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Is she a real friend?
There is a girl I've known for a good long while, and recently I made the effort to get back in touch with her and be friends again. I assumed it was going pretty well, we talk online and go out shopping and stuff sometimes. I do like her, but recently I've got the feeling she is just using me to take her places (into town, to see bands) b/c she's not allowed on her own. If I suggest just hanging out or something, she'll always just brush away the suggestion. If we do see each other we get on well though. I'm pretty much her only friend as well, and it sounds really mean, but I thought she'd be kind of pleased to have some friends.
So what should I do?
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ok well personally i dont think you should really talk to her about it because it doesn't seem to serious. i mean i think she would be upset because your her ownly friend. but she is obviously sending you mixed messages so its confusing to see what her intentions are. maybe this girl is just overly excited about having a friend and isnt just using you to take her places. you have to put yourself in her shoes too. i mean if you had no friends and all of the sudden someone wanted to be your friend and cared about you i think you would be happy too right? so just watch how she acts around you and the things she says and you'll probably be able to see if shes a true friend or not. eventually you might get into trouble or something and see if she comes to help you or if you have a problem see if shes the one who wants to help you solve it. it seems like her intentions are good and shes just overwhelmed by the attention your giving her
i hope it works out and i could help
samantha<33
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Maybe she's using you, maybe she's not. Pretty unclear, but I think it's not too serious. You probably won't be best friends but she seems like a good friend as of now. Don't be afarid to talk to her about this too. Communication is the key.
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People can be very strange sometimes, can't they? There's something to be said for instincts, as you might be picking up on slight signals she's sending you. Instead of testing her, pay attention to how she acts when she IS around you. Does she act standoffish when the two of you are around people she may know? Keep your eyes open, but try to trust her. Life is nothing without an optimistic outlook.
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Well, it sounds like she could really use a good friend like you, but I feel you'd be wise to just talk to her about your feelings regarding this issue. IF she really is a friend, she'll first, listen to you, and secondly be OK that you brought it up.... because you had to. Good friends understand and are forgiving and patient and won't blow off good friends if that's really what's behind it. I think you owe it to yourself to bring it up to her while you still wish to be her friend. Perhaps she is using you without realizing what she's doing.... good communication tho is vital if the relationship/friendship is a real one....
Hope this helps and I wish you much success and good friendships... no one can have too many.
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hmm..it does seem like she's using that stuff so she can go do things, but maybe she's juss the type of person that gets bored easily?? idk, i think you should talk to her about it. don't jump to conclusions right away, juss until you find out what she thinks/feels. juss ask her nicely about it & see she thinks about it.
-hope that helped!♥
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Hey! i think maybe you should ask her about it. Since you are her only friend she may think that its the way to treat a friend. Just tell her how you are feeling and confront her about it. If she never ever wants to hang out with you then maybe she is abusing or maybe she likes you and is afraid to "just hang out".
I hope this helps
-Steff-
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