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annoying friend...
I have an annoying friend and she always talks about her self. I like her because we are besties, but she only talks about HER and what she will be doing and who she talked to and blah blah blah... Everytime I talk about me or anything other than her she changes the subject or doesn't listen to me. She also would ditch me to sit at the back of the class or with cooler people, and she doesn't care if i end up sitting by myself. Please help me, I don't know how to let her know she is making me angrier every day. What should I say to her?
PS. I have tried talking to her about it but she refused to listen and wouldn't take in what I was saying.
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I'm not gonna lie, sometimes I do that.. I'll start talking, to begin about my day, and then whoever im talking to will say something about themselves, and ill respond to it, but like, i just keep going, and then 5 minutes later, im like oh shoot. and then i just like stop talking and ha. yeah, i mean maybe shes doing that. however though, i would never ever ditch any of my friends to go hang out with people who i thought were cooler.
you have two options, either just stop talking to her, and make new friends who like you for you, and wont ditch you.
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try talking to her in person, so she cant change the subject, and just tell her its hurting your feelings.
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wow. that bothered me even READING about this annoying friend. or 'friend' i should say. because a real friend would listen to what you have to say and uhh..NOT ditch you??! honestly, find someone better. no one should put up with that kind of bs. if you ignore her (not meanly..just kind of drift, you know), maybe she will ask you why you decided to drift, and then you can tell her again that you cant handle her behavior towards you. good luck
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Hm, to be honest she doesn't sound like a very good friend AT ALL. If I was you, I'd just be like "hey, the world doesn't revolve around you. I have feelings too, and It would be nice for you to appreciate me more." If she doesn't want to change or appreciate your friendship more, than I would stop talking to her. It sounds to me like she talks to you when no one else is around her. She's probably a very self centered girl who likes attention. I call girls like that attention whores. You deserve someone better as a friend than that. Don't sweat it, she's just self centered & she doesn't even realize it. ♥
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Shes Selfish & self obsessed. Leave her. Your better then that. Soon shes going to issolate herself to the point wher shes the only one who wants to be around herself. It happened to a friend of mine. & then shes going to have to learn that she has to change or be friendless. My friend changed & wer good now. Anyay, leave her & let her figuire it out herself. Best of luckk!!
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Hey! I understand that she is your best friend, but honestly she doesn't seem like such a good one. You guys are best friends and I love that you are trying to keep the relationship together although it seems like she is tearing it apart. The way you are describing the situations seems as if she is somewhat full of herself and doesn't care about other people ( for example, she only talks about herself and doesn't let you talk, she ditches you to sit with 'cooler people'). If she is truly your best friend she should not leave you hanging and treat you better. I love that you tried talking to her and I'm sorry she won't listen. Maybe you should try one talking to her one last time, and if she just doesn't get it maybe you should let up on the relationship. Hope I helped!
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I understand she's your best friend, but listen to your description. She ditches you, doesn't listen to you, and won't talk about anything but herself. I think you should consider how good of a friend she is to you. I can't think of much else you can do if you've already tried talking to her about it, except to try again, or just make sure you have friends other than her.
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Obviously if she has done all those things like ignore you and only talk about herself then you shouldn't be her friend anymore, I had the same exact problem I was sorta like the extra that she would talk to when her "real" friends weren't their. When her other friends were around it was like I was invisible and she didn't care. when she was around them she never treated me like a real person. It was only about her all the time. I moved on and actually met a real friend who treated me like an equal. I think you should do the same it seems to me from what you have said that she thinks its all about her all the time and it doesn't matter what you think only her. Personally I would try the silent treatment and see her reaction, thats how you can tell how she really feels. (if you don't understand what I am talking about than just try it and you will understand ) I hope this helps.
-jelliibeann13
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You need to point it out to her that she is hurting your feelings. Say something like "Listen, I am really happy for you that things are going well, and I am always hear to listen, but I have things I like to say too, and it really hurts my feelings when you don't listen to me. Please show me that were besties by listening to me, and not ditching me"
Make sure to include examples, other wise it sounds like your accusing, and this can start an even bigger arguement.
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A friend is someone who listens to you as well as you listening to them. A friend doesn't ditch a friend, unless that friend is being worrisome and doesn't provide personal space or time for that friend to have. Now, if this isn't the case, and your friend is only acknowledging herself, she's selfish and isn't a friend. If you have talked to her already and tried to tell her how you felt and she refused to listen to you, that means again she's selfish AND self centered. No one can have a friendship when there is only one friend. Right? So, Instead of letting her know how angry you are,let her know how tired you are and find more friends that find you interesting, and want to talk WITH you and not just TO you. Find friends that want to sit with you and do care if you sit by yourself or not, and if they are true friends, you wouldn't sit by yourself.
Good Luck, and take all of this as a learning lesson even if you're feelings are hurt a little bit. You will find good friends and you will be happier.
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