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Q: There is a girl I've known for a good long while, and recently I made the effort to get back in touch with her and be friends again. I assumed it was going pretty well, we talk online and go out shopping and stuff sometimes. I do like her, but recently I've got the feeling she is just using me to take her places (into town, to see bands) b/c she's not allowed on her own. If I suggest just hanging out or something, she'll always just brush away the suggestion. If we do see each other we get on well though. I'm pretty much her only friend as well, and it sounds really mean, but I thought she'd be kind of pleased to have some friends.
So what should I do?

Hey! i think maybe you should ask her about it. Since you are her only friend she may think that its the way to treat a friend. Just tell her how you are feeling and confront her about it. If she never ever wants to hang out with you then maybe she is abusing or maybe she likes you and is afraid to "just hang out".
I hope this helps
-Steff-

Q: well im 14, and when i was around 11, i found out that i had scoliosis. which is sorta like a disease,its where your spine grows on a curve. and well i was in 6th grade at the time. and i like, wore it all the time. but when i got to 7th grade, i was like w.e and didnt wear it as much. now in 8th grade, i sorta never really wear it. i just pretend i do. and when i get home from school then i put it on. the doctor says taht if i dont wear it then ill need to get surgery, but seruiosly, i never really wear it anyway, and the doctors are saying that my bad is fine and geting better. but they think that im wearing my brace all the time. so i was wondering what i should do..should i like just wear it. or like what im doing is fine. i just need to knwo what should happen. a comment would be fine.
thanks

Hey I have scoliosis too! Ive had 3 surgeries and I wore a brace for 3 years! I didnt wear as much at first untill i found out I mite have surgery. My mom also has it and shes had 3 surgeries too but she wore a brace for 7 years! We were unlucky and the brace would not help us, even if we wore it all day and forever! Our case was unfixable! You are very lucky to be able to wear it and get better. Surgery is very painful! The worst thing ive ever done! Not only is it painful as in hurting but also you lose many friends and you have to miss school then catch up. If you play sports then you wont be as good anymore and it will always hurt. After my 1st surgery I was never 100 percent, I ended up getting an infection on my rod and I was so sick. I was always tired and I lost alot of weight. Because of this I had to have 2 more painful surgeries, just last month. I really hope this makes you see how fortunate you are. If you wear this brace, you wont have to worry about scoliosis for the rest of your life like me and my mom have to. Im so sorry that you got stuck with this. I know how bad it is. But if you dont wear it then you could end up like me and my mom. My back went from 8 degrees to the 50's degrees. Thats because braces would not work for me, you have the chance.
Good luck and im so sorry again that you have this too. If you ever need any help, please feel free to ask me.
-Steff-

Q: Hey, I'm a freshman who wants to sign up for track for my highschool. Although, I'm not in shape and only played soccer for a couple years of my life. What should I do to get in shape? I only want to do running, not field or sprints or anything like that. But I heard you have to pick 4 areas.. what 4 areas would be good for me? thanks, ill rate

Hey! Well even though you are doing track, its always good to run long distance because it helps you build resistance. This will make you faster at shorter distances. For a work-out I would try to run 2miles everyday or as much as you can. About the 4 areas... I know some...you can do events such as 100meters or 200meters. I think track goes up to 500meters but im not sure. You can also do hurdles cause its running still.
I really hope this helps
Good luck in track
-Steff-

Q: I am fat and I do not know how to lose weight!
Whenever I put myself on a diet or try to watch what i eat, i always just end up eating like a pig! i cannot help myself!
what do i do?

Hey. This sounds like a very hard situation. Do you like health foods? What I do to keep thin is I just eat vegetables or anything healthy. I can eat as much as I want and however many time I want, but I have to watch what I eat. When I get a craving for chips or something sweet, I go to my fridge and pick out something with less fat like a chicken caesar salad (actually very good). When you want something like soda, drink ovaltine instead(its a vitamin that tastes EXACTLY like chocolate milk). Whenever you feel like a burger, at a homemade sandwhich. This is a very good way to lose weight and you dont need to excersise although that helpes as well. Im not saying this wont be hard but after a while, you will get used to eating this way. I promise. Really hope this helps.
Good Luck
Steff

Q: Ohk i have a serious question.
And sorry its going to be kinda of long but i would really appreciate if you guys took the time to read this.

i Just watched True life the one about obessive Compulsive disorder. Well alot of the Things those People were doing kinda reminded myself of me. Like not what they would do like count and retouch things because it didnt feel right but heres some things i do.

Thourgh Out the day i make sure all the doors are locked all of them- i dont know why it just bothers me

-Before i go to bed i make sure the doors are locked and the closet on the first floor. When i go in my bedroom i check my closet and make sure my window is locked. Like two days ago i had to make sure my door was locked because i heard something out in the kitchen.

Im afraid of someone coming into my house and taking me. I watch alot of law and order and Csi.
But i dont think that would have any thing to do with it.

-im terrified of needles. When i go to get blood drawn or shots. I start to cry.
-When i see needles on the tv i have to cover my eyes or look the other way. My mom is diabetic and she has to use insulin with the needles i looking at her while she does it.

When i was little i had this dream of me and my friend getting kidnapped by a doctor and he shoved needles in us and i died.

-i Cant throw-up if i do by getting sick or something i won't eat nothing for like the next three days.
-At school with my lockers ill lock them and then check 5-6 times to make sure theres no way anyone can open the locker - I have had my purse stolen from me and my locker broke into before like 3 years ago.
-At work I have to sign off the register everytime i walk away form it. I constantly walk to make sure im off.

I dont really know if this could be ocd. or its just being a strange person. Im 17/f

Hey! I dont think you have Ocd but I cant say for sure cause ive never met you. I had the same thoughts when I watched that show. I have alot of similar things as you. I have this obsessives thing with locking doors. . . especially at night. Its also because of a dream that I had of someone coming in my house. Although im not scared of needles I think its okay to be scared of this. Alot of people are. As for the signing off thing. . lol I do that alot too and I think its ok. Its just too make sure that I dont screw up. Now if you count alot then that would be a sign of Ocd and you should get it checked.
I really hope this helps
Good Luck
-Steff-

Q: i have stretch marks EVERYWHERE! any things to get rid of them. tell me if the things you are suggesting actually work and tell me where to get them! thanks you muchos gracias

Hey what really works is Vaseline (the brand) with aloe vera and cucumber extracts.
Hope it helps
-Steff-
Oh you can get it in pretty much any pharmacies

Q: Help! My thighs are huge! I think the rest of my body is great except for my fat thighs. what can i do to make them smaller?

Ok a good way to loose weight on your thighs is too do some leg excersises. Some that work are luges , squats, and wall sits. Even if you do these excersises it is important to stay low on fats. In other words dont eat too much junk food.
I really hope this helps
-Steff-

Q: does anyone know were I can get a free web page? like i can totaly design it and every thing. but dont say maxpages, i tried it, and its not very good, ill rate! =D

Hey! I have a freewebs.com! Its really cool. You can write and make photo pages. I recomend it lol especially since its free.
Hope it helps
-Steff-

Q: what shoudl i get my boi for valentines day?
he likes hockey and music
doent like chocolate
i rate high

I think you should do something really sweet. Like maybe burn him a cd with songs he will really like. Maybe you can even buy him a hockey game ticket. I think he would like .
Hope I gave you some ideas
Good Luck
-Steff-

Q: Does cocoa butter really help fade stretch marks?

Hey it doesnt help me I use vaseline aloe vera and cucumber extract. t works really well
Hope this helps
-Steff-

Q: is their anyway to reduce strech marks or get rid of them?

Yea a really good way to get rid of them is using Vaseline (the brand "vaseline" is the best) with aloe vera and cucumber extracts. I use it and it works.
Hope it helps
-Steff-

Q: To get ringtones on your phone you have to like text message a certain number or w/e. Does anyone know a good place that has ringtones?

Hey Jemster has alot of ringtones. If you go on a search engine like yahoo or google... they will aslo give you good websites. Most of these places... you will have to pay. Mtv.com and Vh1 also have ringtones.
Hope I helped
-Steff-

Q: i jus turned 18 ive been gettin my period for like 5 years now. my cyle use to be about 7 days an not that heavy only on the first and second day. then around 17 its only been lasting 4 or 5 days and not that heavy still. i was wondering if this was normal? also, my friends are always like yeah im suppose to get my tomarrow or monday or w/e bc they said theres always comes the 28th day or the 30th day. mine comes at all diff times i dont have a set cycle is that normal?

Hey! Yea its very normal. Mine isnt either. And how you said that yours canged from 7 days to 4 or 5, thats normal too. When you get older the days can change. I hope I helped.
-Steff-

Q: i'm 15 years old & i haven't gotten my period for about two months. i've been having it since september 2004 & it's been sort of normal for about 8 months. i'm a virgin & i know this is going to sound extrememly juvenile but is there some way that i could be pregnant without having sex? as i said, i don't mean to sound juvenile but i've heard people say things like, "it's in the water" & is it actually possible? i'm just really nervous, & i'm racking my brain for an answer. could it just be that my period isn't on time? i haven't really been eating any differently. please don't treat me like an idiot, i'm just scared.

Hey. You deffinately arent pregnant. What this could be is that your period is isnt on schedule yet. Since you havent had it for long. Do you play sports? If you do that could also be the reason. When you play sports your period can be very unregular. If your period doesnt show up for longer than 3 months you should really talk to a doctor. It could be that you need to take birth control pills... casue they help regulate your period.
Hope I helped
-Steff-

Q: I just watched the ring last night and there's something confusing me. Why did samara's dad say "my wife wasn't supposed to have a child" did he do something to her to make it so she couldn't have children???
plz help!

Hey!!! Its cause she cant have children and he never expected to have kids. Then she addopted Samara and after she did all those weird things were happening in their house. Like with the horses.
I hope I helped
-Steff-

Q: yes, i am asking for advice for my cat because im a loser like that and i love her wiht all my heart.

Ok, well my one cat Oreo is afraid of everything! No lie. She is afraid of my parents, my sister, TVs, lights, windows, refrigerators, the only thing she isn't scared abotu is me. She spends most of her day aroudn me, and if i go somewhere she'll follow. When I'm at school my mom says she is frightened to death and spends all day until i come home, in my oom under the covers. I don't know what to do, I feel really bad for her. We got her when she was a kitten so she never was abused. WE don't know why she does this. Should I make her face her fears so she can be more comfortable aroudn the house? When she is in my arms she feels very safe and protected ( if i make her face her fears i don't want er to be afraid of me also!) Please help me, and my cat.. ?

Hey I think that you should make her do the things shes scared of but be with her the whole way. Like sit by the tv with her and just let her come close. Let your family play with her..but make sure you are always around.I really hope this helps. Good Luck
-Steff-

Q: Okay. So this guy is a junior and I'm a freshman...and he goes to my school and everything. We talk online, when he is on. And I see him at school and he like sometimes looks at me and stuff. He talks to me like everyday and like ever since its been after christmas break, he has like stopped talking to me. but he still looks at me and stuff. but like he has seemed like hes mad and I have tried talking to him online, and he wont reply. But one time I did ask why he didnt talk to me? and hes like i dont know. So I dont know if he likes me anymore and I kind of miss him talking to me.

Hey the same thing has hapended to me! I know exactly how you feel. I used to think a junior liked me too and we also used to talk all the time. Older guys like to make you think that they like you ...but really the jus wanna get "some". Its really hurtful...but I have learned alot from my experiences. I realized that I wouldnt want to date a younger guy either unless I really like them. I still catch myself looking at younger guys though but it doesnt mean that I like them. its just an attraction. Maybe its the same with him. He mite have an attraction for you. Im sorry that this happened to you...but in the end its just some lessons of high school and its the 1st steps to maturity.
Hope I helped
Good Luck
-Steff-

Q: So, basically I have these problem areas that I've been working on for atleast the past year. I guess you could call them "love handles", my abs, and my inner thighs. I do curl ups (like 100 a night), these one leg things like 25 a night, and i dont know what to do about myl ove handles. Oh, sometimes I run about a mile.

I don't know what to do anymore.
Nothing helps.
Pleaseeee help. =)

Hey!!! Love handles are very hard to get rid of. I dont think that running or any of the other excerises you are doing help. For abs...crunches and sit-ups are the best.For your inner thighs...you should keep the running, wall sits, and lunges. I think that to get rid of lobe handles...eating healthy is the best choice.
I hope I helped
Good Luck
-Steff-

Q: ok me and this girl liked each other for a while and she just broke up with her boyfriend and we liked each other while they were going out and now were prettty happy and ready to move on with eachother as a couple and today i found out that we might be 5th or 6th cousins, were not like some rednecks on jerry springer it was completley unexcpected and unwelcomed i wanted to know is 5th cousins to close for comfort?
should we just be cousins/friends or what..

Hey!!! I think 5th or 6th cousins is no problem. Some people even get married when they are 1st cousins. You guys really like eachother ... so you should go for it!
Good Luck
-Steff-
Hope I Helped