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Boy very afraid of girl help!
Hi im a boy in the 7th grade and I recently went to a playground over the weekend thats just outside the county where i live and witnessed a girl who goes to my school beating up a boy really bad for whatever reason I don't know. He wasn't anyone I knew he probably went to the school in that area. Anyway she finally let him go and he was limping and crying as he went by me and the girl and her friend were laughing at him and saw me standing there in shock and her friend said something"Tina kick his ass too" so she came at me I pushed her away but she was able to punch me in the face and take me down and started To get me in a headlock and punch me some more. Well I was able to get away and on my bike. Now after that I was so scared out of my mind of her and I knew I would see her in school. so today she's been hassling me intimidating me, by coming up behind me at lunch and said "I love making boys cry" and "I won't let u get away next time"
I don't know what to do! I never been afraid of a girl before and im scared and nervous as hell! Im to nervous to tell anybody esp my dad! Not sure how he would react and I don't want to admit to anybody that I'm scared of her, but im definitely scared of her after what I seen her do to the other kid and what she did to me! and another girl who's on her gymnastics team told me she knows im afraid of her now and said she overheard her saying she plans on beating me up after school to get out of practice! Any advice please!
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I advice you tell someone, preferably someone from school staff, for example a counselor or teacher. You can't be someone's punching bag just for fun, apart from physical damage there will be more emotional and psychological damage. You have to speak up what is going, her hurting someone is not okay by any means. The fact she is a girl shouldn't be any reason for her to be allowed to hit you a boy, gender/sex has nothing to do with it.
Violence is violence and physical assault and bullying is still wrong!
She needs to keep her hands to herself and needs to understand that such actions have consequences.
I understand you might feel embarrassed and scared to speak up, more so because of these ridiculous gende roles and stigmas for boys having to "toughen up" and to not "cry."
No. As I said before, she is hurting others around her for whatever reason, that is unknown; for you personally if she is threatening you, you have to speak up.
Go to an adult in your school, your mother perhaps? A school nurse, or counselor; just don't stay quite or else she will continue to hurt others around her and perhaps even you.
Which is wrong.
I hope you speak up and I am here if you need to talk, luck be with you kiddo!
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You really do need to tell an adult. Do not be worried because you didn't do anything wrong in the situation.
Does she go to the same school as you? Does your school have guidance counselors? You should go to your guidance counselor and inform him or her of your anxieties, they are trained in this area. They might also be able to tell you certain information, such as who the girl is, and be able to help resolve the conflict.
You should also tell one of your parents about the issue. Most parents love their children no matter what, and would be concerned about the issue.
I don't know your father, but is your mother in the picture? What if you told her first, and then she talked to your father? She might be able to talk to your father about this better than you would be able to.
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If you saw what happened to this kid do him a favor and tell a teacher or principal in confidence. They can deal with it. It's the right thing to do here as it protects someone who may be equally as scared as you are.
This bully thrives off of this and the idea her victim won't talk. Also, at this age she can be charged with assault for kicking, punching or beating someone up. You could go to the principal and have him get her charged for attacking you and the other kid could do that too and should. That would end the problem and she would learn that you can't do this without penalty.
As far as your father or anyone else is concerned I doubt the fact she is a girl would matter. They would know that you can't fight a girl etc. They also need to know what she did to the other kid and that she's intimidating you for having seen it happen. They can deal with adults involved and have her swiftly handled.
There's no embarrassment in being assaulted by anyone regardless of their sex. They should be the one's embarrassed and afraid not you of someone finally taking them to task for their actions.
Also, this is a form of harassment and intimidation that is constant. That and assault are two things police can charge her with. Tell your folks and the school and if she approaches you tell her your parents will have her charged. That should get her to leave you alone.
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She only picks On people she knows that she can. Most bullies do that. I'm sorry that she is picking ob I would talk to your dad.ydon't have to say it's a girl or you could change it to seem like someone else . Also if you act like she doesn't scare you, she may leave you alone.I know that you are it may help. I hope you that everything gets better
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Dear Boy,
I'd be scared too! However, this is a situation that requires action on your part. This girl needs help and other boys need to be protected from her. It's your clear duty to report her to the school authorities ASAP. I would also tell your dad. I'm sure he'll support you.
Should you encounter her again before any action is taken, just ignore her taunts but if she touches you, speak in a loud and determined voice and say "Stop it Now, don't put your hands on me" If she continues the attack, you must not run and you may defend yourself by whatever means are necessary. It might be a good idea to travel with one or two of your friends until the situation is resolved so that if worst comes to worst, you'll have witnesses of her aggression.
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look mate, you and I both can realize this is a form of bullying. That girl needs to face some consequences no matter what. You've got to tell someone before it gets worse! Being abused/bullied like this is not good to bottle up!
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