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torn between two
Hey im 18/f Im torn between two really great guys. This may be kinda long but i rate high! So my current boyfriend matt hes 21 and i really like him we've been dating for about 6 months and the relationship was going sooo great in the beginning and now its slowing down and not so exciting which i understand relationships are like that! We also started noticing we're starting to fight with each other. The other guy is 18 and hes one of the guys i went to school with. We've always had a thing but never really acted on it. Hes so nice and hes in the military which kinda stinks because he told me he was going to get deployed in 2010 he was told. The only bad thing about that situation is that hes going to be gone for a while =( they're both such nice guys but im kinda torn between the 2 of them. Also my family and i are taking my current bf to chicago with us. I just really dont know what to do! My feelings for my current boyfriend are wearing off and im having new feelings for the other guy. Im so confused and im not sure what to do! Please help! Remember i rate high! thanks a bunch!
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Well ... This sucks !
I think you should be honest to both guys ..
Tell your current boyfriend how you feel, but go nice on him and if he really does love/like you, then he'll understand and give you space.
But if not then he's reaction would be negative and that can be a sign for a break up and going with the other guy.
Well about the military thing, don't worry, distances makes you want him more and that's great, and take advantage of the time to think and have some space.
Good Luck =]
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Hey Girl, seems kinda jacked up and I can see how you are torn. I would first talk to the guy you're going with, and tell him that you feel like you 2 are drifting apart from each other and tell him why. Ask him if he feels the same way? listen to what he says without interrupting him. Tell him that you are open to seeing other people if he is - which means that you two will be only friends... he can see other people and so can you. At this time, check the other guy out, see what he's about and how you bond with him. Keep in mind that new flings or new relationships send wrong connection vibes only because it's something new and just like your vibe is wearing off with your current man, it could do the same with the new guy too.. Don't get all serious with him and don't be as serious with your current man either. Take time for you to really sort out your feelings and wants for your life. Yeah, he is going off to the military, but you will be going off to college soon yourself as any other guy you date (most likely),so it's all good. You can still be cool and date (without upping the goods), until you determine what you want from actual actions and not mental thoughts.. you feel me? Good luck Sistah and always be true to yourself.
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I think that if you aren't sure if you still like your boyfriend, then you shouldn't lead him on. And taking your relationship to the next level by traveling together is a major nono if you don't know if you want to be with him.
I think that you should take time to see what you really want:
A guy that's there and sweet, but maybe not all to exciting?
Or a guy that's going to be gone in about five months, but those five months could be worthwhile?
Orrrrr maybe someone new?
It's all about what you want. And what's right for you at this point.
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