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Q: okay..so all summer i've been tanning outside..i usually take my strings off my top peice..cause i dont really want tan lines there..

but i've kinda been thinking about going tanning in a booth..but i really dont wanna pay for that..and since i'm not driving yet..i dont have anyway to get there except my mom..and idk if she would take me. but it's free just tanning outside...

so which would be better?
I think in your situation, tanning outside woule be better.
It might take a couple days longer to get the colour you're looking for, but in the long run, it's healthier.
Plus, if you don't have a car and don't feel like spending money, what's wrong with your backyard? [:

Q: Is there any kind of food that I could eat to help lighten my period?
Anything high in potassium helps with cramps and bloating, but I'm not sure if it will help to lighten.
Try bananas, I've heard that really helps, though [:

Q: im about 5'10, 125-130 lbs. 15/female.

i have a big problem findin jeans that are long enough for me but still around a size 3. im lookin for a pair of skinny jeans that are stretchy (my butts gettin bigger ;]) and thatll compliment my curves.

i have for the most part an hourglass figure, but i have more weight on top with boobs and the sides a lil, so i dont want the jeans to be lowrise, but high enough to go over the awkward spot (like a bit between where my bathin suit bottoms sit and the top of my hip)

hollister jeans dont work on me either, and i dont have a large budget

thanks
I'm exactly the same way.
I'm 5'9 and weigh about 124
And PacSun's jeans work really well.
Get 3 longs, that should work.
And their jeans are like, 2 for 50?
So 25 each [although you have to buy 2 for the deal].
[:
They're the only jeans I wear.

Q: How do you get the ladder effect when ripping jeans?
I want to rip my jeans, and I want that ladder effect specifically, like seen in the following pic:

http://www.flickr.com/photos/max_misekow/3327442624/
I do this all the time.
Get a nail file and go agains the jeans in a side-to-side motion and, although it does take about ten minutes, you'll get the effect you want [:
Also, if you make a small hole with scissors, then use the nail file technique, that gives you the same effect with an actual small hole [:

Q: I'm fourteen
I'll be fifteen August Fifteenth
My parents are apparently running low on money and I'm getting tired of my dad yelling at me everytime I ask for ten bucks
I also need money so I can go out shopping and stuff
But because of my age. Not many places will hire
I'm thinking I'll be the only sophmore without a job come September
So, are their any places that will hire at fourteen?
Or even fifteen?
I live in northern New Jersey, if that helps

Thanks. (:
Chick-fil-A hires at 14
Also, a couple restaurants hire at 15 for hosts/hostess.
Kroger does as well.
And I hope you don't mind, most of these places only pay minimun wage. /:
And of course, babysitting and whatnot. :P

Q: Hey im 18/f Im torn between two really great guys. This may be kinda long but i rate high! So my current boyfriend matt hes 21 and i really like him we've been dating for about 6 months and the relationship was going sooo great in the beginning and now its slowing down and not so exciting which i understand relationships are like that! We also started noticing we're starting to fight with each other. The other guy is 18 and hes one of the guys i went to school with. We've always had a thing but never really acted on it. Hes so nice and hes in the military which kinda stinks because he told me he was going to get deployed in 2010 he was told. The only bad thing about that situation is that hes going to be gone for a while =( they're both such nice guys but im kinda torn between the 2 of them. Also my family and i are taking my current bf to chicago with us. I just really dont know what to do! My feelings for my current boyfriend are wearing off and im having new feelings for the other guy. Im so confused and im not sure what to do! Please help! Remember i rate high! thanks a bunch!
I think that if you aren't sure if you still like your boyfriend, then you shouldn't lead him on. And taking your relationship to the next level by traveling together is a major nono if you don't know if you want to be with him.
I think that you should take time to see what you really want:
A guy that's there and sweet, but maybe not all to exciting?
Or a guy that's going to be gone in about five months, but those five months could be worthwhile?
Orrrrr maybe someone new?
It's all about what you want. And what's right for you at this point.
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Q: My boyfriend of 3 years, "Dave" and I have recently moved into an apartment with his friend, "Bob" and Bob's girlfriend, "April".

Bob has to go to basic training for 4 months so it is only Dave and I plus April.

I have to house sit for my grandparents for a week while they are on vacation and am over an hour away from the apartment so I'm nervous leaving Dave and April alone.

I trust him, but I came over to visit yesterday and walked in the room and he was on the computer in our room (he had no shirt on and pj bottoms) while she was on the bed watching him.

I don't know her that well and it freaked me out that a stranger is in our room with my personal stuff and on my bed with my boyfriend, alone.

What I want to know is am I over reacting and should I ask him not to have her in there alone or is that too controlling?

What would you think about this?

Thanks.
I think that if you've been with your boyfriend for three years and have moved in together, that leaving him alone for a week should be no problem. I understand that the girl being on your bed is kinda weird... but nothing was happening, correct?
Also, he's most likely not going to be dressed in out-wear whenever he's at home.
I think that you should tell him that you're a little sketched out about it, but don't make a big deal about it.
I think everything will be just fine. :P

Q: i looked it up on google, and it seems like a shit idea, but people have told me to give it a chance before i do anything, because its not one that will send the police. could anyone list the questions they ask, cos i don't want to give away too much about myself, and if they think im in 'danger' will they track me down, cos i need to know, otherwise i won't bother calling them.
thanx
I promise that they don't track you, no matter what.
I've called there, and they really do help.
A lot.
They talk to you about whatever you need to talk about, help you with alternative ideas than to end everything, and they can even set you up with a counselor if you'd like, but you don't have to.
You don't even have to give your name if you don't want to.
It's completely private and up to you what you say or don't say. [:





Yes, you don't have to tell them where you are, your name, your age, anything you don't want to. Therefore, they can't call someone to get you. [:

Q: Where is your favorite place to put your hands, and body, while you're making out?
It all depends.
Sometimes, I playing with his hair, and other times around his shoulders. It's not about how you plan it out, just go with how you feel [:

Q: I'm almost 19 and about to lose my virginity to my boyfriend. The thing is, I'm someone who always thinks of the worst that can happen in every situation I am. In this case, my hugest fear is getting pregnant. I've been on birth control for a year and plan to use that AND a condom for protection. But for some reason, I'm still worried. It's not that I'm not ready. Unlike most people, I'm educated, cautious, and responsible. But how can I quit worrying about the things that don't need to be? (This goes along with other situations besides this one.) Thank you.
i think you shouldnt lose it yet if your nervous about being pergnant. also, PREGNANCY IS NOT THE WORST THING!!! you get get aids, genital h., hepititus, or any other disease. the thing is, if you get pregnant and your not ready, you could put the child up for adoption or have your parents take care of him/her til your ready. but aids is with you for good. and is deadly. people daily die from hiv and aids in africa. i say wait til marrage. but thats just me.
xoxo
micki

Q: I need a new screename.... i need one that states who i am and everything... but nothing to cheesy,...

heres some things about me
im 15 name is Ashley... im in 10th grd... im a cheerleader, i love to sing, model, and dance,... i have many many friends... i have big browneyes that in the right light look green... and i have sholder langth brown/blond hair...

help me out... what may be some good screenames????
cheer hottie 08
ashleyyy x3
ashley is cool

((lol this is my friends but its not ashley so its all G))

(nickname) ash love (x number, number, age,w.e)
(school name/mascot) (ex.) cheer4raiders

anything about you. ask some friends to describe you!

hih
micki

Q: 16-f

this might be kinda long but im soo sorry! i'll try to keep it as short as possible..

the guy im gonna be talking about was going out with this girl for about a year and a half and he was or still is whipped over her..

so this guy has always sort of had a thing for me or was at least very attracted to me! i mean i thought he was attractive too :) but he is my cousins friend! ive talked to him maybe once or twice before and hes so nice but i dont know if its a "im gonna be nice to get into your pants" kinda nice or if he is just like that! because i hungout with him one day and we went to a movie and hes like..wow you look really cute today! and hes like no wait..you look beautiful everyday i see you. i mean hes told me i looked beautiful before..and that he could never forget my face but i was like aw your so nice! and then he is like can i kiss you because i want to! and im like sure. so we kissed and madeout at the movie and we were like cuddling and all this but then later he was like want to do more? and im like NOO. and hes like im so sorry! alright thats fine im sorry do you forgive me? do you promise me. i knew he felt bad but after this i was starting to fall for him more and more each day but i was trying to tell myself not to because i didnt want him to go back out with this girl he still loved and have me get screwed over..but then later that day he was like you cant tell anyone what we did at the movies promise? and im like yeahh..but i accidently told my best friend already! and then later im pretty good friends with his bestfriend and i guess that this guy told him what we did even though he was like dont tell anyone and i wont tell anyone? and then last night my best friend was talking to his best friend and him and this kid i like went to the fair and shes like oh cute a date with you two and this kid is like yeah we're going to go cheat on our girlfriends. and i was thinking WHAT? him and his ex-girlfriend are back together...ahh. but then he is like they are dating secretly again. probably so this girl can go cheat on him like she has so many times before. i am soo heart-broken and me and my dumb self knew this was going to happen but i still liked him! i dont know what to do. i want to get over him because i know i dont have a chance now..but then its like i cant! ive never had a boyfriend before and this kid was the only one who was treating me nice and he payed for everything we did even though i offered. i wish i was going out with him instead of his ex. what do you think would be best for me? i dont want to find another guy..i want HIM. but he loves HER..
well. i dont think he really loves her. or he wouldnt have been all over you at the movies. you should do what the other girl/guy i duno said. wait 2 weeks then see how you fell. adios!

micki

Q: does anybody know any websites or stores that have like really cute pencil cases for school? i tried searching online but it came up with all ugly ones lol. thanks! :]
at target they have some that are polka dot and squares in purple, red, blue, and pink. i got myself one as well ;)

adios!
micki

Q: i have a lot of scrap denim...what can i make with it?
i had some and made a skirt and bag that matched and i made my friend a headband. she always wears headbands. get a reg. hb. and glue it on. or make a cheep lil brackelet lol. i do that and so many other friends of mine do too. hope i helped!


micki

Q: I'm a girl and I'm 13 if that helps.....


Well see my friend always has boyfriends and her boyfriends are usually gorgeus! I just turned 13 and I had one boyfriend and he just wasn't the person I wanted to date. Other than him I haven't had any other boyfriends. Me and my friends all went to a new school (including the guys from my old school) this year and so this year I'm acting different, more mature. But the guys just don't seem to notice. I try to wear cute clothes and I'm always nice to them and I don't put on a lot of make up because I really don't need to. But I just don't know what to do! My friend isn't super-model pretty or anything she's just "so-so". I'm not overweight or anything and I have a nice tan and well I just don't know why guys don't like me? PLEASE HELP!
guys your age are just immature sometimes. also, your only 13. YOU HAVE SOME TIME! dont take it seriously. it doesnt even count that they dated if it was for like 3 days or something. also, it might be because she is fast or wears a lot of makeup or is flirty. but if they dont notice, thye arent worth it. YOU HAVE TIME! remember. dont ruin your rep. for a guy.

love
micki

Q: Hey iam iam not pregant or anything,but iam so fat that one of the people that comes to the school to recruit people for the army when I went up their to help a friend sign up asked me if I was pregnant and then he laughed what can I do to lose weight so that dosn't happen again iam only 17 and iam about 5 foot and weigh 145 lbs what should my normal weight be and how can i lose it fast?
hey!! that must have been embarrasing. but anyway, what you should do is go to

www.am-i-fat.com

and it will tell you your average weight for your height and then it can give you food diets and stuff. all the links are on the left side. hope i helped!

Q: I'm thinking of going natural. No makeup or lots of hairspray.

-Would that make my skin texture better? [My pores look huge around my nose, not on my nose.]

-Would it make my acne go away? [My old acne]
For some reason I'm not getting new acne, it's just these red bumps on my face that have been there..for weeks. Anything I can do to get them to go away? [No proactive, please.]

I also want healthier hair. It's damaged I'm sure. It was bleached. I use "Pantene Pro-V Restoratives." Does it really work? Any products or any tips for anything will be helpful.

I won't rate low because you didn't answer all my little questions in here.

I just want healthier looking skin and hair. :]
Thankssss.
not sure bout the pores. maybe a face wash with micro beads. and yes. makeup clogs, makin them bigger so yeah. itll help. also, you should use a conditioner that is also restorative. it WILL help. my hair was breakin off after i died it and it helped perfect. also, use acne pads to make the old acne go away. sure hope i helped!

micki

Q: You see now days that everyone has those side bangs...you know, you cut your bangs and put them to the side...something like that.

I have curly/frizzy hair (black)....do you think it'll be a bad idea if I do it? I'm chinese too...and 14 (my age doesn't matter)

If it is (be possitive) how do you do it?

Thanks!!!
i dont think you should do it unless you straighten you hair. cus if not, it might look like you messed up. if you straighten your hair often, then you should. i think you should layer it and have the shortest layer be the bangs incase you do strtaighten it. hope i helped!








micki

Q: my dad just told me that we were probably going to switch to PeoplePC. we have AOL right now. but he said if we switch, then we would still get AOL free.. what did he mean? also, if we do get PeoplePC, and i download aim, will i still be able to use my AOL screen name on AIM and will all of my contacts still be on my buddy list??
yes, the friends will still be there on AIM and AOL, but i dont know anything PeoplePC. but you can still get on AOL. its just a site.


hih!
micki

Q: Ok. this is going to be a long story. but i need help and i just heard about this site. ok. so me and this kid...lets call him sean. started liking each other. he has always liked me alot more. but we would go to movies and the mall and like flirt and hold hands. i knew i shouldnt kiss him cause my radar was going up but i kissed him anyways one night. and then i heard from a friend that he liked this girl. i was really hurt. cause before we kissed and crap he was like i really really like you and crap. he went online once he knew i was hurt and was like OMG I DONT LIKE HER I LIKE YOU ALOT do you like me and i was like i dont know. and then i went to the movies and they were supposed to meet them they didnt show up for the whole movie so we were like wtf? and then we kept calling them and they didnt answer the phone i was pissed off. then i saw too girls from our school walk out of the movie theather. and i knew not sean but the kid he was with liked one of them. so then i was like wow they ditched us. so we went outside the movies and we saw another girl(taylor) from our school walk out and was like heyy. im going home..i already saw 3 movies...well not the whole thing you know how sean is. See she knew i liked him so she was like rubbing it in my face. yeahh so we were like wow. and then i got home and i was like heyy to the girl that said that i was like are you and sean going to go out. and shes like well he sure acted like it at the movies but we didnt kiss because he said he had vicky on his mind(another girl). so i was like wow. and then shes like but he called me after and said that he didnt think we should go out because of my ex. and he felt badd. so then i was just completly hurt cause i mean its like he tells girls anything so he can get what he wants. so i was heart broken then i was like w/e hes not good enough blah blah blah and then he came online and was like holy crap stupid taylor messed everything up between us. those are rumors i like you and she screwed everything up. i was just like okk. and then i was like well then why'd you ditch us in the first place and hes like i didnt know we were supposed to meet you(suposibly his friend never told him) but yeahh so we talked it out and im like im not mad at you. and then his friend and i talk on the phone every night so he called him and his friend was like so who do you like now. and hes like dude no one. and then his friends like dude you know casey(me) is on the phone right. and hes like yeahh but that doesnt matter she hates me. and i was like uhh no i dont. and hes like w/e. and so now school starts and i miss the days when we would all hang out and im realizing that i really like him and stuff. so i message him on myspace and was like hey do you still like me? and hes like hey yea y? and i never responded but i was talking to his friend before i got a response and i was like so does he still like me cause i know someone else i kinda like and if he doesnt like me then ill go out with this kid(that kid is made up cause i dont want to be hurt.) but his friends like OMG im gonna call him cause he liked you alot. and today i talked to him and he was like well sean likes you but he doesnt want a girlfriend right now so you should go out with the other kid. so im confussed do you think that hes just saying that cause he doesnt want to go our with me. or does he still like me and he just doesnt want a girlfriend right now or he likes someone else or something. ohh. and everyone knows him as a player so he was like upset and was like...well im gonna show everyone im not a player. is that maybe why he doesnt like me. sorry this is so long. thank you so much for reading it if you did.
i think you guys shouldnt be together because when someone "doesnt want a gf, bf" then they usually are embarrassed, ashamed, or dont like you. believe me, its happened. also, if he stood you up, then duh! hes not right for you. i also think you shouldnt have made that person up. but since you did, i would say that you were going out with someone from another state/school. make them up. it will be easier and sean will get gelous, BUT DONT DATE HIM ever. he seems like a player. you SHOULDNT HAVE KISSED HIM. i think that was a stupid move. but you do what you think.
micki

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