allowed out to have any. And I have no family I grew up in foster homes. So without him I am completely alone. I have no one to turn to. No one to stay with til I get on my feet. Am I being selfish by wanting a life of my own. What do I do? Where do I go from here?
Hi, well alright this is a lot you have going on. So to answer your questions:
1. Am I being selfish by wanting a life of my own. What do I do? From your perspective no you aren't. You have your reasons for feeling the way that you do and thinking the things that you are, but as for your kids; it might be a bit selfish for you to "want a life of your own" if that includes taking your kids along without talking it over first.
2. Where do I go from here?
Well that all depends, on a lot of things. First and foremost you need to clear your thoughts as best you can from all the negativity you are feeling and the anxieties you might be going through. 8 years is a very long, not to mention how many other years in the relationship you've spent together before marriage; your circumstances at the moment are quite rough.
You don't mention why exactly you feel this way, aside from him being controlling; it could be a number if reasons. Now as you stated you have been unhappy/depressed for quite awhile and you and your spouse don't communicate/talk and that alone is a massive issue in any and all relationships.
If you have tried to talk things out, have tried expressing how you are feeling and he isn't taking interest in trying to recover your marriage and salvage your relationship then he must have his reasons for that; despite them being selfish, irrational or flawed.
There isn't much you can do to make things "better" if you don't have your spouse agreeing and cooperating.
You mentioned you have no friends and given the fact you grew up in foster homes you have no permanent family to lean on for support, the only thing I can really suggest is talking to someone over the phone or via e-mail and setting an appointment with a psychologist or any other type of guidance counselor to help with your depression. If you've suggested marriage counseling before and he denied it then talk things over with a private psychologist and tell them your current problems, financial, marriag wise and emotional/mental state.
It's important that you seek help, for venting and they also help guide you in the right direction for resolving your issues. There are a few low budget and even some free counselors you just need to search online for one in your area.
I'm sorry you are going through this, I wish you luck and hope things get better for you dear.
My brother keeps yelling at me. What do I do?
..Is this a serious question?
1. Figure out why he is yelling at you
2. Do something about it or have the \'rents handle it
3. Buy a boat and profit
i need to lose weight in a month i need excersises that i can home and how many am i suppose to do i need to lose 20 pounds!!!!
Just like Adviceman49 said, there is no miracle quick fix. But depending on your BMI, age, diet and activity; you can loose 10 to 15 lbs in a month. Maybe the 20! But it requires serious work.
3,000 claries equals one pound of fat. Eating that many calories makes you gain a pound, burning that many calories makes you lose a pound. So the key to losing weight is burning more calories than you consume.
But it's not just about burning calories! So much as what exactly you are putting into your body, 2,000 calories a day of pure veggies, grains, fruit and lean meats such as fish and seafood or chicken; makes the difference. Of course nothing greasy! Everything steamed or baked is best! Boiled isn't too good because it makes veggies lose all the nutrition.
With this said, one of the best ways to lose weight is juicing! It's also the best way to detox your body and get healthy over all! I've been juicing for the past 2 years on and off especially now that summer approaches and let me tell you it does wonders! Makes you feel so alive and full of energy. Revitalizes your skin and keeps everything running smoothly; intestinal/gastric wise! (:
A healthy diet change filled with nutritional value and combined with a good 4 or 5 day a week exercise routine, you will see great results and feel great as well!
You need to start slow though, you can't just dive in and do 3 hours of intense cardio, weight lifting etc etc work outs; especially if you were never really active before. Or your body will hate you! And you can do serious muscle tearing, or spraining. I do suggest visiting your regular physician and having him make sure you are ok to start working out.
In any case, I'll tell you what has worked for me; with this said this a good time for disclaimers!
NOTE: I'm not a doctor or professional trainer! So always check in with a licensed physician and trainer or nutritionist to be safe!
*High-intensity interval training: Which is basically just switching from 5-10 minutes of high intensity activity such as running/cycling/etc to 5-10 minutes of something low intensity like jogging/walking/pilates etc and you go back and forth; combining light weights or medium weights. (For leaning out.)
*Juicing: Raw juicing and if you can afford organic, it's best! You'll feel good, look great and very healthy! Plus there are so many good juice recipes out there, for different meals of times of day!
*Meditation & tension training: From your weekly routine you should take 2 days to unwind and relax and just center your mind with your body! Trust me it does wonders!
You can go ahead and research online any of those terms and find out more
Losing weight shouldn't be just about looking good, but being healthy! Life style changes are best, not just dieting for a month or two and then going back to your old bad habits; because then you'll gain everything back!
Hope this helped! (:
I am a female aged 21 and have recently started going out with a guy who regularly calls me a slut, whore, worthless and tells me how he doesn't trust me around any males but yet he tells me he has never loved anyone the way he loves me and he wants to marry me.
Long story short I went out with a guy for 2 years and he broke it off with me as he had been seeing another girl. A month later I had sex with one of my older friends (he knew my ex). A month after that I got back with my boyfriend.
We lasted for a year until I ended it with him for reasons of no trust etc due to what he had done before. About a month later I had sex with the same friend again.
I told my current boyfriend about my past history and he finds it very hard to deal with. He constantly tells me how he can't trust me around anyone. He asks me to send him photos of where I am every half an hour so he knows I'm not lying about my whereabouts.
He sends me messages such as (sorry for the vulgarity in some of these messages):
I bet you looked at his nice hard c*ck and loved it
You f*cked a guy who knew your ex
You wanted him to f*ck you
I find it funny that you aspire to be a mother one day
You really are a dirty sl*t
You used to deserve to get treated better but now you don't
You ruined yourself by f*cking him
Stop saying you're not a sl*t and face up to what you are
You f*cked up and you have to face the consequences
You are a disgraceful human
You are a f*cking whore
You just wanted his c*ck inside you
Do I deserve to get messages like this? I have only had sex or done any sexual activities with my ex, my friend and now my current boyfriend so I always thought I was a very good person.
He also has issues with the amount of guys that I have kissed which is 12. He hates that I have kissed three guys that I met on nights out (separate nights). One I dated for a while but the other two I never spoke to again.
I don't know whether I just hung around with people with no morals but I thought up until now that I was well behaved.
Do I deserve to get treated like this?
Hi, I agree with the adviser before me! These are all signs of verbal, emotional and psychological abuse! And they will and are affecting you; just seeing as how you are now thinking you might be a "bad person" or a "slut," is enough proof of the damage inflicted from his affect on you.
I would follow Annie's advice and break it off with him, putting your sexual/romantic history aside; you don't deserve to be humiliated or shamed. No one does. This is what he is doing, if you love someone you would not put them down the way he puts you down, you would never call someone you loved a terrible slur the way he is doing to you.
You deserve better than that, clearly he has his own issues to work out with his insecurities, but don't be his punching bag for his passive-aggressive behaviour.
I hope this helped, stay strong and realize just how valuable you are as a person! Wish you the best, cheers (:
Okay so im 14/f and since i was 11 ive identified as a lesbian (that was when i figured it out) but now im starting to question myself. I know im definitely not straight, 0% chance, and i highly doubt bisexual, i dont know it just doesnt quite feel right, neither does pansexual but it does sound closer to what im looking for. Im romantically and sexually attracted to girls, but sometimes i meet a boy, (and when i say sometimes i mean this has happened twice in the past 3 years) and im just like, "You. You are sweet and really cute and i want to be really close with you and hug you but i cant necessarily see myself with you or anything" but its just confusing me bc it *feels* pretty freaking similar to a crush but im just not attracted to boys?? I dont think I am?? I feel like I might be maybe homosexual and panromantic? does that sound right or am i just confused with all the labels? Thank you in advance to anyone who helps
Hi! Hello! Sooo, coming from a pansexual/panromantic person, I would say that if you best identify with being a lesbian and are most comfortable as being out as that, or just adopting that label for yourself for whatever reason than by all means do so!
I have a higher leaning towards men with sexual attraction, but a higher leaning with women for a emotional attraction, and a higher leaning for queer/non-binary people with psychological attraction! Kinda confusing huh?
Simply put, I'm more attracted to masculine features, feminine mannerisms and queer personality.
I guess I like a mixture of everything!
So what I am trying to say is, don't worry about labels unless you are wanting to really make it known to everyone. Now if people ask reply with what you are most comfortable with, besides it's really non of their business and you have no reason to explain yourself.
The three guys that you met and felt some sort of attraction with them I will assume it's more of a personality attraction than sexual attraction, a mental/emotional connection so to speak. And if you found them attraction physically/aesthetically well then that's not a problem either!
Just be happy and comfortable with yourself and with whatever label you want to use. You don't need to use any label if you don't want to.
People are people, and honestly we have both testosterone and estrogen in us, so we have masculine and feminine things about us! Some people have a bit less of one or the other, as well as some having more than others!
So don't rack your brain about it and just be who you are. Besides you're only 14 and have much more time to figure yourself out and grow and just have fun and see how you feel and react with all the different sorts of people life has to offer!
Just stick with those who respect you and give respect as well and everything will be alright. I hope this helped (:
So, I am about to have a baby and someone mentioned that there are a bunch of places that will send you baby stuff in your mailbox if you just ask for it? How do you do this? Is there a list of companies that do this, or do you just have to write everyone and hope they send you something? LOL!
Well, there are definitely places online you can get free samples from; mostly from people who want you to try out their products. I haven\'t tried any of these because I don\'t have a baby! Lol.
But I took the liberty of searching some quick places and references that you can try out; be weary and double check and get in contact with the people directly from the website if you can. Ask as many questions as you can think up!
http://freebies.about.com/od/babyfreebies/tp/free-baby-samples.htm
http://similac.com/formula-coupons-free-samples
http://www.scamfreesamples.com/baby-samples
NOTE: I checked these sites with scamadvisor.com so they seem to be legit! Be weary of fake sites if you go on the hunt for more freebie products. You don\'t need spam or to get duped!
Anyways, hope this helped. And hope you have a happy healthy baby! Cheers (:
Okay so I have been with my boyfriend for almost three months and, in my mind, things have seemed to be going okay. I'm 16 he's 15 and this is the first relationship for both of us, we're also both quite shy people so the relationship is moving quite slowly. We see each other most days at school and we've met up a few times at weekends and we don't text an awful lot. People say that we can't really class ourselves as being in a relationship and that we're being pathetic. I can kind of see what they're saying seeing as we don't make any physical contact with each other - we've awkwardly hugged once but that's as far as we've got.
I wouldn't mind moving things on a bit faster and being in contact with him more but I'm not really sure how to go about it. I have social anxiety so I am constantly scared of saying something wrong or annoying him by texting him too much.
Also, my best friend told me the other day that she and this other boy basically forced my boyfriend into asking me out. I had no idea about this now I'm worried that maybe he didn't have any intention of asking me out and he only did it to stop people bothering him.
On the other hand, he has bought me really nice presents for Christmas, Valentines Day and my birthday and always responds very quickly and positively whenever I suggest we meet up. He spends time with me at school rather than his friends and always seems to be happy spending time with me.
Basically I'm confused - I want a relationship that people don't class as pathetic but I don't know if that's what he wants.
Alright let me begin to dissect your question and address it as best as I can.
First off from what I am seeing here in your text, you are being pushed into seeing and viewing your relationship as \"pathetic\" by other people, your \"friends.\"
You yourself stated that you are both relatively shy people and you have social anxiety and I\'m sure he has his own insecurities as well, just because things are moving a bit slow does not mean your relationship is pathetic. If others view it like that then that\'s their opinion.
Honestly you two are very young still, so why not take it slow? You didn\'t mention that you\'re \"in love,\" or that you feel that you \"love\" him yet. So I\'m going with this is your typical teenage modern relationship; where two people like each other for one reason or another and they decide to officially \"go out.\"
Most of what I am seeing here is \"my friends tell me my relationship should be like this (blahblah) but it\'s not so now I feel insecure and I don\'t know if I\'m doing it right.\"
Just look, the relationship is YOU and YOUR BOYFRIEND. It\'s not a polyamorous relatioship, no it\'s between only TWO people. So everyone else\'s OPINIONS ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP DON\'T MATTER. Your friends are not dating your boyfriend, his friends aren\'t dating you, your friends aren\'t dating you and his friend\'s aren\'t dating you. Therefore they don\'t know crapola about how you two get a long and how YOUR relationship WORKS BEST.
It\'s your first relationship right, so enjoy it. Don\'t rush into making out or making babies, besides this sounds more like you\'re still getting to known one another and comfortable with one another. Don\'t ruin it by rushing things, good things take time; a good healthy \"happy\" relationship is what the two of you make of it. For a relationship to work there has to be TRUST, with your anxiety and you feeling that you\'ll be a nuisance just by texting him that shows that you aren\'t secure and might have a bit of trust issues. Why? Because you don\'t want to annoy him, this means you might not known him too well to know that that\'s not the case, or that your anxiety is overshadowing you into thinking false things.
Your relationship to me seems like it\'s barely a rosebud. That with a bit of time and nurturing will bloom into something beautiful. But you can\'t rush nature, it happens on it\'s own at it\'s precise time. Right? If you over water it it will rot.
As for your best friend telling you that her and some other guy convinced your now boyfriend to date you, and you now feel as if he doesn\'t really like you; well if he didn\'t like you he wouldn\'t want to hangout, wouldn\'t buy you nice presents and many other things that I\'m sure he does and you might not notice how significant you are to him.
If two people are shy things will be a bit slow till those barriers come down, so relax!
\" Basically I\'m confused - I want a relationship that people don\'t class as pathetic but I don\'t know if that\'s what he wants.\"
Once again, why be in a relationship just for show?
A relationship isn\'t a fancy name brand purse to be flaunt around, it\'s not for \"social status.\" At least it shouldn\'t be.
You seem to want this because you are being told that it\'s what you should want and expect from a relationship.
So really think about this, do you want to be in this relationship because you don\'t want to be single and you want to be cool? Or because your boyfriend is a nice guy, you really like him, you are attracted to him on many levels and you guys just click? Which one is more appealing, which one do you think is best..
You two are people, not show dogs. You\'re not supposed to do things for show and make other people go OOOUH AAAAHH.
As for what he wants, you won\'t know unless you try to communicate and ask what he wants, what he feels and what he needs.
Keep spending time with him and when people start pointing out that your relationship isn\'t \"classified\" as a real relationship, tell them to shut up.
1. Just because you\'re not humping one another in public or maybe participating in PDA, does not mean your relationship isn\'t a real one
2. It\'s your first relationship for both, they shouldn\'t be so interested in your relationship anyways; tell them to worry about their own (and if they aren\'t in one, then that\'s a key right there to ignore them because lol)
And lastly,
3. The best relationships are the ones that feel like you\'re not even in one, by this I mean you\'re dating someone who feels like your other half, or someone who just gets you; someone whom when you\'re with them kinda just makes you forget that everyone else is around, and even if they don\'t like this person that you\'re with that doesn\'t matter because you do; you like them so much that you love them!
Yepyepyep, so there you sorry for my lengthy reply but I hope it helps, feel free to talk to me whenever you need advice (:
She dresses like a freak, does stupid things, sticks her tongue out like an idiot, appears naked in her music videos, and literally only sings one song these days. WTF? She used to be my role model, but now I hate that stupid bitch. I know Ariana Grande defended her, but she defends everybody. What my friends say about Mileys “wrecking ball" is,“good song, bad singer" what is wrong with her?
Well, for starters I will say that everything I am about to say when I proceed to answer your question is purely from my point of view and my beliefs and feelings. With that said, one I try my best to not judge others nor have any pointless hatred taint my heart and mind. Metaphorically speaking, heart as in my feelings towards myself and others.
I neither care to judge or analyze her behavior nor do I care for your pointless insulting and hatred towards her, we will never understand why people do the things people do. Sometimes we don't understand ourselves.
For example, why do you care so much? It's not affecting you in anyway physically, maybe it "annoys you or it offends you" but only because you're letting it bother you. There is no real reason for you to hate her so much except for wanting to hate her, why do you have to insult her when you don't know her personally.
Maybe she was your role model at one point but now that her behavior and "image" has changed you ridicule her. I understand if you feel let down, or disappointed with how she is now. However people sometimes change, for the "better, or worse," but not everything that one feels and thinks is correct. It's all subjective.
Just like my answer to your question here.
So what I am getting at is, instead of worrying about others. Worry about yourself.
A lot of things could be wrong with her, or nothing at all could be wrong with her.
The more important issue here is, what is wrong with mankind?
Patronizing and dictating other's lives with our own bigoted dogma and so called morals.
What is ethical; what is respect, we seem to forget.
I have a FAFSA loan thing that I have to do for school. Do you know how long I have until the deadline for it to be turned in?
https://fafsa.ed.gov/fotw1415/pdf/Deadlines.pdf
Do they last longer than other laptop brands?
Well when buying a Mac you're able to get a 2 year or 3 year warranty, I myself don't have a Mac; however my sister does. She's had hers for about 5 years now.
So it honestly depends how well you're taking care of it, how much you use it and so on. With upgrades any Mac can be up to date and should function well, as for other laptop comparisons; well with a Mac you won't have to worry about viruses, spyware, malware, worms, trojan horses, etc. All which slow down a pc.
I've also heard there are less error messages. I hope this helps. I'd suggest you focus on what you'll be using your laptop for the most. And doing some research of what best suits your needs.